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So great to be partnering with Wanderlust to share this list with a larger audience.

1. For Family Of Drowned Syrian Boy, ‘There Was No Other Hope,’ Uncle Says. The very ending of this interview is heartbreaking and beautiful. And then there’s this, What’s in my Bag? What refugees bring when they run for their lives. And this helps, Trying to follow what is going on in Syria and why? This comic will get you there in 5 minutes. And this great piece by Nicholas Kristof, Refugees Who Could Be Us. Which leads directly to this, Here’s how you can help during the refugee crisis in Europe.

2. Freedom | Three Years in the Making from Mara Glatzel, in which she shares “the three things that helped me devote myself to this dream.”

3. Kathryn Joseph \\ the worm, a beautiful video. (Thanks to Jo for sharing).

4. West Wing Week 09/04/15 or, “Let’s Go to Alaska!” I’ve said it before: I’d vote for him again if I could. Because, stuff like this, Obama commented on this HONY post, and the whole thing is making us emotional, and this,

“The time to heed the critics and the cynics and the deniers is past. The time to plead ignorance is surely past. Those who want to ignore the science, they are increasingly alone. They’re on their own shrinking island.”

5. 14 compliments that have nothing to do with looks and everything to do with being an amazing human.

6. The power of a smile by Sarah Sloane, who I am lucky enough to know and work with.

7. Artist Brings Homelessness To Light With Thought-Provoking Collection.

When Willie Baronet went on a cross-country adventure collecting cardboard signs made by the homeless, he never expected to eliminate his apprehension and discomfort with seeing them on the street. As an artist and professor in Dallas, Texas, Willie created the ‘We Are All Homeless Project’ to raise awareness and learn more about each person he interacted with. Throughout his trip, he bonded with the homeless by taking time to sit down and learn their stories. This project has shocked thousands of people who have gone to see it, with hundreds of signs in one place, each telling their own story. Willie’s mission is to help others understand that humanity is so important and everyone’s story is unique.

8. Elise Andrew F*cking Loves Science, “she’s young, she’s a woman, and she f*cking loves science. So much so that she created a Facebook page that now boasts an audience of over 7 million.”

9. This Is What Happened When People Were Rated On Their Success By Loved Ones.

10. Exes Asked Each Other Incredibly Honest Questions And Things Got Too Real. Just one of the stories from The And project.

11. This Couple Quit Their Jobs To Travel And Now Scrub Toilets To Get By. “Chanel Cartell and Stevo Dirnberger wrote in a blog post that social media hides the reality of their journey around the globe.” And in their own words on their blog, Why We Quit Our Jobs in Advertising to Scrub Toilets.

12. Your Baby’s Ugly. I’m not sure how to describe this other than to say if you like radio storytelling and find the process of editing fascinating, this is just for you.

13. Best 100 Health Coach Blogs 2015, a list from The Institute for the Psychology of Eating.

14. 15 Dogs Who Are Just Showing Off Their Superior Yoga Skillz.

15. I Love My Dog’s Nose, cute dog nose pictures from Gabi Stickler.

16. Teach yourself how to wake up early.

17. A Guide to Dealing with Frustration & Disappointment in Yourself from Zen Habits.

18. Get More Done with (a Lot) Less Stress: 13 Simple and Daily Work Habits.

19. in the garden, September 4 from SouleMama.

20. The Surprising Reason Humans Love Cat Videos. I don’t know about you, but I wasn’t so surprised by the reason. This is one of my favorite cat videos,

21. Stop Waiting for Permission to Live the Life You Want to Live.

22. A new batch of Austin Kleon’s newspaper popouts.

23. A Lie Agreed Upon: David Milch’s Deadwood. A video essay by Matt Zoller Seitz about one of my favorite shows, shared by Austin Kleon.

24. This great quote from Joseph Luzzi, “I hope you’ll discover, as I have, that it’s not what lands you in the dark woods that defines you, but what you do to make it out.” (thanks for sharing, Lindsey).

25. Truthbomb #879 from Danielle LaPorte, “People love you.”

26. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club,

Beautiful friend, you are wonderful in your purest, deepest, truest form. You don’t have to change to be loved. Sometimes it’s tempting to bend and twist and stand on our toes to change enough for certain others to like us, for us to be able to ‘fit in’. Self betrayal doesn’t ever lead to happiness, however, and doing things that we know in our gut are not right for us, bending our values, those things just lead us down a really tricky path — a path that often leads us to places that are so far from where we wanted to end up that we just can’t figure out how we ever got there.

27. Instead of Finding Your Passion, Find *THIS* from Laura Simms. She’s also running another round of the Your Career Homecoming Challenge (FREE), which I did last week, learned a lot about myself and had some fun too.

28. Five elementary kids are asked why 1 kid is being bullied… watch what the boy on the end reveals. Boys will be boys. ❤

29. The Mindfulness Summit, “The summit is a beautiful, comprehensive and practical online guide to mindfulness and it’s all for free! We’ve gathered the leading teachers and experts around the world to share their wisdom with you and it’s all going to be free for the whole month of October. Each day of October one speaker will be live for you to access. 31 speakers in 31 days for you to enjoy.”

30. 7 Ways to Protect Yourself from Other People’s Negative Energy from Marc and Angel Hack Life.

31. Rearranging our prejudices, wisdom from Seth Godin.

32. Simplicity is the Way Back to Love from Be More With Less.

33. Note from the Universe, “I’d say the biggest decision of your life, Jill, was not your career, your marital status, or your home… it was choosing to love as often as you have.”

34. How to Move Forward Once You’ve Hit Bottom by Pema Chödrön. Brilliant.

35. I have an eating disorder. A beautiful confession that begins with,

I’ve known it for a long, long time, but I am only just now getting the ability to articulate it in words and confront the truth. It’s not courage, and I’m not brave. I’m just too exhausted to pretend any longer that everything is ok.

36. Sign up to receive Pema’s 7-hour audio program, “True Happiness” for FREE! Offer ends Sept. 8th, 2015. I can’t wait for her new book, Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better: Wise Advice for Leaning into the Unknown.

37. Cockatoo running around yelling absolute nonsense. This has been making me laugh so hard I cry, can barely breathe. I so get how this bird feels, and watching him run around and rant makes me feel so much better, about all of it.

38. This YouTuber’s Heartfelt Response To A Fat-Shaming Video Will Move You To Tears.

39. Cloud 7: Portraits of Dog Owners & Their Dogs on decor8. I recommended checking out the full set of portraits.

40. Rising Strong: Brené Brown on the Physics of Vulnerability and What Resilient People Have in Common on Brain Pickings.

41. Mental minimalism (it’s a thing) from Paul Jarvis. This one really hits home for me.

We can’t do everything. We can’t say yes to everything. We especially can’t have zero boundaries if we want to have the mental space needed to create things.

42. What Happened When I Stopped Complaining for Two Weeks.

Something Good

My favorite tea

My favorite tea

So great to be partnering with Wanderlust to share this list with a larger audience.

1. Nature Rx Part 1. “Set in the world of a spoofed prescription drug commercial, Nature Rx offers a hearty dose of laughs and the outdoors – two timeless prescriptions for whatever ails you.”

2. How A Couple Of ‘Frugal Weirdos’ Are Saving 71% Of Their Income So They Can Retire At Age 33.

3. Let the Wave Crash Over You: A Letter for My Brother.

4. One Drop Of Blood Can Reveal Almost Every Virus A Person Has Ever Had. Science is cool.

5. on saying goodbye and all the things you wish you could have done. Essential reading for any mom, especially one whose kid is growing up and moving on.

6. I’m 24 years old, and I still have my childhood blanket. Turns out that’s pretty normal.

me too.

me too.

7. This is what we will Regret Most at the End of Our Lives {Infographic} on Elephant Journal.

8. Historic Glass-Plate Photos From Romania Restored And Turned Into Colorful Art (Part 2).

9. The World’s Oldest Multicolored Printed Book Has Been Opened and Digitized for the First Time.

10. What It’s Really Like To Have To Euthanize Animals As A Shelter Worker.

11. How Yoga Gave Me The Strength To Finally Quit Yoga. Yoga is for every body, but might not be for everybody.

12. This Is What Happened When A Museum Allowed Artists To Paint Whatever They Wanted On The Walls.

13. Zucchini Pad Thai Noodles “Zoodles” recipe. I made this last night for dinner and it was delicious.

14. My Morning Routine, “an independent online magazine that brings you a brand new, inspiring morning routine every Wednesday to help set you up for a more productive and enjoyable day.” As someone who gets up every morning before the sun and has a carefully cultivated morning routine, I really appreciated this site. Two of my favorite entries so far are Tammy Strobel and Caroline Leon, who also just so happen to be two of my favorite bloggers and humans.

15. Focus on the Process Instead of the Final Product. Really good advice, no matter what you are working on.

16. Messy is Preferable from Ronna Detrick.

17. Unpacking What ‘Fat’ Really Means (And Why How We Use It Is F*cked Up).

18. The Elephant Whisperers. (video) “Hear what it takes to heal a traumatized elephant from the keepers of Daphne Sheldrick’s orphan elephant rehabilitation center in Nairobi National Park.”

19. Truthbomb #860 from Danielle LaPorte, “Know what’s true for you.”

20. 6 Simple Strategies to Re-wire Your Brain and Laugh in the Face of Failure.

21. Five Tips for Avoiding a Behaviorist. “Many personal budgets are extra-tight. Since appointments with an animal behaviorist can be pricey, let me share a few suggestions for inexpensive ways you can promote better behavior in your dog.”

22. How do you heal? from Alena Hennessy. Wonderful advice on not just healing but living a good life.

23. Unusual Friendship Between Wolf And Bear Documented By Finnish Photographer.

24. Rescuing Wildlife Is Futile, and Necessary.

25. She had the time of her life on a Tinder date. Until she received a shattering text. Her reaction has gone viral.

26. Silence and the Space to Be Amazed by Annie Rosenbauer on On Being. “It only takes one moment of silence to listen, to notice, to be amazed. What do we hear in these moments of silence? We hear each other, we hear ourselves, we hear the Earth.”

27. Discarded Tree Trunks Turned Into Stunning Wood Sculptures By Jae-Hyo Lee. I confess, I get a little stuck in thinking “why were all these trees cut down?” but what he does with the wood is truly amazing.

28. Man Poses as Target on Facebook, Trolls Haters of Its Gender-Neutral Move With Epic Replies.

29. He Was Grieving Over The Death Of His Best Friend, Until An Old Man Told Him THIS. Mind Blown.

30. I’m A Man, And I’ve Spent My Life Ashamed Of My Body. “t shouldn’t be extraordinary for men to talk about having body image issues.”

31. Laurie Wagner: On listening to the sound of our own music. Oh how I adore her.

32. Women’s clothing sizes are actually pretty bonkers. Here’s proof.

33. This just-married Turkish couple gave 4,000 Syrian refugees an incredible gift. “Fethullah Üzümcüoğlu and Esra Polat, just married, decided that instead of spending their families’ savings on a banquet for their wedding guests, they would instead donate the money to feed 4,000 refugees in Kilis.”

34. Death of a Man. . . Death of a Bear.

35. 16 Incredible Stories of Healing Through Yoga. “Through the process of devoting themselves to practice, these humble and strong women and men have found a healing journey that has radically shifted their lives.”

36. Superhero Me! “This charming film follows a gorgeous group of six year olds who are about to graduate from their beloved care school. Their innovative teachers devised a project to celebrate this milestone which nurtures their imaginations and harnesses their individual creativity.”

37. Charles Bukowski’s Rules for Writing. “Be Honest, Have a Few Drinks, and Submit Everything.”

38. World’s Most Photogenic Shar Pei And His Cat Are The Best Friends Ever. This is stupid cute. (Stupid cute: Someone or something that is so attractive it disrupts your ability to intelligently process information while looking at it, something so unbelievably cute it makes you stupid).

39. Too Much to Do, Not Enough Time. Really good advice from Zen Habits.

40. Fall In Love with Your Job, Get Ripped Off by Your Boss. “Miya Tokumitsu’s sharp new book exposes the ‘Do what you love’ fairy tale for what it really is: a means of exploitation.”

41. Newspaper popouts, a cool new project from one of the coolest, Austin Kleon.

42. Georgia orphan’s mission: Make others smile. This little dude is so stinkin’ cute.

43. 4 Questions to Help You Know if You Need a New Job or Just a Break, wisdom from Laura Simms.

44. accidentally good at it on Chookooloonks, in which Karen Walrond suggests a simple but radical shift to achieving your goals.

45. Stop Looking At Your Fucking Phone on Terrible Minds.

46. The Hidden Dog in Us All by Muhammad Asadi on On Being.

47. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club,

You are doing such good things…such beautiful, wonderful, and important things. Do not feel bad that you have limitations and cannot do everything you want to do, or that you make mistakes that set you back, or you sometimes make decisions that aren’t all that you hoped they would be. You are doing enough. YOU ARE ENOUGH. You are just right, and you are doing your best. When you have done all that you can do, let yourself BREATHE. And remember that rest, relaxation, and solitude are just as important as all of the other incredible things that you do with your life. You are such a gift to the world. Take good care of you. You are beloved.

48. Practice Pema Chödrön’s “Three Conscious Breaths.” “Pema Chödrön teaches us a simple technique we can use anytime we need a break from our habitual patterns.”

49. The Power of Habit Stacking and 7 Daily Habits I Love from Be More With Less.

50. Compared to… from Seth Godin. So good. He has a way of using hardly any words to say everything.

51. Political Correctness, Donald Trump, and Fat Bashing and You’re Not the Fat Person Whisperer on Dances with Fat.

52. Our Eyes Can (and Do) Deceive Us from Rachel Cole. P.S. The deadline to apply for the next round of Feast is August 19th.

53. Herself. “Amazingly beautiful and honest nude portraits and interviews,” shared on Susannah Conway’s Something for the Weekend list.

54. Being successful vs. being known from Paul Jarvis.

55. 7 Surprising Reasons You’re Attracting Toxic People from Marc and Angel Hack Life.

56. Some Thoughts On Body Thoughts from Sunni Chapman.

Something Good

Our front garden is now officially a jungle.

Our front garden is now officially a jungle.

This is a very special Something Good list. Starting today, I am partnering with Wanderlust to share my list with a larger audience. Their tagline is “find your true north,” and they answer the question “what is Wanderlust?” this way,

a strong or irresistible desire to Travel • Practice Yoga • Listen to Music
Eat Well • Be Green • Appreciate Art
and create a community around mindful living.

I’ll still be publishing the full list here every Monday morning, but from now on there will also be a shorter, specially curated list posted on Wanderlust — a collection of my favorites from the longer list, links best suited to their audience and mission. If you clicked over from Wanderlust today, welcome! And if you are already one of my kind and gentle readers, welcome back!

1. 100 Poems – 100 Days, a new project from an amazing artist, (blogger, author, photographer, and painter), Christina Rosalie. She’s committed to writing 100 original poems in 100 days, posting a new one each day. Her latest painting is also brilliant.

2. Motivation < Action from Paul Jarvis, sent out in his Sunday Dispatches email. “Motivation, even for mundane things like exercise or writing more, is theoretical. Whereas action is tangible.” This piece is a great argument for taking one tiny step rather than making a big plan. He also posted a great piece on Medium, Master working for yourself without crushing your soul, which he summarizes this way,

People that really do well working for themselves don’t do it for the money fights on their private yachts or the standing ovations (on Facebook), they do it because they want to add value for others while leading life as they see fit.

3. I’m Too Old for This on The New Yorker. Author Dominique Browning considers a new mantra, “A goodbye to all that has done nothing but hold us back.”

4. Why I Got Rid of My Teacher’s Desk. I love this, but I had to admit all I keep thinking was “where are you going to keep your stuff?”

5. The Size We’re Supposed to Be from Dances with Fat. “It doesn’t matter what size someone is or why they are that size, it’s absolutely none of anybody else’s business, and everybody deserves to be treated with basic human respect.” Amen. Ragen also gives some good advice in another post, When Good Friends Post Bad Fat Jokes, advice that seems like it would be relevant to dealing with a whole host of offenses.

6. Paramedic’s angry Facebook post about “burger flippers” getting $15/hr goes viral.

7. Walking vs. Elliptical Machine, Redux. Which is better? Read this and find out, (sort of).

8. Which Character Strengths Are Most Predictive of Well-Being? Read the answer in this post on Scientific American. **Spoiler alert** “The single best predictor of well-being was gratitude.”

9. 28 of the best things I ever did — from my bedroom to my business, a list worth contemplating from Danielle LaPorte. What would be on your list?

10. CrossFit’s Dirty Little Secret. I don’t CrossFit train because I’m afraid of the yelling and crashing of weights and loud music, because of all the noise, but this seems like another reason to take care.

11. Wisdom from PattyMara Gourley, “May my art be my medicine. May my medicine be my art.”

12. Help! I Have a Weird Relationship with Food, But Is It an Eating Disorder? An important discussion about an important issue on Everyday Feminism, which suggests, “And the problem is that we’ve standardized disordered eating to the point that we think it’s normal.”

13. Why Does Anyone Do Yoga, Anyway? on Psychology Today. “The health benefits are very real. But few understand how it affects the mind.”

14. Why diets don’t actually work, according to a researcher who has studied them for decades. I think I shared this when it first came out, but it’s definitely worth a repeat read.

15. Why Norway’s Prison System Is So Successful. **Spoiler alert** “The country relies on a concept called ‘restorative justice,’ which aims to repair the harm caused by crime rather than punish people. This system focuses on rehabilitating prisoners.”

16. A Prayer for Writers & Creatives from Jennifer Louden, a wonderful reworking of “metta” or lovingkindness practice. It makes me think of all the other ways we might use this practice, the other special, specific populations we could offer it to more directly.

17. Starving Is A Terrible Condition For Making Art from Terrible Minds. Chuck Wendig debunks the myth and gives some really great advice.

18. A whole bunch of wisdom from Seth Godin: The squeaky wheel problem (an issue certainly worth considering), and Make three lists (a great practice when starting a new project), and The other kinds of laziness (so important), and The illusion of control (oh, snap!).

19. Wisdom from a Note from the Universe, “Always listen to your doubts…Not just because they might teach you of your fears, but because, sometimes, they might teach you of your wisdom.”

20. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club,

You have the right to stand up for yourself. If you are being hurt, abused, manipulated, bullied or diminished by someone else, you have the right to stop it. You can be kind, wish everyone the best, and do what you can to be helpful, but that doesn’t mean you should ever allow someone to chip away at you. You are way too important. You have the right to protect yourself.

We must never allow others to abuse us where we are weak. We must not let others determine our worth, ever. We must not allow our hearts to be abused, manipulated or exploited.

We can be kind, but this does not mean that we need to allow everyone to the closest parts of our souls. We must guard the gates to our hearts and recognize that it is a true honor for anyone to ever come close to the deepest parts of us, and this honor should be reserved for a select few who only want the best for us and who love us exactly as we are. You have a right to stand up for yourself. You have a right to walk away. You have a right to go where the peace is.

and this,

Did you know that one of the keys to a happy and peaceful life is to do your best to leave a mark of goodness wherever you go? Here’s a tip to big and little pieces of random and beautiful happiness:

-Whenever you can, if it is in your power, leave people, places, and situations better than you found them.

-Do your best when you are working, whether or not you are publicly rewarded for it (the best rewards are the internal ones, when you can feel so good deabout your work)

-Be kind and as generous as possible to others, whether or not they notice or appreciate it

-Make your surroundings more beautiful than you found them, whether or not it is your responsibility.

This is especially helpful and wonderful if your brain wants to do the opposite because you have been hurt by someone or something. It heals your whole soul if what your brain really wants to do is ‘stick it to’ someone, but YOU choose to joyfully give. The very best thing you can ever, ever do for your heart and your soul is to leave people, places, and situations better than you found them, even if those things did they best they could to leave you in a not-so-desirable position. YOU have the power to turn it all around and make it beautiful again.

20. 8 Ways to Get Ready for Your Wild and Precious Life on Be More With Less. Courtney is so good at distilling the truth down to the simplest seed. In this post, she ends with,

“While we can’t be certain about how our lives will unfold, when we decide to be mindful about how we spend our time, and the people we want to be, we have a shot at not only knowing the answer to this lovely question, but living it too.”

21. Good stuff from Allowing Myself: Do Your Work, in which Justine makes the distinction between her job and her work, and trust, where she tells the story of her new tattoo, “I contemplated it for so long, it’s like something snapped into place, like it’s always been there, it’s just now I can see it.”

22. Manifesto of the Brave & Brokenhearted: The Rising Strong Book Trailer from Brene’ Brown.

23. 3 Small Discipline Habits You Can Train from Zen Habits, great advice and a gentle approach to finding a little more discipline in our lives, “Three simple skills that can be turned into habits with repeated practice.”

24. in the garden, August 7 on SouleMama. Her garden updates are so dreamy. I want to go to there.

25. Andres’ Bone Marrow Transplant, a repeat share, but there’s still a need, so much money left to raise. Andres just turned four last week, and I hope he gets much, much older, as well as healthy.

26. Don’t Fucking Touch Me. *sigh*

27. 40 Questions that Will Quiet Your Mind from Marc and Angel Hack Life. I don’t think this is the right title for this post. It should be “40 questions that will prompt a bunch of contemplation, thinking, and brain activity.” They’d be really great conversation starters or journal prompts.

28. Take Back Your Life, wisdom from Rachel Cole. “Your time, energy, and money are precious precious resources. They are the stuff that either makes or wastes a meaningful life.”

29. Awakening connections from Kirsten Akens. I finally got to meet Kirsten in person, when we attending the event she talks about in this post. It’s so great to see her getting clear about who she is, what she has to offer.

30. so, about that daring way workshop on Chookooloonks. Seriously, Karen and Brene’ are a super duo. I can’t wait to see how this evolves.

31. money talks with amy tingle on Mabel Magazine.

32. Good stuff shared on Chookooloonks this was a good week list: a gallery of Ebola survivors, and a rustic country retreat (I want to go to there), and Mindy Kaling’s Guide to Killer Confidence.

33. 5 Tweets That Sum Up Why People Are Upset About Stonewall, “why Stonewall misses the mark and why people are signing the GSA Network’s petition for a boycott of the film.”

34. Creative Man Builds a Feline Feeding Machine That Requires His Cat to Hunt for His Dinner. What a wonderful life this cat has.

35. Earth View: A Curated Selection of the Most Striking Satellite Images Found on Google Earth, an amazing set of pictures.

36. Artist Buys Billboard Advertising Time to Display Art Instead of Ads on Massachusetts Highways. “Created as a set of billboards along two Massachusetts highways, ‘Healing Tool’ is a temporary public art installation by artist Brian Kane produced to temporarily relieve stress and promote introspection during one’s monotonous daily commute.”

37. Why You Need To Try Japanese Forest Bathing. “Inspired by Buddhist and Shinto practices, forest bathing naturally engages you in non-directed attention and mindfulness meditation.”

38. Wisdom from Shunryu Suzuki, “The only way you can endure your pain is to let it be painful.”

39. How Long You Can Freeze Everything, In One Chart. As summer winds down and my garden stops producing and fruit season ends, this will help as I consider what I might save.

40. We Need to Talk About Amy Winehouse’s Eating Disorder and Its Role In Her Death.

41. New Suicide Hotline Dedicated to Trans People Now Open for Calls.

42. Seven-Year-Old Black Belt Is Breakout Star in Gender Equality Ad From ANZ.

43. Centuries-old bonsai that survived atomic bomb gets honored 70 years later.

44. What To Do When You See Someone Being Harassed. Really good advice on Medium.

45. 16 Graphs That Will Help You Understand Your Highly Sensitive Friends So Much Better.

46. My township calls my lawn ‘a nuisance.’ But I still refuse to mow it. “Manicured lawns are ruining the planet.”

47. The Enmity Remained: Negating the Possibility of Change by Sharon Salzberg. Her regular column at On Being is worth following. Because this,

I think it is true that in the reality of our lives some might wish to harm us. As wise human beings, we should try to avoid them or do anything we can do to null their power. I’ve heard of the Dalai Lama, for example, telling a friend with a mentally ill mother who had in the past tried to harm her to open her heart completely to her mother and offer her lovingkindness and compassion — but from a distance. That was a stunner. The Dalai Lama advising clear boundaries and self-protection? Well yes, but from a place of wisdom and compassion, rather than hatred and disdain. The wisdom and compassion provide their own powerful energy and give us strength to act.

Something Good

thefarm1. The problem with holding a grudge, and Plenty more, and Abandoning perfection from Seth Godin.

2. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club:

It’s time to stop waiting. It’s time to become who you want to become and do what you want to do and learn what you want to learn and rest when you want to rest and take little pieces of time and do terrific things with them that are beautiful and personal and unique and true.

And,

We all have a proverbial basket of things that are in need of mending, all of us do! We have relationships, sweaters, cabinet doors, hearts, dreams, windows………..thing after thing in need of some attention and time.

Sometimes we get paralyzed by the amount of things in that basket, so we just start walking past it, pretending that it’s not there…but still feeling something deeply gnawing at us, and preventing us from feeling total peace.

Don’t be afraid to look in your basket, beautiful friend…..just start picking up one piece of mending and work on it a little….then another tomorrow. This can be real, physical things like sewing a button back on your favorite coat, to much bigger things…like sending a nice card to someone you’ve had a falling-out with but would love to patch things up with.

Don’t let your basket of mending steal any more of your joy or peace. Take an honest look at it today and then take a deep breath and make a plan to start mending things…..a little at time, and then let it go and be o.k. with it all.

And

What would a leap of faith look like?

That thing that’s been lingering on your mind, burning in your heart…..that scary beautiful thing that you can’t get out of your whole soul because it wants to be heard and acted upon……..guess what lovely? It’s not going to go away.

It’s not going to go away because it’s your deepest wisdom and authenticity…trying to get you on exactly the right track. It is your truth.

What is it that is holding you back? Would it be so bad just to take that first step? Would it be so bad to stop and really honor yourself and at least listen to that longing?

This is where the fork in the road just might lead to the place you’ve been praying to be.

Get quiet, dear friend…….listen closely….then be brave when you know exactly what to do next.

Live THAT ONE PRECIOUS LIFE OF YOURS….really really live it.

It is time.

3. Own our history. Change the story. from Brene’ Brown.

4. The Best & Less-than-Best Motivations for Learning from Zen Habits.

5. 9 Simple Yoga Poses To Help With Back Pain.

6. Magical Thinking, Yoga, And Internal Inquiry.

7. Good stuff on Brain Pickings: Pool: A Tender Illustrated Celebration of Quiet Curiosity and How We Find Our Kindred Spirits, and How to Own Your Story: Vivian Gornick on the Art of Personal Narrative and the Power of Textured Storytelling, and The Subterranean River of Emotion: Cheryl Strayed on Writing, the Art of Living with Opposing Truths, and the Three Ancient Motifs in All Great Storytelling.

8. Finding the Wisdom in Your Worrying & Whining from Jen Louden.

9. Online “Success” And “Failure” Don’t Look The Way You Think. (Thanks for sharing, Laura).

10. Is Your Purpose Frivolous? from Laura Simms.

11. Good stuff from Rowdy Kittens Happy Links list: On Working, A Lot and Paying Off a Mortgage in Seven Years.

12. The Truth Does Not Change According to Our Ability to Stomach It: A Southerner’s Perspective on the Confederate Flag.

13. Good stuff from Austin Kleon: To be a teacher and remain a student and Jenny Diski’s End Notes.

14. Shared on Susannah’s Something for the Weekend list: this amazing designer and The Beautiful Wooden Dome House In A Forest.

15. Every Day, I Draw One Animal Letter A Day To Teach My Son The Alphabet.

16. Good stuff from {Peacefulinks #9} Useful Resources Handpicked and Handcurated for You This Week from Peaceful Triumphs: Leadership With Simon Sinek: Serving Those Who Serve Others, and Quitting as a Productivity Tactic, and How Meditation Saved My Business.

17. ‘I Identify As Black,’ Rachel Dolezal Says In TV Interview.

18. 5th grade boys Synchronized Air Swimming Talent Show Skit W A Porter Elementary. So cute.

19. A Photo Essay: Orr Lake & Beyond on Rowdy Kittens.

20. SLIP | @PhillipChbeeb & Renee Kester | @ElliotMossMusic. Everything about this is so beautiful.

21. The Buddhists Who Are Speaking Out. “Buddhists in countries around the world are speaking out in an effort to rescue and protect tens of thousands of displaced people – many of them risking death in overcrowded boats – in Southeast Asia. TIME magazine this month called them ‘The nowhere people.'”

22. Latin proverb, “If there is no wind, row.”

23. Sara Seinberg on movement, the fallacy of willpower, and seeing the body as an opportunity.

24. Willpower: The Big Bullshit Hoagie from Sara Seinberg.

25. Scott Carver’s Bucket List Fund, on GoFundMe.

26. Hunter Treschl’s fundraising page on GoFundMe. Hunter says,

I’ve lost my arm obviously, so I have two options: I can try to live my life the way I was and make an effort to do that even though I don’t have an arm, or I can just let this be completely debilitating and bring my life down and ruin it. Out of those two, there’s really only one that I would actually choose and that’s to try to fight and live a normal life with the cards I’ve been dealt.

27. Rachel Dolezal Syndrome, (thanks for sharing, Patti).

28. The First Time I Was Called “Fat.”

29. Ricky & Doris: An Unconventional Friendship in New York City. With Puppets!

30. say something from Chookooloonks.

31. Charleston Church Shooting on The Daily Show.

32. The Perils of Father’s Day by Christine Mason Miller.

33. How to Figure out what’s Important When You Have too Much to Do from Be More With Less.

34. America is ready: Same-sex couples show how long they’ve been waiting for the freedom to marry.

35. Harriet Tubman Set to Be Honored with Face on $10 Bill.

36. The Roar Sessions: Patti Digh.

37. Dreamy Modern Loft Oasis : Portland. Too bad Pearl time doesn’t come with the rental.

38. Your mission: use your gifts, wisdom from Britt Bravo.

39. How I Reactivated My Creative Bone.

40. Fat Classics: Dieting, health, and the hijacking of Hippocrates by Helen Morales.

41. In A Relationship With A Highly Sensitive Person? Here’s What You Need To Know.

42. Wisdom from U Pandita, “In Buddhist practice, we work to expand the range of life experiences in which we are free.”

43. Why Our Culture Is Obsessed With Thinness.

44. Existing in the pause from Neil Gaiman.

Something Good

dragoncloudswirl1. The do over from Seth Godin.

2. Living Tiny by Emily Harger on Narratively.

3. 6 Free Writing Podcasts.

4. Stephen Colbert, Tim Cook, George W. Bush crack jokes for Class of 2015.

5. Body image hero Brittany Gibbons gives us her formula for self-love.

6. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club:

Dear Courageous Girl,

The hardest decisions in life are the decisions that start with two good answers. Choosing between two or more good things is one of the hardest things we will ever have to do.

This is what sacrifice is. This is where the richest rewards are, because we are not REALLY choosing between what is good and what is good. We are choosing between what is good and what is BEST for our lives.

Stay where the BEST things area, even if you have to walk away from some really good things once in a while. And never forget that the simple, small things in life are very often the best — better than the shiny, fancy, and ‘popular’ things; and that it’s completely okay to walk away from everything that the world tells you will bring you happiness, and towards small, simple, and good things that others usually just walk right past. That’s where the magic is, friends.

Choose the best for YOU.

You are beloved.

xoxo

7. Wisdom from Tara Brach,

Grieving loss consciously is at the center of the spiritual path. In small and great ways, each of our losses links us to what we love. It is natural that we will seek to manage the pain of separation in whatever way we can. Yet as we awaken, we can allow our sorrow to remain faithful to itself. We can willingly surrender into the grieving. By honoring what has passed away, we are free to love the life that is here.

8. Grief is Hard Work from Kira Elliott.

9. This Man Filmed His Dog Every Day. The Reason? You’ll Be Heartbroken. We don’t know how long any of them, any of us will live. We should love each other like this all the time.

10. Practice: Embodying Your Curvy + Beloved Body. The next session starts June 8th.

11. Nonconformity and the Creative Life from Shots of Awe.

12. Women Turn Tables on Online Harassers.

13. These 25 Examples of Male Privilege from a Trans Guy’s Perspective Really Prove the Point.

14. More good stuff from Justine, on her blog Allowing Myself (which you should be reading!): Just Give In and Nap, and Travel Journal, and Day In The Life, and Bathroom Cabinet Magic.

15. Amy Schumer Takes On The Bill Cosby Sex Scandal On ‘Inside Amy Schumer.’ Oh, snap!

16. Garlic Roasted Broccoli recipe. Roasted vegetables are my favorite.

17. Surviving an Alcoholic.

18. 30 Days Of My Baby Bunnies Growing Up on Bored Panda.

19. This not so perfect life from Aubrey’s Baby Weigel blog.

20. Compassion is true communication. One of the most beautiful videos, with such an important message.

21. A Prominent Yogi on Fat Yoga, Instagram, and Changing Stereotypes.

22. The Small, Happy Life.

23. It’s Always a Good Time for Child’s Pose on Wanderlust.

24. Hanging by a Thread by Elizabeth Aquino.

25. Let’s Celebrate the Art of Clutter.

26. 10 Composition Tips with Award Winning Photographer Steve McCurry.

27. 5 of the Hardest Things Yoga Taught Me.

28. my favorite buttermilk biscuits recipe.

29. My Mom Has a Question on Medium.

30. What Fat People Know Best on Dances with Fat.

31. Colleges To Students: Don’t Trash Those Dorm Castoffs! Donate!

32. The Place Where You Are on Zen Habits.

33. Good stuff from Be More With Less: 7 Places to Create Space for Ease and Clarity and Holding on for Dear Life.

34. So, I’m a Teacher Now — 10 Reflections From the First 10 Weeks on Medium.

35. This Journey called Life on Medium.

36. thrive portrait: asha on Chookooloonks. Karen’s Thrive Portrait Project is so great.

37. Truthbomb #810 from Danielle LaPorte, “Surrender isn’t about being passive. It’s about being open.”

38. Wisdom from Ernest Hemingway, “The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”

39. Brian Dettmer’s book autopsies, shared by Austin Kleon.

40. Danny Gregory, an interview by Lisa Congdon, shared by Chookooloonks.

41. “You must give up the life you planned in order…” from Jennifer Louden.

42. Really great stuff from Alexandra Franzen: Trying is always worth it, and Keep writing the damn alphabet, and I’m not lying. It’s just that the truth has changed., and Tell me everything, and Whatever it takes.

43. Suffering Opens The Real Path by Norman Fischer.

Something Good

Lory State Park, image by Eric

Lory State Park, image by Eric

1. Fuck That! A Manifesto from Gala Darling.

2. More Consensus on Coffee’s Benefits Than You Might Think.

3. How not to talk to people with an eating disorder.

4. A Tiny Hamster And A Hedgehog Had A Tiny Tiki Party Because The Internet Is Amazing.

5. Nepal Earthquake Relief Coalition.

6. A Variety of Unprocessed Foods Cut into Uncannily Precise 2.5cm Cubes by Lernert & Sander.

7. Release Tension in the Psoas. “Our yoga practice is an opportunity to undo this chronic tension, and establish a deep and abiding sense of harmony in the body and mind.”

8. The Secret Life of a Scorpio on Elephant Journal.

9. 23 Brilliant Life Lessons From Anthony Bourdain.

10. Rats try to rescue others in distress, suggesting they feel empathy.

11. How to Get Rid of Clutter You Care About from Be More with Less.

12. In the Garden, May 14 on SouleMama.

13. How to Get Your Spouse on Board for Your Career Change from Laura Simms.

14. 3 Ways You’re Making Your Life Harder Than It Has To Be on Marc and Angel Hack Life.

15. the stylists: little nicki on SF Girl by Bay.

16. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club, two different messages, both ones I needed to hear,

Dear Spread-Too-Thin Girl….

Is it time to pare your life down to the handful of things that mean the most to you, and let the rest go so that you can give the very best of yourself to the very best things…instead of being spread in a too-thin layer all over the place?

Your heart knows when it’s time…and you will have the strength to do it.

And best of all…you will see enormous changes happen in your life when you let the unimportant things go and embrace the things that quietly sustain you and bring you joy.

It may not look like the most glamorous life….but it is one filled with joy, peace and harmony….one where laughter is a welcome and frequent companion…one where worries are few…where long meaningful conversations are many…..one that is waiting for you when you are ready to take the steps to get there.

You can do amazing things with the simplest things. You can have so little and be so happy. You can take small amounts of time and perform life-changing acts.

Is it time to simplify?

Simplify today…..one little thing at time. You can do it.

AND

Dear Wise Girl,

Having a rough day? Stop and take a breath, and remember it’s important to stick to the facts, because we often make things up in our heads that get us into a tizzy that is hard to get out of. Fears are mean little fabulists.

Think about everything you have feared in your life, or even for the last 30 days. Think about what you have feared for the last 24 hours, in fact. Think about the stories that you made up in your head about those fierce fears, about all of the terrible and scary and devastating things that surrounded those fears, about how if those things happened, they would surely ruin your life.

Now think about whether or not ANY of those things came to pass, and whether they really did devastate your life. Sure, some yucky things actually DO happen, but a large majority of our fears are stories that we make up in our heads that never ever happen. Yet we waste SO MUCH TIME on them. Aren’t we silly creatures?

So stick to the facts. And if the facts are harsh and look like they might yield some difficult consequences, think about the WORST thing that could possibly happen, and then ask yourself if you could live through it and be okay. See? YOU CAN! And YOU WILL!!

Because you are a brave, brave girl.

17. On Unplugging from Work & Embracing Adventure from Rowdy Kittens.

18. Dear Writers: None Of Us Know What The Fuck We’re Doing on Terrible Minds. tl;dr:

The Five Constants:
1. Write A Lot (And To Completion)
2. Read A Lot (And Read Critically When You Do)
3. Think About Writing And Storytelling
4. Talk To Writers
5. Go Live A Life

19. A Guy Secretly Filmed His Mom For A Year To Help Her Find A Boyfriend.

20. Practicing Non-Judgment on Zen Habits.

21. Good stuff from Austin Kleon’s newsletter: Dear universe (form letter), and Karr to Syracuse grads: Don’t compare your twisted-up insides to others’ blow-dried outsides and a video of the same speech, and In a Mother’s Library, Bound in Spirit and in Print.

22. Video: 100 years of Aging a Soon-to-be Married Couple.

23. Man Cleans Up Entire River On His Way To Work.

24. The Last Day of Her Life, “When Sandy Bem found out she had Alzheimer’s, she resolved that before the disease stole her mind, she would kill herself. The question was, when?”

25. At the Coffeehouse by Jeff Oaks.

26. Melissa McCarthy has powerful words for image-obsessed Hollywood.

27. The Heart and the Bottle: A Tender Illustrated Fable of What Happens When We Deny Our Difficult Emotions on Brain Pickings.

Something Good

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1. Things I would like to do with You: the Book, a Kickstarter Project from the founder of The Elephant Journal.

2. Daily Dharma Gathering. This is how I start every morning. It began as a three month project, but Susan Piver and Lodro Rinzler have decided to continue it through the end of the year. “The DDG offers a new meditation from a great teacher every single day. Each session will begin with a short talk followed by a 10-15 minute meditation and a brief q&a.”

3. 10 Things You Must Give Up to Get Yourself Back on Track from Marc and Angel Hack Life.

4. Things I learned from my dad, in chronological order.

5. The Art of Motherfuckitude: Cheryl Strayed’s Advice to an Aspiring Writer on Faith and Humility on Brain Pickings.

6. 30 Days of Courage course with Marianne Elliott. It starts today and registration closes this evening, so go now! If you missed the series of posts leading up to the start of the course, you can find them here.

mycourage7. On being digital hoarders by Paul Jarvis.

8. Where Do I Even Begin? on Allowing Myself.

9. Just keep going from Caren Baginski.

10. The Doggy Dog Truth from Laurie Wagner.

11. Offer Your Depression, Susan Piver on Lion’s Roar.

12. Nadia Bolz-Weber’s good news by Kirsten Akens.

13. These two spaces showcased on SF Girl by Bay are so peaceful: One Fine Stay and The Slope of Things to Come.

14. Day in the Life — Camping, shared on Chookooloonks this was a good week.

15. Lessons learned from nine years of blogging from Susannah Conway.

16. Caitlin Gill at Snap Judgment LIVE! in Ann Arbor, “The Minivan.”

17. The Time When We’ll Be Present & Content from Zen Habits.

18. Good stuff from Susannah’s Something for the Weekend list: the picture she used for the post is so dreamy, and this Chicken and Dumplings recipe, and this post on Elephant Journal, Why Sensitive Souls Need Rituals.