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Three Truths and One Wish

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1. Truth: I’m sad to leave, AND ready to go home.  I know I said the same thing last week, but it’s still true. The only difference is that I might be a little more ready to go home now than I was a week ago.

2. Truth: This summer may from now on be known as the “things aren’t always as bad as they seem” vacation. This trip was filled with a lot of yuck, some of which turned out to not be as terrible as first thought, and other stuff that seems hard now but might end up being for the best. In the moment, it can feel so claustrophobic and unworkable, but with some time and distance and a little more information, it might not be so bad after all. All I can do is keep trying, not give up.

3. Truth: I couldn’t do any of this without Eric. I couldn’t afford this vacation, I couldn’t drive for two days with two dogs to get here, and I certainly couldn’t meet any of the confusion and challenges of life without his support and good cheer. Okay, I probably could — but why?

One wish: Wherever we travel and whatever we encounter, may we meet it with good cheer and wisdom and compassion, and may we have friends and loved ones to support us along the way. And because this week seems to warrant an extra wish, I offer you this metta (loving kindness) practice from Anam Thubten:

May we be safe from inner and outer harm,
may we be free from guilt, shame, and hatred,
may we enjoy mental and physical well being,
may we live with the ease of an open heart,
may we go beyond our inner darkness,
and awaken to our radiant true nature as boundless love.

May we express loving kindness toward each other so that war, conflict and every form of strife come to an end, allowing peace and harmony to pervade the entire world.

Something Good

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1. 40 Things Everyone But You Is Doing This Summer. As I spend the last few days of my summer vacation on the Oregon Coast, a trip that had its share of drama and yuck, I find this post especially hilarious.

2. Study Finds Drop In Prescription Drugs In Medical Marijuana States.

3. #FromDoubtToDone – A FREE 30-day challenge with Life is Limitless.

4. The 20 Funniest Tweets From Women This Week.

5. Recipes I want to try: Pad Thai Salad and Sticky Orange Peanut Chicken.

6. Just a panda enjoying his popsicle.

7. Twitter Bars Milo Yiannopoulos in Wake of Leslie Jones’s Reports of Abuse.

8. FACT CHECK: Donald Trump’s Republican Convention Speech, Annotated.

9. Roll Call: Are You Here? from Jena Schwartz. “Writing rambling blog posts like this one is one of my ways of saying, “I’m here.” This is a way of showing up and getting my ego out of the way, the ego and its wish to write something beautiful or smart, to add something, anything, new to the conversation.”

10. Managing the gap, from Seth Godin.

11. How Do I Put My Mind to Rest? by Karen Maezen Miller. “It can be painful to admit that we create most of our own suffering, but even more painful to deny it.”

12. The 4 Noble Truths of Emotional Suffering by Anyen Rinpoche.

13. The Bliss Station from Austin Kleon.

14. The August Break, 2016 with Susannah Conway. This is one of my favorite yearly challenges.

Gratitude Friday

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The picture I took because my mom said, “that would make a pretty picture.”

1. Spending time with family. Playing cards, eating together, walking on the beach, talking on the phone and texting.

2. Long walks on the beach. The other day the tide was low enough that we walked all the way from Waldport to Seal Rock. We also walked at Ona Beach and there was a long stretch with no people, other dogs, or birds so the dogs got to go offlead for a longer time than before, and we saw a heron fishing. We also went hiking at Cape Perpetua.

onabeachbridgeducks onabeachshack rockhound sealrockbeach offleadononabeach cliffrocks onabeachheronmesamandbigtree3. My tiny family, and a partner who is there to support and help me. I’m not gonna lie, kind and gentle reader, we’ve been having a rough couple of weeks. I couldn’t do this without Eric.

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4. Friends who can step in with help, even though they aren’t “here.”

5. Sleep. Getting enough of it, that particular kind of rest where you can relax and let everything else go is such a comfort, so essential.

Bonus joy: an amazing dinner last night at the kookiest little restaurant, leftovers, marionberry pie, clean cold water, a warm shower, coffee with a friend, beautiful weather, the color of the ocean this afternoon, the sound of the waves, a slight breeze, a long nap, dog crates, smart and compassionate dog trainers, an unexpected butterfly, Eric making me laugh.

Three Truths and One Wish

onatable1. Truth: There are some things I don’t tell you. Even though I’m pretty open, honest on this blog, there are a few things I just don’t write about here. Some are other people’s dis-ease, illness, and addiction, and some are my own. It seems like in the past year I’ve had to be quieter here than before because there’s been more of that going on behind the scenes. Take this vacation for example. Some major things have gone down that I can’t post about. I know that’s right, but part of me longs for the comfort of telling you.

2. Truth: I’m ready to go home, but I’m sad about leaving. We have one week left, and most of the time I feel simultaneously like I never want to leave AND I can’t get back to Colorado fast enough. It’s the strangest thing. I love it here so much — the beach, the ocean, the weather, all the green, the fresh berries and veggies and seafood, the long lazy days, two and a half hour walks every morning, naps, reading books, nowhere I have to be and nothing I have to do, family so close by. But I also love Colorado — the mountains, the river, the parks where we walk two hours every morning, my garden, my tiny little house with my comfortable bed and new bathroom, my friends, my favorite yoga teachers, my meditation cushion, my backyard, my physical therapist, the dogs’ vets, everything I’m used to and need right there. It’s confusing.

3. Truth: Just because something is the right choice doesn’t make it easy. I know it’s right to keep quiet about some things. I know it’s right that Eric and I live in Colorado, so far away from our families. I know that vacations have to end at some point. And just because something is true, inevitable even, doesn’t make it easy. I know that I can’t protect people I love or myself from bad things happening, that we are all going to get sick, lose our minds a little, make bad choices that have consequences, maybe even get old, and eventually die.

One wish: May we all get our version of whatever comfort and strength we need. No matter how bad it gets, may we find a way to keep going. May we find the magic and the medicine.

Something Good

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1. How to compare ‪#‎BlackLivesMatter‬ to actual hate groups, a video from Seriously.tv. In related news, What writers of color say we all should read now, and the Free Hugs guy at it again, and Black Twitter Countered Tragedy With These 6 Uplifting Hashtags, and A History of White Delusion, and Campaign Zero, and 13 Tweets Explain The Deadly Impact White Privilege Has On Black People, and Black Lives Matter Just Delivered Their 10 Point Manifesto, and This Is What They Want, and Black Lives Matter: A Reading List, and White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard to Talk to White People About Racism.

2. GOP Platform Proposes To Get Rid Of National Parks And National Forests. “This land grab idea is just as ludicrous as denying climate change, just as detached from reality, and similarly comes at the expense of our public health and protection of our public lands and resources.” Blergh…

3. An Australian photographer created a breathtaking photo series that shows gender diverse and transgender children exactly how they want to be seen. I related news, this moving ad on transgender bathroom rights will air for Fox News viewers during the final night of the Republican National Convention.

4. Recipe I want to try: Sliders Four Ways.

5. A devastated French fan seen crying after his team’s ‪#‎Euro2016‬ defeat to Portugal has been consoled by a young Portuguese fan. I love this little dude so much.

6. The Responsibility Glitch. *sigh*

7. Read These 23 Books And Authors When The Injustice Is Overwhelming. #readingoals

8. Awake to the Pain. “Body terrorism, the targeting, blame and mistreatment of people based on bias, ignorance, hate and power differentials, requires our attention, voices and actions.”

9. For The Record, a post from Jennifer Aniston. “The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing.”

10. Santosha from The Cognitive Canine, the dog trainer who has talked me down from a ledge so many times, a good reminder about a practice that can benefit more than just our relationship with our dogs. #reframe

11. 12+ Kids Who’ll Restore Your Faith In Humanity. I don’t know about that, but some of them sure are cute.

12. Model Photographs and Shames Naked Woman at Her Gym and Things That Are Not Always Compliments For Fat People from Dances with Fat.

13. Buy One, Get One Free, wisdom from Rachel Cole. “I want to make something very explicit: food restriction (by any name, real or perceived) almost always leads to overconsumption (by any name, real or perceived). Buy one, get one free—like it or not.”

14. Wisdom from Tulku Thondup, “Generally, we go through life with little awareness of what we are doing, let alone the peaceful and joyful nature of our lives. We mostly think about the past and dream about the future while missing what is happening right now, in this moment. If we are not aware, we are not fully living. We are like sleepwalkers or zombies. To be alive and healthy, we need to wake up.”

15. Mary Lambert’s new video, Hang Out With You. Love it.

16. 3 Keys to Building a Successful Writing Career. I’d rename this to “3 Keys to Building a Successful Writing Practice” or “3 Keys to Building a Successful Writing Life,” because why do we always have to make the good things into our career? It can matter a lot without becoming our job, doesn’t have to be limited to our work.

17. You will be called on to expand. And this is why we practice. This is an older post from Danielle LaPorte that I’ve shared before, but it seems worth revisiting.

Gratitude Friday (a day late)

beachsign1. Long walks on the beach. We’ve figured out this past week by walking various stretches of beach that there is about 13 miles (one way) of walkable beach in our direct vicinity, and that except for the Alsea Bay inlet which you only would be able to maybe cross during an extremely low tide and maybe not even then, you could walk all the way from Seal Rock to Yachats. And, in the other direction, from Brian Booth State Park you could walk all the way to South Beach State Park, another six miles (one way). It’s been fun walking it all and figuring it out with our feet.

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2. Another strawberry pie. Yum.

strawberrypie3. Spending time with family and friends. Dinner and a walk on the beach at sunset, lunch and cards, movie days.

nyebeachsunset 4. My tiny family. Anywhere can be home, as long as they are with me.

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5. When the worst doesn’t happen. Even though someday it will.

Bonus joy: warm clam chowder, hush puppies with crab, a long nap, permission to watch tv all day if I want, good weather for our walks, a washer and dryer, the Newport Farmer’s Market, mostly reliable wi-fi, my new car, being able to manage my anxiety, meditation, stretching, a bed that isn’t horrible, whole clove garlic bread, clif bars, remembering how to play cards and how fun it can be, not needing to check my phone all the time, relief from guilt, clean water, a warm shower.