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Three Truths and One Wish


1. Truth: This post is actually supposed to get published on Tuesdays. It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to write one that early in the week. I feel like this tells you everything you need to know about how things are behind the scenes.

2. Truth: I’m giving one thing up for the next week. I’m going to stop trying to figure things out, stop trying to fix anything. For the seven days, it’s not my responsibility. I have no idea if I’ll really be able to, or what it will feel like, but in regards to this one thing, I give up.

3. Truth: I’m so tired. It’s like that quote from Mandeq Ahmed, “There are two types of tired, I suppose. One is a dire need of sleep, the other is a dire need of peace.” I’m both kinds. The stress of the upcoming election is exhausting and the change in the light doesn’t help one bit. “I want to sleep for a thousand years, then wake up in some other world where failure is part of the music, and seen to make it more beautiful.”

One wish: May we be gentle with ourselves, slow down and rest as necessary, find ease in our lives and peace in our hearts.

Three Truths and One Wish

1. Truth: I’m tired. I’ve been subbing some yoga classes the past few weeks, and for every class I teach, I practice it at least once, so it’s been a lot of yoga and getting up early. And of course all the other reasons I’m usually tired are still true. They didn’t take time off while I was teaching.

2. Truth: As tired as I get, I keep going. This picture made me think about that, because it happens when I go hiking too, especially when it’s a new trail I’ve never been on before. There’s something about being curious, wanting to keep going and see what’s around the next corner.

3. Truth: Curiosity and a sense of humor are essential, especially if we are talking about how to not give up, how to keep going, even when we are tired.

One wish: May we find rest, stay curious, and never lose our sense of humor.

Three Truths and One Wish


1. Truth: Right now it’s hard to talk about what’s true. People ask me how I’m doing, and it’s just easier to say “good” or “fine.” I’m trying to figure it out, trying to navigate rough terrain, and it doesn’t feel like something I want to make public — if I ever do. In fact, if I haven’t already talked to you about it, please don’t ask.

2. Truth: Trying to find the root of my suffering has been difficult. There are so many things layered on top of the point of origin that need to be dug up and untangled. Each new discovery has the potential to confuse and distract me from the real source.

3. Truth: Sometimes telling the truth is hard because you know someone else is going to immediately try to deny it or downplay it. There are so many ways this is manifesting in my life — personal, professional, and public. I spend a lot of time lately weighing the value of speaking out against the harm of staying silent.

One wish: That we keep digging, keep trying, don’t give up, and know that we have the right to say “this is mine.”

Three Truths


1. Truth: Knowing what you want is just the first step. You can be so clear about what your destination is, about it being right for you, but that alone doesn’t get you there. It’s simply a good place to start, a beginning.

2. Truth: Even if you know where you intend to land, there are many tiny steps on the path to getting there. I know there’s a lot of encouragement to lean in, play big, take the leap, with the promise that you’ll magically land where you want, but I don’t think it happens just like that for most people. In fact, I’ve found that many who try to sell their story like it was that easy simply skip the middle, leave out the messy bits.

3. Truth: Patience is essential. Especially when you can see exactly where you want to go, it can be frustrating to wait, to do the small work of getting there, and yet it’s the only way to travel, the only way to get from here to there. And just know that even when it seems like you aren’t getting anywhere, more than likely something is shifting.

One wish: May we relax into the time and effort it takes, resting when we need to, taking it as slow as we need to go, working out one thing at a time, one step and then another, patient with the process and gentle with ourselves, trusting in our own knowing.

Three Truths and One Wish

image from Unsplash, by Chris Ensey

image from Unsplash, by Chris Ensey

1. Truth: Yesterday was my two year anniversary of becoming a yoga teacher. I sent an email to all the people I trained with and then posted a message my teachers would see, marking the anniversary and sending my gratitude and love. As I told them, just like yoga isn’t just about asana (the physical poses), teacher training is about so much more than learning to teach yoga.

2. Truth: I’m not sure where I’m going with my teaching, or even my practice. I gave up my regular class because we were gone over the summer and I haven’t felt inspired to try and get another on my schedule. I’m subbing some classes in the near future, but other than that I’m not teaching much. In fact, I haven’t been practicing much, at least not in a traditional way — going to a class, or getting out my mat and props and doing a full practice at home. Something is gestating, shifting around yoga for me, and I’m allowing it to happen.

3. Truth: Practice is always evolving. While I may not be doing much yoga, I’m practicing meditation and chanting like my hair is on fire. In a few weeks, I’ll start the certification process for meditation instruction through the Open Heart Project. I feel a shift around my writing too, as I enter into what feels like a season of both truth and healing. And my practice of dog has always felt like that old game, “the floor is hot lava.” And even when I get training to teach something I practice, it only reveals to me how little I know.

One wish: May our practice help us to navigate change, transform our confusion into wisdom, and liberate us from suffering.

Three (un)Truths and One Wish (a few days late)


1. (un)Truth: “Anxiety and depression are tied to the future and past, so if you stay in the present, you won’t be anxious or depressed. If you stay grounded in this moment, mindful and fully present, you are okay. Nothing’s wrong.” This is true… almost. What a statement like this misses is that anxiety, grief, sadness, depression, and traumas of various other kinds live in the body, and thus are experiences that can live in the present moment. Anxiety and depression can be very real and it’s unkind, unwise to dismiss their existence with the assertion that if you could just be more mindful and present, you’d be fine.

2. (un)Truth: “How you live your life is far more significant to your health and happiness than what you do. Rest, relaxation, meditation, nutrition, exercise, laughter, play, family, friends and spirituality can be woven into our lifestyles regardless of the work we do.” Someone posted this last week on Facebook, having heard it in a stress management class she’d attended. While I agree that all those “other things” are important, the work we do has an equal impact on health and happiness, and can sometimes eclipse those other things. This is one of those “truisms” that shifts blame to individual choices (“if you are stressed out, it’s your own fault because you aren’t doing enough of the other stuff to take care of yourself”), ignoring the impact of our work — the environment, the people we interact with there, the tasks we perform, and the responsibility we are given. If it’s the wrong fit or even toxic or just somehow too much, the consequences can be quite nasty. And, I have found it to be true in my own experience that some work makes it really difficult to maintain the energy or time to put towards all those other wonderful things. I feel lucky some weeks to have clean underwear and food to eat. Truisms like this tend to just make me feel like crap about myself, like I’m doing it wrong, even though intellectually I know that’s not the case, that it isn’t anywhere near that simple.

3. (un)Truth: “No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up, and never give up.” Prince Ea, who I really like, posted this on his Facebook page the other day. Again, just like the other two untruths in this list I feel like it glosses over something essential. The most problematic part is the “no matter how you feel.” In an effort to encourage people to not give up, it suggests that they deny how they feel, push it aside, dress it up and keep going. I get that you don’t want to feed the wrong wolf, but to not allow how you feel some agency, some authority is not right either. There are valid reasons for sadness, fear, anger, and to deny them and just act as if everything is okay doesn’t seem like the best approach. “The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy,” Pema Chödrön.

One wish: May we recognize truth when we hear it, know love when we feel it, be grounded in our own wisdom and power, remain gentle with ourselves, and never give up.


Three Truths and One Wish

From our walk this morning

From our walk this morning

1. Truth: This is not sustainable. And by “this,” I mean the way I’m doing life. I am trying to do all the things, and then some. Even if I weren’t a highly sensitive introvert with an autoimmune disorder and lingering PTSD, it would be too much for me to keep up.

2. Truth: Even though I know that, I don’t know how to stop, or even slow down. My therapist asked me what I might be able to let go of, and I couldn’t think of a single thing. Not only that, what I started thinking about instead were all the things I wanted to add, needed to do in addition to what I’m already doing.

3. Truth: I hope the solution doesn’t arise from the ashes of a full on burnout. I’d really like to figure this out before hitting some awful rock bottom. I’d like to make choices about what I want and what to do from a place where I feel like I have options, not a place of chaos, panic, or collapse.

One wish: May my choices come from pure love and wisdom, reflecting sanity and clarity rather than fear or confusion or exhaustion.