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Something Good

Picture from our walk yesterday morning, and quote from a fortune cookie from our lunch the same day — which it turns out is actually wisdom from Guillaume Apollinaire, a French novelist who died in November of 1918

1. Modern Love 13-Word Love Stories from The New York Times.

2. Yoga in America Often Exploits My Culture—but You May Not Even Realize It. As a Buddhist, yoga teacher, and white woman, this is something about which I continue to cultivate awareness.

3. Captivating Kids Stories To Recognize Privilege. A great reading list, especially with the holidays coming up. #booksarethebestpresents In related news, ‘Open the doors and let these books in’ – what would a truly diverse reading list look like?

4. Saying ‘No Thanks’ to Lying to Kids about Thanksgiving. In related news, No Thanks: How Thanksgiving Narratives Erase the Genocide of Native Peoples, and Native American Girls Describe the REAL History Behind Thanksgiving (video), and The very first Thanksgiving looked a lot different than most of us realize (video).

5. This couple got married on the U.S.-Mexico border when it was opened for 3 minutes. (video) As I said when I shared this on Facebook: Fuck this shit. Fuck your wall. I mean y’all do realize we live on stolen land, right?

6. ‘This is such a scam’ — this senator won’t tolerate any bullsh*t about Trump’s tax plan. (video) In related news, Congresswoman masterfully exposes Trump tax scam as a giveaway… (video) This is the kind of thing I hope is happening in politics everywhere, behind every closed door, in every meeting and session — resistance.

7. Teachers Learn About Their Bias Towards Students. (video) “The ratio of white teachers to students of color is a national problem. This New York school district is training educators on how to talk about race, and address their own biases.”

8. Experience: my workout nearly killed me. Thank goodness my eating disorder and messed up notions about my body didn’t exist in the thick of the CrossFit era. I might be dead.

9. Recipes I want to try: (or an alternative title for this list, “many ways eat Brussels sprouts”), root vegetable gratin, and Bacon and Brussels Sprout Salad, and brussels sprouts, apple and pomegranate salad, Brussels Sprouts Gratin, and Brussels Sprouts with Pine Nuts and Parmesan, and Gingerbread Apple Muffins, and Cornbread 4 Ways. In totally related news, How To Make Brussels Sprouts Taste Way Better.

10. Confusing Malaise from PHD Comics.

11. This brave woman has something to say to her body shamers. (video) Fuck you and your fat phobia. Even if she weren’t doing a single thing to modify her body, she can put whatever she wants in her mouth, eat whatever she wants AND enjoy it. What you eat or what your body looks like is NOT a moral issue, and it’s certainly nobody else’s business. In related news, Seemingly Overweight Dancer Blows Audience Away With Epic Swing Routine. And again, I say: Fuck you and your fat phobia. And just to underline the point, Roxane Gay Wants You to See Fat People as Humans and Aidy Bryant Puts Fat Shaming In Its Place and Letting Go of “Health-ism” and Related Panic.

12. 10+ Neighbours Who Made The Neighbourhood More Interesting.

13. If music gives you goosebumps, your brain might be special. My brain is special. Maybe you’d already guessed that? 🙂

14. The amount of food we waste every year is absurd. (video)

15. Gentle Giant Adopts Tiny Rescue Owl, His Protective Ways Will Make Your Day.

16. These people received a special surprise for being kind. (video)

17. White People Are Smashing Their Coffee Machines to Show Support for Child Molestation. I wish people would just admit they are racist, misogynist bigots and stop pretending to be so righteous and offended. In related news, this is how you do it: Why Kaep Takes a Knee. (video) “Colin Kaepernick has been named ‘Citizen of the Year’ by GQ. Here’s a refresher on what Colin’s protest is all about.” The same kind of people smashing coffee machines were burning his jersey.

18. Food Psych #130: How to Fight Fatphobia in Woke Spaces with Melissa Toler. I didn’t get to listen to this yet, but it’s a great podcast, and Melissa Toler is doing really great work.

19. Lemonade for Love. (video) “This little girls kindness and generosity is so well needed in this world.”

20. This kid is so awesome. (video) “When Hurricane Harvey slammed into Dickinson, TX, 13-year-old Virgil Smith trudged into the water with an air mattress to transport his stranded neighbors to safety.”

21. An Ode To the Women Who are “Too Much”, which I found because Lindsey shared a quote and link on A Design So Vast.

22. Some things I’ve noticed… from Chaz Hutton.

23. Who knows who you’ll help? Susan Hyatt makes a really good point about the importance of doing what you do. “We’re all here to serve one another. Whether it’s through a blog post, an article, a business, a fundraiser, or some other project, we’re all here to serve humanity. So, go create and share. Please don’t hold yourself back. Because who knows who you’ll help?”

24. So You’ve Sexually Harassed Or Abused Someone: What Now? from Ijeoma Oluo. “You can never erase this, but you can repair some of the damage done, and the damage your inaction is currently doing. You can be a part of the solution. And you have to be. You owe it to your victims. You owe it to us all.” This wisdom applies, regardless of the specific wrong you’ve done. Also from Ijeoma Oluo and in related news, When You Can’t Throw All Men Into The Ocean And Start Over, What CAN You Do?

25. Five Science-Backed Strategies to Build Resilience.

26. ‘I’ve Always Queered That Normative Space’: A Q&A With Rhea Butcher and Cameron Esposito.

27. The Truth About Christmas: The Epic, Untold Story of the holiday’s True Origins. This is just one small example of why it’s so important to understand the origins of things, to know actual history, and to seek out the truth.

28. A Wrinkle in Time Official US Trailer.

29. Being better to your fat friend this thanksgiving.

This holiday, before you comment on how much you’ve eaten, the weight of your regret, your fears for the body you might grow into, your fears for the bodies around you, your anxiety about anyone eating too much, stay silent for a moment. Sit with how it feels not to say it. Sit with what you wanted to say. Ask why you wanted to say it. Ask who it would benefit.

30. Give Back To Black Women on Giving Tuesday.

Giving Tuesday is a national movement fundraising day that happens on Nov. 28th which focuses on altruistic giving, particularly in the online space. Like most structures impacted by systems of violence, Giving Tuesday has become monopolized by the Non-profit Industrial Complex. To make it plain: huge heirarchal non-profit organizations take up space and collect money that the very communities they proport to organize for never see. We are disrupting that model and centering Black Women and femmes. Join us in the work!

31. 100 questions to spark conversation & connection from Alexandra Franzen.

Something Good

Fall and Winter in a single tree, by Eric Salahub

1. Savor is coming! Daily Practices for a more nourishing holiday from Rachel Cole, one of my favorite traditions. I shared this last week too. It starts November 20th, so there’s still time to sign up.

2. 7 Questions to Ask When You’re Feeling Stuck. “When you feel stuck, asking why is often helpful. But just asking ‘Why am I stuck?’ doesn’t always work, because feeling stuck can be more of a general sensation than a specific ailment. So here are a few other questions that might help you figure things out.”

3. Roxane Gay, Feminism and Difficult Women, an interview with one of my favorite authors.

4. It’s very clearly okay to be white. “This incident is part of a larger effort from white supremacists and white-nationalists to center their own insecurities in conversations about racial inequity and convert those who wouldn’t normally take a stance to their side of what they think is an anti-white culture war.” This happened on MY campus this week, and it’s not okay.

5. An Open Letter to Brené Brown. “This world has a whole lot of amazing changemakers who happen to be fat. I think it’s time we invite sizeism into the diversity conversation to make space for healing.”

6. It’s The Underpants Rule! from Dances with Fat. Also, Giles Coren: Garbage Human, Fatphobe and, Horrifyingly, Father.

7. Good stuff written or shared by Austin Kleon: You are allowed to change your mind and The tension between creativity and productivity.

8. Calorie counts on menus are going to be mandatory in 2018. This is why we can’t have nice things…

9. The “New” Black Friday. “Black Friday is, for many Americans, a day of stress and debt.
What if we chose to give it a better meaning?…This Black Friday, go with the new black: Spend at least part of the day making a Love List as a holiday gift for someone you love.”

10. Colin Kaepernick Is GQ’s 2017 Citizen of the Year. “He’s been vilified by millions and locked out of the NFL—all because he took a knee to protest police brutality. But Colin Kaepernick’s determined stand puts him in rare company in sports history: Muhammad Ali, Jackie Robinson—athletes who risked everything to make a difference.”

11. I am tired of being invisible to you all from Winona LaDuke.

12. Who Will Mourn Teen Vogue? on The New York Times.

13. A Black Queer Man’s Syllabus to Whiteness, a great reading list.

14. 20 Really Good New Books You’re About To Hear Everyone Talk About Nonstop.

15. David Cork Wants To Normalize Bisexuality With His Webseries.

16. Recipes I’d like to try: 8 Homemade Veggie Chips & Dips, and Vegan Pulled Pork Sandwiches, (a local restaurant makes these, and you seriously cannot tell the difference), and Crock Pot Teriyaki Chicken, and Meatless Tacos 5 Ways.

17. Being busy is the new status symbol.

18. Roy Moore’s Former Deputy District Attorney Just Made His Sex Scandal Infinitely Worse. In related news, Fake news troll Jack Posobiec doxxes woman who accused Republican Roy Moore of child abuse.

19. Otters wag their tails like dogs when they’re happy. (video) So cute.

20. Little Boy And His Mom Are Saving Hundreds Of Shelter Dogs. (video) When he chokes up at the end talking about Sully, I lost it. Here’s another video about him and the project he and his mom work on, Project Freedom Ride.

21. Staying in With a Chronic Illness: Expectations vs Reality. (video)

22. Phone-Sized Camera Has 16 Built-In Lenses. (video)

23. This weed commercial is a hilarious parody of pharmaceutical advertisements. (video)

24. Stop walking your dog. Not gonna stop walking my dogs, but there are some good reminders here.

25. Meet 82-year-old Sumiko: a Japanese dumpling maker by day… and professional DJ at night. (video) It’s never too late to start.

26. Luther Vandross’s first TV appearance…on Sesame Street. (video) Warning: this tune is hella catchy.

27. Ava DuVernay Talks ‘Lip Service’ of Diversity Programs: ‘Once They Do That First Year, Then What?’

28. This Man Used to Dance for Fun—Now He Dances to Help Others. (video)

29. Stephanie Beatriz’s New Movie “The Light Of The Moon” Is A Rape Recovery Story That Needs To Be Told: BUST Interview.

30. Fighting Hunger Under Trump’s Budget. (video) “‘It’s very difficult for children to concentrate on their education if they have not been properly fed.’ Trump’s budget cuts could spell disaster for places like Mississippi, which faces the worst hunger rate in the nation.” There are some who’d watch this and still feel like it’s not their responsibility to help, that hungry people have somehow made a choice and “it’s not my problem.” I watch this and think we should be embarrassed that there are so many hungry people in a culture where so many have so much more than they need.

31. The Tragic Story of Althea Garrison, the First Trans Person to Hold State Office in America.

32. Professor: ‘Toxic Masculinity Is Killing Everyone.’

33. Elisa Kreisinger/Pop Culture Pirate breaks down why there are so many mediocre male leaders & how it’s hurting women. (video)

34. Amazing Hoop Dance performance by Nakotah LaRance at the Swaia Fashion Show. Note to self: If this guy challenges you to a dance off, forfeit.

35. Holy Thank You For Not by Megan Falley. (video) A beautiful poem. Another beautiful poem? Watch Andrea Gibson Perform ‘Your Life’ in The Dreamhouse.

36. Her family hired me as a maid for 12 years but then she stole my life and made it a Disney movie. Someone on a thread about this suggested (after we heard the court case didn’t work out and Abilene Cooper hasn’t received any sort of justice), that she needs to make her own movie about what happened to her, including how Becky stole her story and made a bunch of money and fame for herself.

37. People With Golden Hearts Share Their Most Wholesome Secret. Happy World Kindness Day!

Something Good

1. The Community Fridge – Helping Those In Need. (video)

2. I Talked to 150 Writers and Here’s the Best Advice They Had.

3. By D Grace of God. (video) “When Ben was contacted by an internet scammer named Joel, he had two choices. He could ignore him or knowingly take the bait. Ben decided to lead the scammer on in hopes of wasting his time. However, when he started to do that, things took a totally unexpected turn.”

4. Racists were afraid to attend their own hate speech rally in Murfreesboro Tennessee. (video)

5. A Chicano Community In San Diego Is Outraged Over A White Woman’s Attempt To Open A ‘Modern Fruteria.’ No, Jenny. Just no. You too, Becky. Just stop it.

6. The deadlier drug crises that we don’t consider public health emergencies. “Alcohol and tobacco kill far more people than opioids. Should they be considered an ‘epidemic’?”

7. Why you should give money directly and unconditionally to homeless people.

8. Women accusing Trump of sexual harassment are lying, says White House. White hot rage is all I feel in response to this.

9. ICE agents are out of control, y’all. Because this: Border Patrol Hauls 10-Year-Old Away IMMEDIATELY Post Surgery. (video) And this: Oregon ICE Agents Enter Home Without Warrant. (video) And in seemingly related news, this: This is a disgraceful abuse of power. (video) And this: Assistant Principal Placed on Leave After Pinning Student to Ground. (video)

10. The Skeleton Key: Dismantle is an offering to white cis-women to begin to dismantle the white supremacy we carry in our own bones.

11. how sza became the definitive sound of 2017. I didn’t think anything could come anywhere near to how much I love Solange’s “A Seat At The Table.” Then came SZA with “Ctrl.”

12. Roxane Gay Lists 13 Rules for Female Friendships.

13. C.D.C. Panel Recommends a New Shingles Vaccine from The New York Times. These vaccines are all recommended for those over 50 or even 60, but the majority of people I know who’ve had shingles are women in their 30s, and many of them have recurring, ongoing outbreaks.

14. Ever wonder why some history textbooks look more favorably on the South after the American Civil War? Meet the United Daughters of the Confederacy. (video)

15. The Adjunct’s Guide to Teaching College Composition on McSweeney’s.

16. Andrea Gibson: exploring chronic pain. (video)

17. More Than 800 People Have Been Shot To Death Since The Las Vegas Massacre.

18. Recipes I’d like to try: Healthier “Bacon” 4 Ways and 5-Minute Vegan Sauces (video).

19. 2017 Sony World Photography Best Photos Will Take Your Breath Away.

20. The Flint water crisis inspired clever 11-year-old Gitanjali Rao to develop a new water testing kit.

21. This Man Asked A Simple Question Online That Shut Down The Whole Anti-Abortion Argument.

22. All the Beautiful Humans. The story of a bad day that turned out to be a reminder of “all the beautiful humans.”

23. How to Engage a Fanatic from The New York Times. Honestly, I’m not sure how I feel about this.

24. “That’s Racist Against White People!” A Discussion on Power and Privilege. An older post, but worth repeating, since apparently so many people still don’t understand how this works.

25. Photos Show Rituals Of Womanhood In Remote Tribes Around The World. Stunning.

26. Students call for professor’s firing after he hosts ‘female or shemale’ quiz during class.

27. To The White Woman I Can No Longer Be Friends With. This is hard to hear, but we need to hear it.

28. Stuff Black People Need.

29. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön, “It’s hard to know whether to laugh or to cry at the human predicament. Here we are with so much wisdom and tenderness, and—without even knowing it—we cover it over to protect ourselves from insecurity. Although we have the potential to experience the freedom of a butterfly, we mysteriously prefer the small and fearful cocoon of ego.”

30. Aaron Lee, the “Angry Asian Buddhist,” has died, age 34. I can’t stop thinking about this part (read his whole post here),

In his last year, Aaron shifted his focus from activism towards creating “refuges,” which he described as spaces where someone can feel safe, supported, and nurtured. In a blog post, he wrote, “In the hospital, I found my speech and actions could become refuges for my family and caregivers — providing them with a space where they could feel calm, positive and helpful.”

31. All Hands on Deck, a poem by Jena Schwartz. P.S. She did an unplanned, impromptu reading of this at a coffee shop last week. Just got up and read it out loud. I already look to Jena as an example of how to be a writer on the page, but she’s also a good example of how to live as a writer off the page.

32. Cambridge University moves to ‘decolonise’ English literature curriculum adding more black and ethnic minority texts. As I read this, I can’t help but hearing Queen Whitney Houston singing in my head, “I believe that children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.”

33. Samoan fire crew sings beautiful hymn amid Northern California wildfires.

34. The Absence Of Empathy, which says at one point,

We’re trapped in a doomed 4-step program:
Step one: The president is challenged in a way that pushes him toward unbearable feelings inadequacy.
Step two: He responds by saying something despicable, usually projecting his weakness and corruption onto someone else.
Step three: He gets blasted by media, politicians, etc.
Step four: His followers experience this shaming as proof of Trump’s infallibility and redouble their allegiance.

35. Why people keep dieting despite logic or rationality from Isabel Foxen Duke. “The fantasy that we can diet our way into safety, love, power and acceptance—and diet our way out of judgment, powerlessness, oppression or rejectionunderlies all body-image or “food issues” to some degree or another.”

36. 12 Things Introverts Absolutely Need to Be Happy. I need to keep this somewhere I can refer to it often, as a reminder to get out of my own way.

37. 31 Things That Will Happen When You Finally Decide To Live Your Dreams. I want to go to there.

Something Good

Image by Eric

1. Holy shit, being an ally isn’t about me! “How I learned being a white liberal doesn’t make me a good ally.” In related news, 5 Truths About White Privilege for White People from John Pavlovitz.

2. The Question of Cultural Appropriation. “It’s more helpful to think about exploitation and disrespect than to define cultural ‘ownership.'”

3. To Mayim Bialik: The “Luxury” Of Not Being A “Perfect 10” Did Not Prevent My Rape. I’d take this “I can only hope that the culture you wish to change begins with showing our children that a man or woman only has to say NO once” one step further and add that a human needs to have also said “yes.”

4. Tamika Mallory, Co-Chair of Women’s March on Washington, Says American Airlines Pilot Kicked Her Off Flight Over Seat Dispute.

5. The Art of Activism: Hard Conversations Book Club “reads a book each month that will illuminate a path for accessing, reclaiming, and deepening our shared humanity. We will spend this year learning things we have not known, so we can respond to other human beings from a place of knowing, and not from a place of fear.”

6. Processing negative reviews from Seth Godin.

7. Relative from A Design So Vast. “I’ve always hungered to understand how the absolutely singular experience I’m having on this planet relates to the universal. I think we all do.”

8. Technology, peace, and sanity from Alexandra Franzen. “Deep down, though, we all crave meaningful human connections. We all crave serenity, peace, and space to breathe and think. We all crave less clutter, less noise, and more beauty. Technology can help to deliver these things. Or technology can hinder these things. It just depends on how we choose to use it.”

9. Weight Bias is Not In Your Head…and that’s probably not a reason to diet from Isabel Foxen Duke.

10. It’s Okay To Disconnect From Toxic People To Protect Yourself. This is a good article about what it’s about, but it also gave such a clear description of who I am… *sigh*

I’m a highly sensitive INFJ personality type. I need to feel emotionally safe and supported before I can express my true thoughts to anyone, and I also need more time than most to speak in front of a group (even if it’s only three people). I’m also an empath. So, when people around me go from zero to 10 on the anger scale, I pretty much immediately get gut-punched by all the negative energy. And because I’m an intuitive introvert, I see almost every different side to any issue. Black and white doesn’t exist for me. I live in the gray area.

11. PHOTOS: Trees That Tell Stories About The World We Live In.

12. Lego’s New Space-Themed Set is a Studded Celebration of Women in STEM.

13. Wedding Thoughts: All I Know About Love a poem from Neil Gaiman.

14. People think it was just Nazi Germany that operated concentration camps. “Britain used them in South Africa, Russia, Ireland, Palestine, Malaya and Kenya.” (video)

15. Practicing yoga in prison is completely reshaping these inmates’ lives. (video)

16. 27 Tweets That Are Too Good For This Cruel World.

17. Recipes I want to try: Veggie Hash Browns 4 Ways and miso sweet potato and broccoli bowl.

18. Weinstein Isn’t The Only One: Screen Celebs Who Abuse Women or Children. In related news, President Donald Trump has been accused of inappropriate conduct and sexual assault by these women. (video)

19. “The Florida Project” Is A Heartbreaking Movie About Living In The Shadow Of Disney. This looks so good, in that way a movie about bad things can be good.

20. 10 Black Female Poets You Need To Check Out.

21. Photographer Spends Eternity Waiting For Museum Visitors To Match Artworks And The Result Is Worth The Wait.

22. The #MeToo campaign is actually 10 years old — and this is the woman who started it. (video) In related news, The ‘Me Too’ Campaign Was Created By A Black Woman 10 Years Ago.

23. I need to talk to spiritual white women about white supremacy (Part Two) from Layla Saad.

24. This Cafe In Edinburgh Is Building A Village For The Homeless Community. (video)

25. Companies That Employ The Formerly Incarcerated.

26. Burger King Takes on Bullying in Viral Ad.

Something Good

Fall on the Poudre River, from one of our morning walks this week

1. With all the recent disasters, I’ve been loving when there’s good news. Like this, Dog missing after 6.3R earthquake returns home when school bell rings, or this, Dog stranded by wildfire waits for her family at burned-down home, and this, Guy Drives Across The Country To Adopt A VERY Special Dog.

2. Recipes I want to try: 5 lunch recipes that only require 3 ingredients, and butternut squash and caramelized onion galette, and “Healthy” Fried Rice, and Bourbon Sweet Potato Casserole with Buttery Pecans, and Apple Pie Cookies, and Chocolate Olive Oil Cake.

3. The model in the controversial Dove ad speaks out: “I am not just some silent victim.” In related news, 9 Shockingly Tone-Deaf Ads That Should Have Never Happened and Black-Owned Skincare Brands to Support Instead of Dove.

4. From Aggressive Overtures to Sexual Assault: Harvey Weinstein’s Accusers Tell Their Stories on The New York Times. In related news, What If We Just Believed Women? “One of the reasons Harvey Weinstein was able to allegedly prey on women for 30 years is that victims were afraid no one would hear them out if they came forward.”

5. Dear White Co-conspirators. “Stay with the discomfort and repeat to yourself: I do this in solidarity with my fellow people of color who have had to live in this discomfort, still do, without the privilege or luxury of walking away from it. I do this in solidarity. This is a vital part of dismantling racism.”

6. #NamaSlay: How Black Women Are Using Trap Yoga as Spiritual Resistance.

7. 15+ Of The Most Beautiful Bonsai Trees Ever.

8. Come For The Fat Girls, Get No Girls At All. “Whether they’re whining about women playing leading roles or trying to tell us that we should keep kids away from fat people, we don’t have to put up with it.”

9. The Faceless: On Whiteness & Emotional Assassination. “White people consistently break the softness of my heart — because Whiteness is brokenness, and to be close to it, is to be broken by it.”

10. My life has been marked by sexual harassment – just like all women.

11. 12 Amazing Highlights from the 2017 Nat Geo Nature Photographer of the Year Contest.

12. Growing Up In A Fatphobic Household.

13. This Video of Young Girls Dancing to Beyoncé’s ‘Freedom’ Will Give You Chills.

14. The New Midlife Crisis. “Why (and How) It’s Hitting Gen X Women.” In related news, How Philosophy Can Solve Your Midlife Crisis.

15. There Is No Middle Ground Between Racism And Justice.

16. 3 Things America Doesn’t Want To Tell You About White Terrorism.

17. The Airport Bomber From Last Week You Never Heard About.

18. Conversation with Laurie Wagner about Creativity as Medicine with Sherry Belul.

19. Curious Arctic Fox Pups Destroy Hidden Camera In The Most Adorable Way.

20. On Fragility. “White or White adjacent fragility isn’t just annoying…it’s a power grab. It’s dangerous and it seeks to harm people who speak up and out. Fragility and centering is employed daily…and it’s designed restore the desired position of power or feel ‘safe’. It’s both unconscious and intentional simultaneously.”

21. 6 Simple Personal Commitments to Overcome Low Self-Esteem. “Even though you know that you can be so much more, deep down you have a nagging feeling that you are not worthy of greatness, accolade, pure joy, and happiness. Low self-esteem is keeping you from living your life to the fullest.”

22. How to take a nap.

23. So You Want To Fight White Supremacy.

24. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön, “We don’t set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people’s hearts.”

25. A great offer from Rachel Cole, “The world is hurting so much and sometimes the best thing we can do is to help those most local to us. During the month of November if you book a consultation with me (90 minutes, one-on-one) I will donate 75% of your payment to organizations that are supporting the North Bay fire recovery effort. I’d love to help you while also helping others.”

26. A UMD lecturer received a racist voicemail after he was on Fox News. I sent him an email of support today. If you’d like to as well: jan@umd.edu

27. 11 new essay collections by women that you need to read if you haven’t already.

28. How To Practice Self-Care Amid All The Harvey Weinstein News, Because The News Cycle Can Be Really Overwhelming.

29. This Is The Anti-Gay Pamphlet Handed Out At The Values Voter Summit. In related news, Values Voter Summit: Whose Values?

30. Andrea Gibson: ‘Genderqueer is a Constant Coming Out.’ I have tickets to see them in Boulder in February. Yay!

31. #ExpressiveWriting Prompts to Use If You’ve Been Accused of #WhiteFragility #SpiritualBypass or #WhitePrivilege. Hall created this resource for free. If you recognize the value of her effort, you can pay her: “http://www.paypal.me/leesarenee It’ll say Arbisys. That’s the name of my holding company. But it’ll get to me.”

32. My Book Is About Race. Of Course It Is. from Ijeoma Oluo. Can’t wait to read it!

33. Meet the Black Women Named MacArthur “Geniuses.”

34. The Game is Rigged from Chuck Wendig.

Just be aware of this stuff, People Like Me. Elevate voices that aren’t your own. Listen to those voices. Hear them. Pass the mic. Boost the signal. When you see the system working for you and against others, say something. Try to do something. Don’t worry about perfect, just be better, for Chrissakes. Stand tall for people who can’t, for people who will be crushed underneath the machine. Get out of the center of the universe. Give money to good causes. Vote for interests other than your own. Find empathy and critical thinking. Do something. Don’t just sit there and be the casual, happy recipient of love and favors. Share the road. And see the game for what it is, and how someone has cheated for you on your behalf.

35. This artist put Trump quotes on sexist ads from the 1950s and it’s frighteningly realistic.

36. President Trump has made 1,318 false or misleading claims over 263 days.

37. 15 Bad-Ass Latina Activists.

38. What happened when a poet was sent to the biggest US mall to write for shoppers. “Brian Sonia-Wallace was selected to pen poems at the Mall of America. In a shrine to consumerism, he regularly brought visitors to tears.”

39. 10 Books by Indigenous Authors You Should Read.

40. Buy Native, a list of Native owned businesses.

Something Good

High Park Camp, Colorado

1. Trying is always worth it, wisdom from Alexandra Franzen.

2. How do you want to fill your day? Wisdom from Paul Jarvis.

3. Women Aren’t Nags—We’re Just Fed Up. “Emotional labor is the unpaid job men still don’t understand.” In related news, Ask Agatha, or Don’t: Unsolicited Advice to a Woman Who’s Afraid to Be a Nag.

4. Everything You Need to Know About Indigenous Peoples Day. In order to get to a better place together, we need to face (and teach) our true history. There are terrible things we continue to try and gloss over, even deny, and it’s not doing any of us any good, is actually doing direct harm to some. For starters, we need to stop honoring Columbus Day. Stop celebrating this person. Stop taking advantage of discounts and sales in his honor. Work to have your city, state, country reframe or get rid of this “holiday” altogether. In related news, 8 Myths and Atrocities About Christopher Columbus and Columbus Day.

5. The Space Between Lives and Why I Don’t Feel Proud of America from Jena Schwartz.

6. Why LGBT Spaces Can Be Uncomfortable for Queer People of Colour.

7. 10 Ways White Liberals Perpetuate Racism.

8. Why do we feel so guilty all the time? “Food, sex, money, work, family, friends, health, politics: there’s nothing we can’t feel guilty about, including our own feelings of guilt.”

9. 10 Things Fat Babes With Eating Disorders Need You To Know. In related news, When You’re Both Overweight and Anorexic.

10. This White Cop Slamming a Little Black Boy to The Ground is Why Black Athletes Are Taking The Knee. “If you don’t get it yet just admit it’s because you don’t want to.”

11. As Overdose Deaths Pile Up, a Medical Examiner Quits the Morgue on The New York Times. Should we have done more, cared more when crack was decimating communities of color? Yes, absolutely. Should we do better now? Yes, for sure. Do we really know what to do? I don’t know. Addiction has been around me my whole life, and it’s one of the most confusing, confounding things, so I hope a whole lot of people know and do better than me, (<– I could say that about just about everything).

12. “The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson” Creator Accused of Stealing Work from Filmmaker Reina Gossett.

13. Dove apologises for ad showing black woman turning into white one. In related news, The Black Model In The Controversial Dove Ad Responds To The Backlash.

14. Dirty John. A six part narrative series, which includes a six part podcast. “This series is based on multiple interviews with Debra Newell, Jacquelyn Newell, Terra Newell, Arlane Hart, Shad Vickers, Tonia Sells Bales, Karen Douvillier, Donna Meehan Stewart, investigators, attorneys and other sources. Christopher Goffard also reviewed thousands of pages of court documents, police reports, restraining orders and prison records, as well as text messages and emails.”

15. 21 Hilarious Tweets That Accurately Reflect Life With Toddlers.

16. Every Single Cognitive Bias in One Infographic.

17. 11-Year-Old Starts Club For Young Black Boys To See Themselves In Books.

18. The Root: 100 Most Influential African Americans in 2017. “The Root 100 is our annual list of the most influential African Americans, ages 25 to 45. It’s our way of honoring the innovators, the leaders, the public figures and game changers whose work from the past year is breaking down barriers and paving the way for the next generation. This year’s list of honorees are a reminder of the beauty and brilliance of blackness, at a time when the political and cultural landscape has grown even more hostile to the idea of black achievement.”

19. Ellen DeGeneres always knows how to remind us of all the good people in the world. (video)

20. Despite claims in the media, the Las Vegas massacre was not the deadliest mass shooting in history. (video)

21. Huge butterfly swarm detected by weather radar in Colorado. They really have been everywhere.

22. Recipe I want to try: Veggie Nuggets.

23. White Male Terrorists Are an Issue We Should Discuss.

24. How To Help Las Vegas Shooting Victims Right Now.

25. There’s not “a thin person inside you, trying to get out” and that’s a good thing.

26. Nathaniel Russell’s Fliers and Fake Books.

27. The final four lines of Maya Stein’s 10-Line Tuesday poem “Another Elegy,”

What to say, now, in the silence that remains after the bullets have struck?
What shred of grace or beauty still clings to the mouth of this October
and its devastating blue sky? I am out of ideas, but here: Take my shatter
of grief and twine it to yours. Let us swallow this bitterness together.

28. Thank You, Michael. “Carina Stone on the tragic death of her husband, the Buddhist teacher Michael Stone, the challenges he faced, and the gifts he gave.”

This is an all too common theme in yoga and dharma worlds: If you practice deeply enough, you will heal, and if you don’t heal, your practice or something in you is flawed. But meditation is not a panacea, and can even be counterproductive for people with severe challenges.

29. Giant Straw Animals Invade Japanese Fields After Rice Harvest And They Are Absolutely Badass.

30. If You Ever Feel Sad, These 10+ Highland Cattle Calves Will Make You Smile.

Something Good

1. We Are the Culture Makers Virtual Symposium.”Eleven culture-changing conversations with leaders who are rewriting the rules on what it means to be in business. This is about showing you how we can use our own lives & platforms as our individual and collective contributions towards a more inclusive and just culture.”

2. Atonement and Action from Jena Schwartz. “They came and built better lives — on land ‘soaked with the blood of Africans.’ Of slaves. Of native people obliterated to make room for our future. These are sins for which we need to be atoning through action for the rest of our lives — whether it was “our” people or not who committed these acts. As people who have benefited in this country, we are…also perpetrators of oppression.”

3. American Black Cross “is a grassroots organization of volunteers that directly engages in rescues, provides relief and actively rebuilds communities in distress.” Check out their wishlist on Amazon. In related news, 10 Ways to Show Puerto Ricans Love, and How to Help Puerto Rico: 12 Effective Ways to Donate Money, and This NFL rookie gave his first ever paycheck to team cafeteria workers affected by Hurricane Harvey, and Here’s How You Can Help These African Countries In the Wake of Recent Natural Disasters.

4. The Japanese concept of Ikigai could be the secret to a long, meaningful life. “While there is no direct English translation, ikigai is thought to combine the Japanese words ikiru, meaning ‘to live,’ and kai, meaning ‘the realization of what one hopes for.’ Together these definitions create the concept of ‘a reason to live’ or the idea of having a purpose in life.”

5. A Message To My Younger Writer Self from Chuck Wendig.

6. How to Protest Without Offending White People. In related news, This video is the best 5 minutes you will see on the NFL protests. Seriously, watch it.

7. Dear Mrs. Trump. A librarian rejects a gift of books, and explains why.

8. What the Data Really Says About Police and Racial Bias. “Eighteen academic studies, legal rulings, and media investigations shed light on the issue roiling America.”

9. America, we need to talk about this ‘police riot’ in a major U.S. city. “We have to care. If anything is fundamental to freedom in America, it is the notion that the streets — and free expression, including dissent — belong to the people, not to a militarized police force. And it’s become increasingly clear — from the asphalt of St. Louis to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue — that Americans are going to have to fight to keep it that way.”

10. 3 Reasons Why Being Anti-Racist Isn’t Code for Being Anti-White.

11. Ta-Nehisi Coates and the Making of a Public Intellectual on The New York Times. “Between the World and Me, Coates’s treatise on black male life in America, catapulted him to prominence. Coates spoke to The Times about his new book, We Were Eight Years in Power, his year in Paris and what he’s up to next.”

12. I love this so hard from The Bloggess. “A lot of high school kids do monologues or speeches or interpretive scripts based on my books but I almost never get to see the finished products. This one was online though and I just watched it and it made me (cough) furiously happy.”

13. Suicide Warning Signs Infographic.

14. ‘I started dry retching’: the harrowing world of a trauma cleaner.

15. Bad teeth, bad dogs, bad weeks. And Puerto Rico on Rita’s Notebook.

16. The 21st-Century Fantasy Trilogy That Changed the Game on The New York Times. “Last year she became the first black writer to win the Hugo Award for best novel. This year, she won it again. Now her new novel has arrived.”

17. White Haze on This American Life. I listened to this yesterday as I balanced my checkbook, felt so angry and sad and a little hopeless, and woke up in the morning to this, Las Vegas Shooting Near Mandalay Bay Casino Kills More Than 50 on The New York Times.

So, the rest of the list is cute puppies and yummy food, cause I’d rather end on that note and I can’t quite wrap my head around the rest yet.

18. Please don’t take my sunshine away. (video)

19. The mighty howl of baby beagle. (video)

20. There are two types of sunday-ers. Which one are you? (video)

21. A puppy’s life, one second every day. (video)

22. Dog interrupts orchestra and steals the show. (video)

23. Recipes I want to try: Veggie Rice 4 Ways and Blooming Quesadilla Ring.