Gratitude Friday

1. Practice. I really appreciate the capacity my practice has to calm me down, take the edge of my anxiety, give my despair and rage and sadness a soft place to land.

2. Farmer’s Market. There aren’t as many flowers and they don’t last as long, but there are hand pies and breakfast burritos and apples and fresh bread.

3. A new bed. We’ve been meaning to buy one for a while now, but just never got around to it. Last weekend, we went shopping and were determined to not come home without a new bed. It’s a memory foam mattress, which is new to us, feels a bit like sleeping on a hard marshmallow, but so far so good, (and we have four months to sleep on it and return it to trade for another one if we don’t love it).

Ringo and Sam were pretty sure we should keep the old mattress and let them use it — the biggest dog bed ever.

4. Women. My favorites are funny, smart, creative, and kind. I got to hang out with my very favorite ones this past week — eating, talking, laughing, and writing.

5. My tiny family. I know we don’t get to stay together forever, but I’m sure enjoying the time we have right now.

The sky was on fire

Bonus joy: Recipes I’d been wanting to try turning out yummy, Tums, my toaster oven (which when Eric gave it to me for Christmas seemed like a weird present, but we’ve gotten so much use out of it), cheese quesadillas, fresh farm eggs, clean water, no more yellow jackets, good TV (the latest episode of Better Things was so good), good books (I’m reading The Hate U Give), getting in the pool at the gym, cooler weather, a warm shower and a clean towel.

Something Good

1. What’s present now? from Jamie Greenwood. (video) “A quick journaling exercise to help you write your way to calm, clarity and inspired action.” She’s also running another round of her Just F*cking Journal Class, September 25th-30th, “6 days. 6 fresh prompts. 6 ways to reconnect with YOU.” It’s a great class, AND it’s FREE!

2. Speaking of journaling, 10Q starts again Wednesday, September 20th. “10Q emails you a question a day for 10 days. Afterwards, you send your answers to the secure online vault. One year later, your answers are unlocked and returned and the process begins anew.”

3. this is a love song, not an apology: in praise of quitting from Isabel Abbott. So good.

4. Do Something, “5.5 million young people making positive change, both online and off.”

5. Soul Fever, wisdom from Rachel Cole. “For most of human history, we didn’t have television or the news. Reports of what was happening around the world took time to travel. There was no 24/7 play-by-play of natural disasters or moment-to-moment death counts. We’re not designed to handle this much human suffering in real time.”

6. 7 Lessons White People Can Learn From Bodega’s Apology.

7. 10+ Rare Photos Of 9/11 You Probably Haven’t Seen Before.

8. I am white. That’s all you know about me. Am I privileged based on that alone and assuming I am, should I feel guilt and what should I do about it?

9. The Roots of White Supremacy are in Our Bodies.

10. How Knowing This One Date Will Change How You Look at Work Forever.

11. Edgar Allan Poe Was a Broke-Ass Freelancer.

12. New Hampshire Investigates Wounding of 8-Year-Old as Possible Hate Crime from The New York Times. In related news, Interview: Mother of 8-Year-Old Nearly Hanged in NH Speaks Out on Moving Forward With Her Son.

13. Amber Tamblyn Pens Open Letter to James Woods. “Only you and your darkness know who you are. Only you and your actions know what you’ve done. That means you and only you have the power to change your behavior.” In related news, Asking Questions Louis C.K. Doesn’t Want to Answer on The New York Times.

14. ‘What Were You Wearing?’ exhibit at KU takes aim at sexual assault myth.

15. This Groundbreaking Summer Camp Lets LGBT Kids Be Who They Are.

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16. Support the Arreguin Family.

17. Steve Irwin’s Son Is An Award Winning Photographer And These Photos Show Why.

18. 10 Podcasts You Should Be Listening To In The Era of 45.

19. People Getting Surprised With Puppies.

20. This restaurant owner opened his doors to anyone in need during Hurricane Irma. (video)

21. Understanding White Supremacy, and how to defeat it. (video)

22. Times My Doctor Didn’t Listen To My Pain. (video)

23. Recipes I’d like to try: Chicken & Dumplings (video) and Veggie Wedges 4 Ways.

24. The portrayal of black men on Queen Sugar is unlike anything else on television. (video)

25. Black people built this country. (video)

26. Jemele Hill is Right.

We can argue all we want about what is or isn’t appropriate for a sports talk show host to comment on or whether Hill’s Tweets were abrasive to some, but that’s a fruitless diversion; it’s just talking around what we should be talking about here. It’s disingenuous for supporters of this President to feign offense at Hill’s tone or her bluntness. If they really want to call out vile hatred, stereotyping, and bullying—they need to check his recent resume again. That white people are more incensed by her comments than by Trump’s body of work, is exactly why we have a problem here.

27. Wild Mystic Woman Podcast, Ep010: Andrea Ranae On Coaching As Activism.

28. Sam Smith – Too Good At Goodbyes, (video).

Day of Rest

This poem is on my mind, especially the opening and closing lines.

ADRIFT
by Mark Nepo

Everything is beautiful and I am so sad.
This is how the heart makes a duet of
wonder and grief. The light spraying
through the lace of the fern is as delicate
as the fibers of memory forming their web
around the knot in my throat. The breeze
makes the birds move from branch to branch
as this ache makes me look for those I’ve lost
in the next room, in the next song, in the laugh
of the next stranger. In the very center, under
it all, what we have that no one can take
away and all that we’ve lost face each other.
It is there that I’m adrift, feeling punctured
by a holiness that exists inside everything.
I am so sad and everything is beautiful.

Gratitude Friday

1. Farmer’s market. This was the haul from last week. It just makes me really happy to buy directly from who made or grew it. I also love the ritual of going downtown early in the morning at the beginning of the weekend and walking around.

2. Getting help with a nasty nest of yellow jackets. I find no joy in killing anything, and yet, once these mean little dudes (did you know they have TEETH, and they can chew through concrete?!) got inside our house (the crawlspace), it became them or us. I was really happy to find someone who not only could take care of it, but was a decent human being and made me feel better about the whole thing.

3. Practice. When it’s hard to breathe because I’m so anxious and heartbroken, this is always a soft place to land.

4. Morning walks. I love where I live so much — the access to green space and trails, the sky and the water.

5. My tiny family. It can be hard to manage everyone’s health and happiness (including my own), but the pay off is so worth it. And p.s. Eric takes such good care of all of us.

Bonus joy: Wild Writing, water aerobics, my not new anymore but still feels new to me car, a warm shower and a clean towel, a cold glass of clean water, watermelon, fresh corn, strawberries, remembering who I am, good TV (I’m watching The Sinner and it is the guiltiest pleasure, also One Mississippi and Better Things are back), good books (I’m finishing up Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates), clean sheets, cooler weather.

 

Something Good

Image by Eric (and Prisma) from our morning walk

1. The Hurricane Harvey Edition: Make Light, Episode 06.

2. The Hummingbird Whisperer: A UCLA Researcher Cultivates a Community of 200 Hummingbirds Outside Her Window.

3. A Pop Quiz for White Women Who Think Black Women Should Be Nicer to Them in Conversations about Race. In related news, 10 things every white teacher should know when talking about race, and White People — We Can’t Dismantle Trump And Racism Without You, and The Subtle Linguistics of Polite White Supremacy, and The First White President, (this is long, but so worth the read or listen).

4. Corona del Mar teen selected as one of the nation’s top 5 young poets.

5. We need to put an end to fatphobia in woke spaces from Melissa Toler.

6. Flying Spatulas and Holy Donuts from Jena Schwartz, because this:

And such is the reality of our world. All of the simultaneity — the very thing I felt like “my” movie was about when I was young, rushing up like high tide. Life is a crushing collision of epic normalcy and nuance and tragedy and love stories and teenagers and crickets and donuts and heroes. We are all bad guys and good guys at one time or another, and if we dare to be creative, maybe, just maybe, what we find interesting and worthy of our attention will catch the light for someone else, too. Will alter their way of seeing or being. The thing is, we often never know — and must keep going (living, creating, loving, writing, being, working, learning, giving) on faith.

7. Photographer Finds Locations Of 1960s Postcards To See How They Look Today, And The Difference Is Unbelievable.

8. Woman Witnessed Teen Tossing Firecrackers Into Gorge: “There Was a Whole Group of Kids Who Found It Funny To Do This.”

9. Surreal Book and Lamp Installations by Rune Guneriussen Illuminate Norway’s Forests.

10. House flippers triggered the US housing market crash, not poor subprime borrowers.

11. Stuff That Scares Black People, Ranked.

12. LANGHORNE SLIM – “Never Break”, a song he wrote the day after the election.

13. What It’s Like to Be Trapped by a Category 5 Hurricane on The New York Times.

14. Why forests and rivers are the most potent health tonic around.

15. Truth in Jest? “Louis C.K. would rather ignore those assault rumours, but at this point, he can’t just let his art do the talking.”

16. Tara Hardy – “Is Rejoice”, filmed at the LGBTQ Open Mic at the 2017 National Poetry Slam in Denver CO. (video)

17. Depression is a physical illness which could be treated with anti-inflammatory drugs, scientists suggest.

18. Just a bat, eating a banana. (video)

19. Remembering Khadija Saye. The artist who tragically died in Grenfell Tower. (video)

20. Mars Candy Spends $1Billion on Climate Change. (video)

21. Recipes I want to try: Crispy Roasted Parmesan Potatoes and Thai Drunken Zucchini Noodles with Spicy Honey Chicken.

22. Art project for train passengers. (video) “The art project ‘Bewegtes Land’ transformed Germany’s Saale valley into a 30 kilometer long stage, entertaining passengers in passing trains. Some 500 residents and volunteers took part along the Jena-Naumburg route.”

23. 8 Podcasts Hosted by WOC to Make Your Commute Breeze By.

24. A Poem so that the Weight of this Country does not Crush You by Yosimar Reyes.

25. Black Lives Matter Just Won Sydney Peace Prize. It’s Time To Stop Calling It A Hate Group.

26. That Moment You Realize You’re Gay. This story is so beautiful.

27. Wisdom from Seth Godin: Common traps, worth avoiding and Toward cooperation.

28. Remember, from Patti Digh, on the anniversary of 9/11.

29. An Inconvenient Sequel: Truth To Power (2017) – Official Trailer. So timely.

30. Google’s most-searched “how-to” questions capture all the magic and struggle of being human.

Gratitude Friday

1. Morning walks with the dogs. It is officially fall here, with the darker, cooler mornings, and the green things starting to turn color. There was a bit of extra excitement this week because there was a young bear roaming our neighborhood — which isn’t unusual for where we live, especially this time of year. We had to be extra careful for a few days though.

2. The last surge of the garden. We are getting a few more strawberries and rose blooms.

3. Farmer’s Market flowers in the bathroom. I can feel the turn of seasons here too, as there are different varieties in the mix, and bouquets that lasted almost two weeks at the beginning of summer barely last until Thursday now.

4. Summer food. The peaches are done, but there are apples now. The corn is on its way out, but the watermelon is still good. And we still technically have bbq almost every night because if Eric can cook it on the grill, he will.

5. My tiny family. We are healthy, relatively sane, safe, and together.

Bonus joy: aqua aerobics, being in the swimming pool, technology that allows me to stay connected to people, good TV (just finished The Defiant Ones), good books (just finished I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings this morning), my not new anymore but newer car, my not new anymore but newer bathroom, finding a good company to put in a new fence for us, being able to help, wise and compassionate humans who haven’t given up, good lotion, a warm shower, a clean towel.

Something Good

From our walk yesterday morning along the Cache la Poudre River. Fall is here.

1. This wisdom from Andrew Boyd, from his book Daily Afflictions: The Agony of Being Connected to Everything in the The Universe,

Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destinies of others. You must either learn to carry the Universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.

4. People in Texas impacted by the flooding still need help. Here are some ideas: Charity Navigator, How to Donate Money and Other Aid to Communities of Color in Houston, Where to Donate to Harvey Victims (and How to Avoid Scams), #SupportBlackWomenHOU and #SupportBlackWomenHOU Hair Care List. Also, there are some local animal rescue organizations doing good work. They have Amazon wishlists filled with affordable supplies they desperately need, or you can just make a donation to their orgs: Austin Pets Alive!, SPCA of Texas, and Dallas DogRRR. In related news, People are urging donations for Harvey relief efforts — just not to the Red Cross and Making Sure Your Houston Relief Money Is Going to the Black Folks Who Need It Most Isn’t Easy. Also, The death toll in Sierra Leone continues to rise after mudslides and torrential flooding. (Video) Charity Navigator has also provided a list of where to give for Sierra Leone. This also happened: Texas ‘Dreamer’ from Mexico killed volunteering during Harvey floods.

3. What to Do About Charlottesville, another great list of ways to help.

3. Recipes I want to try: Crispy Barbecue Potato Wedges, and corn, cheddar and scallion strata, and Summer Jams 4 Ways, and 8 wow-worthy pie hacks, and Pistachio Raspberry Energy Bars, and 6 Late-Night Snack Recipes, and Chocolate Covered Peanut Butter Crunch Balls.

4. Truthbomb from Danielle LaPorte: “Your fulfillment depends on your clarity.”

5. How You Can Responsibly Take Accountability When You Cause Harm To Another Person on Everyday Feminist.

6. For White People Who Compare Black Lives Matter to White Supremacy. In related news, L’Oréal firing Munroe Bergdorf isn’t championing diversity, it’s centring white fragility and Conversations on Racism With White People Getting Stuck or Looping? Thirteen Questions To Get It Moving Again.

7. A Letter to INFJs About Dealing With the Pain of Disappointment. In related news, 25 Illustrations That Perfectly Capture the Joy of Living Alone as an Introvert.

8. Nappy, “Beautiful, high-res photos of black and brown people. For free.” In related news,

TONL seeks to transform the idea of stock photography by displaying images of diverse people and their stories around the world. Our voices and visibility matter. Photography and storytelling can help humanize and hopefully diminish the stereotypes and prejudice against black and brown people, especially. We wanted to challenge the stale, homogenous look of traditional stock photography by showcasing the many ethnic backgrounds of every day people.

9. A Janitor Preserves the Seized Belongings of Migrants.

10. “Nothing matters more than results” from Seth Godin.

11. This urban farm has sprouted up in crowded NYC. (video)

12. Meet Ludwick Marishane, the South African innovator who created the waterless bath gel. (video)

13. My sister’s cancer might have been diagnosed sooner — if doctors could have seen beyond her weight. Every woman I know has a story about a doctor not taking her seriously, simply because she’s a woman, or because she’s a woman and fat, or because she’s a woman and old, or because she’s a woman and young, etc.

14. A Much-Needed Primer on Cultural Appropriation. It’s a confusing issue, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to understand.

15. “If the shoe fits” – A game for everyone bored while shopping. This made me giggle.

16. Stores Full Of Furniture, ‘Mattress Mack’ Opens His Doors To Flood Victims. In related news, Watch This Spontaneous Gospel Performance Lift Spirits At A Texas Shelter. (video)

17. A sweet baby chimp daydreaming about some sweet bananas. (video)

18. Karl Ove Knausgaard: what makes life worth living? “Apples, plastic bags, teeth – the bestselling Norwegian author brings his forensic attention to everyday objects to explain the world in a letter to his unborn baby.”

19. Over 600,000 Trees Are Planted in Response to President Trump’s Climate Change Views.

20. Free Hugs Project helping in Houston. (video) I’m not crying, you’re crying… “The Free Hugs Project is an initiative that spreads love, inspires change and raises awareness of social issues.”