Gratitude

1. Morning walks. Since Eric is on summer break, we’ve been doing these together, all three of us, which has been really nice. One of my favorite things is that he always spots things I wouldn’t see if I were walking on my own — like the deer lying in the grass this morning or the mama duck and her four babies swimming in McMurry Pond the other day. We’ll be leaving next week for Oregon, and we’ve been talking about all the good places we’ve found along our route over the years to walk dogs. We make the same comment about them all the time as we walk them, “if we lived here, we’d walk here all the time.” This morning, as we were walking around the ponds just north of our house where we’ve lived for 25 years now, Eric joked, “if we lived here, we’d walk here all the time.”

2. Peony season! This is one of my favorite times of year. My first peony bud opened on Sunday, which just so happened to be my dear friend Chelsey’s birthday, and they’ve been slowly popping ever since. So many blooms! I want to add one of the coral varieties and something yellow and a Claire de Lune to my garden. Did you know peonies can live for over 100 years? One of my favorite Mary Oliver poems is Peonies.

3. Practice. Yoga with Red Sage and writing with my Friday morning sangha — oh how I will miss them when I’m away! I might try to show up on some Friday morning to write, but I never know what the internet connection is going to be like on the coast. I’m looking forward to mediating when we get there, with the view out the back window to rest my eyes on.

4. Ringo’s care team. He seems to be on track to heal up the “booboo” on his elbow. We got him some sleeves to help protect it as it heals and even though he doesn’t really like them he is SO cute in them. And yet, he does wear them, and that’s another thing to be grateful for, how good Ringo is about getting shots and taking pills and getting acupuncture, etc. I tried while we were waiting to build a pair of elbow protector pads myself using some fabric tape, a toddler sock, some cotton batting, and his harness, but it was a failure, kept slipping down. Even though I’d prefer it if he had not a single thing wrong right now (or ever), I am so grateful to all the people who support us in keeping his belly and joints happy, and his elbows protected.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I’m looking forward to our time away at the beach, but I’m just as happy here — anywhere with them.

Bonus joy: getting in the pool, getting to visit with Sally and Janice while we hop around during aqua aerobics class, sitting in the sauna, the hydromassage bed, good books, good TV and films (sometimes even the ones that aren’t very good, because for example sometimes you need a cheesy romcom with a totally impossible happy ending), listening to music while I drive around with the windows rolled down, texting with Chloe’ and Chris, listening to podcasts, starting a new podcast or TV series I know is going to be good, practicing with Sarah Blondin, potato chips, ice cream, onion poppy seed buns, stretching, my white Siberian irises getting ready to bloom, strawberries, using my dad’s beer steins for flower vases, potting two new spider babies from plants that originally came from Eric’s mom, a big glass of cold clean water, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep, these sweet pictures of my dad who has been gone for 2.5 years.

P.S. Kind and gentle reader, my blog is going on vacation just like me, and that means most likely there won’t be a new Gratitude post until the first part of July. In the meantime, may you be safe, happy, healthy, and at ease. 💛

Something Good

Image by Eric

1. Poetry: The Long Run by Linda Gregerson and At the Entrance of a Love Poem, I Hesitate by Maya C. Popa on The Slowdown with Maggie Smith, A Witnessing by Ted Kooser on Rattle, After Watching the Difficult Film and When Feeling Stuck by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, What time is it? (it’s pantoum time) from Pádraig Ó Tuama on Poetry Unbound, The Paradox by Sarah Kay, A Way of Staying Soft by Sam Aureli on Heart Poems, Listen by Barbara Crooker shared by Patti Digh, I Don’t Know Much, But by Julie Barton, Two Poems by Laura Grace Weldon, and Empathy by James Crews.

2. Good stuff from Maria Popova on The Marginalian: The Enemy Outside and the Enemy Within: Audre Lorde’s Antidote to Despair and How Not to Dwell on the Past.

3. Against Indifference by Frederick Joseph. “On mutual aid, exhaustion, and fighting to keep one another here.”

4. Saying goodbye is a lifelong practice by Patti Digh. “The dead leave us with an impossible assignment: to remain here without them. And slowly, awkwardly, painfully, and sometimes angrily, we learn to do it. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But by continuing. By loving other people well. By remembering. By saying their names aloud. By telling stories. By allowing ourselves to be changed.”

5. ‘I laughed out loud dozens of times’: authors choose books to make you fall back in love with reading. “From a darkly comic new novel to a gripping 1950s memoir – Katherine Rundell, Malala Yousafzai, Matt Haig and others appearing at Hay festival pick titles to tempt you”. In related news, The New York Times’s Summer Reading Bucket List. (gift link) “Read along with the Book Review this summer: Can you check off five items before fall arrives?”

6. ‘I thought I was the saviour of the planet’: how Game of Thrones’ Hannah Murray found a wellness cult – and lost her mind on The Guardian. “She landed a role in hit TV show Skins at 17 and went on to star in the fantasy epic. Then she was drawn towards a mysterious spiritual community. How did she end up being sectioned?”

7. Endangered Butterflies Are Thriving Behind Bars. “In the tender, methodical work of rescuing an imperiled butterfly species, incarcerated women are finding a sense of purpose.”

8. The radical act of slowing down. “A meditation on how our obsession with speed and productivity undermines our health, relationships, and chances for lasting success.”

9. How To Balance Being Online With Mindfully Logging Off.

10. Can’t Stick To Journaling? Try These 4 Simple Hacks.

11. Feeling Down? 12 Science-Backed Ways to Get Out of A Funk in Just One Day.

12. Chance of rain by Jasmine on The Tiny Joy Project. “What happens when you stop predicting every storm.” *sigh*

13. How to Survive a People-Centric Job as an Introvert.

14. More of the same: how creative rituals can help you break free from the idea echo chamber. “Why inspiration feels harder to come by and how three types of creative ritual could be our strongest defence against the slow erosion of taste, attention, and intention.”

15. Things I’m still learning about writing on The Imperfectionist.

16. What It Means To Love Someone by Sara Kuburic. “Six quiet truths about the hardest, most human thing we do.”

17. Emerging Form Episode 165: Ramona Ausubel Will Get You Unstuck. “Drawing from her newest book, Unstuck:101 Doorways leading from the Blank Page to the Last Page, Ramona shares with us why certain strategies work only at certain stages of creative projects. We talk about finding patterns, ways to develop characters and create scenes, different ways to approach different drafts, the half-draft approach, finding opposition and so much more.”

18. The real AI by Seth Godin.

19. 8 Kind and Regret-Free Ways to Declutter Things by Tammy Strobel on Be More With Less.

20. The last Pap smear by Rita Ott Ramstad on Rootsie. “There’s a last time for everything. Whoa.”

21. what lurks at the bottom of boxes and bags by Elissa Altman on Poor Man’s Feast. “Piecing together our truth from ancient papers and photos.”