Something Good

1. Poetry: Terra Vita by Lisa Hiton and Dispatch as Prologue or Epilogue by Megan Gannon on The Slowdown with Maggie Smith, The Quiet Shift by Anita Nahal and Forever Plastics by Ronald Carson and Aubade on Piazza del Popolo with Saxophonist and Chopin by Ashna Ali on poets.org, Telling the Bees and Seat 24C and Stalled by Julie Barton, Not That I Like It, But I Tell Myself and Still and Listening to Glen Velez in a Garden in Ohio and Sitting Beside the Cellist During Sound Check and Things I Learned from My Mother and A Small Lesson in Infinity by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, [empty ballfield] and Other Haiku by Greg Schwartz and Spin by C. Wade Bentley and Flower in a Field by Dario Cvencek on Rattle, The Time underneath Time: and what gives life by Pádraig Ó Tuama on Poetry Unbound, Open Anyway and More in Time by James Crews, Imperfection by Elizabeth Carlson on Heart Poems, and a few poems from Hannah Ro’s collection Same “to celebrate the women that mother us and the ones who mother with us.”

2. Good stuff from Elissa Altman on Poor Man’s Feast: on a love heavier than iron (“It’s Mother’s Day, and that’s all I have to say”) and a midweek roundup (“(Get Outside Already)”) and From the archives: Committing to the asparagus (“On Sustenance and Being Right Where You Are”).

3. On Bears: And invasive species by Jami Attenberg on Craft Talk.

4. The Gaslighting of the Majority (And the Truth About MAGA’s Death Spiral) on The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz.

5. An action both slightly incriminating and entirely fitting. “There is a kind of intimacy that only time can create” by Patti Digh.

6. Toast Slices Undergo Edible Makeovers into Rock Gardens, Pantone Swatches, and Flower Beds on This is Colossal.

7. Is There Any Love in Fascism? “1984 is now” by Satya Robyn.

8. Grab Some Seeds. Throw Them at the Soil. You’re a Gardener Now. on The New York Times. (gift link) “Welcome to chaos gardening, a laid-back way to turn a patch of ground into a riot of color.”

9. Was It Worth It? “I didn’t think about those nachos even once. I had never experienced anything like it. Is this, I asked my friends, how it feels to be normal?”

10. Opposable Thumbs by Alan Michael Parker. “On Cartoons, Colors, Ferris Wheels, Father’s Day, Prince, Coming Out, the Internet, and Me.”

11. The Guadalupe Swept Us Away. This Is the Story of All That Came After. “In the days after last July’s historic disaster, I wrote about the tragedy that befell my family. But crawling out of the river was only the beginning.”

12. When My Father’s Canary Flew Away on The New York Times. (gift link) “In the final stages of his dementia, a long-lost memory from childhood returned, perfectly formed. What was going on in his brain?”

13. I Want to Live Like Costco People. “No matter who we are or where we’re from, at Costco, we’re more alike than we are different. There’s no such thing as the real America, but if there were, you’d find it here. And you’ll find me here, too, for I have become the Costco person I was always destined to be, preordained by geography and epigenetics, nature and nurture. Yes, I’d like a box to take my groceries to the car. I’m pretty sure all this stuff will fit.”

14. Merriam-Webster Slang Dictionary. “Slang & Trending: Words We’re Watching.”

15. Why You Should Read ‘Yesteryear’ Now on The New York Times. (gift link) “Caro Claire Burke critiques America and asks who, and what, is redeemable?”

16. Retirees Expect Their Home to Be a Financial Safety Net. They Shouldn’t. on The New York Times. (gift link) “Older homeowners often can’t afford to maintain their houses or don’t understand the value in updating them. And that can mean thousands lost when they sell.”

17. ‘Almost life-saving’, Moby on the healing power of sound. “In the optimistic 1990s, electronic pioneer Moby made music that became the soundtrack to a generation’s youth. Three decades on, in a more anxious and unsettled age, his latest album explains how sound brings him calm after a lifelong battle with anxiety.”

18. Feeling anxious? Then try going for a walk in the woods. “Walking around woodland trails cuts anxiety, reduces rumination and boost social connection, new research shows.” Maybe it’s just me, but this seems like doing research to discover that water is wet.

19. Object-ives #34: My Mother’s Photographs on Open Secrets Magazine. “Why I’ve held on to photos of a woman who was cruel to me as a child.”

20. Birds, Buds, Blossoms, Beauty!, “poems and prompts to celebrate the spirit of May” from Alix on Earth & Verse.

21. Near Philadelphia’s New Green Spaces, a Dramatic Reduction in Crime. “With thousands of vacant lots now beautified, the city is showing that targeting places instead of people can work wonders.”

22. Behind every door. “Every person you pass is carrying a reality you cannot see” by Jasmine on The Tiny Joy Project.

23. Why So Sensitive? “Prima donnas, drama queens, delicate souls, and other artists” by Danny Gregory.

24. The Woman Who Got Out. “Trading a too-squared life for a little bit of grit” by Amanda Sandlin.

25. All the right moves! 17 personal trainers on the exercise they always recommend – from planks to face pulls on The Guardian. “Whether you are starting from scratch, or have a well-honed routine, moving can help us feel happier and healthier. Experts share their one essential exercise and how to get the most out of it.”

26. After Seeing “Holding Liat”: Love and grief all over again by Jena Schwartz.

27. Climbing Higher by Lina Lau on Short Reads. “Learning to trust.”

28. I’m 38 and I love my parents and I also resent them. “I’ve spent most of my adult life trying to decide which feeling is the real one — and last month I finally accepted that they’re both real, they’ve always both been real, and the exhausting part of being their son is only performing the half they can handle.”

29. 2026 Pulitzer Prize Winners, list with links.

30. 5 Tips for Mindful Journaling on Lion’s Roar. “James C. Hopkins on how—through writing—you can find the flow of awareness, free of judgment.”

Gratitude

Moonrise over Horsetooth Rock

1. Morning walks. This week we had three different seasons of weather: warm & dry, cooler & rainy with sun breaking through, and big wet snow.

2. Happy Mother’s Day, Mom! She seems to be settling in okay at her new place, is happy watching her movies and having visitors and the view out her window, although there’s a rumor that she thinks the food is “terrible.” It’s hard to know how seriously to take that, considering the last few times I cooked for her when she was still at home, she didn’t like what I made even though they were things she’d liked in the past, and even if you ask her exactly what she wants to eat, it’s sometimes hard for her to tell you or even know. It wouldn’t surprise me if both the cooking and the care weren’t up to Tokarski Home standards, but they are a model that make it hard for most places to compare, to come even close. And if it turns out she’s not happy there, we have other options. I’ll have a better sense when I can see for myself next month and when she’s been there a bit longer.

Chris has been busy working on getting her house ready to sell — plumbing projects, painting inside and out, replacing hardware, choosing new flooring, and keeping the lawn watered and mowed. It’s looking really good, and I’ll be glad when we can stage and list it so he can be done with all the extra work and responsibility.

3. Practice. I told my yoga students this week that sometimes when we feel the most ick, the least likely to want to do yoga, that’s usually when we really need it, and after practicing for close to 20 years, I’ve learned that on the days I “just don’t wanna,” if I do, I always feel better for it. Writing with my Friday morning sangha was magic, medicine. And I’ve been doing a short course with Sarah Blondin on my Insight Meditation app called “This Deepest Self” (she offers it on her website too) as part of my practice and it’s been really good.

4. Ringo’s care team. I’m so grateful for the loving, wise care they offer my aging dog, and just as thankful to the support and compassion they offer me, his prone to health anxiety human.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I’m continuing to replace furniture, clean and organize and purge. There’s also similar effort to be made in the garden before we go. Eric is almost on summer break and we both are looking forward to our time together next month at the coast and after when we get back home.

Bonus joy: a massage, a haircut, pizza for dinner, book club, getting in the pool and the sauna, clean sheets, sitting in the backyard with Ringo and Eric, planning to get more plants when we get back from Oregon and having a new space for them with good light (the new bookshelf pictured above), texting with Chris and Chloe’, writing in the morning with a hot cup of coffee and warm mug of green tea, good books, good TV and movies, listening to podcasts, Noah Kahan’s new album, wool Haflinger slippers, down blankets and pillows, a warm shower, how fast Ringo settled into acupuncture with Bronwen, how many buds there are on my peonies and how fast they bounced back after getting buried in the snow, our neighbors moving so we won’t have to look at their MAGA flags anymore, Mary’s Mountain Cookies, seeing my primary care practitioner, my A1C and blood pressure and cholesterol numbers all continuing to improve, finding the right sized box for something I need to mail, good boxes, oranges, limes, potatoes, clean water, the extra moisture in the weather, sunshine, Sunday morning Pilates, sleeping in, our new futon mattress (not sure when it stops being “new”), naps, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.