Something Good

Image by Eric

1. Poetry: The Long Run by Linda Gregerson and At the Entrance of a Love Poem, I Hesitate by Maya C. Popa on The Slowdown with Maggie Smith, A Witnessing by Ted Kooser on Rattle, After Watching the Difficult Film and When Feeling Stuck by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, What time is it? (it’s pantoum time) from Pádraig Ó Tuama on Poetry Unbound, The Paradox by Sarah Kay, A Way of Staying Soft by Sam Aureli on Heart Poems, Listen by Barbara Crooker shared by Patti Digh, I Don’t Know Much, But by Julie Barton, Two Poems by Laura Grace Weldon, and Empathy by James Crews.

2. Good stuff from Maria Popova on The Marginalian: The Enemy Outside and the Enemy Within: Audre Lorde’s Antidote to Despair and How Not to Dwell on the Past.

3. Against Indifference by Frederick Joseph. “On mutual aid, exhaustion, and fighting to keep one another here.”

4. Saying goodbye is a lifelong practice by Patti Digh. “The dead leave us with an impossible assignment: to remain here without them. And slowly, awkwardly, painfully, and sometimes angrily, we learn to do it. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But by continuing. By loving other people well. By remembering. By saying their names aloud. By telling stories. By allowing ourselves to be changed.”

5. ‘I laughed out loud dozens of times’: authors choose books to make you fall back in love with reading. “From a darkly comic new novel to a gripping 1950s memoir – Katherine Rundell, Malala Yousafzai, Matt Haig and others appearing at Hay festival pick titles to tempt you”. In related news, The New York Times’s Summer Reading Bucket List. (gift link) “Read along with the Book Review this summer: Can you check off five items before fall arrives?”

6. ‘I thought I was the saviour of the planet’: how Game of Thrones’ Hannah Murray found a wellness cult – and lost her mind on The Guardian. “She landed a role in hit TV show Skins at 17 and went on to star in the fantasy epic. Then she was drawn towards a mysterious spiritual community. How did she end up being sectioned?”

7. Endangered Butterflies Are Thriving Behind Bars. “In the tender, methodical work of rescuing an imperiled butterfly species, incarcerated women are finding a sense of purpose.”

8. The radical act of slowing down. “A meditation on how our obsession with speed and productivity undermines our health, relationships, and chances for lasting success.”

9. How To Balance Being Online With Mindfully Logging Off.

10. Can’t Stick To Journaling? Try These 4 Simple Hacks.

11. Feeling Down? 12 Science-Backed Ways to Get Out of A Funk in Just One Day.

12. Chance of rain by Jasmine on The Tiny Joy Project. “What happens when you stop predicting every storm.” *sigh*

13. How to Survive a People-Centric Job as an Introvert.

14. More of the same: how creative rituals can help you break free from the idea echo chamber. “Why inspiration feels harder to come by and how three types of creative ritual could be our strongest defence against the slow erosion of taste, attention, and intention.”

15. Things I’m still learning about writing on The Imperfectionist.

16. What It Means To Love Someone by Sara Kuburic. “Six quiet truths about the hardest, most human thing we do.”

17. Emerging Form Episode 165: Ramona Ausubel Will Get You Unstuck. “Drawing from her newest book, Unstuck:101 Doorways leading from the Blank Page to the Last Page, Ramona shares with us why certain strategies work only at certain stages of creative projects. We talk about finding patterns, ways to develop characters and create scenes, different ways to approach different drafts, the half-draft approach, finding opposition and so much more.”

18. The real AI by Seth Godin.

19. 8 Kind and Regret-Free Ways to Declutter Things by Tammy Strobel on Be More With Less.

20. The last Pap smear by Rita Ott Ramstad on Rootsie. “There’s a last time for everything. Whoa.”

21. what lurks at the bottom of boxes and bags by Elissa Altman on Poor Man’s Feast. “Piecing together our truth from ancient papers and photos.”

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. Since Eric is on summer break now, he gets to come with us, which also means I don’t take as many pictures. We’ve seen baby ducks and geese but no deer yet, and even though we haven’t seen them we are happy to know there are some fox kits this season. For how dry and warm our winter was, this late spring has been normal-ish with rain turning everything green and filling the river back up.

2. Ringo’s care team. This week I was especially grateful for Dr. Foster, who was so kind to me and so helpful as I worried about the callus on Ringo’s elbow that got irritated this week. She suspects that because he has more arthritis in his right elbow that when he lies on the cool hard surfaces he loves so much, he shifts his weight to his left elbow and that’s how he rubbed all the hair off and developed a callus. I was also grateful to her because after we’d been messing with his elbow all morning trying to figure out a homemade way to protect it (we’ve since ordered something made for exactly that), he was extra spicy with her during his acupuncture session and she loved on him anyway, didn’t take it personally.

3. Working in the garden. The columbine I thought was lost but found and uncovered has a tiny bloom on it. I especially enjoy the company of the bees and the ladybugs. I’m surprised how satisfying weeding can be, knowing as I do the impermanence of the impact, aware as I am that those weeds will keep coming back and sometime later in the season, maybe many times, I’ll have to do it all over again. I have tons of peony buds again, although my two biggest producers spent a few weeks tipped over after the snow and by the time I got them pulled back up and caged, their stems had bent like crazy straws. Here’s what I have to look forward to:

4. Getting in the pool. I am loving being back after the long closure to replace the tile, being able to spend more time there.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. This is that weird moment in time where there are still a few weeks before we leave for Oregon but most of our attention is already turned towards that trip so I get so easily distracted about everything, like I’ve got too many plates spinning. Yesterday, I was boiling some carrots for Ringo and totally forgot about them, went out to weed in the front so didn’t hear the timer I’d set, and luckily it was already pretty warm out and I didn’t stay long enough to burn the house down. I’m also feeling so sad because even though I’ve been there since, with this trip it is going to seem real that our parents’ homes are no longer there for us to return to, to be welcomed and comfortable, to stay for a bit. *sigh* And yet, I’m so grateful for the home I have here, with Ringo and Eric, and that after we visit Oregon, we get to come back here.

Bonus joy: my annual haircut, the rain helping keep the ground softer so weeding is easier, how well toddler socks work for dogs too, writing with my Friday morning sangha, practicing with Sarah Blondin, watching good TV and films, listening to podcasts, naps, gummy supplements, how I weaned myself off social media to the point that whenever I go back on I don’t stay long, poetry, sharing poetry, when Sandy and Janice come to aqua aerobics, sitting in the sauna with Eric, air fryer french fries with homemade fry sauce, baked ziti with broccoli, onion poppy seed buns, ice cream, sitting in the backyard with Eric and Ringo, book club, ordering off Amazon (yes, I know Jeff Bezos is the devil and the whole thing hurts a lot of people and is wrong in so many ways, AND I can’t tell you how much my little black introverted heart loves to be able to get online, do a search, shop around, order what I want, and have it show up on my front porch the next day), a warm shower after honest work, a big glass of cold clean water, crying, how well my repotted Christmas cactuses are doing, being able to let go, canceled plans, sleeping in (which for me apparently means 6 am, so not that big of a deal), reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.