Something Good

Image by Eric

1. Poetry: Summer Grass by Carl Sandburg, What the Desk Might Have Said Back and The Fall and Real Love and One in the Garden by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, Da Mystery of Supercooled Liquids by JeFF Stumpo, After the Mourning by Julie Barton, On My Mother’s Birthday and Something More Beautiful by James Crews, Don’t Hesitate by Mary Oliver shared by Patti Digh, Field Trip by W. Travis Helms, and Why I Wake Early by Mary Oliver on Heart Poems.

2. Andrea’s Final Wish by Megan Falley.

3. The real reason many Americans are cutting ties with their parents and siblings. In related news, A New Explanation for Family Estrangement.

4. Hanging out with friends is good for your mental health. This study calculated the ‘perfect hang’ down to the minute.

5. Fat people cannot win, regardless of what we do. And I’ve had enough on The Guardian. “Using weight loss drugs like Ozempic is not ‘cheating’ – and why does it matter how a person changes their body anyway?”

6. Pep Talk: You get your own best time by Maggie Smith. I agree with Maggie, but not entirely with this: “If I have ten minutes to scroll Instagram, or fifteen minutes in a waiting room, or a half hour on the sidelines of a soccer field during my son’s warm-ups before the game, I have time to start something.” The reality is the ten minutes you have to scroll, etc. aren’t the always the same ten minutes you have to write about the color red, or the neighbor’s cat, or your first kiss. They simply just may not be the same ten minutes, so give yourself a break.

7. The Resilience of Uncertainty: How to Hold the Universe in You by Maria Popova on The Marginalian.

8. Cursive is making a comeback. But does it deserve one? When I first heard they’d stopped teaching this in schools, I thought it was a joke.

9. You can’t argue your way out of a limiting belief. “You don’t talk yourself out of it. You out-evidence it.”

10. Five nature prompts for a slow week, “activities to reconnect with the natural world wherever you live.”

11. ‘It exists only for pleasure’: does ice-cream have a future in the age of wellness fads and weight-loss drugs? on The Guardian. “As fitness-conscious consumers turn away from processed foods, the industry is scrambling for new ideas, including nutrient-rich lollies and protein-packed tubs. Will they take the fun out of this summer treat?”

12. Radical Self-Care in a National Nightmare on The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz. Also from John, Most People Still Supporting Trump Aren’t Stupid. They Know Exactly What He Is.

13. It’s the Tiny Things – The First Day of School Sign. “Nostalgia and regret can be haunting.”

14. The Books of My Life by Patti Digh.

15. On How to Know When You’re Done from Jami Attenberg on Craft Talk. Also from Jamie, I’d Rather Write This Than Go on Goodreads, “Tracking all the books I’ve read lately.”

16. Not Today by Elizabeth Kleinfeld. “On Buddhism, disability, and choosing rest without calling it defeat.”

17. 5 Relatable Things Keeping Your Home Cluttered from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less.

18. Buddhist Practices to Prepare You for Death on Lion’s Roar. “Death is a journey into the unknown. Like any journey, it goes better if you’re prepared. Andrew Holecek shares teachings from Tibetan Buddhism to help.”

19. What Happened To The Analog Life Project? “On creative pressure, unrealistic expectations, and learning to let a good idea unfold at a human pace.”

20. The story of Witch Island would make a really good novel.

21. It’s Not the Event. It’s the Meaning You Give It. “On how perspective changes everything, and how to find it when you’re spiraling” on Notes From My Phone.

22. Art Can Be A Good Companion. “A comic about doing what makes you come alive” from Connie Sun.

23. Goldenrod on Short Reads by by Emily Hall. “In search of color.”

P.S. Kind and gentle reader: My computer is being dumb, so I had to put this list together on my cranky, slow, awkward, old laptop that I only use for Zoom, and it was no fun. It would have been easier if I’d written you a list by hand!

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Gratitude

1. Morning walks. We saw an owl one morning, or rather heard it before we saw it. Because it was squawking rather that hooting, I though at first it was a hawk. We were searching the massive cottonwood where the sound was coming from and finally saw it way up at the top. Eric started to “hoo, hoo, hoo” at it and it barked back a few times. I joined in, and then Ringo made a sound somewhere between a howl and a soft yip, trying to mimic us. It was SO cute, especially considering usually when he sees an owl, he gets mad and barks at it.

2. Practice. Yoga at Red Sage that included one of the staff’s dogs, the sweet Mabel, who reminded me so much of Sam only smaller. Yoga where I wasn’t the teacher, a class at the gym that got taken over by a person who I get massages from sometimes and turns out is also a really good yoga teacher. I missed practicing in person in a class where someone else tells me what to do next. Writing with my Friday morning sangha, almost the whole group this week — people get busy over the summer so it can be hard to have a full set. It also worked out that Chloe’ could “stay after class” and we got to hang out for a bit after.

3. Cooking with Eric. I especially like it when there isn’t really a plan but rather some protein that needs cooked and a few veggies and such that need to get eaten, and we just come up with something. It usually ends up being so yummy.

4. Bears, oh my! There have been a record number of bears in town this year. I LOVE seeing them AND it’s sad because it’s due to the drought, the dry winter and hot summer combining and creating conditions where the bears have to roam further to find enough food. A friend down the road posted pictures of one in his front yard, playing in his sprinkler. There was even one on campus at Colorado State University on move in day. The spot where it was found is right outside the building where I worked for 20 years. Some of those students had just moved to Colorado and a bear on campus was not what they were expecting. Turns out it was a baby that had gotten separated from its mama so it wasn’t much of a threat, but they darted and moved it to keep it safe and to keep mama from coming to look for it.

Across the main road from our house

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. Ringo and I are still adjusting to Eric being gone so much more now that he’s back at work fulltime. I sent Eric pictures around midday during one of his longer days, said, “Ringo and I are napping. How’s work?” and he just so happened to see it when he and his colleague where talking about how busy they were going to be this semester and that they didn’t know how most people worked all day long five days a week, so they got a good laugh from my message. I am making sure to really enjoy every walk, every nap, every moment with Ringo because at almost 13 our time together is naturally winding down. I’m just so happy he’s doing so well and that even though he was so much harder, more difficult than our other three dogs, I was able to give him a really good life too.

Bonus joy: a cranberry bagel with cream cheese, making everyone laugh in Pilates this morning, getting in the pool, using the hydromassage chair, sitting in the sauna with Eric, a good watermelon, peaches, fresh tomatoes and basil, clean sheets, a warm shower, kindness from the tech at my appointment with the dermatologist, air conditioning, finding Ringo sleeping in the bathroom or under my desk in the morning where he’s been waiting for me to get out of bed (he gets up with Eric an hour before I do and is sometimes content to just nap on the couch by Eric, but sometimes he wants to wait “close by” for me), feeling sore, feeling stronger, doing the things I know I want the benefit of even when I don’t feel like doing them, my morning writing practice, poetry, comedy, audiobooks (I find that memoirs can be especially good when read by the author), listening to podcasts, getting all the laundry done before lunch, down blankets and pillows, book club, pizza, ice cream, texting with my brother, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.