Something Good

1. More reasons why I love living in Colorado: Juneteenth is officially a state holiday in Colorado and Colorado braces to become refuge for abortion access if ‘Roe’ is weakened.

2. What I Wish I Knew About Grooming: India Oxenberg Reflects on Her Experience in Nxivm. This is an older post but gives a list of seven warning signs that are super important to watch out for, whether it’s a relationship with a single person or a whole group.

3. It’s Time to Rage on The New York Times by Roxane Gay. “Without the right to abortion, women are forced to make terrible choices. These burdens disproportionately fall upon poor and working-class women without the means to travel across state lines to receive the care they need. Despite promises from the anti-abortion movement to support pregnant women and children, the ‘pro-life’ lobby appears to be invested only in the unborn. The same mostly male politicians who oppose abortion so often do everything in their power to oppose rights to paid parental leave, subsidized child care, single-payer health care or any kind of social safety net that could improve family life.” In related news, Here’s how Americans can fight back to protect abortion rights by Rebecca Solnit. Also, this site is helpful for directing your help: Abortion Funds in Every State. And, check out this Twitter feed that gives some answers to the questions “what do we do now/how do I help?”

4. The U.S. now says Russia is wrongfully detaining WNBA star Brittney Griner

5. Woman adopts two dogs who have perfect panda markings — then she finds a homeless puppy who does too! (video)

6. Recipes I want to try: Wonton Soup, Gilgeori Toast (Korean Street Toast), and Cinnamon Butterflake Rolls.

7. Watch hilarious turtle courting ritual(video) “Why is this turtle slapping another turtle? CNN’s Jeanne Moos reports on hilarious turtle foreplay that went viral.” In related news, a video of a flipped over turtle getting help from his friends.

8. Memoirs with Benefits: A Reading List of Hybrid Narratives“Courtney Maum Recommends Memoirs That Seesaw from Past to Present, Personal to Universal.”

9. Curious Squirrels and Rambunctious Hares Form a Miniature Menagerie of Felted Wildlife.

10. 30 Of The Most Spine-Chilling Things Kids Have Ever Said, As Shared In This Viral Twitter Thread.

11. Roxane Gay Brief But Spectacular take on effective ways of being heard“Roxane Gay has used writing as a means to untangle and communicate her own trauma since childhood. Now a successful author, professor and mentor to many, she advises young women and aspiring writers on how to harness their voices. Gay shares her Brief But Spectacular take on effective ways of being heard.”

12. Karine Jean-Pierre will become White House’s 1st Black press secretary“She will be the first Black press secretary in White House history and the first openly gay person in this high-profile role, speaking for both the president and the U.S. government in press briefings that are watched by the world.”

13. New Study Shows Trans Youth Are Extremely Unlikely to Detransition“94% of trans youth in the sample identified as trans five years later.” Compare that to the “success” of dieting: “In a meta-analysis of 29 long-term weight loss studies, more than half of the lost weight was regained within two years, and by five years more than 80% of lost weight was regained.”

14. Ada Limón Makes Poems for a Living on The New York Times. “On tour for her sixth book, Limón talks about how poetry, in the end, is ‘just telling somebody something.'” In related news, In her new poems, Ada Limón argues for turning a delicate attention to the world.

15. The end of Bitch Media and the paradox of mission-oriented media“Between money and mission, one will always win.”

16. American Bluebird builds nest(video)

17. How Native Americans Are Keeping The Bees Alive.

18. Dementia Made a New Man Out of My Dad“Raised in Apartheid-era South Africa, my mixed-race father had no shortage of scars. But as dementia overpowered his brain, I met a man I never knew existed.”

19. ALOK on stand-up comedy, love as ‘daily practice’ and non-binary joy.

20. In Grief Is How We Live Now on The New York Times. “Any therapist will tell you that death is not the only occasion for grief. We can mourn the loss of anything to which we have become attached: a pet, a job, a home, a way of life. In bereavement, what is best about us — our ability to love — becomes the source of our suffering. It’s a wonder that all grief isn’t prolonged and that anyone is able to love again rather than wander through life stunned by its cruelty. And it’s surprising that anyone actually believes that there are stages and time limits to grief or that we know enough about how it works to know what to expect of it.”

21. Goodwill Sold a Bust for $34.99. It’s an Ancient Roman Relicon The New York Times. “Its 2,000-year journey to Texas remains a mystery, but the buyer is returning it to the German state of Bavaria, its pre-World War II home.”

22. Poetry FAQ on McSweeney’s.

23. New Report: The global decline in democracy has accelerated“Freedom in the World 2021 finds that the annual gap between losses and gains widened in 2020, and fewer than a fifth of the world’s people now live in fully Free countries.”

24. A Week Into The Lindo-pocalypse.

25. Detox Your Mind: 5 Practices to Purify the 3 Poisons on Lion’s Roar. “Five Buddhist teachers share practices to clear away the poisons that cause suffering and obscure your natural enlightenment. Introduction by Lion’s Roar’s editor-in-chief Melvin Mcleod.”

26. “Don’t Let Anyone Say I Was The Best At Anything” from Andrea Gibson.

27. Color Story: Lilac Season on SFGirl.

28. 200 Years of Great Writers and Artists on the Creative and Spiritual Rewards of Gardening“Here, drawn from a lifetime of marginalia on great writers’ and artists’ letters and diaries, essays and novels, is a florilegium of my favorite exultations in the rewards and nourishments of gardens.”

29. Houseplants as a Means of Black Joy and Queer Resistance.

30. 103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known“Today is my birthday. I turn 70. I’ve learned a few things so far that might be helpful to others. For the past few years, I’ve jotted down bits of unsolicited advice each year and much to my surprise I have more to add this year. So here is my birthday gift to you all: 103 bits of wisdom I wish I had known when I was young.”

31. Watering the garden from Austin Kleon.

32. The ones who didn’t help from Seth Godin.

Gratitude

1. Mom. I am so grateful to have a mom who loves me and is still here. One who was so involved with our education, and in particular taught me to love reading and music. One who came from a big farming family and kept them close so that I learned the values of hard work, good food, and good company. I have so many people in my corner simply because they love her and I’m hers.

2. Good food. I tried a new recipe last night and it was SO good. And even though his favorite thing is anything meat, Ringo has a soft spot for baked goods too, particularly pancakes — with butter, please.

3. Everything is getting so green. Since we’ll be in Oregon for a few weeks towards the start of the season, we haven’t quite figured out how many new things are happening in our garden. We may do something simple this year, just a few of our favorite veggies. I’ve said it before but I sure hope I don’t miss peony season.

Peonies from our garden

4. Eric ran a marathon and didn’t get hurt. Just to be clear, there’s no rational reason I should worry about him doing a race, but I do, and I’m always so relieved when it’s over. This year, Ringo and I were on our morning walk when they started the 5&10k runs that were part of the same race and on part of our walking route, so we saw some mile markers and some runners. When Ringo saw the 25 mile flag, he knew it wasn’t supposed to be there, was something new, and he growled at it.

5. Morning walks. It’s spring, so that means we had some rain this week, had to stay close to home and even cut a few walks short because of it. The few times we got to walk by the river and ponds, there were things in bloom and five pelicans in a spot we’d never seen them before along with a few cormorants high up in some trees drying off their wings, (cormorants lack the waterproofing oils that other water birds produce so when they get out of the water, they need to dry off in a way other water birds don’t).

6. My tiny family, tiny home, tiny life. The ease and joy and comfort of being together.

Bonus joy: the smell of lilacs, bird song in the morning, birds at the feeder, yard time, good books and TV, listening to podcasts, sitting in the sauna with Eric, the pool, the hydromassage chair, small group training with Shelby, making art with Calyx, hanging out in Chloe’s backyard with her and Hendrix and Franny and the chickens, texting with Chris and my mom, clean sheets, a warm shower, our whole house fan (I would have never thought to put one in, but it was already here and we use it SO much), trying new recipes that turn out delicious, berries, writing in the morning, my HappyLight, a hot cup of coffee with cocoa and tiny marshmallows, my Ooofos (super comfortable flip flops and slides), my weighted blanket, down pillows and blankets, healthcare (vaccines, hospitals, medicine, doctors and nurses, etc.), good neighbors, groceries, pay day, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.