Gratitude

1. Morning walks. Since Eric is on summer break now, he gets to come with us, which also means I don’t take as many pictures. We’ve seen baby ducks and geese but no deer yet, and even though we haven’t seen them we are happy to know there are some fox kits this season. For how dry and warm our winter was, this late spring has been normal-ish with rain turning everything green and filling the river back up.

2. Ringo’s care team. This week I was especially grateful for Dr. Foster, who was so kind to me and so helpful as I worried about the callus on Ringo’s elbow that got irritated this week. She suspects that because he has more arthritis in his right elbow that when he lies on the cool hard surfaces he loves so much, he shifts his weight to his left elbow and that’s how he rubbed all the hair off and developed a callus. I was also grateful to her because after we’d been messing with his elbow all morning trying to figure out a homemade way to protect it (we’ve since ordered something made for exactly that), he was extra spicy with her during his acupuncture session and she loved on him anyway, didn’t take it personally.

3. Working in the garden. The columbine I thought was lost but found and uncovered has a tiny bloom on it. I especially enjoy the company of the bees and the ladybugs. I’m surprised how satisfying weeding can be, knowing as I do the impermanence of the impact, aware as I am that those weeds will keep coming back and sometime later in the season, maybe many times, I’ll have to do it all over again. I have tons of peony buds again, although my two biggest producers spent a few weeks tipped over after the snow and by the time I got them pulled back up and caged, their stems had bent like crazy straws. Here’s what I have to look forward to:

4. Getting in the pool. I am loving being back after the long closure to replace the tile, being able to spend more time there.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. This is that weird moment in time where there are still a few weeks before we leave for Oregon but most of our attention is already turned towards that trip so I get so easily distracted about everything, like I’ve got too many plates spinning. Yesterday, I was boiling some carrots for Ringo and totally forgot about them, went out to weed in the front so didn’t hear the timer I’d set, and luckily it was already pretty warm out and I didn’t stay long enough to burn the house down. I’m also feeling so sad because even though I’ve been there since, with this trip it is going to seem real that our parents’ homes are no longer there for us to return to, to be welcomed and comfortable, to stay for a bit. *sigh* And yet, I’m so grateful for the home I have here, with Ringo and Eric, and that after we visit Oregon, we get to come back here.

Bonus joy: my annual haircut, the rain helping keep the ground softer so weeding is easier, how well toddler socks work for dogs too, writing with my Friday morning sangha, practicing with Sarah Blondin, watching good TV and films, listening to podcasts, naps, gummy supplements, how I weaned myself off social media to the point that whenever I go back on I don’t stay long, poetry, sharing poetry, when Sandy and Janice come to aqua aerobics, sitting in the sauna with Eric, air fryer french fries with homemade fry sauce, baked ziti with broccoli, onion poppy seed buns, ice cream, sitting in the backyard with Eric and Ringo, book club, ordering off Amazon (yes, I know Jeff Bezos is the devil and the whole thing hurts a lot of people and is wrong in so many ways, AND I can’t tell you how much my little black introverted heart loves to be able to get online, do a search, shop around, order what I want, and have it show up on my front porch the next day), a warm shower after honest work, a big glass of cold clean water, crying, how well my repotted Christmas cactuses are doing, being able to let go, canceled plans, sleeping in (which for me apparently means 6 am, so not that big of a deal), reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

6 thoughts on “Gratitude

  1. Melanie R's avatarMelanie R

    Your hair looks beautiful! Can’t believe you can go an entire year without getting it cut – lucky! I have to get my cut every 5 weeks or it’s a horrible mess. And sleeping in is 6 am?! You must be a morning person. I’m a night owl. I go to bed between 11PM – 12AM. So I don’t get up until 7:30 – 8ish.

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    1. jillsalahub's avatarjillsalahub Post author

      It has a lot to do with how little I do. I hardly touch it — never “style” it, barely brush it, only wash it once or twice a week, and it’s happy that way and stays relatively healthy. Also, because it’s long, I don’t have to worry much about maintaining a particular style. And yes, absolutely a morning person. I’m in bed by 8 pm, read for about an hour and then I’m out.

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      1. Melanie R's avatarMelanie R

        I know a young woman with hair much like yours – long and curly. She says the same thing about her hair and how she cares for it. I find it interesting to hear how people are wired with their body clocks. I don’t start winding down til at least 10 pm. I read til at least 11 – 11:30. My husband gets up super early for work most days – 3 AM! So he’s in bed at 8 PM. And then our son usually doesn’t get home from work until about 4 AM, so he sleeps til noon – 1 PM. So someone in this house is either awake or asleep most hours! 🙂

  2. Kari's avatarKari

    Weeding satisfaction—yes. A blogging friend mentioned she weeds every day, and it shifted how I think about it. I’ve been in the garden for the last three days, and I feel like a better version of myself.

    I also love air fryer french fries! I’d love to know your fry sauce recipe.

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    1. jillsalahub's avatarjillsalahub Post author

      My “recipe” is a combo of two other ones I found online and then only sort of followed. One I used initially: https://www.daringgourmet.com/big-mac-sauce/ and the other one I can’t find was more spices. Basically, I use mayo, ketchup, bbq sauce, pickle juice (I use bread & butter or sweet gherkin juice, do NOT like dill), smoked paprika, garlic powder, chili powder, chunky salt, fresh ground pepper, and toasted onion (from Penzey’s Spices). I don’t measure anything anymore, just eyeball it and taste it to see if I’m close and add in more of what seems to be missing. The pickle juice and paprika and toasted onion are what makes it for me.

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