Sharon Salzberg posted this photo on Facebook this morning. Considering how hard I try, how much I push myself, how turned around and tied up in knots I get trying to accomplish ALL THE THINGS, it was a really good reminder for me. Life is one part preparation and one part letting go. I must balance my effort with ease — if I don’t, I will suffer.
So great to be partnering with Wanderlust to share this list with a larger audience.
1. How Dare You (A lesson on defining your personal brand) from Paul Jarvis. I really think he has one of the most brilliant perspectives about marketing, branding, and blah, blah, blah. I think so because he says stuff like this, “As makers, we express who we are through what we make. That is, if we’re being honest about ourselves and what we stand for.”
2. Essena O’Neill – Why I REALLY am quitting social media. I share this with the disclaimer that I don’t believe (obviously) that social media is inherently bad. Just like every other technology or media, the way we use it manifests our own neurosis (and/or wisdom). We infuse it with who we are and what we believe. As such, every technology is also infused with our fundamental wisdom and compassion. It doesn’t exist on its own without us, isn’t inherently bad or good.
3. What if you didn’t give up? from Alexandra Franzen. Her superpower is a crazy fierce mix of motivation and inspiration, and this post is all the proof you need. In it, she says,”You can quit right now. Un-enroll. Hand in your notice. Shut down the website. Pack up your case and go home. Never play a note again. Fuck it. Or you can decide that following that persistent longing in your heart — the longing to create, to write, to make a difference in the unique way that you feel called to do it — is worth just a little more patience.”
4. Proud (Diet) Quitter from Dances with Fat.
5. Variations on stupid from Seth Godin, a great list of all the various ways we can be stupid.
6. Good stuff from Susannah’s Something for the Weekend list: A Writer’s Manifesto by Joanne Harris: The National Conversation, and The Life-Changing Magic of Intentional Ignorance, and Top 16 Ways I Connect with God-presence from Alanis Morissette, and Rae Morris – Skin [Official Video].
7. 10 Behaviors of Genuine People, a list, a way of being worth aspiring to — actual, real, sincere, honest.
8. Good stuff from Austin Kleon’s weekly newsletter: “I’ve been working on this weird deck of cards (inspired by Oblique Strategies) to help me out when I get creatively stuck, so I thought I’d share a virtual version for y’all. More cards will be posted soon…”, and C.S. Lewis on how to be original, and “November is National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo), but I have no interest in writing novels, so I started National Novel Reading Month (NaNoReadMo).”
9. Why being weird is your best creative trait. What a relief…
10. Out of Control Salted Caramel Cinnamon Rolls, recipe and pictures that just might make your head explode.
11. And then that one time on twitter we all just became human and I laughed until I gave myself a headache from The Bloggess. If you are having a bad day, read these tweets and I guarantee you’ll feel better, and you’ll have a good laugh so it’s a win/win.
13. What Weight Gain Really Means. With the holidays comes a slew of content focused on how not to gain weight, how to lose weight, blah blah blah. Read this as the antidote.
14. Adele: Inside Her Private Life and Triumphant Return from Rolling Stone.
15. 20+ Cats Who Immediately Regretted Their Poor Life Choices on Bored Panda.
16. Songs that Crack my Heart right Open (in the Best possible Way) on Elephant Journal.
18. Ruth Oosterman’s “Collaborations with my toddler.”. She takes her toddler daughter’s drawings and turns them into amazing pieces of art.
19. Elizabeth Duvivier is blogging every day for the month of November. Two of my favorite posts so far are this island of tranquility and season of bittersweet, in which she shares this quote from Daniell Koepke,
Despite what you may believe, you can disappoint people and still be good enough. You can make mistakes and still be capable and talented. You can let people down and still be worthwhile and deserving of love. Everyone has disappointed someone they care about. Everyone messes up, lets people down, and makes mistakes. Not because we’re inadequate or fundamentally inept, but because we’re imperfect and fundamentally human. Expecting anything different is setting yourself up for failure.
20. Tig Notaro’s Amazon Pilot Is Wonderful. And, you can watch it right now on Amazon, for FREE.
21. We just found out that Winnie the Pooh is actually a girl. Awesome. Agreed — awesome.
23. What you won’t read on social media about living the dream from Life is Limitless. Life is tender and terrible, beautiful and brutal — keep your heart open.
24. Writing Advice Is Bullshit from Terrible Minds.
25. Joyful and Exuberant, inspiration from Marc Johns. Trust me, go read it now.
26. Start with what you know on A Design So Vast. I appreciate Lindsey’s perspective so much, her willingness to look at herself and her life closely, directly, honestly.
27. Jamie Greenwood on Working For Yourself and Getting To The Heart of What’s True, a really great podcast.
28. Dieting is a Violent Act from Rachel Cole. Amen.
29. Two older posts from Susan Piver, which are just as relevant now as when she first published them, Self-Employment: Three Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me and The pain of pricing.
31. Thanksgiving Dinner Rolls With Surprise Gratitude Notes. I’d replace the notes with wishes, but yum!
32. Wisdom from Justine Musk, “Maybe you’re tired because you’re repressing so much of yourself.”
35. Christians and Coffee Cups, which suggests, “And maybe this year we can stop yelling at others to ‘Keep Christ in Christmas’ and instead focus on being Christlike ourselves.” A-fucking-men!
37. The Self-Hatred Within Us by Sharon Salzberg.