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Horsetooth Reservoir, image by Eric

Horsetooth Reservoir, image by Eric

So great to be partnering with Wanderlust to share this list with a larger audience.

1. Leap Day! A whole extra day! What are you doing with yours, kind and gentle reader?

2. Kids reading to shelter dogs. I’m glad they are doing this, because I’m not allowed in the shelter — I would want to bring all the dogs home.

3. Author and poet Mahogany L. Browne gives her #BriefButSpectacular take on “Black Girl Magic.” So beautiful, so important.

4. I want to try these recipes: Chocolate Guinness Cake, Everyday Chocolate Cake, and Vidalia Onion Upside Down Cornbread, and Ayurvedic Sweet Potato Butternut Squash Soup.

5. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön,

If we want there to be peace in the world, then we have to take responsibility when our own hearts and minds harden and close. We have to be brave enough to soften what is rigid, to find the soft spot and stay with it. We have to have that kind of courage and take that kind of responsibility. That’s true spiritual warriorship. That’s the true practice of peace.

6. From mailboxes to super soakers, check out these 10 items you never knew were invented by black Americans. #blackhistorymonth

7. In related news, 100 Years of Beauty – Episode 18: USA Men 2 (Lester). Every time I watch one of these videos, I am so appreciative of the effort it must have taken to put it together. (And btw, I don’t think the 90s was a good era in fashion for anyone). And while you are at it, check out the other videos on WatchCut Video’s YouTube channel. They’ve got lots of cools stuff, such as this video One Word – Episode 32: Binge Eating (Eating Disorders).

8. What They Did With These Shower Curtain Rods Might just Be The Most Secretly Genius Idea Ever.

9. Snow Day. A cheetah and dog pair have their first snowy experience.

10. The moment of truth: We must stop Trump.

11. A love letter from your fat friend: It’s okay. You’re fat.

12. None of this matters when you’re dead, “Or why I don’t care that my decade worth of blog content has been lost.” I don’t think I’d be so cool about it if this happened to me.

13. Beginner-Friendly Meditation Retreats in Some of the World’s Most Beautiful Settings. #3 is one of my favorite places on the planet, (so much so that I kinda wish they hadn’t included it cause I want to keep it my own little secret).

14. Interview with Emily Brown, from BodyLove on Light Folly.

15. Why Kale May Kill Us, So I’m Getting a Divorce. In related news, Greens, Kale & Thyroid Problems. I have Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, and I didn’t know this.

16. Quirky New Chalk Characters on the Streets of Ann Arbor by David Zinn. Super cute. I love it that there are people in the world that take the time to do this, to practice their art, to surprise people with the joy of it.

17. Writing Down The Bones: 30 Years Later. One of my favorite writing teachers. And I am constantly amazed — this was her FIRST book. One of the most important writing books ever, in my humble opinion, and it was the first one she wrote.

18. Michelle Nijhuis’s Brief Guide to Writing Reported Essays.

19. 6 Illustrations That Show What It’s Like in an Introvert’s Head.

20. Simplicity is the Way Back to Love from Be More With Less.

21. Art at Altitude: Watch Artist Simon Beck Trample Calculated Murals onto Snowy Mountaintops. So much effort for something that’s just going to melt — and yet, it all melts eventually, doesn’t it?

22. Tips and Myths About Extending Smartphone Battery Life. I don’t know about you, but the state of my cellphone charge gives me such anxiety, so this was very helpful.

23. Wisdom from Tulku Thondup, “Unless one is omniscient or at least enjoys some degree of clairvoyance, no one can judge others. One can see how others appear and how they are behaving, but not who they are or why they are behaving in a particular manner.” During this season of politics, I’ve had to remind myself of this again and again.

24. How to make peanut butter toast. This seems to be about more than just peanut butter toast.

25. That Time I Stole an Atkin’s Diet Book From Bj’s from Mara Glatzel. I love everything about this.

26. The life that’s left from Jamie Greenwood. This is such a good reminder. “The only thing I was ever promised at birth was life and THIS, this loss wrapped in pain wrapped in sweet remembrance wrapped in joy, is all part of the package.”

27. 5 Reasons to Meditate by Pema Chödrön. “Yes, it’s a strange thing to do — just sit there and do basically nothing. Yet the simple act of stopping, says Pema Chödrön, is the best way to cultivate our good qualities. Here are five ways it makes us better people.”

28. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club,

There really is no one on this entire planet who knows every single thing that you have lived through, that you have learned, that you have endured, that you have overcome, that you have feared, that you have loved, that you have grieved, that you have built, that you have dreamed up, that you have worked toward. This is why, incredible soul, it is so important to hold yourself to be as sacred as you truly are.

You are a whole lot of beautifulness, in little things and in big things. You are a whole lot of colorfulness woven together in a way that has never ever ever been woven. Don’t let others try to define you, sweet friend. Don’t let others minimize you or try to squeeze you tight into a box that makes them comfortable. You are you and you are too wild and sparkling to fit inside of ANY box. You are meant to shine your light. When you need to feel 100% understood, turn to the source of truth and light. And turn to that beautiful soul inside of you — she is so so so wise.

And remember that we can never know every single thing about others, either. We are all very complicated souls, and we would all be a lot happier if we gave everyone a little bit of grace and focus on the good things we DO know.

29. Women and Body Image with Isabel Foxen Duke, an interview. “On women and body image with the fabulous Isabel Foxen Duke as well as helpful tips and tactics to free yourself from body worries.”

30. How To Deal With Haters. Unfortunately in this age of social media, this is something we all face at one time or another, and this is really sound advice.

31. Reactions: Not everything in life is Likable. This is a really great article that talks about how the new Facebook reaction options were developed.

32. Manny Selfie Cat, one of the best accounts on Instagram.

33. Fatphobic Nurse Makes Me Say F*ck Seven Times and 11 Reasons Why I Focus On Health and Not Weight from Dances with Fat.

34. A Mother’s Confession: A Song with Footnotes from Amanda Palmer. Trigger alert: if you are a mom, this might just wreck you.

35. Wisdom from Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, “If we don’t develop contentment, we can never have what we want or enjoy what we have.” Oh, snap!

36. Exquisite Curiosity and Food from Geneen Roth.

37. One of my new favorite songs, ATTLAS – Parallel Lines.

38. Magic Tricks from Jena Schwartz. So beautiful. Writers like Jena raise the bar for my writing in the best possible way.

39. The Hunger for Rest, an important reminder from the amazing Rachel Cole, because this, “If you find yourself eating as a way to avoid the rest you’re craving or as a way to silence your inner critic who bashes you for your laziness, consider embracing your unique needs for rest and see what happens.”

40. Our Everloving Quest to Control Our Lives from Zen Habits. This is such an important read. We should all probably just memorize it, recite it in the mirror every morning. We’d all be so much happier if we could “get” just this one thing.

41. Five Ways To Love Yourself Courageously on Life is Limitless. This is also so important. Caroline starts by saying, “I’ve been focused on personal growth quite intensely now for many years, I’ve read countless books, taken various courses, spent years in therapy, worked with a number of coaches and the number one thing that I learnt from it all is this: If you don’t love yourself deeply and completely, then you can’t ever be truly happy.”

Something Good

Arthur's Rock, Lory State Park, image by Eric

Arthur’s Rock, Lory State Park, image by Eric

So great to be partnering with Wanderlust to share this list with a larger audience.

1. Two really great classes with two amazing teachers starting on Leap Day: Brave Blogging with Andrea Scher, 30 days of creative prompts and blogging lessons, and Leaping into Leap Year: What’s Your Leap? with Patti Digh, “What’s the leap forward you want to make? Let’s define it, set up conditions for success, and leap on February 29th!”

2. A Caring Chorus. “We all have a voice inside, and the best teachers help us find it. One group of students took the time to recognize their chorus teacher with a performance she’ll never forget.” Her response when they start singing is precious.

3. This boy and his family just met his bone marrow donor for the first time. Not a dry eye in sight. Such a great video. We have the capacity for so much good.

4. The Master Body Positive Resource List from the Militant Baker. This.

5. After Becoming A Mom, I Couldn’t Find Time To Paint, So I Started Doing One Tiny Drawing A Day. Sometimes small can be HUGE.

6. WATCH: “This veterinarian knew he had to get this starving rescued puppy to eat something, so he did an experiment. He got in the cage along with her, put his breakfast in a metal bowl just like hers, and showed her that they are equals – both deserving a good meal, and a little love.” I can’t even…

7. What I Learn on the Orange Couch: Creating Boundaries for the First Time from Patti Digh. Ever since her heart attack, Patti’s writing has been on fire.

8. Wisdom from L.R. Knost, “Taking care of myself doesn’t mean ‘me first.’ It means ‘me, too.'” Mind blown.

9. Watch these big cats react to cardboard for the first time! No matter how big, kitties are still kitties.

10. I Documented Two Years of Travel By Painting In My Moleskine Notebook. Amazing.

11. Recipes I want to try: Sweet Potato Black Bean Hash and No-Knead Bread and Whole Wheat Goldfish Crackers and Pistachio-Lemon Bars.

12. One Big Reason Your Life Is Harder (And Busier) Than It Has To Be from Marc and Angel Hack Life. *Spoiler Alert* “Here’s the thing: Busyness is NOT a badge of honor. There’s zero honor at all in endless busyness. Busyness is just an illness that makes everything harder than it has to be.”

13. Don’t forget this about eating… from Isabel Foxen Duke.

14. Don’t Fall into the Self-Esteem Trap: Try a Little Self-Kindness by Kristin Neff, who just so happens to be an expert on the subject of self-compassion. “Striving for self-esteem is about trying hard to feel special, above average. It’s absurd. We don’t need to feel extra-special or over the top. We need to touch who we really are in any given moment.”

15. Before You Blow Up Your Life, Do This from Jonathan Fields. “What if, instead of blowing up what lies outside, we broke open what lies within?” Is it utterly horrible to believe that he wrote this just for me?

16. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club, “Rest does not need to hold hands with guilt. We do not have to pay for rest when the rest is over.”

17. Why We Struggle with Change on Zen Habits.

18. Dog Adopts Orphaned Opossums, Gives Them Awesome Rides On Her Back. How am I ever going to hold on to my belief that opossums are gross when people keep sharing stories like this?!

19. I’ve spent years trying to get skinny. Oprah’s Weight Watchers ads convinced me to stop. Because this,

My epiphany was this: Oprah is one of the most accomplished, admired, able people in the world. She has an Oscar to keep all her Emmy Awards company. She creates magic for other people and herself on the regular. So if Oprah can’t do permanent lifelong weight loss, maybe it can’t be done. Oprah is also crazy rich. If Oprah can’t buy permanent lifelong weight loss, maybe it can’t be bought. And that sucks.

But it is also incredibly freeing if you, like me, have thought about your weight so many times throughout every day of your life that it becomes as maddening and distracting as if you’d stowed a beating telltale heart beneath your floorboards.

20. Female Friendships and Online Literary Sexism on The Rumpus.

21. (How To) Get Over Comparing Yourself To Other Creatives from Adam Kurtz. Such good advice. In related news, Sentimentalizing Everything.

22. Killing Us Softly 4 – Trailer [Featuring Jean Kilbourne]. *sigh*

23. 21 Hilarious Tweets That Perfectly Sum Up Your Relationship With Your Co-Workers. *gigglesnort*

24. 10 Best Yoga Tunes of the Year, from Yoga Journal. “Early ballots for the 2016 Grammy Awards included nearly two dozen albums inspired by bhakti yoga. We listened to them all to choose our favorite yoga music for the year.” I haven’t listened to any of these yet, but I’m excited for some new music.

25. Watch Hozier’s Haunting New Music Video About Domestic Abuse. The song is so beautiful, so sweet, that without the video I might not have realized what it was about.

26. Nigella Lawson: “Women should eat what they want. Not what they think they should.” Word.

27. Having It All Kinda Sucks. “Only women would sign up for this much crap.” An important read.

28. Syd Rocks. At 10 years old, Sydney was diagnosed with LCH, Langerhan’s Cell Histiocytosis, a rare blood disorder. The cause of the disease is unknown and it is estimated that Histiocytosis affects one in 200,000 children each year in the U.S. After treatment (not fun), Sydney is doing better, but she’s committed to donating 100% of the profit earned from her Syd Rocks necklaces to medical research to find a cure for LCH and pediatric cancer. She’ll have a booth at Wanderlust 108 Chicago on May 16th, or you can shop at her website.

29. Sia Carpool Karaoke. I love this series so much.

30. Lip-Reading Software Brings Hitler’s Most Intimate Words Alive In His Silent Home Movies. Interesting and creepy.

31. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön,

The power of the paramita of patience is that it is the antidote to anger, a way to learn to love and care for whatever we meet on the path. By patience, we do not mean enduring — grin and bear it. In any situation, instead of reacting suddenly, we could chew it, smell it, look at it, and open ourselves to seeing what’s there. The opposite of patience is aggression — the desire to jump and move, to push against our lives, to try to fill up space. The journey of patience involves relaxing, opening to what’s happening, experiencing a sense of wonder.

31. Growing Together by Thich Nhat Hanh on Lion’s Roar. “In his introduction to the book, Love’s Garden: A Guide to Mindful Relationships, Thich Nhat Hanh shows us how we can use loving relationships to cultivate the seeds of buddhahood inside us.”

32. Deepak Chopra Wants Us To Meditate Our Fat Away from Dances with Fat. Just no, everything about this no.

33. High rent is forcing Las Vegas families to take to the sewers. In related news, check out the Seeker Stories YouTube channel.

34. On the Submerged World from Dani Shapiro. This is why I practice, why I keep showing up.

35. Troops betrayed as Army dumps hundreds of heroic war dogs. To be honest, I couldn’t even finish reading this, it just hurt too much. We need to do better, by ALL our vets.

36. In Memory of David R. Tolstrup, D.O. My friend Jim’s brother died unexpectedly last week. “He was a much loved son, father, grandfather, brother, uncle, and friend and will be very much missed by many. He was also a dedicated and compassionate physician who believed in healing the whole person and who often worked with underserved populations in his medical career. In lieu of flowers, we ask that you donate to Doctors Without Borders, an organization that works tirelessly around the world to see that some of the most vulnerable among us receive life saving care regardless of their means.”

37. Kickstarter: The Tiny Book Show. “The Tiny Book Show is a mobile museum of miniature books traveling across the US this summer in our 1965 Covered Wagon caravan.” One of my favorite projects by two of my favorite poets.

38. This Cat Has Been Reunited With The Refugee Family He Lost In Greece. All the feels…

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So great to be partnering with Wanderlust to share this list with a larger audience.

1. Multitasking is Killing Your Brain. “Multitasking is not a skill to add to the resume, but rather a bad habit to put a stop to.”

2. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön, from her book Start Where You Are: a Guide to Compassionate Living, “The reason that people harm other people, the reason that the planet is polluted and people and animals are not doing so well these days is that individuals don’t know or trust or love themselves enough.” So simple. So incredibly complicated.

3. Good stuff from Patti Digh: Your life is the vision board. Better get a new glue stick. and strong offer Friday : transform terror into commitment, and entitlement into hope, which includes the video and transcript of Laurie Foley’s Life is a Verb Camp talk.

4. The Best Female Rock Climber In the World is 14 Years Old (so cool) from Great Big Story, whose tagline is “From the cosmos to cosplay and pizza to our very planet itself, it’s time to feed your feed with the most curious and compelling stories being told.” Take some time and check out their other videos.

5. Let Them Eat Cake: My Weight Restoration Story. Because this, “The only weight that I needed to drop was that of internalized misogynistic self-hate. I didn’t need to lose any pounds. I needed to lose the sound of “You’re worthless” that reverberated in my ears — in my own voice — every time I had a craving for chocolate or was too tired to go to the gym.”

6. Husband Asks Wife To Draw What’s On Her Mind, Gets More Than He Expected. #same

7. New music: Paublo Nouvelle. This is my jam. There used to be an online radio station called Beach House Radio, and if they were still around, they’d totally be playing this. I heard him first on the Chill station I listen to on SiriusXM satellite radio (so good, “downtempo electronic and deep house”), but you can also find his stuff on SoundCloud and YouTube, or buy his new CD.

8. Bringing Kindness, Full Stop on Allowing Myself. Justine told me recently that when she got her yearly blog report, it showed I shared her stuff the most of anyone — because she’s so good.

9. Dog Breaks Out Of Kennel To Comfort Abandoned Crying Puppies. This story gives me all the feels. Here’s the video.

10. 13 Plus-Size Models Killing The Fashion Game Right Now. Next step: stop calling them “plus size” and just call them models.

11. You Get To Decide from Michele Woodward. This is an older piece, but I wanted to share it again in honor of Laurie, who entered hospice this past week. Here’s a podcast she did a few years ago, Episode 7 – Laurie Foley – A Practice to Find God.

12. Life Before And After Getting A Dog (9 Pics). Word.

13. One-of-Kind Wool Rug Artworks by Alexandra Kehayoglou Mimic Rolling Pastures and Mossy Textures. These are amazing.

14. The One Thing We Need To See In Plus Size Fashion In 2016, (p.s. besides that thing where we stopped called it “plus size” and just call it fashion).

15. the shutterbugs: salva lópez on SF Girl by Bay. The colors, the wood and the plants and the light, the patina — so gorgeous.

16. 10 Reasons I Ditched Dieting from Dances With Fat. Amen.

17. Toddler GoPro Hide and Seek. “Strap a GoPro to your toddler and play Hide & Seek. So much awesome!” So cute.

18. Refugee Girls Got To Dress Up As What They Want To Be When They Grow Up. “The International Rescue Committee recently sent photographer Meredith Hutchison to meet with young girls in two refugee camps in Jordan and ask them about their hopes and dreams.”

19.‘Stop using BMI as measure of health,’ say researchers. Yes, please. In related news, BMI mislabels 54 million Americans as ‘overweight’ or ‘obese,’ study says.

20. The new Beyoncé video is nearly five minutes of unapologetic blackness.

21. The 20 Funniest Tweets From Women This Week.

22. Not Just a Death, a System Failure.

23. No exceptions from Chookooloonks. “If you want to be good at your job, at parenting and/or at life, you must practice self care. No exceptions.”

24. The Powerful Super Bowl Ad That Washington Redskins’ Owner Dan Snyder Needs to See. Word.

25. Super Bowl commercials 2016: the 9 best and 5 worst ads.

26. “Here’s Everything You Need to Know About Me” from Amy McCracken, one of my favorite writers, one of my favorite humans, and this is just one reason why.

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Morning traffic, image by Eric

Morning traffic, image by Eric

1. Doing What You Love Is Going To Be Fucking Hard, wisdom from Jon Westenberg.

2. 16 Elevating Resolutions for 2016 Inspired by Some of Humanity’s Greatest Minds on Brain Pickings. “Cultivate honorable relationships, resist absentminded busyness, tell the world how to treat you, embrace enoughness, and more.” What a great list. One of my favorites is #6.

3. Debating Health at Every Size and Weight Loss and What Size We’re Supposed To Be from Dances With Fat.

4. A Simple Year, 12 months of guided simplicity, each month with a different topic focus, a course offered by some of my favorite people. Registration is open until January 31st.

5. Lemme just grab a selfie with my dogs, one of the cutest pictures ever.

6. Buttermilk Roast Chicken recipe. Looks delicious.

7. Andrea Gibson on the callus of hands and the softness of heart, on the Bawdy Love podcast, “Audaciously love your body.” I adore Andrea, and can’t wait to check out Lauren’s new book.

8. The Best Part of Life from Momastery.

9. Let 2016 be the year of the JOMO, a great cartoon from The Oatmeal. I’m in!

10. Who Says Plus Size Women Can’t? #iwontcompromise. This video is so great, and this project’s mission,

#iwontcompromise is a movement that celebrates doing what we love, wearing what makes us feel good, and being who we are without compromise. No limits, no fears, no judgments, just pure enjoyment. When we hold ourselves back in fear of how we may be perceived, society misses out. Let them stare. Let them see what we can do. Let’s inspire them together.

11. Cat Returns Home With A Note Revealing She Has A Secret Family on Bored Panda. Examples of one of the reasons I have dogs.

12. Tips for Properly Inserting a USB Cable on McSweeney’s, funny because it’s true.

13. Being overweight won’t necessarily make you unhealthy, but feeling bad about it will. Word.

14. People can’t get enough of this new organic, vegetarian fast food. I love Amy’s frozen food, so I bet this place would be yummy.

15. You do not have to be good from Meghan Genge.

16. Woman Goes Viral After Shutting Down Racist Co-Worker in the Most Hilarious Way Possible.

17. I Thought I Was Above Body Image Issues — Until I Lost A Lot Of Weight. “As a result of antidepressants, my weight has always been just outside my control. But when I changed my medication and unexpectedly lost a noticeable amount of weight, I was forced to confront body image issues I thought I was intellectually above.”

18. Our Absurd Fear of Fat. This is an older piece, but it’s still relevant.

19. How to Establish a Daily Practice Of Almost Anything, in Six Steps. So simple, so smart. #2 is one of my favorite hints.

20. A Useful and Incomplete List of Bright Lights, a really great collection of resources from Rachel Cole. Also worth noting is Rachel’s next round of her program Feast is open for applications, (deadline to apply: January 15th).

21. Regularly Scheduled Program from Allowing Myself. Everything Justine writes is so simple, but has such depth.

22. Melissa Harris-Perry has a great point about Oprah’s new weight loss ad. Word.

23. 36 Things I Know After 36 Years of Marriage. As a person in a long term marriage (22 years and counting), I really appreciated this one.

24. Black Bean and Sweet Potato Quesadillas recipe. I’ve talked about these before, many many times. You really should try them — so good. P.S. I double the spices for the potatoes, because they are so yummy.

25. When Can Women Stop Trying to Look Perfect?

26. 4 Principles That Guide My Year from Laura Simms. I love #3.

27. Austin Kleon’s latest newsletter. I was collecting a few things from this list to share with you, but I gave up when I realized the whole thing was too good not to share.

28. Good stuff from Rowdy Kittens Happy Links list: A Good Life, A Good Death, and What My Mother Wanted Us to Pack, and 15 Ways to Simplify Your Life (and Finances) Before the End of 2015.

29. Ylvis – a capella, a hilarious spoof of a type of performance I totally adore.

30. Creative Thursday | season 1 ep.1 | Erin Dollar “Meet Erin Dollar, the designer and founder of the gorgeous Cotton & Flax. Started in 2012, her hand printed home goods now sell worldwide. Join us as we talk creativity + biz on the premiere episode of Creative Thursday!”

31. What was Real and What Was Fake: The Inside Scoop on HGTV’s House Hunters International. I still love this show, even knowing the truth.

32. The Will to Change Must Come From Within from Jonathan Fields.

33. How To Keep Loving Someone.

34. 3 Myths about “Intuitive Eating” from Isabel Foxen Duke.

35. Salon’s guide to writing a memoir, an older post, but still worth reading.

36. A Stunning New Video: Stop. Look. Go. A “stunning, short film of un-hurried, un-plugged summer days with family and friends, beautifully illustrating Br. David’s simple ‘Stop. Look. Go.’ grateful living practice.

37. Is The Fuck It Diet just GIVING UP on My Health?

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Poudre River, image by Eric

Poudre River, image by Eric

1. The 100 Day Promise from Sandi Amorim. “The 100 Day Promise is a practice that guides you through the process of change in an in-depth and soulful way.” I mentioned this last week, but wanted to tell you again in case you missed it because the program started on January 1st, but Sandi is leaving registration open until the 7th. You should also check out her book , The 100 Day Promise: A Guide To Changing From The Inside Out.

2. Things you should quit this year (Sugar is not one of them!). This last part, “Health and fitness comes in all shapes and sizes. Truly. You cannot tell by looking at someone how fit or well they are. You don’t know if they have strong mental health, absence of illness, physical strength, and stamina or if they have a disordered approach to food, suffer from mental health issues or struggle with fatigue. A person’s size cannot tell you these things.” Word.

3. Nigella Lawson: Clean Eating Is ‘a Way to Hide an Eating Disorder.’

4. 9,500-Year-Old Tree Found in Sweden Is The World’s Oldest Tree. So cool.

5. Here’s How Many People Fatally Overdosed On Marijuana Last Year.

6. What 8 body positive activists want you to know about losing weight in the new year.

7. The 50 Funniest Tweets From Women In 2015. So funny.

8. Baby trying bacon for the first time. 🙂

9. There are performances, and then there are performances. It takes a certain kind of woman to go on stage in an ankle length fur coat (ethics of wearing fur aside). It takes whole other kind of woman to take that coat off, throw it on the floor, and SING.

10. Onion Dip from Scratch recipe. Confession: I love onion dip and a good crisp salty chip.

11. Carrie Fisher to haters: Youth and beauty are not accomplishments. What makes me crazy about this is I saw the movie, and thought “she looks amazing.”

12. In Defense of Food and the Rise of ‘Healthy-ish’ “A new PBS documentary and Bon Appetit’s January issue espouse a radically moderate approach to eating.”

13. President Barack Obama on Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee. I’ve said it before, will say it again: I’d vote for him again if I could.

14. White Awake. “White Awake’s mission is to bring contemplative spiritual practice to white affinity work around race and inner transformation.”

15. Don’t Cry Over Oprah’s New Weight Watchers Commercial. Amen.

16. The Weight-Inclusive versus Weight-Normative Approach to Health: Evaluating the Evidence for Prioritizing Well-Being over Weight Loss from the Journal of Obesity.

17. Manifesting 2016: Consciously Creating Your Year from Andrea Scher, self-paced and pay what you can.

18. Happy New Year, Weirdos from Renegade Mothering.

19. Change, Part 1: A New You For a New Year a great dharma talk from Philip Moffitt. I especially love this: In our saying “Happy New Year” one of the things we may be meaning is “This year, may you cease to be the cause of your own suffering.”

20. Happy Notes from Jennifer Belthoff. Such a great idea.

21. A Celebration of Ravi’s Life. “In 2014 Maggie Doyne took malnourished Ravi in at her school and home in Nepal and saved his life. A little over a year later, he passed away in a tragic accident. All money raised will go to Ravi’s siblings in Nepal.” This story is so heartbreaking. Thankfully, this fundraiser gives us the opportunity to do something.

22. Wisdom from Rumi, “I have been a seeker and I still am, but I stopped asking the books and the stars. I started listening to the teaching of my soul.”

23. A Sentiment for Blazing from Danielle LaPorte. I love the last part, “let your pure faith burn the way.”

24. A beautiful New Year’s wish from Andrea Gibson, a poet even in her Facebook posts.

25. Dear Oprah: Please Stop Projecting Your Insecurities Onto Me. Amen.

26. When You’re Both Overweight and Anorexic.

27. 23 Things To Do To Improve Your Mental Health In 2016. A good list.

28. Wisdom from Seth Godin: Surefire predictions and Who is Us?

29. What I learned not drinking for two years.

30. Speak For Yourself Oprah from Dances With Fat. Word. Also from Ragen, New Year’s Revolutions.

31. How to write a simple and beautiful manifesto from Alexandra Franzen. In her latest newsletter, she also shared a link to this cover of Drake’s Hold On, We’re Going Home that’s super dreamy.

32. 10 Best Articles on Writing of 2015. Disclaimer: I haven’t read all these, so I can’t promise these are truly the 10 best.

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It's still Christmas on the Poudre River Trail.

It’s still Christmas on the Poudre River Trail. Every year, someone sneaks over and decorates three of the trees along the trail, always the same three trees.

1. SECRET BAD GIRL: A Sexual Trauma Resolution Revolution, a Kickstarter project by Rachael Maddox. “How I broke my long-standing sexual trauma spell and grew vibrant, vital & free. A provocative memoir & wildly wise resolution guide.” The deadline to contribute is 12/30 at 5 pm EST. I’m adding my own contribution because I want to read this book and because Rachael is doing important work here.

2. Is it too little butter, or too much bread? from Seth Godin. Oh boy, do I need less bread.

3. Nepal’s Earthquake Victims Face Cold Winter Without Shelter, Aid. Check in the comment section for ways to help, places to donate that might actually have a chance of getting help directly to the people who need it.

4. “If you have a moral attachment to a way of eating, that’s a disordered behavior”: How dieting culture, fat shaming and food porn shape our lives. “Salon talks with Kelsey Miller, author of ‘Big Girl,’ about unlearning toxic messages around food and weight.”

5. Everyone has “their” song, a hilarious short video that I can’t stop watching.

6. Let’s Give The Gift of a Fresh Start, a project started by Humans of New York. Brandon described it this way,

Earlier this month we profiled eleven Syrian families that were preparing to begin new lives in America. They have escaped a horrible war, and have finally secured a degree of safety and security, but the road will be very tough for them. They will be starting at zero in a new country. In addition to the culture shock, they will face innumerable obstacles, including the need to learn an entirely new language. As they attempt to get their footing, they will be provided with little more than the bare minimum needed to subsist. This holiday season, let’s give them a little breathing room. The amount we raise over the next 48 hours will be divided evenly among the refugee families that were featured on HONY this month. Many of these families left Syria with nothing. For years they’ve been forced to stretch every dollar to provide for basic needs, so direct assistance will go a long way. Many of these families are large so we certainly can’t cover all their financial needs. But we can lighten the load and help ease the anxiety of starting over in a strange land. So please consider taking part in this gift by making a small donation.

7. Give Me Five, a hilarious cat video.

8. Watch the stars of ‘Downton Abbey’ play a hilarious game of Cards Against Humanity.

9. A DIY mindfulness jar. I love this.

10. What yoga instructor Jessamyn Stanley has to say on body image is brilliant.

11. Your Brain on Restriction. This is SO important, and I wish I’d written it.

12. 2015 National Geographic Photo Contest Gallery. Amazing images.

13. Why you should always buy the men’s version of almost anything. Grrrr….

14. A wild sea otter chose to give birth at an aquarium and everyone’s hearts are melting, including mine.

15. If Gyms Were Honest, from Dances with Fat. Reason #111 I want to start my own gym, and when I do, this will be my mission statement.

16. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön,

Limitations can be acknowledged without exaggerating or succumbing to them. When we’re confident that our mind is workable, our failings don’t seem like such a big deal. They’re as temporary as clouds, and in no way diminish the skylike nature of our mind. With this kind of confidence in our limitless potential, the mightiest challenges won’t cause us to lose heart.

17. Pema Chödrön & k.d. lang talk Buddhism, creativity, and “gapaciousness” on Lion’s Roar.

18. Buddhism A-Z: 10 Buddhist books everyone should have, a great list from Lion’s Roar.

19. The Heart of Generosity by Gina Sharpe on Lion’s Roar.

20. Rare bird discovered at Gardens on Spring Creek during Christmas Bird Count. I love everything about this — it’s local, it’s a rare bird, and there is such a thing as a “Christmas Bird Count.”

21. Parents Tell Stepparents What They Really Think, the sweetest video from Soul Pancake.

22. My 4-year-old was told not to say, ‘Happy holidays.’ Here’s how I responded. Word, Dad.

23. 10 Reasons Not to Focus on Your Weight in the New Year, from Be Nourished. SO important. Again, I wish I’d written it.

24. The 15 Best Books of 2015, a list from Brain Pickings. “Rewarding reflections on time, love, loss, courage, creativity, and other transformations of the heart.”

25. SAVE MY ARTWORK a gofundme campaign from Sabrina Ward Harrison, one of my favorite artists, who is in danger of losing a storage unit full of original work, which would be a loss for all of us.

Something Good

image by Eric, Lory State Park coyote

image by Eric, Lory State Park coyote

1. People react to being called beautiful. “I conducted an independent project, which evidently turned into a social experiment halfway through, regarding beauty at my performing arts high school in Chicago. I want to clarify that my intentions were not to get a reaction out of people. I was simply filming beauty and this is the result. Here it is.”

2. Carrie Fisher just scorched ‘Good Morning America’ and you’re not worthy. So adorable, so funny.

3. The 5 best moments from ‘A Very Murray Christmas,’ which is now streaming on Netflix.

4. Adele has my dog feeling all types of emotions. This dog is my spirit animal.

5. Tig Notaro got married.

6. Kid President’s Path to Awesome! “They were experienced foster parents, but these were two special needs children. Were they ready for that?”

7. Here Are 2015’s Biggest Pop Songs—All Mashed Up Into a Single 4-Minute Earworm. This might be my favorite song of 2015. 🙂

8. What to leave out and what to leave in and In praise of the simple kitchen timer from Austin Kleon.

9. This was a good week on Chookooloonks. “The Rice University Gallery currently has this amazing exhibit, called Intersections. Created by Pakistani-American artist Anila Quayyum Agha, the exhibit is a single, bright light suspended from the ceiling through an intricately laser-cut box made from wood, and painted black.” Karen shares her pictures of the exhibit and a video of the artist talking about and walking through it.

10. 5 Questions to Ask Yourself When You’re Feeling Stuck from Tiny Buddha. The first one alone is worth the read.

11. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club, “When we have the chance to do something kind or good…we really should just do it. Sometimes we think we have to plan elaborate occasions to show kindness and compassion, when just about every day there are opportunities that come up that allow us sprinkle some goodness in little doses that often don’t take more than a moment, but that make a world of difference to both the person we are gifting with our kindness and to ourselves.”

12. 8tracks, “Listen for free to millions of playlists, all lovingly handcrafted by people like you who know and love music. Pick a top playlist below, or explore playlists by artist, genre, or activity above.” Gift idea: make someone a mixtape.

13. How to Think About Nutrition. “When people start trying to eat normally, they almost always have to go through a phase of craving and eating things they used to think were ‘bad’, or things that are not generally considered ‘healthy’. And it freaks. them. out.”

14. A Response to the Fat Shaming on the London Subway from Dances with Fat. And another good one, Fat-Shamers Hand Out Nasty Cards on Subway, So Plus-Size Company Has Awesome Response.

15. Tips on making care packages for the homeless.

16. Painstaking Arrangements of Colorful Objects and Food by Emily Blincoe. This kind of order is very soothing to me.

17. Wisdom from Charles Orlando, “Don’t settle. Either they will wake up to the fact that you deserve more… or you will.” Oh, snap.

18. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete. (Say it with me now.) from Danielle LaPorte.

19. 11 Reasons That You Are Actually Matt Bellassai.

20. This poem from Rumi seems so appropriate right now,

Sit. Be still. And listen.
For you are drunk.
And we are at the edge of the roof.

21. In exclusive first interview, Mingyur Rinpoche reveals what happened during his four years as a wandering yogi on Lion’s Roar.

22. Fifteen Things for When the World is Shitty and Terrifying, a great list, for any time really, no need to wait until things get bad.

23. IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Was Trolled and Fat-Shamed by One of My Male College Students. I love how she handled this.

24. Chakra Salad. {Vegan Recipe} on Elephant Journal. It’s from this summer, but looks yummy.

25. Study: Dieting Increases Your Risk of Becoming Obese.

26. It’s OK, He’s Friendly. Amen, because of this, “Unsolicited interactions are a type of assault,” and this, “It’s perfectly reasonable for a person to expect to be able to use a public space without being pestered by others.”

27. BIRDY + RHODES – Let It All Go. Beautiful song, beautiful video. Gave me goosebumps.

28. Print out these 100 questions, and as Alexandra Franzen suggests, “Cut the paper into little slips with one question per slip. Put the slips in a bowl. Keep them on your kitchen table. When you’re lounging around, solo, or with your family, pull out a question at random and answer it. You might learn something fascinating about yourself — or someone else.”

29. Getting BuzzFeed Clicks by Drinking and Whining.

30. All Songs Considered: The Year In Music 2015.

31. In search of serendipity, which suggests, “The internet has become so good at meeting our desires that we spend less time discovering new ones. To update the Rolling Stones, you can always get what you want. But you may not get what you need.” I’m not sure I agree, not entirely.

32. 10 Ways Creativity Can Completely Change Your Life from Tiny Buddha. “Creativity is not just for artists or making art. Creativity is life making. It’s anything we do that turns us on, invigorates us, or offers a simple moment of pure merriment.”

33. What This Guy Creates Out Of Paper Really Needs To Be Seen To Be Believed. For real.

34. Burnout: How to deal with creative and mental exhaustion.

35. May You Be Present and Clear, great advice from Be More With Less. “If you want to break up with your busy mind, buzzing phone, and crazy to-do lists to engage in meaningful relationships, try incorporating one of the following ideas.”

36. The In-between State, “Pema Chodron points to the perfect training ground for the spiritual warrior — anxiety, heartbreak, and tenderness.”

37. Hope in the Midst of Hopelessness.

38. The simple way one American mom helped thousands of refugee children. “She’s not a politician or a community leader. She’s a mom who found an amazing way to help refugee families by sending over thousands of baby carriers.” Here’s another short video about her. This is a beautiful story of someone being touched by someone else’s suffering, and then moved to do something to ease it. We all have the opportunity to do the same, in our own way.

39. Pizza Delivery Man Overcome With Emotion After Receiving This Tip.

40. Gifts For Writers, 2015 from Terrible Minds.

41. Miley Cyrus – Silent Night (A Very Murray Christmas).

42. 20+ Simple Tips For A Happy And Healthy Life.

43. Awesome Books of 2015 (at least a few), a great list plus some bonus inspiration from Kira Elliot.

44. Hard Conversations Book Club 2016 from Patti Digh. “This monthly book club provides an avenue for reading and thinking in community about hard topics such as race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, classism, and all the ways in which we ‘other’ people. We will dive deep and have open, honest, and safe dialogue to seek greater understanding of issues with which we may have limited experience. We will emerge changed in significant, enriching ways.” Admission is by donation. I can’t do the club, but I’m making note of the reading list.

45. The Biggest Mistake Pet Owners Make at the End. Having to let two of my dogs go was the hardest decision(s) I ever had to make. This article would have been very helpful, still is.

46. Paper Life – The artist Rogan Brown cuts thousands of microorganisms in paper. Science + art = so cool.

47. Ridiculous Holiday Diet Tips from Dances with Fat.