Category Archives: Kat McNally

Something Good

sidedoorcafe1. Wisdom from Debora Smail, “To make a difference in the world, you must be different from the world.” (Thanks to Karen for sharing).

2. The great PBS NewsHour work-life balance experiment.

3. Nina Simone’s Daughter Says New Documentary About Her Mother Gets It Right.

4. EXCLUSIVE: Bree Newsome Speaks For The First Time After Courageous Act of Civil Disobedience.

5. 5 Genius Gadgets From Japanese Bathrooms That Americans Should Borrow.

6. An Evangelical Pastor At His First Pride Parade.

7. I used to lead tours at a plantation. You won’t believe the questions I got about slavery.

8. I get food stamps, and I’m not ashamed — I’m angry.

9. Here Are 4 Ways to Navigate Whiteness and Feminism – Without Being a White Feminist (TM).

10. This Flow Chart That Destroys Religion’s Case Against Gay Marriage Is So Easy, Any Zealot Can Use It.

11. ‘Elder: A Mormon Love Story.’

12. Not a Civil Debate.

13. Keep It Simple Book Review on decor8.

14. Everything Is Yours, Everything Is Not Yours.

15. How Bestselling Author Austin Kleon Writes, Part One. Austin shared Part Two on his blog.

16. How #AskELJames totally backfired on the ‘Fifty Shades’ author.

17. Truthbomb #832 from Danielle LaPorte, “Your scars are someone else’s signs of hope.”

18. Growing up from Tara Sophia Mohr.

19. How a Devastating Diagnosis Taught me How to Really Live and How to Engage in Social Media without Losing Your Mind and The World is Waiting For You (put it on your to-do list) from Be More With Less.

20. Epilogue: Gussy’s Gone from Sara Seinberg. Because this, “And I lived.”

21. Noisli. “Improve focus and boost your productivity. Mix different sounds and create your perfect environment.”

22. “Spoken word artist Sarah Kay explores time and place in our premiere of #BriefButSpectacular – NewsHour’s new Facebook-first series that every Thursday morning brings you snippets of insight from today’s artists, leaders and thinkers.”

23. Eating Disorder Recovery Advocacy Is Usually Fatphobic – Here Are 4 Ways to Start Fixing That.

24. Good things worth funding: Scott Carver’s Bucket List Fund, and IF WE LEFT: A True Story Movie, and Andres’ Bone Marrow Transplant, and Cosette & Henri – A Tale of Two Puppy Mill Dogs, and Robert Davis Memorial fund, and Journey to Heal.

25. This Tumblr Is Exposing Hollywood’s Problem With People Of Colour.

26. Accepting my Sensitivity Healed my Emotional Eating.

26. The Most Adorable and Awesome Sci-Fi Love Story Ever: The One-Minute Time Machine [Video]

27. Wisdom from Thomas Merton, (shared by Susan Piver), “If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for.”

28. The Dalai Lama: A Model of Someone Who Has Lost A Lot.

29. Did This Woman Witness The Worst Date Ever?

30. The Bill Cosby sexual assault allegations, explained.

31. She Was Told She Shouldn’t Be Wearing A Bikini. Her Response? AMAZING!

32. FIFA is giving the U.S. $2 million for its World Cup win. It gave Germany $35 million in 2014.

33. Rashida Jones On Being Sex-Positive But Still Challenging The Porn Industry.

34. See the Photo That Inspired the Internet to Rally Around a Gay Youth. A ‘Humans of New York’ post generated a flood of positive messages, including one from Hillary Clinton.

35. There are 6 Scriptures about homosexuality in the Bible. Here’s what they really say. P.S. All references to homosexuality are in the Old Testament. Jesus never said one word about it, unless you count “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

36. How ‘Orange Is the New Black’ Misrepresents Women’s Federal Prison (And Why It Matters).

37. Hot and Bothered. Air conditioning isn’t bad for you or even (relatively) for the planet.

38. The art of storytelling, according to the founders of StoryCorps and Humans of New York.

39. The Aftermath Of Bill Cosby’s Admission? That’s Rape Culture.

40. White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh, (a PDF).

41. Dear People Who Live in Fancy Tiny Houses. I love tiny houses and the people who live in them, but this made me giggle.

42. Kitten Wasn’t Going To Survive … Until She Met Her Dog Mom.

43. Be a Great Ally to Fat Folks by Getting Neutral about Food.

44. This Adorable Girl Trying To Hula Hoop Failed So Hard She Won. I wish this video were so much longer.

45. It’s Still Me…Only Sadder.

46. David Letterman Goes Top 10 on Donald Trump.

47. The 37 Best Websites To Learn Something New.

48. Anti-Courage, my old friend from Kirsten Akens.

49. Do you know what you are committing to? from Life is Limitless.

50. 25 Lessons When You’re Ready for a Simpler Life and 7 Things You Gain When You Let Go of Control from Marc and Angel Hack Life.

51. Revolt against the desk.

52. Good stuff shared by Alexandra Franzen: How I met the love of my life. (A true story about what happens when you say what is true.), and 14 Newsletters You Need in Your Inbox, and What to do when a friend is grieving — and you don’t know how to help, and How to get “back on track” with a goal when you’re backsliding, hard.

53. What If Schools Hired Dogs As Therapists? A school in San Diego uses a “facility dog” to offer children a kind of healing that humans sometimes cannot provide.

54. I, Racist.

55. 6 Things to Know About How to Get Out of Funk Town on Zen Habits.

56. Shared on Chookooloonks this was a good week list: What Is Privilege?, and Dad And Daughter Face Off In Epic Beatboxing Battle, If Male Actors Were Described The Way Female Actors Are, and Five beautiful things Danny Gregory saw today.

57. Before You Can Write a Book, You Have to Do THIS First…

58. Good stuff from {Peacefulinks #12}: Idea to Awesome: How Jennifer Louden Created Her Online “Life Navigation Course”, and Visual Thesaurus.

59. Found it, doing it: still me from Kat McNally.

60. New music: (shared by Susannah on her Something for the Weekend list), Oh Wonder.

Reverb14: Day One

reverb14withtextThis is my third year doing Reverb. It’s a great way to reflect on the year that’s coming to a close, to contemplate what I’ve learned and experienced, and to begin to consider where I’d like to focus my time, energy, and effort in the new year. This year, I’ll be responding to prompts from Project Reverb and Reverb14, hosted by my soul sister Kat McNally.

Project Reverb Prompt: Where did you start 2014?

To respond to this prompt, I got out my journal, read the entry from 1-1-14, found myself literally where I started the year. I wrote that I felt sure a big shift was happening in my life. We were getting a new puppy and I was starting yoga teacher training, so for sure a change was coming. Sam was sick and we still didn’t know why.

I had spent the day before decluttering my office, a big project I’d committed to complete over the winter break, to start the new year with an environment that represented more accurately the practice I was doing there, to claim the space. “I couldn’t get rid of some things — letters from Chris [my brother] and mom, the sweater Grandma knit, the collection of nicknacks I’d always imagined in our mountain cabin that now could go in our beach house [the dreamed of second home], love notes from Eric, dog collars and puppy teeth, Little D [Dexter’s favorite toy], old picture prints and negatives, so many books.” Some things I still couldn’t let go of, but other things were easy to let go, “a box of my writing from graduate school, some even older writing, all bad, me trying but not knowing my own voice, spending more time selecting font for the titles.”

I had gone to my favorite yoga teacher Sarada’s New Years Eve class the night before. “We wrote on a piece of paper what we wanted to let go of and what we wanted to invite, and they would burn it later in a ceremonial fire. “I wrote I wanted to let go of anxiety, fear of suffering … I invited love and joy, ease.”

Reverb14 Prompt: What can you say right now with certainty?

I contemplated this prompt for a long time, because part of me wants to answer that there is nothing I know for sure. And yet, the more I thought about it, I could admit there were somethings I was certain about.

  • I want to be here, want to keep trying.
  • I am a writer — this is my path, who I am, who I always have been.
  • Starting is easier than I thought. I imagined all these obstacles, but all you really have to do is take one tiny step.
  • Transformation is harder than I thought. It takes a lot of time and effort, especially when you are working with habits and ways of being that are old, sticky and deep.
  • Becoming myself and being my own best friend is my most important work.
  • I am not in control. I assume I am responsible, that whatever is happening is my fault and I need to fix it, but that’s not always true.
  • Impermanence is real, change is constant. Learning to be okay with that brutal truth is crucial.
  • Numbing out doesn’t work.
  • Only I can save myself, but thankfully there’s lots of help and support available to me.
  • The more you practice being open, the more your heart breaks.
  • I generate my own suffering.
  • There’s a path that offers a way out of that suffering.
  • I can trust myself.
  • I am embodied boundlessness.
  • Living against cultural norms and expectation is difficult and at times painful.
  • You can’t save others, you can only love them.
  • I love to read almost more than I love to write.
  • You never stop missing someone you loved and lost. Never ever ever.
  • Laughter really is the best medicine.
  • I am allowed to rest, to feel what I feel.
  • I don’t need to apologize for or be afraid of who I am.