Daily Archives: September 12, 2012

Happiness is…

This post is inspired by Tammy’s most recent post on Rowdy Kittens, Happiness is…

happiness is this, a picture from earlier this morning

Happiness is a good night’s sleep.

Happiness is a return to wellness after illness or dis-ease.

Happiness is lots of rain after the longest, driest spell.

Happiness is another day with him, with all three of them.

Happiness is a warm shower, a long nap, a good meal and a glass of cold, clean water.

Happiness is pancakes for lunch on a day when you didn’t think you’d be able to eat anything.

Happiness is sharing something meaningful and true, and having it inspire or comfort someone else.

Happiness is quiet, but sometimes it’s as loud as the biggest full body laugh or your favorite song on the radio turned way up.

Happiness is clean laundry.

Happiness is a safe place to put your truth–even better if that safe place is the gentle open heart of another.

Happiness is a cool morning, and wool socks and slippers, and a long, thick purple fleece bathrobe.

Happiness is great, awesome, feels good, but it’s not as important as love or kindness or courage.

Wishcasting Wednesday

What do you wish to reflect on?

The reality of impermanence, the truth of change, the inevitability of death.

The nature of fear, the ways it lies, confuses and distorts the truth, but also the opportunity that shaky, raw feeling presents, to choose to experience reality instead, to stop running away and avoiding life as it is.

Courage and bravery, what it means to live life with your whole heart, open and present, vulnerable and yet incredibly powerful.

The qualities of self-love and self-care, what it means to fully practice them.

The qualities of joy and rest, what it means to fully embody, manifest them.

Health, wellness, and sanity, and how to cultivate, practice them.

Three Truths and One Wish

1. Truth: Self-care doesn’t always look how you’d expect. I don’t know about you, kind and gentle reader, but sometimes I confuse self-care with either total indulgence or complete purity, weekly mani-peds and daily bubble baths or becoming a vegan who meditates two hours every day. I get caught up in either being a pampered princess or a minimalist nun, or some weird mix of the two extremes. In fact, self-care is just that: taking care of yourself, that simple. Some moments that means a whole, organic, meat-free or even entirely raw meal, but other times that means a long morning nap followed by pancakes for lunch, watching sitcoms and staying in your pjs all day.

2. Truth: Self-care requires self-awareness. You have to know and love yourself really well to understand what you need and when, what is a real need and what is an attempt to resist reality, avoid the hard stuff. What you hunger for, what you need and want, is a constantly shifting and evolving set of desires. There won’t be a list you make at one moment of your life that applies to every other moment. Developing a relationship, a friendship, a full on love affair with yourself, a deep down knowing, a wholehearted connection, is what will enable you to provide the very best self-care, and oddly enough is also the most direct path to being able to help others.

3. Truth: I am the one and only constant in my life. I will be separated from all others at some point through changing relationships, geography, and death, but I will never lose myself. Any abandonment or loss of self is simply a momentary confusion, a crisis of faith. That higher, true, core self is always there, that basic goodness that is wise, compassionate, and powerful. It will only die when I do. We will never be separated.

One wish: That we all have a deep, healthy, sane, wholehearted relationship with ourselves. That we have faith in our own capacity for wisdom, compassion, and strength. That our connection to ourselves and others gives us confidence and courage, knowing that we are never alone.