1. Wisdom from Isabel Foxen Duke,
YES, I truly, love and accept my body exactly the way it is — I think it’s cute, I think it’s sexy, and I like the way it looks in my clothes. But that doesn’t mean everyone else thinks so.
The unfortunate reality is that while, I choose not to participate in body-shaming, body manipulating activities (like diets), that doesn’t mean other people aren’t, OR that other people don’t think I should.
No matter how “okay” I am with my body personally, I still have to navigate living in an insanely fat-phobic, thin-privileged, diet-culture world. And that will likely continue to be the case until the day I die (although, God knows I’m doing everything in my power to try and change it).
A big part of doing “body image work” means learning how to handle having different opinions about weight, beauty, and/or “health,” than other people. And that’s something that, unfortunately, doesn’t go away.
At the end of the day, accepting our bodies doesn’t mean that life becomes all rainbows and unicorns — it simply means that instead of making the globally pervasive thin-ideal our problem, we start to see it for what it is: society’s problem.
2. The First 5 Most Frustrating Things About Simplicity (plus solutions) from Be More With Less.
3. Good stuff from Alexandra Franzen: Standard Out of Office Messages Are Boring. Try This Instead, and Good Question, and What are you devoted to creating… in the new year? [a worksheet to help you focus & find the right words].
5. “On the All of It” – Going Om from Marianne Elliott. (Thanks for sharing, Tina).
6. The tiny cost of failure from Seth Godin.
8. The Quickstart Guide to Quitting a Bad Habit on Zen Habits.
9. Let yourself have days to be a perfectly imperfect human being from Brave Girls Club.
10. I Won’t Let You Down by OKGo.
12. 9 Essential Books That Will Transform Your Writing Forever, shared on Tammy’s Happy Links list.
13. The Here Year: Wellness on A Design So Vast.
15. Wisdom from Krishna Das, “Love is what we are; we don’t get it from somebody, we can’t give it to anybody, we can’t fall in it or fall out of it. Love is our true Being.” Also from Krishna Das,
As far as I’m concerned the only thing we need to renounce is our self-hatred and judgement of ourselves, and our sense of unworthiness, and our sense that we are not worthy of love. This is where we should start. If we could just work with that place a little bit the whole quality of our lives would change.
17. Wisdom from Dan Pearce,
Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.
18. Addiction recovery takes body as well as spirit, a piece about Jennifer Matesa and her new book, (it’s SO good), The Recovering Body: Physical and Spiritual Fitness for Living Clean and Sober.
19. Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Paper. How to Not Cheat on Your Creative Life. from Rachael Maddox.
21. Truthbomb #659 from Danielle LaPorte, “Take up space.”
22. Comfortable: 50 People 1 Question.
23. Anne Lamott: “We stuffed scary feelings down, and they made us insane” on Salon, in which she says,
Grief is just so scary. Our grief and rage just terrify us. If we finally begin to cry all those suppressed tears, they will surely wash us away like the Mississippi River. That’s what our parents told us. We got sent to our rooms for having huge feelings. In my family, if you cried or got angry, you didn’t get dinner.
We stuffed scary feelings down, and they made us insane. I think it is pretty universal, all this repression leading to violence and fundamentalism and self-loathing and addiction. All I know is that after 10 years of being sober, with huge support to express my pain and anger and shadow, the grief and tears didn’t wash me away. They gave me my life back! They cleansed me, baptized me, hydrated the earth at my feet. They brought me home, to me, to the truth of me.
24. Wisdom from the Journey of Love deck by Alana Fairchild, (shared by Susannah Conway),
There are many teachers on this path, some humble, some wise, some great companions on your life journey and some who will enter in and out of your life quickly, perhaps imparting a helpful word or teaching you a more challenging lesson about trusting and relying upon your own wisdom. The greatest teacher, however, is Life itself. You can trust your own experiences and know that it is the divine spark within you, the life within you, that is the one true teacher who carries you home in reawakened reunion with the Divine.
25. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön,
The Buddhist master Shantideva set forth a path for training in spiritual warriorship. In his text The Way of the Bodhisattva, he explains how the bodhisattva or spiritual warrior begins the journey by looking honestly at the current state of his or her mind and emotions. The path of saving others from confusion starts with our willingness to accept ourselves without deception.
You would think that a training whose intention was to prepare us to benefit others would focus exclusively on other people’s needs. But the majority of Shantideva’s instructions entail working skillfully with our own blind spots. Until we do this, we are in the dark about how other people feel and what might soothe them.
26. Wisdom from Susan Piver,
Meditation is more than a technology to employ on the path to success or even health. It is a method for communicating with your own brilliance. It is a way to relate with the mystery of your life. Something, everything, is trying to communicate with you. When we use meditation as a means to instruct our reality rather than listen to it, the magic disappears.
27. Because I Love to Make You Laugh and Why I Failed Nutrition Coaching 101 from Sue Ann Gleason. The video at the end is still making me laugh.
28. Why You Have To Destroy Doubt To Create The Life You Want on MindBodyGreen.
29. none of it was a mistake on Effervescence.
30. Wisdom from Jo Pillmore, “We are not here to be perfect. We are here to be whole.”
31. Free Mandala Workshop from Julie Gibbons.
32. Beautiful Things, River Teeth’s weekly column which “features very brief nonfiction that finds beauty in the every day.”
Glimpses, glimmers, meditations, moments, reflections, refractions, interrupted shadows, river shimmers, darkened mirrors, keyholes, kaleidoscopes, earring hoops, slabs of cracked granite, cracks where the light gets in. Beautiful things.
33. Little Hamster Bartenders Serving Tiny Food and Drinks on Bored Panda.
34. What Has Become Clear from Gerri Smalley.
36. Note from the Universe, “If you keep asking ‘May I?’ Jill, I’ll keep asking ‘Will you?’ It’s never been up to me.
37. Holiday Hungers from Rachel Cole.
38. Thrive on Chookooloonks.
40. Taylor Swift’s ‘Shake It Off’ Fits Almost TOO Perfectly With Aerobic Dance Video From 1989. Having lived through the Jane Fonda french cut leotard and big bangs era myself, this made me laugh and laugh and laugh.
41. Wisdom from Galway Kinnell, (shared by Lindsey),
To me, poetry is somebody standing up, so to speak, and saying, with as little concealment as possible, what it is for him or her to be on earth at this moment.
42. Ready as I’ll ever be, from Elizabeth Gilbert on Facebook.
43. Where to Begin? Judith Kitchen from Jeff Oaks.
44. The Disease of Being Busy from On Being.
46. Navigate Your Life: Anna Guest-Jelley, an interview with Jennifer Louden.
47. Wisdom from Jen Lemen,
i don’t know if this path is for everyone.
i don’t know if it should be.
but if it is for you, i know how incredibly painful it is to pretend otherwise, and how difficult it is to constantly question yourself because you have this pain and this truth pulsing inside you that makes it nearly impossible to blow anything off or to try to be like everyone else.