Monthly Archives: September 2019

Something Good

1. Talking Back to WW: Personal Body Stories on Be Nourished.

2. Calls for Kavanaugh’s Impeachment Come Amid New Misconduct Allegations on The New York Times. In related news, Democratic presidential candidates call for Brett Kavanaugh’s impeachment after new allegation.

3. On Shaun King by DeRay Mckesson. In related news, DeRay, attention, fame, fundraising, integrity, deflection, projection and the desperate need for us to actually focus on doing the work in front of us by Shaun King. Someone on Twitter called this feud “woke on woke crime.”

4. Tina Turner Is Having the Time of Her Life on The New York Times. “A Swiss chateau. A Broadway musical all about her. And absolutely nothing she has to do.”

5. Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards Finalists Prove that Nature Has a Sense of Humor.

6. The Abolish ICE Movement Explained.

7. FDA names 16 brands of dog food linked to canine heart disease. “The FDA is investigating more than 500 reports that appear to link dog foods that are marketed as ‘grain free’ to canine dilated cardiomyopathy.”

8. Bill Maher, James Cordon, and Fat-Shaming.

9. Michigan Police Officer Is Terminated After K.K.K. Application Was Found in His Home on The New York Times. “A prospective homebuyer found Confederate flags and a framed Ku Klux Klan application in the officer’s house in Holton, Mich.” My opinion: This is the appropriate response. Being a white supremacist should make you unemployable, in any field.

10. There Are No Nazi Memorials.

11. Meat May Be Murder, But Tofu Is Too. “In Brazil, land is being cleared at an alarming rate to plant every vegetarian’s favorite crop: Soy.”

12. To Hell With Y’all: Charlottesville Judge Rules Confederate Statues Will Stay.

13. In praise of Earth, Wind & Fire, purveyor of black excellence for a half-century.

14. New Hope, New Pain, Same Old Divorce on The New York Times. “As a queer woman, I fought for the right to be married. Now I’m fighting for the space to be human.”

15. The 100 Best Notebooks, As Tested by Strategist Editors.

16. Gorgeous, the song and the dancing.. (video)

17. 145 CEOs Call On Senate To Pass ‘Common-sense, Bipartisan’ Gun Laws.

18. Trump Administration Rolls Back Clean Water Protections on The New York Times. How is it that we don’t all just automatically agree that we need to keep our water and air safe, that they need to be protected so we can live?! How is this even a discussion?!

19. Victory by a high school swimmer disqualified for a ‘wedgie’ is reinstated by Alaska officials.

20. HSPs and Trauma.

21. This Routine Gyno Procedure Could Mean You Never Orgasm Again. This is terrifying!

22. Police choked and cuffed this teen after entering his home without a warrant — and they never charged him with a crime. (video)

23. The Log 2: Another Year. (video)

24. ‘People Actively Hate Us’: Inside the Border Patrol’s Morale Crisis on The New York Times. “Overwhelmed by desperate migrants and criticized for mistreating the people in their care, many agents have grown defensive, insular and bitter.”

25. “White People, Stop centering yourself”!

26. ‘Don’t Stop Believin” Goes On And On, Because We Need It To.

27. What The Inventories Of Various Emergency Services Look Like Over The World (30 Pics).

28. PS22 Choir sings “Peace” by O.A.R. (video)

Gratitude Friday

1. Fall. The actual first day of fall is a little over a week away and we still have days in the forecast calling for the upper 80s, but yesterday I wore long sleeves, long pants, and socks all day, and this morning when we woke up it was 51 degrees outside, The chrysanthemums and clematis are blooming and our tomatoes are finally producing, so I’m calling it early — it’s fall!

2. Cooking. I am really enjoying doing more cooking, trying new recipes, eating good food.

3. Flowers in the bathroom. Eric brought me home flowers this week. I haven’t had flowers all summer, except for my peonies and a bouquet from Chloe’. They changed the farmer’s market hours to later which kept me from getting there all summer, and after two gnat infestations the end of last summer and the beginning of this one, I was wary because flowers just feed the gnats, ensure they keep producing future generations. I missed the flowers.

4. Ringo. Since I’ve been home more, he’s been so sweet to me. Since he’s getting older, he’s getting easier to live with and easier to love. Had to sneak this next picture through a dirty window so I wouldn’t wake him up. This kind of peace was a long time coming and hard won. Used to be this boy had to be constantly entertained and monitored, especially in the backyard. He got into stuff, ate things he shouldn’t, dug holes, and barked. Now, with six years old just a few months away, he can take himself out and lounge in the sun, with only the occasional bark or roll in a dead worm, and I don’t have to worry he’s out there killing himself.

5. Sam. I was so stressed out about him last week — he slipped and fell in the kitchen twice and threw up his dinner one night. He’s almost ten years old, as old as any of our dogs have ever been, and the awareness that he’s going to die is always right there. He was the dog that took me the longest to bond with, he felt more like Eric’s dog for the first few years and I was just missing my Obi and Dexter, but now he’s my sweet shadow and when he goes I’m really going to miss him.

5. Eric. All the things he does to take care of our tiny family, laughing with him, how he appreciates the things I do, how committed he is to his colleagues and students, his kitchen counter love notes (see a whole collection of them on Instagram).

Bonus joy: Glazed lemon zucchini bread, zucchini gratin, grilled cheese, breakfast for dinner, leftovers, clean sheets on the bed, all the laundry done and put away, excellent credit, money in savings, a whole day with no plans, good movies (the new Mindy Kaling one on Amazon Prime, Late Night, was really good), good TV (I’ve been watching a lot of tiny house shows lately), good books (I’m finally reading the rest of Maya Angelou’s autobiographies), hanging out with Mikalina and Chloe’ (having friends who make you laugh, but also who you can cry with and say “I love you” and fully trust with your truth is a big deal), morning walks, teaching yoga, writing, naps.

Something Good

From our walk

1. What is Minimalism? Maybe it’s not what you think from Be More With Less.

2. Mondo Beyondo with Andrea Scher. This was the course that started it ALL for me. I highly recommend it. Next 6 week session begins on Monday, September 16, 2019.

3. The Scourge of Worker Wellness Programs. “Employers have become obsessed with improving the health of their employees. But does it do anyone any good?”

4. In Conversation: Liz Phair On being misunderstood, working with Ryan Adams, and the dawn of Girlville.

5. Mom hosting a BBQ. (video) This reminds me of this video and this one.

6. “Brittany Runs A Marathon” Claims Body Positivity, but Promotes A Weight Loss Fantasy. “The film markets itself as a progressive counterpoint to diet culture. It’s not.”

7. Linda Hamilton Fled Hollywood, but ‘Terminator’ Still Found Her on The New York Times. “Decades after the first sequel, the 62-year-old actress hesitated to return to her iconic role: ‘I didn’t want my neighbors looking at me differently.'”

8. The Book of Prince. “Prince had grand plans for his autobiography, but only a few months to live.”

9. Good stuff from Karen Walrond of Chookooloonks, her this was a good week list: Hurricane Dorian – How Best to Help Right Now, and Strange Planet’s Instagram account, and The Atlas of Beauty, and Widowhood 101.

10. ‘Everything is not going to be okay’: How to live with constant reminders that the Earth is in trouble.

11. Transforming Overwhelm & Burden to Something Powerful from Zen Habits.

12. What Would You Do If You Had 10 Years Left? I am equal parts sad and angry to hear that Elana’s cancer is back.

13. Mindfulness vs. Meditation: What’s the Difference? An important distinction.

14. At Least 100 Bahamians Forced Off Boat Headed to U.S. Because They Didn’t Have Visas.

15. “Sometimes I hate everything and then I think about my dogs and I almost die from gratitude.” ~Heidi Randall. So true.

16. Another Tesla driver was caught sleeping behind the wheel on the highway. (video) This is a very, very bad idea.

17. 26 Too-Real Tweets For Couples Who Spoil The Heck Out Of Their Dogs.

18. #JewsAgainstICE Are Saying “Never Again” in the Face of Crisis.

19. Ijeoma Oluo: ‘I am drowning in whiteness.’

20. What Happens When a Highly Sensitive Person Grows Up with Emotional Neglect? In related news, How to Overcome the Biggest HSP Challenges, According to a Therapist.

21. This ‘honorary grandpa’ volunteers at his local YMCA, playing games like Jenga and four square with local kids. (video)

22. Veterinarians Are Killing Themselves. An Online Group Is There To Listen And Help.

23. For Healthy Kids, Skip the Kurbo App.

24. Missy Elliott Opens Up About Depression & How A 14-Year Hiatus Gave Her “Peace Of Mind.”

25. Trump Shows A Fake Hurricane Map Altered With A Sharpie, Inspires 30 Hilarious Memes.

26. The co-writer of ‘Crazy Rich Asians’ turned down the sequel project after learning her white, male colleague was offered 10x her salary. (video)

27. What’s Missing From “White Fragility.” “Robin DiAngelo’s idea changed how white progressives talk about themselves—and little else.”

28. Victim Of Brock Turner Sexual Assault Reveals Her Identity.

29. Vaping appears to be making hundreds of people sick. Doctors have no idea why.

30. Pentagon to Divert Money From 127 Projects to Pay for Trump’s Border Wall on The New York Times.

Three Truths and One Wish

1. I keep waiting for my energy to come back. To be honest, I’m starting to worry that it won’t, that this is my new normal. And just when I start to freak out about that a little, I remind myself that healing takes time and I need to be patient.

2. My urge to teach may, at least in part, be me avoiding writing. I have so many ideas and plans for classes, and I realized the other day I was allowing them to take priority over my writing plans and projects. I’ve wanted to be a writer since the 2nd grade, when I realized it was a thing people did, a thing I could do, and I think now that I finally, finally, finally have the opportunity, I’m hesitant to start. I need to get out of my own way. This is helping: Elizabeth Gilbert’s free 10-step Writing Academy.

3. Every idea I have, my mind leaps immediately to how I can monetize it, share it, turn it into “something.” I have lost touch with my ability to create for the sake of creation, and it has me a little stuck. I need to simply make stuff for the sake of making — for joy, for insight, for release, for ease, for clarity…for nothing. Again, I need to be patient.

One wish: That we remember to rest, that we trust it takes time to shift things, that our effort doesn’t have to result in a particular something, that it can be nothing, that none of it has to happen quickly, and that our effort and ease don’t have to have value beyond our own experience of them. Be patient. Keep going. Don’t give up.

Something Good

Image by Eric

1. Reasons to be Cheerful. “Reasons to be Cheerful is a non-profit editorial project that is tonic for tumultuous times. We tell stories that reveal that there are, in fact, a surprising number of reasons to feel cheerful. Many of these reasons come in the form of smart, proven, replicable solutions to the world’s most pressing problems. We’re here to tell you about some of them. Through sharp reporting, our stories balance a sense of healthy optimism with journalistic rigor, and find cause for hope. We are part magazine, part therapy session, part blueprint for a better world. Reasons to be Cheerful was founded by artist and musician David Byrne, who believes in the power of approaching the world with curiosity—in art, in music, in collaboration and in life. Under the banner of Byrne’s Arbutus Foundation, Reasons to be Cheerful embodies this sensibility, applying it now to the future of our world. Through stories of hope, rooted in evidence, Reasons to be Cheerful aims to inspire us all to be curious about how the world can be better, and to ask ourselves how we can be part of that change.”

2. On Wellness, Nike, and Fat Mannequins.

3. Move For The Joy Of It: Workouts That Don’t Feel Like Work. In related news, headspace, not bodyspace from Karen Walrond.

4. Wabi-Sabi For Artists, Designers, Poets & Philosophers. “Lion’s Roar presents an excerpt from Leonard Koren’s gem, Wabi-Sabi for Artists, Designers, Poets and Philosophers, considered a class statement on this Japanese aesthetic.”

5. Trump Shares Campaign Video With Image Used by White Supremacist Group.

6. Questions About Marianne Williamson’s Weight Loss Advice. “I read ‘A Course for Weight Loss.’ I’m fat. And I have questions for the presidential candidate.”

7. Op-Art: The Shame of Crowdfunding Health Care on The New York Times. “I fell off a bike into an outpouring of charity. But Americans shouldn’t have to seek out strangers to pay health bills.”

8. How to Draw Yourself Out of a Creative Funk on The New York Times. “Malaka Gharib, the author of the coming-of-age graphic memoir I Was Their American Dream, shares her tips.”

9. A female inmate was forced to give birth alone on a bench in her cell at Denver County Jail without any medical treatment. In related news, A woman says her cries for help were ignored as she gave birth in jail. Her story is one of many.

10. How Shift Happens in Our Lives on Zen Habits.

11. 14 Contradictions That INFJs Experience Every Day.

12. What Color Is Your Hamster Wheel? from Laura Simms.

13. Naomi and Coco Gave Us The Best Sports and Black Girl Magic Moment of the Year.

14. White Tears Attempt to Drown Out the True History of Louisiana Plantation: ‘Very Racist. If You’re White, Don’t Go.’

15. “It’s pretty amazing that a four-year-old has a best friend who’s 95 years old.” (video)

15. Valerie Harper, Who Played Beloved TV Sidekick Rhoda, Dies At 80.

16. Trouble in paradise: Trump attacks Fox News – and Fox News hits back.

17. ‘Where I’m From’: A Crowdsourced Poem That Collects Your Memories Of Home.

18. Stop what you’re doing and just watch this. (video)

19. The Great British Baking Show returns to Netflix this weekend. Woo-Hoo!

20. Jessi Combs, TV Host and Racecar Driver, Dies in Attempt at Land Speed Record on The New York Times.

21. NORPAC files Chapter 11 bankruptcy, reaches deal to sell itself to Oregon Potato Company. This was my first real job at 15. I worked the graveyard shift three summers in a row. It was some of the only work available. “NORPAC was established as a co-op then known as Stayton Canning Company in 1924 in Stayton by a group of Oregon farmers and grew to include 240 farms from Portland to Eugene.” They’ll be closing the Stayton plant in October. I feel weirdly sad about it.

22. Brazil Rejects G-7’s Offer Of $22 Million To Fight Amazon Fires.

23. Help our family avoid homelessness. If you have something to give, this is a good start.

24. Meet The Teen Who Registered People To Vote While They Waited In Line At Popeyes.

25. Why Are Writers Particularly Drawn to Tarot?

26. The Thing About Safety. Author Ijeoma Oluo’s son was endangered when someone called police, pretending to be him, and said he murdered two people – and the harassment didn’t stop there.

27. Deadly Dieting Tools: Who Loses When Weight Watchers Sets Its Eyes on Children?

28. ‘Let’s do it now’: Greta Thunberg crosses Atlantic and calls for urgent climate action.

29. Fighting Burnout, Rest Debt, and Work as a False Path to Self-Worth.

30. 8 Podcasts for Anyone Nervously Facing Retirement.