Three Truths and One Wish


1. Truth: I’m practicing “like my hair is on fire.” This is a phrase that is used in Buddhism to talk about the mix of a sense of urgency and the confidence to not lapse into despair. I think about it a lot, considering our current “situation.” I’m finishing up 37 Days of Activism, and just started Hard Conversations: An Introduction to Racism and Healing from Toxic Whiteness, all really great online courses. Today I’m doing Safe Zone training through the Pride Center at CSU. I started a group called the Hen House Collective to have some company during this process, to help me filter through all the information and figure out what actions to take. I meditate and write every morning, and do yoga when I can. My hair is on fire.

2. Truth: I’m trying to also take care of myself. I’m trying to keep my sense of humor, get enough rest, eat good food, not get overwhelmed or burn out. In fact, I vow to not burn out:

Aware of suffering and injustice, I, Jill Salahub, am working to create a more just, peaceful, and sustainable world. I promise, for the benefit of all, to practice self-care, mindfulness, healing, and joy. I vow to not burn out.

3. Truth: I am staying curious. “Not knowing is a prerequisite for learning,” (Patti Digh). I am trying to listen, deeply and compassionately, without an agenda and without judgement. As Pema Chödrön said, “The only reason we don’t open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don’t feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with.” I remind myself that being uncomfortable isn’t a bad thing, and try to lean in to that, stay open.

(More than) One Wish: May we stay curious and open, listen deeply and compassionately, not giving in to despair, and maintain our sense of humor even as it seems like the worst is happening. May we also have the discernment to know right action, and be brave enough to take it when necessary. May we continue to be courageous, having the willingness to be wounded, and confident in the way Susan Piver describes it, “the willingness to be as ridiculous, luminous, intelligent, and kind as you really are, without embarrassment.”

8 thoughts on “Three Truths and One Wish

  1. Rita

    I love all of these, Jill. I am right there with you. On fire, in a (mostly) warming way, rather than a scorching one. Really appreciate all you do to share what you learn.

    1. jillsalahub Post author

      I don’t know if you’ve ever heard this one, Rita: I don’t have to set myself on fire to keep you warm. I have to remind myself of that one too. I’m loving what you are doing “over there” too, am sharing next week on my Something Good list.

      1. ritaramstad

        I haven’t heard that one, but I wish I had about 25 years ago. My younger self could have used that. Thrilled to hear you want to share the project. I would love to have people from your community in the conversations I hope we’ll have.

  2. amy stewart-mailhiot

    Just what i needed today. I especially love your vow….may take that one into my own practice (changing name, of course 😉

    1. jillsalahub Post author

      Mushim Ikeda, the author of the article I linked to, actually came up with the vow, I just took it. It’s such a good reminder to me, as I tend to not be so great about taking care of myself when there’s so much else that needs taken care of too. ❤

  3. jan

    Thank you for your post. I am with you too. Just looking for a way to be with the USA and the world in solidarity next week and for the rest of my life.


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