Gratitude

1. Morning walks. Once again this week we had snow and morning temperatures that were below zero, so I only got to go on one walk. The rest of the days, Ringo ran with Eric and a few mornings were so cold even that wasn’t an option. The day I got to go was gorgeous. I’ve been going a bit earlier to still be able to catch the sunrise and be out before most people, to feel like we have the whole world to ourselves for a bit.

2. So many canceled plans. I felt a real need for some space this week, unscheduled time, and thought how nice it would be to “take the week off.” Then the week started and things got canceled left and right without me needing to do a thing. I really needed it and had some good rest as well as got some good work done.

3. Trying new recipes. And how easy that is with so many good recipe websites. I’m currently looking for ways to get lots of fiber and vegetables in recipes that are satisfying in all the ways. They don’t always turn out how you’d hoped, and sometimes they prove to be something you’d never make again, but I enjoy and appreciate the process. I’m grateful for the content creators who share recipes, for the internet that gives me access, and for the privilege that gives me the ability to find and pay for the ingredients and cooking utensils and appliances and electricity I need.

4. Writing. I’m trying a new approach to working on “The Book”, which is turning in to as many as five books as I make my way, and it’s really been helping. I tend to immerse myself in a project 110%, don’t take the breaks I need or pace myself and end up confused or burnt out, and I have old lingering perfectionist tendencies. It’s all or nothing. Not only does this make the process difficult, uncomfortable, and no fun, it means I’m not getting much accomplished other than beating myself up. I started offering myself some grace this past week — “you only have to write for an hour and a half and try to get 500 words, then stop and do something else, and if you can’t work on it every single day, that’s okay.” These short bursts have keep things fresh and more interesting for me, less like homework or a chore. I also keep reminding myself that I’m learning something new and that takes time and a lot of mistakes, that it’s all part of the process.

5. My tiny family, tiny home, tiny life. Sitting on the couch with Eric talking about all the important things and nothing at all, watching Antiques Roadshow together, cooking together, taking care of each other, laughing at Ringo and making each other laugh. 

Bonus joy: new spices, snow days, sitting in the sauna with Eric, swimming laps at the pool, the hydromassage chair, training with Shelby and the gang, texting with Chris and Chloe’ and Mom, sharing Instagram reels with Mikalina and Shellie, meditating early in the morning, the new flannel sheets I got (so soft!), stickers, raspberries, albacore tuna, cucumbers, walnuts, salt and sugar and pepper, citrus, clean sheets, a big glass of cool clean water, a warm shower, soft towels, down pillows and blankets, a warm dog, opening all the windows for a bit to let some fresh air in even when it’s cold outside, cupcakes and muffins, gummy supplements, borrowing eBooks from the library, having lost things worth grieving, the promise of our garden, birds in the feeder, the chance to start over and begin again, listening to podcasts and audiobooks and music, flowers, trees, houseplants (seriously, the amount of effort required is so small compared to the joy they give), Insight timer, my moon lamp, poetry and poets, reading in bed while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

Image by Eric

1. Ebb and Flow: Writing woes, the Monet-Mitchell exhibition, and Yann Tiersen on the Metro from Summer Brennan, which led to Essay Discussion: The Smoker by Ottessa Moshfegh (“A close reading of that essay you loved/hated/thought was just okay”) and Jailbait.

2. The Work is Not Enough: A Real Laundry Apocalypse of a Week from Anne Helen Petersen. “When your life is this precariously balanced, weekends aren’t for rest or reflection, not really. They’re for cramming in the things you had no time for during the week …then catching up or setting up or meal planning or doing enough laundry in preparation for the week to come.”

3. The only good coffee is bad coffee“An incomplete list of some versions I love.”

4. Recipe I want to try: Pizza Beans.

5. Gorgeous poetry from Rosemerry Wathola Trommer: To Those Who Are Comforting a Woman Who Lost a Child Today, and Hearth, and Eternity in an Hour, and Though I Respond to My Name, I Am Aware.

6. Loneliness and Social Isolation — Tips for Staying ConnectedIn related news, Politics And America’s Loneliness Epidemic.

7. For My Mother Who Means To Feel Everything from Laurie Wagner.

8. 5 (Incorrect) Assumptions People Make About Introverts Because They’re ‘Quiet’.

9. 25 Reasons Why You Should Write a Book from Alexandra Franzen. (pdf)

10. Dinner Parties, Diet Culture and Social Control with Virginia Sole-Smith. “If you are hosting an event, make your home a safe space where people don’t have to apologize or explain or justify how they eat. I think that is a pretty radical and powerful way to build community.”

11. Here for This from Jena Schwartz. Also from Jena, Social Media, the Trees, and Reclaiming My Life.

12. Why Do So Many Men Destroy What They Can’t Control? “And why do so many people support them?”

13. Banning ideas and authors is not a ‘culture war’ – it’s fascism“The media’s framing of measures like Florida’s African American studies ban is a dangerous falsification of reality.”

14. Life After the Ohio Train Derailment: Trouble Breathing, Dying Animals, and Saying Goodbye“After a train derailment in East Palestine, Ohio, leaked noxious chemicals, residents in the area are still trying to recover.”

15. A.I. and the Fetishization Of Ideas from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds. “And herein lies the problem with the sudden surge and interest in artificial intelligence. AI-generated creativity isn’t creativity. It is all hat, no cowboy: all idea, no execution.” In related news on The New York Times, A Conversation With Bing’s Chatbot Left Me Deeply Unsettled. “A very strange conversation with the chatbot built into Microsoft’s search engine led to it declaring its love for me.”

16. SZA’s Ruination Brought Her Everything on The New York Times. “Her moody, enigmatic music made her a megastar. Can she learn to live with success?”

17. How to find your voice from Austin Kleon.

18. Marie Kondo is messy now—and it’s actually expanding her brand“Admitting her flaws endeared Kondo to fans, and made her brand about more than cleanliness.”

19. “There’s No Story to Tell About Swimming.” Madeleine Watts on How to Quiet the Mind“Introducing When I’m Not Writing, a Series About Writers and Their Hobbies.”

20. How to Survive a Busy Season.

21. How to offer help when you don’t know what to say.

22. 60 Monthly Journaling Prompts to Help You Make the Most of 2023.

23. 6 things people do around the world to slow down.

24. 37 Practices of BodhisattvasI’m currently reading Reflections on Silver River: Tokme Zongpo’s Thirty-Seven Practices of a Bodhisattva by Ken I McLeod and it is SO good.

25. This is our world(Instagram reel) “Here’s a short compilation of some of the wild animals that I have seen [in Sweden] the last two years.”

26. A new song from The Bengsons(Facebook video) “May we come back from the other place – that nightland of pain and fear and anger, the underworld of ourselves- with our fists full of flowers and stars on our cheeks.”

27. Three New Stand-Up Specials, Three Very Different Approaches on The New York Times. “In the mix this month are hour sets from a maturing Marc Maron, a very funny Nathan Macintosh and a pandering Roseanne Barr.” In related news, After tragic loss, Marc Maron finds joy amidst grief with ‘From Bleak to Dark’.

28. The Repatriation of a Massive Collection of Native Ancestors and Artifacts by the FBI May Be A Model for NAGPRA’s Future.

29. RAIN and Grieving, with Tara Brach. (video) “When we have losses that have not been fully grieved, it can be helpful to be guided by the mindfulness and self-compassion of RAIN. As this guided meditation is brief you may need to take more time with each of the steps…approaching grieving with a patient, gentle and curious heart.” In related news and also from Tara Brach, Grieving and Timeless Love. (video)

30. Building Beauty: A Reflection With Spy Boy Walter

31. Syrian baby born in earthquake adopted by aunt and uncleThey named her Afraa, after her mother. “This girl means so much to us because there’s no-one left of her family besides this baby.”

32. Jimmy Carter, 39th US president, enters hospice care at home“‘I’m perfectly at ease with whatever comes,’ he said in 2015. ‘I’ve had an exciting, adventurous and gratifying existence.'”

33. Sprawling, Color-Coded Arrangements Expose the Intricate Underbellies of Mushrooms.

34. What Dentists Wish You Knew on The New York Times.

35. A Love Letter to Libraries, Long Overdue on The New York Times. “The New York Times sent photographers to seven states to document the thrum and buzz in buildings once known for silence.”

36. Covid-19 infection offers strong protection against reinfection for about 10 months, study finds.

37. Laura Pritchett: Hughes Stadium tract should become protected open space“Fort Collins can seize the chance to save it from development and overuse, while honoring its past and preserving it for future generations.”

38. Musk’s Twitter is getting worse“The broken Twitter everyone warned us about is finally here.”

39. Museum of Lost Memories helps reunite misplaced family mementos with their owners.

40. 10 Simple Ways to Get Back on Track from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less.