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Gratitude Friday


This post started as a mashup of The Little Bliss List and Joy Jam, and as such is meant to celebrate: the little things that brought me hope and happiness this week, the sweet stuff of life, those small gifts that brought me joy this week. By sharing them, I not only make public my gratitude, but maybe also help you notice your own good stuff and send some positive energy out into the world.

1. Running. You heard that right, and no this isn’t a joke. I am grateful that I am alive, healthy, and my body is up for it.

2. Clarity. About the help I need, about where to focus my energy, time, effort. I had an awesome coaching session with Andrea Scher this week, and her ability to see, her compassionate and clear vision, always surprises me, touches me, inspires me.

3. Good things happening to good people. People who have been working, trying so hard, suffering and struggling and loving as big as they can stretch, people who deserve it, people I love, people who inspire and support me.

4. Sleep. I’d like even more of it, but I’m grateful for the rest I do get, and that it’s usually easy for me, there’s no struggle involved, that I can surrender to it.

5. Laughing with Eric. Only he’ll understand this, but this one is for you, Mr. Salahub: “This is designed to hurt. This is designed to hurt.” I’m so lucky we find the same things funny, can so easily make each other laugh.

Bonus Joy: Another week with Dexter. This time has taught me so much about being present, about gentleness and play, about love.


#SmallStone: Day 20

Sleeping In, Waking up

Sometimes waking up is a really long process. When I said I was only staying in for a few minutes, I meant it. But when there’s someone else willing and able to feed the dogs, give Dexter his medicine, and when Sam comes back after he’s finished eating and cuddles next to me, warm and soft and so relaxed, listening to his breathing becomes a lullaby and a few minutes stretches into a few hours.

#SmallStone: Day Twelve



I’m surprised to find you sleeping under my desk. I had been working and hadn’t noticed you there, either didn’t see you come in or had already forgotten it. I hear you sigh and shift before I see you. I am so happy that you are there, are still here, comfortably resting, but also sad that I hadn’t realized, been aware of you. This is how you are in my life, constant and present, even when I get too busy and don’t remember to notice, and this is how you will be, until the day when finally you are not.

Joy Jam

What were the 3-5 things that gave you joy this week?

1. Kickstarter: I gave to two Kickstarter campaigns this week. One was:

Another is a book project, “Realizing Empathy: an Inquiry into the Meaning of Making.” It made me happy to give, made me feel like an old timey benefactor. It gives me joy to be able to help an artist do good work, and happy to know that if I come up with a good project that needs funding, this is available to me.

Kickstarter is the world’s largest funding platform for creative projects. Every week, tens of thousands of amazing people pledge millions of dollars to projects from the worlds of music, film, art, technology, design, food, publishing and other creative fields…Each and every project is the independent creation of someone like you. Projects are big and small, serious and whimsical, traditional and experimental. They’re inspiring, entertaining and unbelievably diverse.

2. Payday: (This is related to being able to give to Kickstarter campaigns). I don’t always love my job. A lot of the time, it gets in the way of how I would prefer to spend my time, the work I’d rather be paid for, the life I’d rather live, but the satisfaction of being able to do work I can feel good about most of the time, pay my bills, give to worthy causes, spend a little and save a little makes me happy, gives me joy.

3. Good News: I won’t share what it is exactly, because it’s someone else’s personal business, but I’d been worried and the news means there’s nothing to worry about (at least for now, and until the next thing). Even if the relief is temporary or short-lived (because the reality is things are always changing and the nature of life is suffering), it is nice to get good news, and to feel grateful for it, to sit for just a minute with the idea that for now, everything is okay.

4. Sleeping: I had a moment last night when I woke up and felt so happy about my bed, my sheets, my pillows and blankets, my three sleeping boys–and the fact that I was comfortable and relaxed and would be falling back to sleep soon.

5. Epiphany: Both of these were unknowingly facilitated by friends. It reminded me that you can’t really ever know what word or action (or even silence, non-action) will be the one that really makes a difference for someone. I don’t think either friend had any idea that that one idea was the one out of everything else that caused a shift, was the exact thing I needed to hear.

For now, I’ll just give you a taste of what I realized with their help (I’ll post something more about it later): you might get more out of sinking more deeply into “this” than taking on something else/more, and sometimes discursive mind is a sign that something needs to be heard, given your attention.

Bonus moment of joy: I had breakfast this morning with a friend and her little girl. At first, the little one was so shy, she didn’t even want to sit across the table from me, needed to be in Mom’s lap. By the end of our meal, she had softened, and on the way out, she asked me to hold her hand and then blew me a kiss. *heart melting*