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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

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Pie chart

Eric posted this picture collage on Facebook last night and captioned it, “Pie Chart.” It was delicious.

1. Me And White Supremacy – The Workbook. “Part education, part activation, the Me And White Supremacy Workbook is a first-of-its-kind personal anti-racism tool for people holding white privilege to begin to examine and dismantle their complicity in the oppressive system of white supremacy.” Seriously, just download it.

2. 4 Ways to Find More Peace Around Difficult People.

3. Are you being gaslit? Here are some things people do when they are gaslighting you.

4. The Art of Activism: Hard Conversations Book Club 2019. A reading list worth considering.

5. 16 Signs You’re An INFJ, The World’s Rarest Personality Type. In related news, 6 Things You May Not Know About Introverts, Illustrated, and You’re Not Crazy, You’re A Highly Sensitive Person.

6. 100 questions to spark conversation & connection. I’ve shared this before, but it’s so good it’s worth sharing again and again.

7. When, if ever, is it okay for a Buddhist to euthanize a pet? on Lion’s Roar.

8. How to Be an Artist. “33 rules to take you from clueless amateur to generational talent (or at least help you live life a little more creatively).”

9. Worst Holiday Diet Tips Ever from Dances with Fat.

10. Good Reads: Small Space Style from SF Girl. My dream is enough property to have this in my backyard. Actually, what would be the best is a converted barn: ground floor yoga studio, upstairs private office, practice space, potential spare bedroom, and a bathroom.

11. ‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’ on Ask Polly.

12. Please stop telling me to leave my comfort zone. “Our comfort zones are there to protect us, even if productivity specialists say otherwise.”

13. Sacred Bow: An Intentional Way to Close Out the Year & Start the New Year on Zen Habits.

14. First The Why, Now The How: 25 Ways To Keep Making Stuff from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

15. Taking Pics Of Fat People On Planes on Dances with Fat. In related news, To the newspaper that encouraged “discreetly” photographing fat airline passengers, “USA Today Travel released a video instructing passengers to post photographs to social media if they felt their space was invaded. One fat passenger responds.”

16. An Intentional System for Working with Goals on Zen Habits.

17. Winter Joy Retreat 2018: “Threads.” “Remember what makes you come alive to start 2019 filled with new energy and focused on creating what matters. (A two-week online writing group for women, Dec. 3-16, 2018).”

18. Gifts For Writers 2018 from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

19. Black Boy Fly: 53 Children’s Books Centering and Celebrating the Humanity of Black Boys.

20. Stunning images of pagan costumes worn at winter celebrations around the world.

21. N.K. Jemisin Is Trying to Keep the World From Ending. “The most critically acclaimed author in contemporary science fiction and fantasy made history this year. Now she’s trying to make the future.”

22. Full Interview: Michelle Obama Talks To Stephen Colbert. (video)

23. For these female prisoners, dance is an emotional outlet and a means of expression. (video)

24. A garbage man saved 25,000 books and turned them into a library. The pictures are amazing.

25. Researchers Find That Losing A Dog Can Be As Hard As Losing A Loved One. I could have saved them a lot of work. All they had to do is ask me.

26. The way Gina Yashere handled this case of everyday racism is brilliant. (video)

27. Meet entrepreneur and farmer Suzan, who uses her allotment of land to grow products that contribute to the local economy in Uganda. (video)

28. This 9-year-old pro skater is traveling the globe to help underprivileged kids. (video)

29. He can’t go to sleep without cuddling his favourite toy. (video)

30. This Indian village has found a unique way to protect newborn girls from infanticide. (video)

31. Jameela Jamil says cultural pressures to look a certain way led to an eating disorder in her teens. (video)

32. This guy has the funniest relationship with his dog. (video)

33. Remembering the Howard University Librarian Who Decolonized the Way Books Were Catalogued. “Dorothy Porter challenged the racial bias in the Dewey Decimal System, putting black scholars alongside white colleagues.”

34. Magnitude 7.0 Earthquake Shakes Alaska, Damaging Roads, Buildings. Yikes!

35. Everybody Dance Now! (video)

36. It’s Not Just Grain-Free: An Update on Diet-Associated Dilated Cardiomyopathy.

37. NRA Reports $55 Million Loss With Membership Declines.

38. How dealing with past trauma may be the key to breaking addiction.

39. Black women are 243% more likely to die from pregnancy or childbirth-related complications than white women — this father brought his heartbreaking story to Congress to change that. (video)

40. A pod of beluga whales has adopted a lost narwhal. (video)

41. This Video of a Guy Accidentally Hang Gliding Without a Harness Is Pure Terror. Reason #43 why I will never hanglide, bungie jump, or skydive.

42. 12 Things to Look Forward to If You Ever Appear on ‘House Hunters.’ I know it’s fake, but I’m still gonna watch it.

43. Japan has so many empty homes, they’re just giving ’em away for free. (video)

44. A 60-year-old woman sent a rap about her dog to this guy to be performed, and it’s got me right in the feels. (video) Consider yourself warned.

45. It’s Time To Unpack White Fragility. (video) “Dr. Robin DiAngelo has spent 20 years running diversity trainings within companies in the US. She’s heard every excuse from white people: that they’re ‘color blind’ or that their ‘best friend is black.’ Surely they aren’t racists. Why are white people so bad at talking about race?”

46. Slowly but surely, the Amazon Prime backlash is coming.

47. Whoever made Baby Shark into a slow jam needs to be arrested. (video)

48. This is “the yoga school for big people.” (video)

49. In this week’s edition of People Behaving Badly: Boston Police Has a Secret Point System That Turns Normal Teenage Behavior Into Gang Membership, and A Famous Alpha Wolf’s Daughter, Spitfire, Is Killed by a Hunter, and Utah Man Allegedly Shouted ‘I Hate Mexicans’ Before Attacking Latino Father And Son, and Black Man Handcuffed While Police Searched His Bags After Being Falsely Accused Of Stealing From Finish Line, and Security Called on Black VCU Professor Eating Breakfast In Her Classroom, and St. Louis Cops Giddily Planned to Beat Protesters but Unwittingly Beat an Undercover Cop. Now They’re Indicted, and Amber Guyger has been indicted for murder after the Botham Jean shooting, and Black Panthers mural in Los Angeles defaced with swastikas, and Chick-fil-A Still Hates Gay People, But Doesn’t Want To Be Labeled ‘Anti-Gay’ Anymore, and Kevin Hart Lashes Out At Critics of His Son’s ‘Cowboys And Indians’ Birthday Party, and Jewish professor finds swastikas spray-painted on her office walls at Columbia’s Teachers College, and Outrageous Gold Rush-Style Grab of Public Lands to Begin Friday, and Trans Woman Was Beaten in ICE Custody Before Death, Autopsy Finds, and White Nationalist Accused of Driving His Car Into a Crowd and Killing Heather Heyer Claims It Was Self-Defense, and Former Florida Police Chief Who Framed Black Teen and Multiple Black Men Sentenced to 3 Years in Prison, and Nooses Hung At Mississippi State Capitol Just Before Runoff Election.

In a dream

Five years ago today, I posted this on Facebook. This morning, as I’m working on a couple of class plans for yoga teacher training and thinking about what I’m teaching for my Tuesday morning class and contemplating what it’s going to be like when I don’t have to work at CSU anymore, it felt worth reposting.

Woke up at 4:30 am like normal, but decided to go back to sleep, and you know how you have the weirdest dreams when you do that? I had one that I was teaching at Chemeketa Community College, a class about “Finding Your Purpose,” and I showed up for week three completely unprepared. We were in the Student Center, and it was busy and noisy — a spin class, the food court, all kinds of other classes and study groups and students just hanging out — and there was no privacy. I also realized that rather than a 10 week progressive course with the same group of students, the class was actually a drop in, which meant I should be doing what I did the first week over again, but I didn’t have those notes. I asked my students to put their chairs in a circle to provide a container of sorts, but I had to go find my own chair. All of the furniture was old and broken down, no good, so the chair I had to settle for was awful.

When I got back to the group, I was honest, told them I was struggling with the distraction, my own lack of preparation, was irritated and fumbling, but that I was doing my best and would keep going, was showing up, fully present. Then it came to me that it was the perfect teaching moment, and told them that it was just like that with finding your purpose — it isn’t just about figuring out what you want, but dealing with the obstacles that exist, that you can’t control all the elements, there’s the environment, culture, other people, economic realities, potential health issues or physical limitations, and that you have to learn to work with them. I ended up rocking what was a messed up situation.

Take that subconscious — clearly if you want to give me an anxiety dream, teaching can no longer be your subject matter. Time to go back to the old standards of not being able to find a clean or private public bathroom when I need to poop, or the one where I’m out jogging and cars are honking at me and I look down and realize I’m completely naked and miles from home.