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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Something Good

1. How the Pandemic Made Me Lose My Ambition“There’s an illusion with work that everything you give up now, all the stolen time commuting, working overtime, checking your email and Slack notifications after hours, will somehow earn you freedom and capital in your later years. But the farce of “work hard now, play later” has been exposed for millennials and Gen-Zers; most of us will be working until we die. It’s hard to maintain your ambition in the face of that reality.”

2. Don’t insist on being positive – allowing negative emotions has much to teach us“Leaning into difficult feelings can help you find the way forward, according to a refreshing new wave of books, says Jamie Waters.”

3. One Good Thing: Conversations with strangers, which I missed so much“But the camaraderie that comes from just being alive at this moment — having survived to this point, to be able to sit in a snowy bistro on 10th Avenue and bask in the kindness of strangers. To celebrate that we are here, both human, and to be alive together in this moment is a little bit of a miracle.”

4. “Let me tell you a secret.” (video) I have this one saved so I can rewatch it whenever I want and as many times as I need.

5. For the first time in 4 years, a litter of red wolf pups was born in the wild“U.S. Fish and Wildlife staff in North Carolina welcomed a litter of six red wolf pups into the world earlier this week. It’s the first time in four years that a pair of wild red wolves — a species teetering on the brink of extinction — gave birth to a litter in the wild.”

6. Moonlit Forests, Fish, and Branches Populate Kirie Silhouettes Cut from a Single Sheet of Paper.

7. An Abandoned Farmhouse Transformed Into a Life-Size Dollhouse by Heather Benning Reflects on Ideas of Home.

8. Alice Walker Has ‘No Regrets’ on The New York Times. “Walker has grappled with some of the thorniest issues of 20th-century America. She’s also taken troubling stances. She has now opened up and shared her diaries, giving readers a window into her life.”

9. How planting trees fostered a sense of belonging and changed this filmmaker’s life.

10. Scientists Find No Benefit to Time-Restricted Eating on The New York Times. “In a yearlong study, participants who confined meals to certain hours lost no more weight than those who ate at any time.”

11. The Way Out Is In / Kaira Jewel Lingo on White Supremacy and Racial Healing(podcast)

12. People Are Sharing What They Miss Most About Life Before Cell Phones.

13. How Long Does Menopause Last? on The New York Times. “And how will I know when it’s over?”

14. Trans comedian shares her transition journey on TikTok in an uplifting and funny way.

15. How will I meet this? “When the world around us feels chaotic and out of control, we can feel as if we are walking in the wilderness, lost and alone. Where can we turn, what can we do to return to calm, peace & acceptance?”

16. I Lived the #VanLife. It Wasn’t Prettyon The New York Times. “The writer Caity Weaver’s pursuit of the manifest destiny of the millennial generation ended up looking better in the photos.”

17. When Meditation Turns Toxic: The Woman Exposing Spiritual Sexism. “Since suffering a miscarriage at a women’s retreat, Tara Brach has tried to reform the world of meditation by arming its practitioners with a single weapon: self-compassion.”

18. Touching short film shows how the smallest act of kindness can help someone with depression.

19. Arundhati Roy on Religious Nationalism, Dissent, and the Battle Between Myth and History.

20. Fiber Artist and Animator Andrea Love Combines Her Passions For Fibers and Stop-Animation, And The Results Will Blow Your Mind.

21. Good stuff from Seth Godin: Words that matter and Cooperative enthusiasm.

22. Famous Last Words from Andrea Gibson.

23. “You Can’t Separate People From the Planet”activist and author Leah Thomas lays out her vision for a more just environmental movement.

24. Recipe I want to try: Sesame Garlic Ramen Noodles.

25. 6 Ways to Incorporate Sweden’s Concept of “Plogging” Into All of Your Outdoor Activities.

26. A Gentler, Better Way to Change Minds“Stop wielding your values as a weapon and start offering them as a gift.”

27. It’s a myth that suffering makes you stronger“Suffering is not beautiful, nor is it a state of grace. But you can swim to the wreckage at the bottom and bring something back to the surface that can help others, says writer Lidia Yuknavitch.”

28. Closing Up Shop on a Marriage, from the Modern Love series on The New York Times. “When the last thing you share is your pharmacy rewards account.”

29. Statistics on Clutter That Will Blow Your Mind. “If you didn’t realize that there is a clutter problem, these statistics on clutter will help you see its pervasiveness. The statistics on clutter are shocking, but being informed can help us make better choices going forward.”

30. The unmasking of a selfish nation. “COVID-19 didn’t change America. It revealed our cruelties and churlishness in a time of unprecedented crisis.”

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. We made it out a bit earlier this week but were still about 15 minutes too late most days to be on the trail as the sun was rising, so next week — even earlier! I am so grateful to live where we do, so close to so many trails and bodies of water. Ringo needed a break from his harness so we’ve been walking him on a collar, and I can really tell how much more mature he is, how much more he trusts me, because all it takes is a tiny shift in the way I’m walking or holding the leash and he shifts and is right there with me, and most of the time I hardly even have to hold on to stay connected — that may just be a metaphor for our relationship.

2. Raintree Athletic Club. I love the space, the pool, the classes, the sauna, the hydromassage chair, the people.

3. Reading. You know how some people talk about their “TBR pile” (“to be read”)? I have many throughout my house, along with bookshelves and a Kindle full of books I want to read. It has been the love of my life for almost my whole life. It’s never left me and my love has never faded, only grown.

4. Retreat. Calyx and I are starting a retreat together later today. We came up with a schedule, time to practice together and on our own, made a commitment to give ourselves the time and each other the support. We’ll go through Wednesday and I am really looking forward to it. When I was making art with my friend Janice this week, I made this collage in honor of the plan.

5. My tiny family, tiny home, tiny life. I had a moment this week where I allowed myself to think about what my life would be like if something happened to Eric. I do not want to go to there, even though at some point I will (or he will). May we have many, many more good years together and an easy death.

Bonus joy: good music, listening to podcasts, naps, good books, good TV, true crime, writing, strawberries, raspberries, tulips in bloom, lemon yogurt covered almonds, caramel, taco salad, the internet (the way it connects me with people and information and content), dogs, a big glass of cold clean water, a warm shower, my weighted blanket, therapy, massage, other people’s kindness, laughing, hugs, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.