Monthly Archives: October 2018

Something Good

Sunrise at Lory State Park, by Eric

1. Wisdom from David Whyte: “Anger is the deepest form of compassion, for another, for the world, for the self, for a life, for the body, for a family, and for all our ideals, all vulnerable and all, possibly about to be hurt. Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for.”

2. The 4 Most Stressful Work Situations For Introverts, Illustrated.

3. Stubborn Woman Finally Seeks Help, and fundraiser by the brilliant Alexis Morgan.

4. If The Doctor Says A Health Issue is Caused By Being Fat from Dances with Fat.

5. Grief Needs a Minute from Jena Schwartz.

6. Dan Rather: I Do Not Think President Trump Is Redeemable.

7. People Are Posting Examples Of How Media Can Manipulate The Truth.

8. In this week’s “People Behaving Badly”: Iowa Man Who Burned Library’s LGBTQ Books Because They Offended His Religion Should Face The Law, and Ryanair racism suspect David Mesher insists ‘I’m not a racist’ before [NOT] apologising to passenger he abused, (So tired of the “sorry, not sorry” non-apologies where the primary concern of the perpetrator is “I’m not a bad person.” Own what you did, take responsibility, actually apologize and do better – it’s so simple), and Accused Kroger shooter has history of mental illness and racist comments, and Police In Ohio Under Scrutiny After Video Shows Officers Punching Face-Down Man, and 2 Texas Judges Sent 20 Percent of All Juveniles to State Prisons Last Year, and White Nationalist Richard Spencer’s Wife Says In Divorce Filings That He Physically And Emotionally Abused Her, and Video: Librarian Calls Cops on Student for Brazen Attempt at #StudyingWhileBlack [Updated], and Asked about conspiracies, Trump admits, ‘There’s no proof of anything,’ and Random-Ass White Woman Rolls Up on Spanish Speaking Family and Demands to See Their Passports, and The Alt-Right is Killing People, and White Woman Fired After Video Shows Her Harassing Black Sisters In Their Apartment Building.

9. Some Texans say voting machines are flipping selections to the other party. In related news, Black Voters in Georgia Say Something Funny Is Going on With Their Voting Machines and In leaked audio, Brian Kemp expresses “concern” over Georgians exercising their voting rights. It’s terrifying how easily people can cheat, steal, lie and get away with it, (because if this is happening, it is intentional). But don’t worry, Georgia Candidate Brian Kemp Claims Voter Suppression Is A ‘Farce,’ Blames Obama.

10. Not a Costume! (video) “Please remember this when dressing for Halloween. Native Regalia is particular and very personal to each person. Please educate yourself and respect each Human’s culture.” In related news, When Is It OK To Wear The Clothing Of Another Culture? and Kentucky Dad Apologizes For Father-Son Nazi Halloween Costumes, (clearly another case of “sorry, not sorry”).

11. It’s a Wrap: NBC Officially Cancels Megyn Kelly Today; Fox Passes on Her Return. In related news, Today Addresses Megyn Kelly’s Blackface Comments; Kelly Tearfully Apologizes and ‘Late Night’ Writer Expertly Dissects Megyn Kelly’s Racist Blackface Comments.

12. #NotRacists Be Like: The Top 10 Phrases Used by People Who Claim They Are Not Racist.

13. Transgender Boy Tells Mom ‘It Shouldn’t Be Scary To Be Who You Are.’ In related news, Gender Variance Around the World Over Time: It’s nothing new and Dear Mr. Trump: I’m Transgender And I Have A Few Things I Want You To Know and All References to Transgender Americans Scrubbed From Government Websites. As I said on Facebook earlier this week, just try to be someone you are not for a whole day. I dare you. Go ahead, try it. You will very quickly realize what you should have already known: things like gender and sexuality are central, core, foundational things, and once you know who you are, you can’t possibly be anyone else. And guess what happens if we just let people be who they are? What happens if we protect their right to live their life as who they are? It’s not going to hurt you one damn bit. In fact, those people, suddenly free to be themselves will be able to finally give the good they have to offer the world instead of spending all of their energy just trying to survive. (Obviously I’m not talking about people whose sexual actions cause real harm to others — don’t be an idiot).

14. Trump is doing all he can to stoke fear about the caravan of migrants journeying to the U.S. — but this journalist is calling bullsh*t. (video)

15. Finally! Black Poll Worker Calls Cops on Suspicious Caucasians for #LurkingWhileWhite.

16. Trump’s lies and fear-mongering have reached a new, terrifying level ahead of the midterms. (video) I can only watch this with the sound off.

17. How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story.

18. Niecy Nash made this funny (and sort of not funny because it’s true) video for whyte people about calling 911 on POC.

19. Second Black Officer Dies in Aftermath of Deadly South Carolina Mass Shooting.

20. Recipe I want to try: Salvadoran Pupusas As Made By Curly And His Abuelita.

21. Photos of the Central American Immigrant Caravan. In related news, What we know about the latest migrant caravan traveling through Mexico.

22. Cesar Sayoc Jr., Florida man, arrested in pipe bomb case; van with ‘right wing paraphernalia’ seized. In related news, Political Commentator Says She Contacted Twitter About Package Bomber Weeks Ago, and The Pittsburgh Synagogue Shooting Is the ​Inevitable Result of​ Trump’s Vile Nationalism, and Jewish Leaders In Pittsburgh Say Trump Not Welcome There in a letter that ends with, “you are not welcome in Pittsburgh until you commit yourself to compassionate, democratic policies that recognize the dignity of all of us.” Amen.

23. San Diego Zoo’s newest elephant calf! (video)

24. Raven’s Fractured Leg. Remember the two boys who drove all night in their family’s only car, got lost and showed up late for a tour of CSU? They wanted to go to school here and instead they were racially profiled by a whyte mom who called campus police on them because they were quiet and shy (and brown)? One of their dogs got hurt and they need help paying for vet bills.

25. She tries so hard to get Alexa to play her jam. (video)

26. This dog wins Halloween forever. (video)

Gratitude Friday

Flowers in the bathroom

1. Flowers in the bathroom. For two reasons in particular: it means the gnats are all gone and these flowers were perfectly good but must have been from last week because they were half off at the grocery store.

2. It’s biscuit season, which means all the yummy fall foods like soup and roasted veggies and apple pie. I’m trying to focus on that instead of mourning the berries and cucumbers and such.

3. Eric. He’s my favorite. Sometimes, instead of sending just a text that says “heading home from work” or “having fun hiking with Ringo,” he’ll send me a selfie instead. Next to kitchen counter love notes, it’s one of my favorite things. Remember how we made a list of 25 Things for 25 Years, all the stuff we were going to do together to celebrate being married for 25 years? We haven’t done many of the exact things on the list yet, but it’s inspiring us to do more stuff together, like on Saturday we are going to a 1.5-hour workshop at our gym called “Stretch & Release” and I bought tickets for an improv show. What I’m saying is it’s not so much the list but the way the list has inspired us to start dating again, besides just going out to dinner (which I’m not knocking; it’s one of our favorite things).

Ringo’s happy place.

4. The other two boys in my tiny family. As I start to think about what it’s going to be like to not be working at CSU anymore, one of the things I’m most looking forward to is being around Sam and Ringo more. If you have a pet you love like I love mine, you know how hard it is to leave them some days, and how much you miss them when you’re gone. Since I can’t seem to teach them how to use a smart phone and text me, send me selfies like their dad, being home more is the next best solution.

He couldn’t tell if I was going to take a shower, but he was right there ready, just in case.

This is one of Sam’s favorite spots in the house. Having anxiety requires such things.

You might not see it, but he’s giving me his stink face, his version of an eye roll.

His legs are ridiculously long.

Bonus joy: Teaching yoga at Red Sage, Curvy Yoga teacher training, hanging out with Aramati having deep conversations about really important stuff but also finding stuff to laugh about too, meditating with Mikalina and hanging out afterward, sleeping in, clean sheets, swimming lessons with Nick, aqua aerobics, sitting in the sauna with Eric, crisp apples, sunshine, getting the laundry done on Friday, fish tacos, peanut butter and jelly, running into Chloe’ and Pancho out on a walk, cute videos of the cutest tiny humans and animals, turning up my favorite song really loud, how much dumb stuff sometimes makes Eric and I laugh, Lila is WALKING! (she’s just a baby, so it’s kind of a big deal), knowing I could do so much more and what I’ve already done is enough.

Something Good

1. Just 16 Damn Funny Tweets About Being A Writer.

2. Wisdom from Audre Lorde, “I speak out of direct and particular anger at an academic conference, and a white woman says, ‘Tell me how you feel but don’t say it too harshly or I cannot hear you.’ But is it my manner that keeps her from hearing, or the threat of a message that her life may change?”

3. 5 Truths About White Privilege for White People. John Pavlovitz posted this a year ago, but clearly some of you need to hear it again.

4. Paul Jarvis’s new book Company of One is available for pre-order. “Company of One is your official guide to building around the idea that staying small and avoiding growth can be more durable and even more enjoyable than business as usual…The real key to richer and more fulfilling work could be to not create and scale something into a massive corporation, but rather, to work for yourself, determine your own hours, and become a (highly profitable) and sustainable company of one. This book explains how to do just that.”

5. Real Talk Isn’t Easy from Jena Schwartz. “The less insistent I am about being right and the more intent on moral courage and righteousness — individually and collectively — the clearer the task becomes: To keep doing the work that none of us alone can or will complete. To keep widening the circles while tending to the ones closest to us. To keep asking hard questions and not looking away, not backing away from the moments that make us most confused or agitated or fired up.” In related news, this podcast episode: Talking self care for activists with Jena Schwartz.

6. Yoga for Creating Space, a 28 minute practice video from Yoga with Adriene. In her latest newsletter, where she shared this video, she posed a really important set of questions: “What is it that you would like to do but that you are afraid of? What do you need to make space for?”

7. Write Anyway : January 2019, A workshop with Janelle Hanchett. “Learn to write without giving a shit what people think.”

8. How We Can Address Patriarchy. “Lama Rod Owens on why Buddhist community members — especially male-identified teachers, monks, staff, authorities, and lay practitioners — must confront and deal with ethical misconduct, and how to do it.”

9. Emmett Till’s Father Was Also Hanged: A New Book Tells His Story.

10. Trump Considers Terrifying New Policy to Eliminate Transgender Rights. In related news, Anti-Gay Activists Sue Houston Public Library Over Drag Queen Story Hour.

11. More bad behavior: Mrs. Gayle was called a “black bastard” by a passenger who refused to sit next to her, and Police ‘Activists’ Protest Black Woman Who Made Comments About Police Implicit Bias, and 3 White Women Harassed a Black Gardener for More than a Year. He Got Hit With Stalking Charges, and Three Florida Police Officers Are Sent to Prison for False Arrests on The New York Times, and San Diego Elementary School Principal Apologizes for Warning Parents About Black Man in Hoodie at Starbucks, and “This is voter suppression”: black seniors in Georgia ordered off of bus taking them to vote, and White Woman Who Blocked Black Neighbor From Entering Apartment Building Speaks Out, and White Woman Calls 911 On Black Anti-Violence Activists At South Carolina Gas Station, and White Woman Calls Cops On Black Man For Yelling Instructions At His Son During Soccer Game, and Morehouse Grad Who Died After Being Arrested, Tased by California Police Officers, Was Unarmed, Had Mental Health Issues, and New York Man [NON]Apologizes After Viral Video Of Him Berating Black Lyft Driver Leaves Him Unemployed, and #SayHerName: Florida Police Viciously Beat 14-Year-Old Black Girl for ‘Resisting Arrest.’

12. 17 reasons why modern women are struggling so much – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

13. Guy Adopts Stray Dog Who Followed Him On Race. (video)

14. Beyond Appropriation: a letter to my fellow white yoga teachers.

15. Black Rage Is Warranted, And We Don’t Need Your White Judgment.

16. The Horror Pitchfest: An Honest Review of Gary Vaynerchuk, Success Squared and Success Resources Australia.

17. Mom Dies After Being Forced To Wait Seven Hours To Be Operated On For Post-Childbirth Complications.

18. Allies, have you been called out and worked through harm you’ve caused?

19. High School Janitor Helps Students In Need with ‘Giving Closet.’ (video)

20. This Is What Yogis Really Look Like (It’s Not What You Think).

21. Me Too Creator Tarana Burke: Clinton-Lewinsky Affair Was ‘Absolutely An Abuse Of Power.’

22. 18 years ago this judge changed this man’s life. (video)

23. 12 Authors Write About the Libraries They Love on The New York Times.

24. The amazing outcome of The Old People’s Home For 4 Year Olds. (video)

25. She is dancing to empower people with disabilities and change others’ attitudes towards them. (video)

26. Mindfulness according to 6 and 7-year-olds. (video)

27. #CaucasianCallingTax: White People Need to Be Taxed for Wasting Police Officers’ Time. In related news, I used to be a 911 dispatcher. I had to respond to racist calls every day.

28. Raccoons & Bubbles. (video)

29. I fought academia’s cult of civility and all I got was this lousy PTSD diagnosis.

30. She Founded Me Too. Now She Wants to Move Past the Trauma on The New York Times.

31. Solange Is Blessing Us With A New Album Coming This Fall!

32. I Was The Only Black Person At Elizabeth Gilbert And Cheryl Strayed’s ‘Brave Magic’ Retreat.

33. A Requiem for ‘White Women,’ Which the National Review Says Is a ‘Disparaging Term.’ In related news, White feminism isn’t feminism. And it’s not forgivable.

34. This Mexican chef is here to bust all of the myths you believe about Mexican food. (video)

35. Tired Of #FollowMeTo Instagram Pics? This Guy Pets His Dog Everywhere He Goes, And It’s 1000 Times Better.

36. You Might Think Twice Before Going Vegan After This Guy Explained Why Veganism Is NOT Cruelty Free.

37. Over the Word Ally: 9 Ways Solidarity Is An Act of Radical Self Love.

38. This little girl saved this dog when no one else could. (video)

39. Roman’s Cooking Show is back! (video) This time he made pizza. This kid is my favorite thing about the internet right now.

Gratitude Friday (on a Sunday)

From our walk this morning

1. Surprise naps, like the one I took Friday afternoon that made me forget I still hadn’t put together this post, but clearly was something I really really really needed.

Sam and Eric, from our walk this morning

2. Morning walks. Sam has gone a little over three miles the last few mornings and another mile or so in the afternoon without seeming to be too stiff or sore from it.

3. Practice. We have a three bedroom house, but the whole house is only 1088 square feet, so the third bedroom, where I practice (and do retreats, online classes, read, study, write, and sometimes sleep), is only about 8 x 9 square feet, and can feel a little tight. Even so, because I’ve been infusing that space with such good energy, so much effort and ease, for years, it feels spacious. I’m doing two yoga teacher trainings right now, soon to add a third, so I’m spending almost every weekend, all weekend in there. I’m also grateful for smart, compassionate friends who I can talk to about confusing, hard things related to practice and and teaching and being white.

4. Flowers in the bathroom. These lilies from the grocery store smell amazing.

5. My tiny family. Along with practice, they are the foundation that keeps me sane, keeps me from giving up.

Bonus joy: snow, a new roof, going to a movie with Eric, a sunny warm fall day, sleeping in, getting all the laundry done on Friday, hanging out with Mikalina, Pilates with Carrie and Ashley, swimming lessons, swimming, sitting in the sauna, aqua aerobics, HGTV, a big glass of cold clean water.

 

Something Good

Giant Apple Pie Cinnamon Roll

1. Giant Apple Pie Cinnamon Roll, a recipe we tried this weekend, (i.e. my husband cooked it and I ate it). It’s as delicious as it is ridiculous.

2. Righteous Rage: Exploring The Origins and Uses of Women’s Anger, “If you are struggling to articulate your rage and transform it into a productive force for personal, political, and social change, I invite you to join me for a 4-week writing journey beginning October 22.” TODAY ONLY she is offering an early bird discount.

3. The Little Handbook for Getting Stuff Done on Zen Habits. Also on Zen Habits, Paring Down Your Life.

4. Why Many Introverts Are Drawn To Writing (And Are Really Good At It).

5. Dad Has Diarrhea In Public Toilet With His 4-Year-Old, Her Reaction Makes Man In Another Stall Cry From Laughter.

6. White women in positions of power and privilege behaving badly: Rose McGowan Calls #MeToo Movement ‘Bullsh*t’, and Ruth Bader Ginsburg on Kaepernick protests: ‘I think it’s dumb and disrespectful,’ and Elizabeth Warren’s Claims of Indigeniety are a Slap in the Face to Indigenous People, and Hillary: Bill didn’t abuse his power because Lewinsky ‘was an adult’.

7. Hijabi Women Dressed Like the “Avengers” at Comic Con.

8. Good stuff from Austin Kleon: No time for despair and Be the light or reflect it.

9. My amazing daughter. Alternate title: I don’t think you’ll have a problem with this at all but if you do you can fuck all the way off. From The Bloggess.

10. ACLU Short Film Series Highlights the Resilience of the Trans Community.

11. I Was Reported to Police as an ‘Agitated Black Male’ — for Simply Walking to Work. In related news, ‘Becky Blocker’ Calls The Cops On A Black Man For Entering His Own Apartment Building And Lies That He Choked Her, and Cornerstore Caroline Finally Apologizes for Falsely Accusing 9-Year-Old Boy of Sexually Assaulting Her, but Not Before Lying Some More, and Ex-Firefighter Found Guilty After Shooting At Black Teen Looking For Directions To School, and Kansas Man Handcuffed for Attempting to Move Into His Home Late at Night, and #BabysittingWhileBlack: White Woman Calls Police on Black Man Riding Around With White Kids, and 74-Year-Old White Man With A Criminal History Shot Seven Cops And Was Taken Into Custody Alive.

12. It’s Okay to Disconnect From Toxic People to Protect Yourself.

13. Hi, Dad, I’m In (Twitter) Jail from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds. In related news, also from Chuck, In Which I Am Fired From Marvel. “To conclude: this is really quite chilling. And it breaks my heart. I am very sad, and worried for the country I live in, and the world, and for creative people all around. Courage to you all. I have a dire fear this is going to get a whole lot worse before it gets better. P.S. Vote in November like your life depends on it. Because it just might.”

14. 12 Things People Do That Actually Mean ‘I’m A Highly Sensitive Person.’

15. Wisdom from Ragen Chastain, “The problem isn’t that fat people exist. The problem is the way that fat people are stigmatized, stereotyped, bullied, marginalized, and oppressed.”

16. Man Filmed a Tree In The Woods For a Year and Captured Things Most People Will Never See.

17. Exploding Good Shit: Volume I on Renegade Mothering.

18. The white southerners who changed their views on racism. Confession: I dig though stories like this looking for the secret of how to turn people. I never really find it.

19. Madelyn Ellen Linsenmeir’s obituary, which is devastatingly honest.

20. Trump’s 60 Minutes interview once again reveals gross ignorance and wild dishonesty.

21. You shall not pass, cute video of a giant dog trying to get through a dog door only to be blocked by a tiny kitten.

22. Tarana Burke, (video) “founder of the Me Too movement, says she ‘practiced deeply listening to little black girls when they told me the truth about their lives’ and she’s watched how it’s transformed lives. ‘The idea that somebody who you look up to, that somebody who you respect believes you changes everything.'”

23. A Mexican Man’s Fatal Journey to Reclaim His American Life on The New York Times.

24. A Dublin janitor wins the Rooney Prize for Irish Literature from the university she cleans.

25. Mob of white nationalist ‘Proud Boys’ brutally beat several men: ‘Are you brave now, faggot?!’

26. Artist embroiders the beauty of nature. (video)

27. From decorating cookies to making pizza, this adorable 2-year-old chef can cook it all. (video) He’s back!

28. The best conversation you can see today, mother to son. (video)

29. Babies visit eldercare. (video) In related news, Mike left his well-paid city job in London to set up a charity to combat loneliness in the elderly community. (video)

30. For White Women Learning Calculus in a School Building On Fire. A very helpful list on a very important topic.

31. Many Native IDs Won’t Be Accepted At North Dakota Polling Places. Can you say “voter suppression”? More than 53,000 voter registration applications, a majority of them from black voters, are on hold in Georgia one month before the midterm election. How about now?

32. Education, Not Discrimination: NAACP Legal Defense Fund Asks Florida Schools to End Biased Hair Policies.

33. Cool dance videos: this one and this one.

34. Billionaires Are the Leading Cause of Climate Change. In related news, Just 100 companies responsible for 71% of global emissions, study says. This is why trying to spin the issue as an individual problem causes by the choices of individuals is bullshit. Is it a good idea to drive a hybrid car and recycle, for example? Absolutely. Will your individual choices be able to turn the tide? Probably not. Related to the related news is this: Capitalism’s Final Solution Is Nothing Less than Complete Ecological Collapse.

35. White Women: Stop Waiting For Black Women To Save You.

36. Trans student barred from shelter during Virginia school’s mass shooter drill, “School administrators couldn’t decide whether the student should be sheltered with boys or girls, so left her outside.” WHY do kids need to be separated by gender for this?!

37. Coming To The Right Answer By Themselves: Talking With Boys About Sexual Assault and Consent.

38. Christine Blasey Ford cannot return home to due “unending” death threats.

39. How a mom’s “This Is My Son” anti-feminist brag went viral — and completely backfired.

40. Trump Didn’t Win In Spite Of The Access Hollywood Tape. He Won Because Of It.

41. Homestead In The City? How This Chicago Mom Embraced Living Off The Land On The Far South Side. “Natasha Nicholes wanted her neighbors to get out of their houses and talk to one another — and through her farm, she’s made it happen.”

42. Dolphins enchanted by squirrels. (video)

43. My parents are hoarders from The Moth. (video)

Gratitude Friday

Image by Eric

1. Fall in Colorado. It happened WAY TOO FAST this year. One week it was still in the 90s, and the next week we had rain, gray skies, and even some snow. It’s super confusing. And yet, it is so beautiful when the colors start to change.

 

Image by Eric

 

2. The gnats are gone! We had a fruit fly infestation in the kitchen and bathrooms as summer wound to a close. It got out of hand quickly. With the turn in the weather, some deep cleaning, and traps of ripe banana and apple cider vinegar, we are no longer hosting multiple generations of tiny garbage bats. It’s weird how happy that makes me.

3. Our garden. It’s done, but before it melted completely, we got one more handful of strawberries and an army of the tiniest, roundest, orangest pumpkins.

4. Teaching and teacher training. I just wrapped up my first online session of Open Space Writing with a small group of my favorite writers. I’m concurrently doing three different yoga teacher trainings because what else are you supposed to do the last year at your “old” job before starting a new career? In a few weeks, I’ll start teaching a regular small class for two of my favorite veterinarians, and I’ve been subbing yoga classes for some of my favorite teachers as I can as well. Learning and then teaching has always been one of my most favorite things.

5. My tiny family. With Sam on restriction, sometimes Eric has Ringo out somewhere and I’m home with Sam, so we send each other selfies of where we are and what we are doing.

6. These two pictures Eric took of Ringo Blue. He’s so handsome. And for some reason this last week, he was super cuddly with me. He must have known I needed it.

Bonus joy: fresh pineapple, clean sheets, paid sick days, good TV (all my “regular” shows are back on Hulu and we just finished the last season of Great British Baking Show on Netflix), good music (Christine and The Queens has a new album out), a glass of cold clean water, chicken pot pie, my new swimming snorkel and how fast I can get to the other side of the pool with it, sitting in the sauna at the gym, sleeping in, taking naps, wool socks and down blankets.

P.S. Married 25 years to my favorite person. I can’t believe I forgot to add this to this week’s list! This picture is from our honeymoon – we hiked up to Twin Crater Lakes in the Rawah Wilderness Area and camped for two days. In this picture, we were trapped in our tent because there was a massive thunderstorm.

 

Something Good

1. Embracing My Righteous Rage, a blog post from my friend Carrie announcing her new writing class, Righteous Rage. I love it when someone you love and admire lands on an idea that is so perfectly suited to their talents and interests, and is also so timely.

2. Wild Writing Teacher Training. This doesn’t start until January 2019, registration is open with special early bird pricing.

3. Yoga for All Training. It starts today, but you might still be able to sign up if you are interested. “Yoga For All is an online yoga certification that teaches you how to adapt yoga asana for plus-size yogis, seniors, and those with physical limitations so that you can reach more students and confidently teach more classes.”

4. Wisdom from Anna Guest-Jelley‘s recent newsletter, “The way you take your practices deeper isn’t by doing more, increasing complexity, or doubling down on yourself. Most of the time it looks like doing less. Listening more. Being guided from within more. Letting the practice come off the mat or the journal and into your life, too. Being open to what comes (and what doesn’t).”

5. A fist in search of a face, a good reminder from Seth Godin.

6. Good stuff from Lion’s Roar: She Who Hears the Cries of the World (“By putting others first, we loosen the bonds of our self-fixation, and in doing so, inch closer to our own liberation”) and Our Opportunity to Include All Genders in Buddhist Communities (“As a trans practitioner, Ray Buckner has struggled to find a sense of belonging in Buddhist spaces. They offer suggestions for how we can better support sangha members of all genders” – actually, I feel like the suggestions here could be applied to more spaces, that they apply to how we might be better humans supporting other humans of all genders).

7. Good stuff from Karen Walrond’s this was a good week list: The Art of Japanese Funeral Floral Arrangements, and Dressing for confidence and joy | Stasia Savasuk | TEDxPortsmouth (video), and Larkin Poe | Phil Collins Cover (“In The Air Tonight”) (video).

8. Wisdom from Francis Weller (by way of Erin Geesaman Rabke), “Grief is not always about tears. It’s also about outrage, when the soul is insulted. Rage is the voice of pain at having been violated. All of this is grief.” Also by way of Erin, this wisdom from James Hillman, “The sure sign of a soul awake is that it is outraged.”

9. The Problem That Has No Name. “For women, the national reckoning on sexual assault — and its backlash — isn’t just a political moment or a cultural shift. It’s an unraveling of the lies this country tells itself about women’s progress. It confirms feminists’ worst fears about men in power and how poorly they think of us.”

10. Hang it on the refrigerator from Austin Kleon, who has a new book coming out. His books are always some of my favorite on the subject of creativity and being an artist, and I could really use the inspiration and encouragement right now. More good stuff from Austin: When people show you who they are, believe them.

11. Abigail Rose Clarke talking with Staci Jordan Shelton in a Facebook live video “about the lies of white supremacy, the truth of our own power, and how we’ve collaborated on Dismantle over the past year.”

12. Weight Watchers has dropped ‘weight’ from its name. But that’s not enough. In related news from Dances with Fat, Weight Watchers By Any Other Name Would Still Be A Fraud.

13. 51 Ways to Make the World Less Hostile to Fat People.

14. The Body Positivity Movement Both Takes From And Erases Fat Black Women.

15. Republicans don’t care what you think. In related news, Brett Kavanaugh Sworn In As Newest Supreme Court Justice, and If Brett Kavanaugh makes it through, women’s anger will be unstoppable, and Trump Pushes Due Process For Some, ‘Lock’ Them Up For Others, and Republicans don’t care if Kavanaugh is guilty because they don’t think what he did was wrong.

16. If You’re Doing These 11 Things At Night, It Could Be A Sign Of High-Functioning Anxiety.

17. These smart glasses could be a game changer for hearing-impaired theatergoers.

18. A Young Activist’s Advice: Vote, Shave Your Head and Cry Whenever You Need To.

19. Bette Midler Claimed ‘Women Are The N-Word Of The World’ And Now We Have To Cancel ‘Hocus Pocus.’ So many ways to discuss the plight of women in the world, so many opportunities to be intersectional, to decenter our whiteness – pick just one, Bette, and stop this nonsense. In related news, Ain’t I a Woman? The Unbearable Whiteness of Allies.

20. Maxine Waters Blasts GOP Rep Who Told Her to ‘Stop Talking About Discrimination. (video) This to me seems like the best example of how our government “works.”

21. 17-Year-Old Ohio Teen Is Killed By Ex-Boyfriend Days After Posting About How He Made Her Feel Unsafe ‘In My Own House.’

22. Why “I’m not racist” is only half the story. (video) “If you’re not racist, why is racism still America’s biggest problem? While the idea that racism isn’t voluntary creates some cognitive dissonance in the minds of many who consider themselves allies, it’s this exact defensiveness that white America needs to deal with in order to move the country forward.”

23. Not A Single Black Woman Can’t Relate To This Video Of A Strange White Lady Touching This Woman’s Braids. *Spoiler alert*: that title is sarcasm.

24. The Cruelty Is the Point. “President Trump and his supporters find community by rejoicing in the suffering of those they hate and fear.” In related news, ‘I can’t understand it and I’m embarrassed that the President of the United States would do that to this woman.’ — Kamala Harris just clapped back at President Trump for mocking Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s testimony, (video).

25. He decided to learn how to knit instead of clean the house. (video) *tee-hee*

26. The performance of change and why it fails: A note to my white sisters. “Despite the surface changes we have made as a society, we are indeed here again because very little has changed in terms of the structures that keep privileged white men in charge.”

27. A Dunkin’ employee was fired after pouring a pitcher of water onto a homeless man who was resting in the store. (video) I hope the guy who did this never finds himself on the other side of the same situation. And if he does, I hope he’s treated with kindness – not because he deserves it, but because we all do.

28. Two hispanic women were approached and verbally assaulted by a racist white lady for speaking Spanish in store. (video) “Another white woman who saw and heard this happening immediately stepped in to defend them.”

29. Recipe I want to try: apple pie cookies from Smitten Kitchen.

30. This Photographer Photographs Farm Animal Like No One Else.

31. The Story Of The Worst Mass Execution In American History.

32. Border Patrol Agent’s Gender-Reveal Party Sparked Arizona Fire, Lawyer Says on The New York Times.

33. The Republican candidate who said he might have to ’round up criminal illegals and take ’em home myself’ in a campaign ad won his gubernatorial primary. (video)

34. White Social Studies Teacher Fired For Teaching a Racist Slavery Lesson Wants to Sue for Reverse Racism. Reminder: reverse racism isn’t a real thing because racism = bias + power, and as a white person, you are in the ultimate position of power, male or female, so racism against you is just bias, no more harmful than if someone prefers vanilla ice cream over chocolate and you don’t.

35. During a press conference, President Trump tells ABC News’ Cecilia Vega, “I know you’re not thinking. You never do.” (video) It’s becoming more and more clear to me that my primary issue with him is he reminds me of every bully I’ve ever dealt with, every abusive boyfriend or boss or family member, and IT IS UNACCEPTABLE for a person in a position of such power and authority to be so blatantly abusive to people. And let’s face it, his policies and the way they sustain white supremacy and the patriarchy aren’t just his alone, (just look at the collection of dude bros behind him in this video). There are many, many people who are happy to have their egos, their power, their positions, their wealth and their comfort protected, even if it means other people suffer.

36. Black Women Are Love. “This brand is about debiasing our culture of all the negative beliefs it holds about black women.”

37. My dog can jump over anything. Except… (video) 🙂

38. Indianapolis Woman Opening Yoga Studio, Providing Access To All. (video)

39. When Asked About Pith Helmet, FLOTUS Responds: ‘Focus On What I Do, Not What I Wear.’ You’ve got to do something worth talking about first, and what you wear is often tone deaf and representative of how little you care or think of people and their suffering – stop doing that and we’ll find something else to talk about.

40. Trump Engaged in Suspect Tax Schemes as He Reaped Riches From His Father on The New York Times. “The president has long sold himself as a self-made billionaire, but a Times investigation found that he received at least $413 million in today’s dollars from his father’s real estate empire, much of it through tax dodges in the 1990s.”

41. 5 Tools for Surviving Your Anger Under a Trump Presidency. This post is from early last year, but it’s worth revisiting.

42. Blissfully unaware reporter mistakes mountain lion for a dog. (video) This is terrifying, but she has absolutely no clue!

43. This hospital in Idaho does a “Walk of Respect” for organ donors. (video). I’m not crying, you’re crying.