Monthly Archives: March 2018

Gratitude Friday

1. Morning walks. Right now we are having all the weather — warm and dry, cold and wet, snow, and even fog. Spring in Colorado can be pretty chaotic when it comes to weather. This week, we saw a heard of white tailed deer and a fox. When Ringo saw the fox, he does what he does sometimes in that situation and stood up on his hind legs and growled like a baby bear.

2. Friday + Pay Day + Bonus Pay. All three at once is a pretty good deal.

3. Care package from one of my favorite cousins. If I wasn’t already feeling better, this would have perked me right up. And the fact that she got the brownies with walnuts in them proves how just smart she is. (Because I know you are wondering, Mom — it was Alyssa).

4. Ringo and Sam. Sam had a bit of a setback this week, is in some pain and limping more. We either pushed him too far in his physical therapy or he slipped or something. Hopefully we caught it and are caring for it in a way that it doesn’t set him back too much. He has the very best doctor and techs and two humans who love him like crazy, so I’m not worried, (well, sometimes I’m worried, but I know I shouldn’t be). Ringo has been mostly really good while Sam is resting, and when he’s not good he’s so cute that we end up forgiving him for it.

Ringo found this tiny giraffe on our walk the other day and carried it half a block, but I made him leave it because it was too small, a choking hazard. He was out with Eric the next day, found it and carried it the whole way home. Yesterday he found a tennis ball at Little Dog Park and carried it all the way home. Our front porch sometimes looks like the island of misfit toys.

5. Flowers. Some in the bathroom, others in the kitchen, and even a few in my flowerbed. Daffodil season makes me especially happy.

Bonus joy: getting back to Pilates, a warm shower, clean sheets, taking myself out to lunch, getting most of my work done, laughing with Eric, worrying with Eric, Sam getting just a little bit better even though he was worse, being able to do something for Sam even if I can’t completely fix him, practicing patience and surrender, cuddling with Ringo, cleaning up the house, getting the laundry done, good TV, a good book, staying up in bed at night reading, getting a good night’s sleep, my “new” car, our “new” fence, our “new” bathroom, Wild Writing, texting with people I love but don’t get to see every day (or even every year), baby donkeys.

Something Good

Protest sign

Image credit: @womenwhotech

Note: I was sick all week, so didn’t spend much time online and it’s another short list.

1. 31 Morning Journaling Prompts that Will Change the Way You Think.

2. WON’T YOU BE MY NEIGHBOR? – Official Trailer [HD] (video)

3. Why I Write: An Introvert’s Perspective.

4. The White Allies’ Guide to Collecting Aunt Linda, “10 rules for speaking up on the Internet.”

5. Andrea Gibson – “Good Light” Live from the Boulder Theater (video)

6. How to turn your flaws into your gold, a simple but powerful practice from Andrea Scher.

7. Family Brings Baby Cow Into Their House During A Hurricane. (video) “This tiny baby cow was spotted in a flooded field after Hurricane Harvey. She was very sick, but she fought so hard get better. Today on Comeback Kids: Animal Edition, watch how Harveigh bounced back and grew up to be a happy, sassy cow who has the run of the house — all thanks to her rescuers, and her friendship with a very special pit bull.”

8. Naomi Wadler Speaks to Crowd at D.C. March For Our Lives. (video) “11-year-old Naomi Wadler has more poise and power than most adults you’ve ever met.” In related news, Emma Gonzalez Is Responsible for the Loudest Silence in the History of US Social Protest, and Photos From the March for Our Lives.

9. Julie Yip-Williams, Writer of Candid Blog on Cancer, Dies at 42 on The New York Times.

10. Austin Victims Remembered For Resilience, Radiating Positivity.

11. This tiny home village in Austin is giving homeless people a purpose.

12. AFSHeeN, Rebecca Ferguson – Uncrazy (video). My current favorite song.

13. Fox News Analyst Quits, Calls Network a ‘Propaganda Machine.’ Well, duh.

14. Final Male Northern White Rhino Dies. (video) “The last male northern white rhino has died, leaving only 2 northern white rhinos left on Earth.”

15. This special village plants 111 trees whenever a girl is born. (video)

16. 50 mums and 50 kids. (video)

17. 19 Confessions of an INFJ, the Rarest Personality Type.

18. They Push. They Protest. And Many Activists, Privately, Suffer as a Result.

19. Why the Stormy Daniels story matters, in one paragraph. “Her 60 Minutes interview shows it’s not about sex. It’s about the abuse of power.”

20. White privilege and the gun debate. (video)

Gratitude Friday

1. Morning walks. This was pretty much the only time I was off the couch or out of bed and wearing something other than pajamas last week. I was sick with strep throat and Eric was gone at a conference and Sam is still on restriction, so Ringo and I were on our own.

2. Paid sick leave. There was no way I could have worked this week, although I did a few things from home. My brain and body just couldn’t function beyond taking care of the bare necessities for me and the dogs.

3. The essentials for being sick. This time around they were plenty of clean pjs, clean sheets, Kleenex with lotion (because after a few days of blowing and wiping my nose with toilet paper it felt like my nostrils were ringed with a thousand tiny paper cuts), orange juice and oranges and orange sherbert, antibiotics, cough syrup with codeine, ibuprofen, Butternut Squash soup, onion rolls, House Hunters Renovation, lots of tea, health insurance, and my infrared heating pad.

4. Sam and Ringo. They were so good for me while Eric was away and I was sick, so patient and sweet. They got me out of bed every morning, but also let me sleep most of the day and kept me from feeling too lonely or sorry for myself.

5. Eric. He almost got stuck because a storm moved in his last day in DC, but he did everything he could, even drove to another airport, to get a flight out and get home to me.

Bonus joy: getting some real clarity about changes I want to make in my life even when I was feeling so crappy I couldn’t get off the couch, flowers blooming, being able to take time off and rest without beating myself up about it, getting enough sleep, a kind and available and smart primary doctor, good friends who check on me and are on standby ready to help, feeling better bit by bit.

Something Good

Poudre River, morning walk

Disclaimer: I’m home sick with strep throat and a husband gone at a conference so no one to take care of me or the dogs. This is going to be a shorter list than usual.

1. Poet Claudia Rankine speaks about confronting racism head on in her writing.

2. ‘National Geographic’ Reckons With Its Past: ‘For Decades, Our Coverage Was Racist.’

3. What INFJs Do When They Get Stressed Out.

4. ICE spokesman resigns after refusing to spread “misleading facts” that labeled undocumented immigrants as “dangerous criminals.” All good people MUST resign, cut ties with, speak out against this organization, which functions only to terrorize and harm.

5. 50 Questions for Self-Exploration.

6. At home on a greek island from SF Girl. I want to go to there…

7. Things get adorable when a neuroscientist reveals how puppies trick your brain. (video) In related cute pit bull news, This pit bull’s smile is so perfect, it helped get her rescued. (video)

8. The Last Photos Of A 14-Year-Old Polish Girl In Auschwitz Get Colorized, And They’ll Break Your Heart. “The Holocaust did not begin with the mass killings. It began with the rhetoric of hate.”

9. Roxane Gay’s 10 Favorite Books.

10. Stripes of wildflowers across farm fields could cut pesticide spraying.

11. This mom transformed a doll into Shuri from Black Panther. (video)

12. 14K empty shoes outside the US Capitol, to represent every child killed with a gun since the Sandy Hook Massacre.

13. Baby white rhino discovers snow at the Toronto Zoo. (video) Somebody give him a bigger pile!

Three Truths and One Wish

1. Truth: Healing always takes longer than I think it will. This is linked to the habitual way I rush in and try to fix it when anything is wrong. I try to hurry past the discomfort, and I get anxious when I can’t make things right. Like with Sam, I want him to be better as soon as possible, because it’s so hard for me to see him in pain and to deny him some of his favorite things, but his particular injury can take anywhere from two to six months to resolve. And if for some reason he tweaks his muscle again before he’s completely healed, we will have to start all over.

2. Truth: One essential ingredient for healing is rest. In this case, there is nothing to do. It’s all about not doing, being still. I don’t allow enough of it for myself, and that’s part of why I struggle so much — physically, emotionally, and mentally. Even when I’m exhausted, I push myself to keep going, sometimes until the only option is collapse.

3. Truth: We are all living under the shadow of death. When we were sitting on the floor with Sam last night, giving him his cold lazer treatment, Eric remarked that it reminded him of when we had Obi and Dexter put to sleep. We were in similar positions, in almost the same spot where it happened, and I totally understood what he meant. This came right after I was telling Sam we needed to get him better so he could live to be an old dog, and that eight wasn’t old. The whole thing made me think about how death is always right there, for all of us. It doesn’t care what we want, doesn’t concern itself with our schedule or plans.

One wish: May we be patient and gentle and spacious with our healing, allowing the time and effort (or non effort) it takes. And when the time comes, may we have an easy death.

Something Good

Morning on the Poudre River, from our morning walk

1. Lucas the Spider. A super cute video series that reminds me of Marcel the Shell.

2. The New Vanguard on The New York Times. “Our critics chose 15 remarkable books by women that are shaping the way we read and write fiction in the 21st century.”

3. Michelle Obama meets the 2-year-old who was captivated by her portrait. And they danced. In related news, This Adorable Little Girl Thinks Michelle Obama Is A Queen. (video)

4. Dear White People, Please Stop Pretending Reverse Racism Is Real. In related news, Shit White Feminists Need To Stop Doing and Catriceology: 30-Day Crash Course for White Women and How “Good” White People Silence People of Color Every Day, which says,

Here’s the thing: All white people are not actively racist but all white people live in a culture of white supremacy and their actions potentially help to uphold that culture. Taking up space to talk about how non-racist you are upholds white supremacist culture and centers whiteness. Placing your offense, your hurt feelings, before the discussion of the racist issues centers whiteness and upholds white supremacist culture. These acts stifle discussion, silence education and uphold white supremacist culture.

5. Serena Williams says ‘there’s no wrong way to be a woman’ in powerful ad. I hope that Serena Williams understands that her real, lasting, important legacy has very little to do with tennis. If you need another reason why, there’s this, Serena Williams on Motherhood, Marriage, and Making Her Comeback.

6. Overlooked from The New York Times. “Since 1851, obituaries in The New York Times have been dominated by white men. Now, we’re adding the stories of 15 remarkable women.”

7. The Nonbinary Author Centering African Narratives Erased by Colonialism. “In her hotly anticipated debut “Freshwater,” author Akwaeke Emezi uses the ogbanje—an Igbo spirit—to explore metaphysical identity and resist the binary split between spirit and body.”

8. Commentary: I study liars. I’ve never seen one like Donald Trump.

9. When a Theory Goes Viral. “Intersectionality is now everywhere. Is that a good thing?”

10. Family honors grandma’s memory by displaying all of her quilts at her funeral.

11. Patriarchy Is Contraindicated for Life. “It’s hard to imagine a more fitting way to celebrate International Women’s Day than to usher in the end of patriarchy. While the path forward will not be easy, even Steve Bannon recently declared the certainty of its demise, pronouncing: ‘The anti-patriarchy movement is going to undo 10,000 years of recorded history.’ May it be so, because patriarchy is contraindicated for life.”

12. 16 Girls Who Changed The World. “Proof you’re never too young to make an impact.”

13. The Real Threat To Campuses Isn’t ‘PC Culture.’ It’s Racism.

14. If You’re an INFJ, You’ve Probably Had This Problem at Work. I am so right in the thick of this. In related news, 4 Reasons Introverts Make Awesome Employees and What to Do When You Feel Overstimulated and Overwhelmed.

15. Wholebeing from Karen Walrond on Chookooloonks. “I had come to the conclusion that thriving, in essence, was less about financial success or even having a rocking body, and more about the way in which we move through the world.” Also from Karen, The importance of a creative practice.

16. Your kitchen table from Seth Godin, who suggests a way of understanding the messages that come through your laptop and phone.

17. An Open Letter to Oprah about Weight Watchers.

18. How to Talk About Body Image Issues When You’re Not Fat on The Body is Not an Apology.

19. Wild Mystic Woman Podcast Ep016: Melissa Toler On Opting Out Of Diet Culture & Reclaiming Our Wellness.

20. The Movie Version of “A Wrinkle in Time” Was Markedly Less Feminist than the Book. In related news, Watching ‘A Wrinkle in Time’ is a political act and Black Panther Breaks $1,000,000,000 Mark and A Wrinkle in Time Claims No. 2 Spot in Historic Weekend for Black Films.

21. How Segregation Shapes Fatal Police Violence.

22. Wisdom from Brave Girls Club, “When you don’t stop to rest, to think, to recharge, to remember, to restore…you end up grouchy, tired, uncreative, angry, and numb to lots of life.” Word.

23. Wisdom from poet Mary Oliver, “A lifetime isn’t long enough for the beauty of this world and the responsibilities of your life.”

24. The Broccoli Tree, Or: The Dangers of Sharing Photos of What We Love.

25. The Black Love Bail Out Aims to Free Poor Defendants — And Teach Others To Do The Same.

26. Teenage Chef On His Way to Ruling World of Ramen. To have parents, etc., who support your interests is huge. Imagine what the world would be like if even just half the kids, especially kids of color, had the same chance?

27. Dog Wants To Go With Owner. (video) This cracks me up, but it’s not about a dog wanting to go with, it’s a puppy throwing a tantrum, and it reminds me so much of my Ringo Blue. Dogs can be cute even when they are being jerks.

28. These two outstanding high school students were deported, and their community is devastated. (video)

29. Tybre Faw meets John Lewis. (video) I’ve seen this multiple times. Every time, I cry. “Tybre Faw traveled 7 hours to see his hero, Rep. John Lewis, who was in Selma, Alabama, to commemorate the anniversary of Bloody Sunday. The boy became emotional when they met, and Lewis invited him to march with him toward the Edmund Pettus Bridge.”

30. 10 Great Movies Under 90 Minutes Long on Netflix.

31. Obamas visit swing set they donated to DC shelter. (video)

32. This 11-year-old helps stressed-out New Yorkers fix their problems. (video) “Ciro Ortiz is not your typical middle schooler. At 11 years old, the Brooklyn-raised boy is not only already fending for himself but is giving back. Inspired by a desire to help, Ciro decided he would set up a stand and offer emotional advice to stressed-out New Yorkers off the Williamsburg L train line. He charges $2 a session, but it’s clear his advice is worth a lot more.”

33. The Brutal Truth Behind The Toxic Relationship Between A Narcissist And An Empath. Been there, done that. *sigh*

34. A Phrase For Our Time: Merriam-Webster Adds ‘Dumpster Fire’ To Dictionary.

35. ‘It Just Felt Very Wrong’: Sherman Alexie’s Accusers Go On The Record.

36. Body-shamers try to tear her down, but Mirna is strong and can run for miles. (video)

37. A 6-year-old’s hoop dreams. (video)

38. Secret NYPD Files: Officers Can Lie And Brutally Beat People — And Still Keep Their Jobs.

39. 6 Ways to Celebrate Women’s History Month Like a Lady.

40. Find Out Why This NOLA Chef Is Charging White Customers More Than PoC For The Same Meal.

Gratitude Friday

1. Spring break. I barely made it, and I need it so desperately. I haven’t been this burnt out in a really long time.

2. Morning walks with Ringo. Sam is still restricted to going just around the block, so it’s been just me and little dude. The other morning, we were about 15 minutes from the river when the sky caught on fire. I thought for sure we were going to miss it, but we made it in time to get a picture of the tail end of the sunrise.

3. Winter sky. It’s always vast, but the colors and clouds in winter are extra special.

4. Physical therapy for Sam. That we can afford it, that it is helping him heal, and that he is such a good boy when we go.

5. Eric. All the ways that he helps me, loves me, makes me laugh and keeps me sane.

6. Naps. Ringo typically doesn’t let Eric take very long naps, but for some reason he’s willing to take epic ones with me, even if he fights it initially.

7. Flowers in the bathroom. I’m loving how long these last.

8. Practice. Keeping me from giving up, keeping me sane.

Bonus joy: Yoga, Pilates, aqua aerobics, massage, crisp crunchy Gala apples and peanut butter, good TV, good books, good podcasts, good films, blogging, my car which looks so pretty after Eric washed it, things turning green, birdsong, our old neighbor saying “hi” to Ringo, our “new” fence, barbecue, clean laundry, clean sheets, a warm shower and a clean towel, cuddling with Ringo, loving on Sam, pain meds.