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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

At the top of the tree to the right is a Great Horned Owl, hooting at the moon and stars

1. Morning walks. We went around the ponds and by the river on Friday because I expected there to be some peak fall color, to find that it’s only just starting — which is okay with me because that means there is still more to come. I know you’ve heard me say it a zillion times: fall in Colorado is my favorite season.

2. Long term relationships. In particular, shared experiences and inside jokes. For example, today we went to lunch at Mt. Everest Café and as we were getting up to leave, a rowdy group arrived, which reminded me of something that had happened probably 15 years ago, so I told Eric, even though he’d been there. We were at Woody’s Woodfired Pizza, which is no longer there, was replaced by an apartment complex. At Woody’s, you could order off the menu exactly what you wanted, or you could get the all-you-can-eat pizza and salad bar buffet. With the buffet, you could go up to where the pizza was being made and request just about any sort of pizza combination you could dream of and they’d make it. One time we were there, about half way through our meal, and I was up getting another few slices when a whole soccer team of boys about ten years old arrived for lunch after a game. A few were up checking out the pizzas already on the buffet, and I heard one say to the other, “Dude, let’s have an eating contest!” I went back to out table and told Eric what they’d said and that he’d better go get whatever else he wanted to eat because it was about to get wild. That’s one of the things I love about being together for so long — not only do we know how to make each other laugh, we have inside jokes, and there are funny stories we retell each other to make each other laugh again about something we already laughed about and told each other multiple times.

3. Ringo. I am so glad he’s finally feeling better. Eric just called out from the living room, “is he in there with you?” and he is, so close behind my chair, I’m afraid to move. He’s started this thing this summer where when it’s time for bed and I take him to the backyard to have him go potty one last time before we “get in” and instead of doing what he needs to do and coming right back in, he flops down in the grass and starts sniffing the air. I could get annoyed because I’m ready to go to bed and want to get this part over with, but instead, I remember that in just two months he’ll be 12 years old, and I have no idea how long we have left together, and someday I’m going to wish, be willing to give anything to just sit in the backyard with him as the sun is going down.

4. Practice. I felt I had nothing left to offer this week for yoga, but I went because I always feel better once I’m there, and this week was no different — I adore the crew at Red Sage. They light me up. As usual, my Friday morning writing sangha was magical, full of laughter and tears, gorgeous phrases and strange facts. And my meditation practice continues to keep me sane.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I made this, and it’s exactly what I always wanted.

Bonus joy: cooking with Eric, good TV, listening to podcasts, aqua aerobics, the hydromassage chair, sitting in the sauna, finally getting in to see a PT about my hips and back (turns out my core really never recovered after two abdominal surgeries in one year), an “emergency” massage at the gym since my person was booked up all of September, fry sauce, comedy and comedians, libraries and librarians, that sweet pittie named Oakley who was saved from a house fire after running past the open front door through the smoke and scream of the fire detector into the kitchen to show the police officer where his leash was so he could put it on before they left the house, listening to Wendy talk about butterflies, seeing Michelle’s dog and kitty on Zoom, texting with Chloe’ and Chris, sharing reels and memes with Shellie and Kari and Carrie, other people’s kids and pets and gardens, gold in the trees, the rabbitbrush so yellow it looks like it’s glowing in the dark, the moon, stickers, online ordering and scheduling, streaming content, those willing to speak sass to power, those who speak up even as they put themselves at risk, those who call a lie what it is, poets and poetry, clean sheets, muffins, gummies, naps, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.  

Something Good

1. Poetry: Mary Oliver Says and Found Joy and Here’s To You and On Being Alone by Julie Barton, There Is A Road Inside Me and On the Eve of His 21st Birthday and On the Phone, Far Away and Sitting in a Quiet Room by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, Who Am I to You? from Jena Schwartz, Aging Gratefully from The Weekly Pause by James Crews, Yes by William Stafford shared by Patti Digh, Keeping Quiet by Pablo Neruda, and Go Now. Get Born. Live. “On the poetry of my grief, and saying yes” from Megan Falley.

In related news, this offering from Laurie Wagner at 27 Powers, Writing the Resistance: “Praise as protest. Grief as witness. Words as shelter.” with Alison Luterman.

The world feels overwhelming these days. The news shouts at us louder than our own heartbeats, and often it’s hard to know how to respond. Maybe you’ve felt silenced, unsure of what to say, exhausted or afraid of sounding angry or strident. This writing class is about finding another way in.

My friend, poet and essayist, Alison Luterman, has always written her way through these times by listening closely to what’s right in front of her — her neighborhood, her friends and family, the rawness of children growing up, the Vietnamese elders down the street, the Mexican neighbors next door. She writes from her grief and her praise, lifting up the human moments that stitch life together.

For Alison, resistance is about paying attention. It’s about naming what she loves. It’s about the quiet act of bearing witness. It’s praising the very things we cannot bear to lose. Writing the Resistance isn’t about ranting or preaching. It’s about dropping below the noise into the heart of our lives — where resistance shows up as love, attention, and devotion. Come sit with us, and let’s write our way toward what matters most.

2. From Seth Godin: Kinds of reckless and No time?

3. Bad pencils make for good epiphanies from Jenny Lawson.

4. The Death of Social in Social Media, “The Reality-TVification of Ordinary Life” by Frederick Joseph. “That is the fracture line. For me, social media has always been a form of conversation, an imperfect extension of the ways we keep in touch and build collective thought. For others, Miranda included, it has become a stage. A place where ordinary life is recast as a series of episodes, each post designed as content, each follower reframed as a spectator. It is the difference between living in community and clamoring for stardom, between being a person online and auditioning to be the star of your own reality show.”

5. Let September Be Softer from Meg Josephson.

6. Writing 87 obituaries taught me we are more alike than we think.

7. Heaven Is Right Here. Is It? “What to do when love isn’t reaching out” by Satya Robyn.

8. A Whimsical Rebellion. “What if we fill our lives with the most radical act of all: refusing despair?” by Gina Luker.

9. “The fall of autumn,” In which I wax sentimental about the season at hand by Jonathan Edward Durham.

10. Smartphone Free Childhood: the unstoppable rise of a culture-shifting campaign. “With smartphones a near-constant presence in children’s lives, one grassroots movement is pushing back – with remarkable force. Smartphone Free Childhood began with a conversation between two parents and has exploded into a nationwide campaign that’s captured headlines, inspired school reforms and signed up tens of thousands of families.”

11. Wainwright prize for nature writing awarded to memoir about raising a hare during lockdown. “Debut author Chloe Dalton’s ‘dream-like’ book Raising Hare follows the writer from London to the countryside.”

12. How Japanese ‘tiny forests’ are sweeping Scotland. “Grown using the Miyawaki method, fast-growing miniature forests in the middle of cities can bring surprisingly big benefits for people and the environment.”

13. 6 Qualities to look for in housemates (that go beyond splitting rent)Here’s hoping I won’t ever need this advice again in my lifetime.

14. 12 of the Best Fall Foliage Hikes in the U.S.—From Alaska to Tennessee. “If you want to soak in the best that autumn has to offer, it’s time to hit the trail.”

15. The Permission Workbook: On Revenge Writing (A Bad Idea) by Elissa Altman.

16. How do you respond when a famous person whose ideology you abhor is shot and killed? “The same way you respond to every death in a world too full of it” by Garrett Bucks on The White Pages.

17. Why do we collect things? “Desire, nostalgia, loss, and completeness in the personal collections of Joseph Cornell, Peter Blake, and Vladimir Nabokov” from Elsie Morales.

18. Why wisdom can’t be taught by Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries. “So — can wisdom be taught? The sad truth is: no. Not really. It must be lived. And living is rarely a very tidy process.”

19. Stay Informed Without Drowning in Anxiety by Leo Babauta on Zen Habits.

20. If You Want to Simplify Your Life, Stop Doing These 7 Things.

21. Recipe I want to try: Oatmeal Pancakes.

22. 7 signs it’s time to call it quits.

23. Why Everyone—Yes, Everyone—Should Join a Book Club. “Linda-Marie Barrett on the Pleasures of Reading in Community.”

24. Former poet laureate Ada Limón says artists must band together during ‘dangerous times.’

25. Japanese concept “Mottainai” made me rethink the way I eat, shop, and even say goodbye. “Less waste, more flavor.”

26. “The most INSANE Bohemian Rhapsody Flashmob you will ever see…With 30 musicians and singers in the STREETS of Paris.” (Facebook reel)

27. “Why are their five holes in it?!” (Facebook reel) Spoiler Alert: they aren’t able to figure it out, but it’s pretty funny watching them try.

28. And finally, this random collection of things I saved to my phone this week.