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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Gratitude. Yes, on this week’s list of things I’m grateful for is gratitude. I was outside looking at the sky when I got up this morning and I realized that this list could be subtitled “things that keep me from giving up.” Noticing, being aware and amazed, feeling that warm rush of thankfulness that is a strange mix of hello/goodbye, love and grief, full and empty — keeps me from giving up. Sometimes it’s as simple as birds in the feeder or a glass of orange juice or a warm shower, and other times it’s more complicated, bigger than that, like hugging Eric as we stand in our kitchen in a house we’ve made our home for 20 years with a love that’s sustained us for almost 30 years, knowing that we are so lucky and also that it won’t last, that everything we love will die, including us.

2. Morning walks. We were back on our regular schedule this week. It involved some different routes because of the snow still left on the ground. After a few days without more snow coming down to cover it or enough sun to melt it all, the trails where people have walked pack down, with the top layer thawing and refreezing into a sheet of ice, so to walk our normal dirt trails means wearing spikes on my shoes and has the potential to make Ringo’s feet too cold or him slip, so we stay on the city paved trails that are kept clear. Thankfully, there are still spots on these routes where we can see the river.

3. Pink sky. Some mornings it’s so vibrant, it changes the color of the light inside the house.

4. Ringo’s lost & found. I told you recently about the pair of gloves, which started to wear and tear and thankfully he found a bear on a walk to replace them so I could sneak them into the trash. A few days ago, his find was a soft fuzzy duck, this one not for dogs but a baby toy, the kind our Dexter always loved so much. It’s the new favorite. And just to be clear, if we can even guess at the true owner, such as a dog toy in someone’s front yard, we make him leave it. We only take home the truly lost.

5. My tiny family, tiny home, tiny life. Eric was back at work this week and classes start next week, so Ringo and I were missing him.

Bonus joy: hanging out with Chloe’ and Hendrix, tater tots with salt and homemade fry sauce (seriously, the sauce is so good I’ve planned entire meals around it), old school grilled cheese sandwiches (texas toast with “american” cheese slices), new Catfish episodes, podcasts, really good books, my Kindle, snow tires, Wild Writing, vaccines, clean sheets, orange juice, a warm shower, cuddling with Ringo, smart phones, texting with Mom and Chris, feeling better after a couple of weeks of crud, down blankets and pillows and coats, wool socks, practice, physical therapy, gummy vitamins, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

Image by Eric

May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
May the clarity of light be yours,
May the fluency of the ocean be yours,
May the protection of the ancestors be yours.

~From New Year Blessing by John O’Donohue

1. The Best New Year’s Resolution I Ever Made Was To Exercise Less.

2. Betty White: First Lady of Television “A warm look at the life and career of the beloved television and film legend,” streaming on PBS.

3. A wild card foretelling hope for America’s future on CBS Sunday Morning. “Correspondent Steve Hartman asked a clairvoyant, Winslow Eliot, for a look ahead in 2022 and how America might fare during this uneasy time. The tarot cards – and assorted acts of kindness Americans have shared with one another – offer a sign of hope.”

4. Take a Good Look at What Dr. Oz Is Selling Us Now on The New York Times. Because this: “As we collectively face yet another surge of coronavirus infections, leaders who extol individualism aren’t simply ineffective — they’re dangerous. If there’s anything we should be taking away from the past two years, it’s that autonomy and self-reliance are inadequate for 21st-century problems such as climate change, structural racism and the pandemic.”

5. Unlearning Weight Stigma: The Latest Science on Trauma and Weight.

6. Why Doctor Visits Really Are Different for Highly Sensitive People.

7. Notes From the End of a Very Long Life on The New York Times. “With the death of Ruth Willig at 98, a Times series on a set of the oldest New Yorkers — chronicled over seven years in 21 articles — offers their lessons on living with loss.”

8. Why I Answered My Dad’s Gay Sex Ad. “In the Christian parenting books my dad wrote, we were always the most perfect devout family. When I found out he was secretly trolling for gay sex online, I became obsessed with unmasking the truth.”

9. Becorns on Instagram. “Ex-LEGO designer, traded in plastic bricks for acorns and sticks.” These are so sweet, a mix of magic and nature.

10. Diet culture is everywhere. Here’s how to fight it. In related news, Diet messaging is everywhere right now. Here’s how to tune it out.

11. When facing loss, embrace change and don’t force closure, a therapist urges. “In her latest book, published in December, The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change, Boss offers ways to heal from the everyday and catastrophic losses of the last two years — without trying to erase them.”

12. What are the symptoms of Omicron? I got tested last week because of this list, but turns out the common winter crud symptoms are exactly the same. Ugh. Are we there yet?

13. Enchanting Photos of Madeira’s Ancient Fanal Forest Filled With 500-Year-Old Trees.

14. Making Peace With My Writing Career One Walk at a Time. “With every step, I realized I didn’t have to be juggling All The Things to be a worthwhile member of society. I just needed to exist.”

15. Ethereal Oil Paintings by Ekaterina Popova Glimpse the Warm, Intimate Interiors of Home.

16. Good stuff from Anne Helen Petersen: “I had been hating my body like it was a job for years and I wasn’t happier, healthier, or thinner. I was just…tired,” an interview with Ragen Chastain, and How to Build a Rugged, Resilient Society.

17. The Great Surrender: How We Gave Up And Let COVID Win from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

18. How Would You Describe Yourself in Five Words?

19. Seventy-one reflections on 2021. “I asked people to write down what they were feeling in the moment. The responses are presented unedited.”

20. The True Meaning of Ikigai: Definitions, Diagrams & Myths about the Japanese Life Purpose.