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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. There weren’t many this week. We had three or four days when the temperatures were below zero and didn’t get much higher than 10 degrees, and this morning Ringo overdid it and is limping, so next week may be restricted as well — and that’s totally okay.

2. The right book at the right time. I was writing and thinking about something in particular this morning and went to look for a book that I thought I had to read more about it and turns out I only have that book on my Kindle, but in the process of searching for it on my shelves, I found another book that so clearly is the one I need to read right now.

3. Family. My uncle Joe died this week, my mom’s younger brother. He wasn’t alone, his son was with him (which makes me happy for Joe but heartbroken for my cousin who did everything he could to help him only to lose him), and now that he’s gone, the rest of the family is gathering to love on his wife and kids and each other. Joe was a hard worker, loved his family, and was a big goofball. We will all miss him, but it’s also a reminder how much we love each other, how lucky we are, and how short and precious life is.

4. Good food. This week we had a “dump dinner” night because I realized we had potatoes, brussel sprouts, and broccoli that were days away from going in the compost pile, so I fried the potatoes, roasted and glazed the sprouts with balsamic vinegar and honey, and made broccoli and parmesan cheese fritters. The whole “making something from nothing” is a particular kind of magic, medicine.

5. My tiny family, tiny home, tiny life. The world is on fire and sometimes the chaos and grief of that gets me down, but all I have to do is pet Ringo or hug Eric and I decide for the millionth time to not give up.

Bonus joy: playing with Ringo, swimming laps, raspberries, stickers, the hydromassage chair, making art with Janice, sitting in the sauna with Eric, how fast I have access to lab results, clean laundry, clean sheets, taking all my social media apps off my phone for the weekend, pain medication, vaccinations, listening to podcasts, writing, meditating, stretching, aqua aerobics, small group training with Shelby, snow tires, snow, ice scrapers, snow shovels, down and wool, watching Guy’s Grocery Games and laughing with Eric, texting with Chloe’ and Mom and Chris, naps, a warm cup of coffee with hot cocoa and tiny marshmallows, gummy supplements, kitchen hugs, kitchen counter love notes, all my various spaces to practice and work and rest, a warm shower, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

1. Let’s Be Lazy: 10 Ways to Rest and Relax from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less. Also from Courtney, A Simple Life is Messy Too (we can’t simplify our way into a perfect life).

2. Turning toward new ways of being. “The future that we long for, and that we’re making now, is in us. It’s alive today. It’s part of our inheritance from our living, non-living, human, and non-human ancestors.”

3. A Handbook for Abolitionists. “Patrisse Cullors’ new book offers guidance for personal, as well as systemic, change. Breaking the cycle of harm starts with us.”

4. Don’t tell cancer patients what they could be doing to cure themselves. “There are many ways to support someone going through cancer treatment. Recommending pseudo-scientific treatments isn’t one of them.”

5. We’re Entering the Control Phase of the Pandemic. “The virus isn’t done with us. So we need a new approach to dealing with it.” In related news, Post-Omicron Life Can Be Downright Maddening (“How to live with the uncertainty of not knowing what comes next”), and Should You Still Wear a Mask? (“Experts weigh in on where, and when, you can safely take one off”) on The New York Times.

6. Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle a video series created by one of the authors commenting on each chapter of the book. In related news, Your Body Knows You’re Burned Out on The New York Times. “Here’s how to recognize the physical symptoms of work-related stress — and what to do about them.”

7. Road trip Q&A with Austin Kleon.

8. 6 Black Women Authors Whose Books Will Help You Better Understand Blackness in America. In related news, Black Voices in American Music: The Playlist.

9. Things I Didn’t Know I Loved from Laurie Wagner.

10. Welcome to Colonoscopy Land. “Are you ready to poop 27 times?????” If you know, you know.

11. A Digital Map Leads to Reparations for Black and Indigenous Farmers. “The map’s creators envision equitable distribution of land and resources through ‘people-to-people’ reparations.”

12. Netflix and Disney face a growing challenge: streaming mercenaries. “As the streaming wars heat up, companies like Netflix, Disney, Amazon, Apple, and Hulu are vying to keep customers around for the long haul.”

13. Why We Love Lazy, Drunk, Broke Women on TV on The New York Times.

14. Ten rules for writing fiction.

15. See (the Worst People in) the World!  “How defiant Covid-era customers turned a dream job — flight attendant — into a total nightmare.” on The New York Times.

16. How to clear the air in the most polluted cities on Earth.

17. The Trauma of Transracial Adoption. In related news, I Kept My Family’s Secret For Over 60 Years. Now, I’m Finally Telling The Truth. “And so, yes, I am grateful my parents chose me. I am no longer ashamed to be an adoptee. I may never find my biological mother, but on this journey of life, I hope to find me.”

18. 4 Behaviors Are The Most Reliable Predictors Of Divorce.

19. Tears for Fears returns with “The Tipping Point”.

20. Wildlife officials throw 3,000 pounds of lettuce a day into the sea to save starving manatees.

21. Recipe I want to try: French Onion Chicken Macaroni and Cheese.

22. 6 Signs It’s Time to Leave Your Job. “At some point, all of us experience moments when we must face the difficult decision to let go of something that formerly offered us purpose. But big decisions, like a career change, should be approached thoughtfully. While sometimes this can be done by reinventing your current work, there are times where the right choice is to strike out on a fresh path.”

23. A robot bought my seven-year-old car for more than I paid brand-new. “Carvana gave me more than I ever dreamed it was worth — how?”

24. Weight-Neutral, Non-Restrictive Blood Sugar Management Strategies by Ragen Chastain of Dances With Fat, one of the only humans I’d trust to talk about this topic.

25. I Ain’t Sorry. “Not everything you consume needs to be groundbreaking, universally loved, or some form of advocacy. It can just be shit that makes you feel happy.”

26. Followers Of Christian Influencer Brittany Dawn Said They Are Angry That She Pivoted To Religion To Avoid Scrutiny Over Her Fitness Scam. “They said Christians are called to expose people who are dishonest, not hide behind the promise of forgiveness when they’ve messed up.”

27. I wanna start a thread of seeing black men smiling. Or as I like to call it, “one of the best Twitter threads, ever.”

28. A Woman Is Cured of H.I.V. Using a Novel Treatment on The New York Times. “She’s the third person ever to be cured. Researchers announced that the new approach holds the potential for curing more people of racially diverse backgrounds.”

29. Animal Embroidery Made With Vibrant Bursts of Colorful Stitches.

30. Bisa Butler stitches Black history together one portrait at a time.

31. Delightful Nighttime Landscapes Nestle into Stacked Wooden Boxes in Allison May Kiphuth’s Dioramas.

32. Meet Skippy, a 26-Year-Old Border Collie Who Is the “Oldest Dog in Ireland”.

33. Luscious Oil Paintings Bloom Flowers That Look Real Enough To Touch. This makes me long for peony season.