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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Something Good

1. Jim Gaffigan is baffled by the mania over pumpkins on CBS Sunday Morning. “It’s October, which means we are officially in pumpkin season, the strangest of all made-up seasons.”

2. 50 ways to be ridiculously generous—and feel ridiculously good from Alexandra Franzen.

3. There is No Timeline to Grief.

4. ‘Cancer The Sequel’, One Star Review: Writing fake movie reviews for our personal dramas from Andrea Gibson.

5. Burnout Risk Factors – A Holistic View on Fried: The Burnout Podcast. The related infographic Cait Donovan made is really good too. 

6. Climate anxiety is a normal response to an abnormal situation. Here’s what to do about it.

7. Brute Force from Summer Brennan, because this, “writing, especially something like a book, takes actual physical stamina. It is not some delicate thing that happens up in the mind and nowhere else. It requires actual brute force. Brute force. The brute force of writing a book. Anyone who has written a halfway decent book knows this, but it is good to be reminded.”

8. Fifty Years of Song on the Smarty Pants Podcast. “Joy Harjo celebrates her life in poetry.”

9. Sharon Salzberg – Metta Hour Podcast – Ep. 193 – Yung PuebloIn related news, The Lion’s Roar Podcast: The Practice of Meditation with Yung Pueblo. “Diego Perez is the name behind the New York Times bestselling book, Clarity and Connection, written under the pen name, Yung Pueblo. His upcoming book, Lighter, promises a ‘radically compassionate plan for turning inward and lifting the heaviness that prevents us from healing ourselves and the world.'” 

10. Oh wow! How getting more awe can improve your life – and even make you a nicer person“Whether it’s the immensity of the Grand Canyon or the beauty of an intricate spider’s web, feeling awestruck is good for you. Here are 10 ways to get awed.”

11. A Genius Cartoonist Believes Child’s Play Is Anything But Frivolous on The New York Times, an interview with cartoonist Lynda Barry — “when it comes to self-expression, to making art, it’s fair to say that she’s an expert. But in many ways, not nearly as much of an expert as your average little kid, which is something Barry has been thinking about a lot lately. ‘Adults think that kids playing is some nothing thing,’ she says. ‘But play is a different state of mind, and it can help us do so many things if we just allow ourselves to get back to it.'”

12. “Autumn Anxiety” Is a Thing, and This Is How I Deal with It.

13. Stamps & Stamps design portfolioIn general I’m a bit sloppy and lazy, but that doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate and aspire to this sort of beautiful design.

14. The Hidden Invitation of Burnout“How to practice ‘the antidote to exhaustion’ when rest isn’t enough.”

15. This Twitter thread from Alexander Hardy of grief + loss resources.

16. The Little Rituals That Keep Us Going on The New York Times. “Thousands of Times readers shared their wellness ‘non-negotiables.'”

17. ‘Grey rocking’ – how to bore a toxic narcissist out of your life“Psychologists have suggested imagining yourself as an impenetrable grey rock when confronted with overbearing and manipulative people. The trick is to appear as uninterested, and uninteresting, as humanly possible.”

18. Medical Care Alone Won’t Halt the Spread of Diabetes, Scientists Say on The New York Times. “Researchers who study Type 2 diabetes have reached a stark conclusion: There is no device, no drug powerful enough to counter the effects of poverty, pollution, stress, a broken food system, cities that are hard to navigate on foot and inequitable access to health care, particularly in minority communities.” Amen.

19. Wisdom from bell hooks: “I am often struck by the dangerous narcissism fostered by spiritual rhetoric that pays so much attention to individual self-improvement and so little to the practice of love within the context of community.”

20. The diary of an Afghan girl killed in bombing reveals a list of unfulfilled dreams.

21. For Her Swan Song, Linda Ronstadt Turns to Recipes on The New York Times. “In ‘Feels Like Home,’ the singer, her voice taken by a form of Parkinson’s, tells her story through the border dishes of her Arizona youth.”

22. Recipe I want to try: focaccia onion board, “The pletzel is an Eastern European savory flatbread smothered in onions and poppy seeds with a chew similar to focaccia, but usually thinner and more crisp.”

23. The Longest Retreat: Ryan Lee Wong on the Intersection of Writing, Meditating, and Community.

24. 100 Must-Read Memoirs.

25. Petting a dog is good for your brain, research showsIt’s me, I’m the research. 🙂

26. How to Adjust to a New Routine When You’re an Introvert Who Hates Change.

27. Spirit Rangers | Official TrailerNow streaming on Netflix, “Native American siblings and Junior Park Rangers Kodi, Summer and Eddy have a secret — they’re ‘Spirit Rangers’ who can transform into their own super-powered spirits to help protect the national park that they call home!”

28. This adorable reminder from Kristin Noelle.

Gratitude

1. The morning walk. One of them this week was cold, wet, foggy, and overcast, but everything is turning color and it’s still my favorite time of year. 

And just to give you a sense of how many attempts it takes to get a picture of Ringo looking at the camera, even though the whole time I’m saying, “Ringo, Ringo, look at me, Ringo, just once, please just look over here, look at me, look at me, look at me, I’ll give you a treat if you just look at me…” He knows exactly what I mean and what I want, but Cattle dogs are SO stubborn and independent, and I actually love that about him.

2. Taking care of myself. It can be really really hard for me, but when I do, it’s so good.

29 years ago

3. 29 years with this human. This picture is us when I came to visit Eric in Colorado his first year of graduate school at CSU in 1993. I was living in Oregon and he’d come for school, but when he left Oregon we weren’t dating yet — really really liked each other, were good friends but were both dating other people (although, we had kissed in the few weeks before he left — that’s a whole other story) and he was leaving to go to school so it seemed like it might not happen. However, we kept in touch with letters and phone calls and by spring break that first year, we were both single again and decided I needed to come out for a week and figure out what this thing might be, if it was anything, if it was what we thought it could be. By the end of the week, we’d traded “I love you” and he called to tell his dad that he knew he wanted to marry me as soon as he saw me get off the plane, (back in the old days when you could meet a flight at the gate even if you weren’t flying). On Sunday, it is our 29th wedding anniversary, and I would pick him again, choose him over and over and always.

4. Happy Birthday, Kelly! She would have turned 50 this year, if she were still here. I’d give her a hard time for getting old, tease her about it, send her flowers, celebrate her. I was so lucky to know her, am grateful to be able to love and miss her, as much as I hate the missing part.

5. My tiny family, tiny house, tiny life. It’s no small thing. ❤

Bonus joy: green tea, green grapes, cedar mulch, cooler temperatures, a clean dog (Ringo got a bath today and he is so soft), pizza, toast with butter and marionberry jam, a crisp gala apple and a spoonful of crunchy peanut butter, ice, a washer and dryer in my house so I don’t have to hoard quarters and drag my dirty laundry out in public, finally getting some appointments with my physical therapist, I can’t believe I’m saying this next one, but… being able to do pushups and crawls in small group training because the shots I got in my wrists made them feel 80% better so I could (something I never appreciated when I couldn’t), going to the gym this morning with Eric and sitting in the sauna together, looking out and seeing Eric and Ringo lounging in the backyard, snacks, writing with Laurie and the gang (especially Chloe’), Hendrix out in the world playing with other babies and kids, good neighbors (so far the two new sets seem to be okay), other people’s dogs, the flowers Eric brought home for me today, new books, the opportunity to start over as many times as I need to, naps, good TV (I finished I May Destroy You and started the latest season of Sex Education and Joe Kenda is featured in at least two more true crime series for Eric and I to watch together), listening to podcasts, grocery shopping, prescription benefits, vaccines, being able to get test results and make appointments online, normal mammogram results, tiny marshmallows, racoons, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.