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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Ringo Blue. It’s his ninth birthday today. He and I have a deal that he’ll stick around for at least another four years, (and that still wouldn’t be enough). He is all the way recovered from being sick and it’s such a relief to see him happily being himself, even (or especially?) when he’s being a jerk.

Flowers from Mikalina

2. Birthday love. My 55th birthday was yesterday. It’s so nice to be reminded in one big wave of all the people who love me, even though they are all really good at letting me know all the time.

Birthday socks from my brother
My heart is a tender magnet (and I miss my dogs — Sam, Dexter, and Obi)

3. Practice, which this week included making art with Janice, meditating with bilateral sound tracks, and Wild Writing with my Friday morning writing sangha led by Laurie.

4. Morning walks. We had a snow storm and frigid temperatures roll in towards the end of the week, so I didn’t get as many pictures — we walked early in the dark so we could beat the storm one morning, and the next morning it was only 7 degrees with fresh snow on the ground.

5. My tiny family, tiny house, tiny life. Eric doesn’t have to work next week because his campus is on fall break. I just remembered that this morning after we got back from the gym, (weekends are my favorite because it means hydromassage chair, hop around in the pool for a bit, then sit in the sauna). He is my absolute favorite person. He and Ringo are out napping on the couch together right now and that makes me so happy. Ringo is so cuddly when it gets cold, makes himself a pile out of blankets and pillows and it’s so cute!

Bonus joy: the cake Eric made me, birds at the feeder, white chrysanthemums — especially the fat full ones with spiky edges like you see in Japanese art and that are wrapped in plastic netting at the grocery store to protect the petals, my general practitioner — her skill and kindness and sense of humor, books, new music, the fancy headphones I got Eric for Christmas that he doesn’t really use so now I do, gingerbread muffins, vaccines, clean sheets, true crime, listening to podcasts, that corner of the couch, twinkle lights, texting with my neighbor, texting with Chloe’ and Chris, YouTube, a new blank notebook, my HappyLight, the sound of the furnace, snow, raspberries, bananas, toast, marionberry jam from Auntie T, the sound of Hendrix in the background during our Wild Writing and what Laurie said about that and how Chloe’ smiled, other people’s dogs — in particular Diego who we see at the cement ponds, all the great places we have to walk so close to our house, being able to use the internet and apps for things I used to have to use the phone or my whole person out in public to accomplish, the pool, prescription glasses, Dana from Scotland who I make talk extra by peppering her with questions because she’s so friendly but I also love her accent, the front desk staff at the gym, training with Shelby and the gang, snow tires, good toothpaste, peanut sauce, the Vietnamese spring rolls from Chili House, being retired, canceled plans, good TV, graphic novels, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

1. Democrats retain control of the Senate after holding Nevada seatIn related news, A Guide to Election-Related Self-Compassion. “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

2. The Case for ‘Hibernating’ During Winter on The New York Times. “Our urge to decelerate around late autumn and throughout winter ought to be heeded. The instinct to rest more in that quiet space of time between when the last leaves fall and the first fireflies arrive resonates with ancient human and biological rhythms. We should listen to it.”

3. 20 best cosy UK cottages for a winter break.

4. Mysterious Creatures Emerge from Recycled Materials in Sculptures by Spencer Hansen.

5. The Acrobatic Immigrant Who Invented Pilates in a Prisoner of War Camp“Interned during WWI, circus entertainer Joseph Pilates used found materials and his fellow prisoners as his test lab, and imagined an exercise system that would captivate millions.”

6. The big idea: why we shouldn’t try to be happy“Happiness might seem like a noble goal – but striving for it can be counterproductive.”

7. Recipes I want to try: Roasted Garlic Parmesan Brussels Sprouts, and Caramelized Onion Dip, and Salvadoran Pupusas As Made By Curly And His Abuelita.

8. Noah Johnson’s upcycled wearable art(video) “Noah Johnson is a 21 year old Tasmanian-born fashion designer who has taken TikTok by storm with his upcycled, wearable art.”

9. Tegan and Sara Serve Up A Sweet, Queer Coming Of Age Story In Freevee’s “High School.”

10. Rob Delaney Wants You to Know How He’s Feeling (It May Ruin Your Day) on The New York Times. “In his memoir ‘A Heart That Works,’ the comedian and actor grapples with the pain of losing a child, and how to keep living.”

11. The Mountain Dogs“A short film following two beloved golden retrievers, Sampson and Baylor, as they climb to the summit of the Pinnacle Trail in Stowe, Vermont each day without their owners.”

12. A Shortcut for Caring for Others (and Being Cared For Yourself).

13. Confessions of an Introvert Who Struggles to Relax.

14. The leaf blower parable from Seth Godin.

15. How Are We Meeting This Moment? on Lion’s Roar. “Stephanie Kaza invites Buddhist communities, and specifically Buddhist leaders, to take a serious look at how they are—or aren’t—responding to the climate crisis.”

16. 7 Things You Definitely Won’t Need This Year (or ever again) on Be More With Less.

17. A gratitude zine from Austin Kleon.

18. Love Everyone: A Guide for Spiritual Activists on Lion’s Roar. “Real political change must be spiritual. Real spiritual practice has to be political. Buddhist teachers Sharon Salzberg and Rev. angel Kyodo williams on how we can bring the two worlds together to build a more just and compassionate society.”

19. A Few Rules For Predicting The Future by Octavia E. Butler“When a student asks Butler what the answer is to ending the suffering in the world, she replies, ‘…there’s no single answer that will solve all of our future problems. There’s no magic bullet. Instead there are thousands of answers–at least. You can be one of them if you choose to be.'”

20. How to Handle Confrontation When You’re an Introvert Who’d Rather Avoid It.

21. How to donate food to a food bank this Thanksgiving on the Feeding America blog, which includes links to a search tool that will help you find your local food bank. HOW is this a place where someone can pay $44 billion for something as dumb as Twitter AND people are still HUNGRY, don’t have enough to eat, don’t have regular access to such a simple and essential resource?! Seriously, it enrages me…

22. Why I Don’t Celebrate Thanksgiving“Indigenous chef Elena Terry shares what Thanksgiving means to her.”

23. 100 year old adopts a senior dog(video) #lifegoals

24. Accessing Joy and Finding Connection in the Midst of StruggleAn episode of Brené Brown’s Unlocking Us podcast with Karon Walrond. “If you’re struggling with how to be fully connected in your life and feel joy and acknowledge beauty and also fight for the things that we need to fight for right now, this will be a great podcast for you.”

25. This Is One of the Most Beautiful Tiny Houses You’ll Ever See(video) The Living Big In A Tiny House YouTube channel is a fun way to spend some time.

26. These lines from poet Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

“Let my gift to the world be
my constancy, a devotion to openness,
my willingness to be with what is.
Let my gift to myself be patience
as I tend what is dense and dark.”