Monthly Archives: December 2021

Something Good

1. A Poet-Artist Looks to the Stars. “Monica Ong is a 21st-century visual poet who extends the reader’s sense of what is possible.”

2. Secret conspiracies and public systems from Seth Godin. “If we’d like the world to work better, more fairly and with more of a long-term view, we have to identify the systems that push participants to do the opposite. And then we need to consistently and persistently work to change the incentives that cause the entities in those systems to act the way they do.”

3. 12 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues.

4. A Season for Looking Inward. “So what will ‘I’ feel during this season? Since I now realize the choice is mine, here are some examples of words I’m considering. Here are five words to focus on for a more meaningful, less stressful holiday season.”

5. ‘Embrace the Foolish’, an interview on Ask Polly. “Austin Kleon on blurring the lines between work and play.”

6. Here’s how you can help tornado victims in Kentucky. Also, How to help victims of the tornadoes on The New York Times.

7. Recipes I want to try: Peppermint Brownie Cookies and Cinnamon Sugar Scones and 30 Impossibly Easy Dump Dinners.

8. The Health Toll of Poor Sleep on The New York Times. “Finding that slumber sweet spot can be helpful for fending off a range of mental and bodily ills.”

9. Apparently, the pandemic didn’t teach us anything about how to handle a pandemic. “New research shows that the U.S. hasn’t figured out how to contain a beast like COVID-19 — even after living through.”

10. Closing the Loop: adrienne maree brown on Harm and Accountability. “The author and activist talks to YES! about how to take care of ourselves and our communities, and what that means for movement sustainability.”

11. Anne Rice, Who Spun Gothic Tales of Vampires, Dies at 80 on The New York Times. “She wrote more than 30 Gothic novels, including the best seller ‘Interview With the Vampire,’ which became a hit movie starring Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt.”

12. This gay Norwegian Santa ad is the only Christmas content I need.

13. Say More podcast episode 67: Mortality with Andrea Gibson on Spotify. “Olivia & Melissa go from complete chaos to total enlightenment in a conversation with renowned poet Andrea Gibson about mortality, the industry of death, the afterlife, and their new book You Better Be Lightening.” In related news, Nerdette Book Club: ‘You Better Be Lightning’. “We talk about what it has been like to lose the magic of live events during the pandemic and how they see their role as a poet and activist.”

14. Photographer Captures People And Their Bedrooms To Show Their Different Ways Of Living.

15. How the ‘HALT’ Acronym Stops Overstimulation for Highly Sensitive People.

16. Hand-Stitched Flowers and Landscapes Revitalize Found Photographs by Artist Han Cao. In related news, Vibrant Botanic Embroideries Embellish the Dried Leaf Sculptures of Hillary Waters Fayle and Artist Cuts Elaborate Designs With Astounding Details From Single Sheets of Paper.

17. The Best Books to Read in 2021, according to Vogue. In related news, Literary fiction dominates Maureen Corrigan’s 2021 Best Books list.

18. How to rest well. “Taking a break isn’t lazy – learning to recharge is a skill that will allow you to enjoy a more creative, sustainable life.”

19. Single All The Way Is the Gay Christmas Rom-Com Happiest Season Should Have Been. “Netflix skimps on the hometown homophobia and delivers the schmaltz.” It is SO GOOD.

20. Decolonizing Our Dreams. “We have to shed these oppressive structures that contain us so that we can dream of new realities where we can freely be who we already are — enough.”

21. I wrote a book about Black queer joy and pain. It’s already been banned in 10 states. The fact that there’s a large part of the population unwilling to consider any sort of gun control even when it comes to KIDS who also believe people can’t handle the ideas and characters in BOOKS makes my head/heart hurt…

22. Why Reparations Are About More Than Money. “Addressing histories of mass violence have to include both material reparations and public and visible symbolic gestures.”

23. Upcoming Novel “Julia” Will Retell Orwell’s “1984,” But This Time, Through A Woman’s Eyes.

24. On Being with Krista Tippett and Katherine May: How ‘Wintering’ Replenishes.
“Krista first spoke with Katherine [author of Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, The Electricity of Every Living Thing] in midwinter 2020, and their conversation continues to offer a helpful container for our pandemic time: as one vast, extended, communal experience of wintering. As 2021 draws to a close — still with so much to metabolize and to carry, with an aching need for replenishment — Katherine May opens up exactly what so many have needed to hear, but haven’t known how to name.”

25. The 1619 Project and the Demands of Public History. “The ambitious Times endeavor, now in book form, reveals the difficulties that greet a journalistic project when it aspires to shift a founding narrative of the past.”

26. The Second Coming of Octavia E. Butler. “Sixteen years after the visionary novelist’s death, Hollywood is bringing a slew of her intense sci-fi novels to the screen.”

27. Time 2021 Person of the Year. No, no, no. No. Just…no.

28. Her Instagram Handle Was ‘Metaverse.’ Last Month, It Vanished on The New York Times. “Five days after Facebook changed its name to Meta, an Australian artist found herself blocked, with seemingly no recourse, from an account documenting nearly a decade of her life and work.”

29. A good life is painful. “Psychologist Paul Bloom on the importance of suffering, the shortcomings of hedonism, and why he would never plug into the Matrix.”

30. ‘SNL’ took on TikTok with brutal accuracy. “The show satirized people TikTok-trying-way-too hard on the social media platform and it was was brutally accurate.”

31. ‘Sesame Street’ Was Always Political on The New York Times. “The beloved children’s show has been a recurrent culture-war target, but a documentary on HBO shows how social purpose was built into it.”

 32. 5 Steps Toward Self Compassion (video).

33. How to deal with (even more) Covid uncertainty. “If you’re struggling to ‘wait and see’ how bad omicron might be, here are productive ways to cope.”

34. Why is the world so beautiful? An Indigenous botanist on the spirit of life in everything. “‘Western science is a powerful way of knowing, but it isn’t the only one,’ says Robin Wall Kimmerer.”

35. Bros., Lecce: We Eat at The Worst Michelin Starred Restaurant, Ever. Hilarious is the only way to describe this.

 

Gratitude Friday (on a Saturday)

1. Morning walks. Ringo is getting so much better, even running with Eric a bit again, but when he walks with me we take our time — or rather I take my time and he waits for me. A lot of the time, he and Eric go and are back before the sun is even up. With me, we wait so we can be on the trails as the sun is rising. Two things that absolutely keep me from giving up: a walk with a dog by the water and the sun rising.

2. Reading. I love it so much and have my whole life, could never live long enough to read all the books I want. It’s my favorite.

3. Practicing together. This is more complicated with COVID, but I can still make art with Calyx and write with my Friday morning sangha and meditate or practice yoga with some of my favorite teachers.

4. All those who refuse to give up. This applies to just about every one who is still here, still trying, and I’m so grateful for them, for YOU.

Kitchen counter love note

5. My tiny family, my tiny home, my tiny life. Eric has one more week of working until he is off for his winter break. I’ll be so glad to have him around more. Once he gets home from his run this morning, we are going to finally go get our Christmas tree and wrap it in lights — one of my favorite things. If Sam were still here, he would have turned 12 yesterday. I was so sure he’d be my old dog, am still reeling from how suddenly he got sick, how fast we lost him. It’s been hard for me, especially getting used to having only one dog at a time, and yet Ringo is the equivalent of multiple dogs, such a jerk but also so sweet and goofy. He’s also pretty happy being THE dog.

Bonus joy: clean laundry, snacks, raspberries, watching the squirrels eat the pumpkins from our compost, birds at the feeder and the bath, our neighbor’s four dogs, Chloe’s curls and sense of humor and adorable baby, the playlist Calyx made, Laurie, texting with my mom and brother, listening to podcasts, cooking, bread, new books, good TV (we finished the latest season of The Great British Baking Show last night, and then realized there’s an old season we somehow missed), down blankets and pillows and coats, watercolors, that corner of the couch, reading in bed at night while Ringo and Eric sleep.