Monthly Archives: December 2020

Gratitude Friday

1. I’m still here. Healthy, safe, and so loved. My life is filled with privilege and good fortune that I absolutely don’t deserve (at least not any more than anyone else) and that fills me with gratitude.

2. The first COVID-19 vaccines. I watched videos of people receiving them that first day, and cried and cried — for all those we’ve already lost, all those still suffering, for all those we might be able to save, and all those who worked (and continue to do so) so hard to keep us safe.

3. Practice. I think I’ve had a regular daily writing and meditation practice for somewhere around 13 years now. Yoga came just a bit later, and dog has been here for close to 20 years. I would not be who I am without any of them, probably wouldn’t still be here.

4. Eric. He’s not always handy, but when he is, he goes BIG. For example: when our lilacs filled and split the old clay drain pipes closest to our house with roots, Eric saved us $2500 dollars by digging the trench the plumber needed to access and replace them; and another time when the heat and AC control dial in our SUV was broken and they said it would cost $1500 to fix it, he got online and figured out how to fix it with a soldering iron he bought for about $25.

His most recent fix was the computer that runs our TV. We don’t have a typical TV setup, but rather a computer hooked up to a flat-screen smart TV that acts as the monitor for the computer where we can access the internet to run Netflix, Hulu, etc. It also has a CD drive so we can play movies we own on DVD. The computer we had running our TV (nine years old at this point) died when Eric plugged in the Christmas tree. We’ve been hooking up my laptop but that’s not ideal since I need to use it for other things. We were going to order a new computer but Eric decided to see if he could switch our the power supply with one from an old computer we had in the garage. It worked! I am so impressed. He also makes amazing pies, so I think I’m keeping him.

5. My tiny family, our tiny home. It still feels a bit weird from time to time to have “only” one dog, (not that Ringo is “only” anything). All of my Christmas duties are done except for a few last minute things and cooking, and now that Eric is on break from work, the season of rest has officially begun, and I am not mad at that.

Bonus joy: Christmas lights, clementines, honey roasted peanuts, tiny marshmallows in my coffee, good podcasts, good books (I just finished The Henna Artist, which was a nice break from the dystopian fiction I’d been reading, and I finally got a copy of The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse by Charlie Macksey and I’m in the process of gifting it to just about everyone I know because it’s just that good), good movies and TV and music (especially holiday themed), a bit of snow on the ground (I hope we get a lot more), texting with my mom and brother, a warm shower, down blankets and pillows, “singing” with Ringo, writing with Laurie and our Friday morning group (who are all coming back for another season in the new year), hanging out and writing with Mikalina, frozen pizza (which can be weirdly yummy when you are so sick of cooking and eating your own food), resting in the afternoon even if it doesn’t turn into a full on nap, reading in bed at night while Ringo and Eric sleep.

Something Good

1. Instructions to a Self: A Diary of Becoming, Jen Lee’s new book. “A pandemic memoir in diary form. This new collection from Jen Lee delivers reflections in small bites, ranging from the personal to the poetic. In a time where no person’s experience exactly mirrors another, this daily accounting of the ebbs and flows offers comfort and company as we collectively experience grief, loss, and the uncertainty of what’s to come.”

2. Unravel Your Year 2021 from Susannah Conway, a free workbook. In related news Find Your Word for 2021.

3. My Pandemic Cat Had a Secret on The New York Times.

4. Apocalypse Then and Now.

This is the premise from which journalism begins: the assumption that well-trained reporters can go out into the world, gather up the facts, and shape that material into narrative and argument. Indigenous stories test the limits of this enterprise. They require journalists to draw upon centuries of history, elucidate structures of annihilation, and build trust with people who have learned to be wary of misrepresentation. The task feels almost ludicrous, like balancing a skyscraper atop a tiny plinth. When you consider a news market in which few consumers are seeking Indigenous media and would rather spend their leisure hours with the New York Times or HBO, it feels nearly impossible.

5. Is American Dietetics a White-Bread World? These Dietitians Think So on The New York Times. “A new generation of practitioners says the profession pays inadequate attention to different kinds of diets, body types and lives.”

6. Our Shared Unsharing.

This year, it seemed like no matter who you are, whatever you posted, you had a high chance of getting it wrong in some way, because many of the values we’ve come to expect (and enjoy) on Instagram feel incorrect for this moment: Narcissism, flexing, even the forgivable human cry for validation seem crass in the face of so much social discord. Being so flagrantly, publicly self-involved just feels extra-weird and inappropriate right now. There’s no way around that. The alternative, using Instagram to constantly blast out political messages (especially if you’d never posted that kind of material before), can also feel disingenuous, however well intentioned. This kind of tension could spell doom for a social network built on projections of pleasure and success.

7. Long Distance Love: Celebration and Connection in the Midst of a Pandemic from Sherry Richert Belul. Sherry is an absolute master of making you feel loved, even from a distance. If you don’t believe me, go listen to some of her Sunday Audio LoveGrams.

8. Begin again On Rita’s Notebook. “This week, I have understood in some new way that I am powerless to change whatever it is that makes me the way I am, and accepting that gives me space to create a new idea about who I am and what I can be – and that is freeing. Instead of seeing my difficulty to manage as failure, I can see my ability to function as well as I have as, instead, a kind of strength. Instead of focusing on all the things I haven’t done or have failed at, I can marvel at all that I have done in spite of who I am.”

9. A Black History of Art on Instagram. “Highlighting the overlooked Black artists, sitters, curators and thinkers from Art History and the present day.”

10. Breathe: A 30 Day of Yoga Journey with Yoga with Adriene. “With focus on awareness of breath, this [FREE] program invites a ripple effect of benefits ranging from boosting immune function to removing emotional blockages. With repetition of intuitive gestures, pranayama, and traditional yoga poses, set at a pace to prioritize connection with breath, this series is designed to help you build muscle tone, improve spinal alignment, and optimize body function.”

11. This Grievous Wound on Terrible Minds from Chuck Wendig. “The way we push back on this is by being a community, as good to each other as we can. We must refuse to let the injury define us. We must hobble on in the hopes of healing.”

12. Live from Snacktime on Instagram, “Hilarious & wholesome kids quotes.”

13. COVID news: What seven ICU nurses want you to know about the battle against covid-19, and First COVID Vaccine In U.S. Goes To NYC Critical Care Nurse, and ‘Level of suffering is unlike anything we’ve ever seen before’, and You can survive winter and not spread Covid-19. Here’s how., and What You Need To Know As The First COVID-19 Vaccine Heads Your Way, and Remembering some of those lost to COVID-19, and Trump Administration Passed on Chance to Secure More of Pfizer Vaccine on The New York Times, and FDA Analysis Of Pfizer COVID-19 Vaccine Finds It Effective And Safe, and Here’s Why Vaccinated People Still Need to Wear a Mask on The New York Times, and I Wrote a Tragic Novel About the 1918 Flu. 14 Years Later, My Family Got COVID.

14. Good stuff from Austin Kleon: Morning pages (and variations) and Quantity leads to quality (the origin of a parable).

15. 3 Ways for Introverts to Battle Their Pandemic Fatigue.

16. can kind win? on Chookooloonks. “‘Those who I’m fighting against want me to engage with anger,’ she [Asha Dornfest] said. ‘And I refuse to do it. I refuse to succumb to fury. Kindness is my act of resistance.'”

17. Good stuff from Lion’s Roar: How to Become a Bodhisattva (“Pilar Jennings on how to overcome two common roadblocks to compassion. The key is facing the truth of suffering — your own and others”) and On the Trail of Birth and Death (“‘How many times have I felt that I couldn’t bear the heartbreak,’ says Barbara Gates. ‘But here I am still hiking strong.'”).

18. The Hidden (Emotional) Harm of Dieting.

19. A place to write.

20. ‘The Backbone Of Democracy’: These Black Women Helped Define 2020.

21. Asian honeybees have found a secret weapon against murder hornets: poop.

22. Police officers are prosecuted for murder in less than 2 percent of fatal shootings. “As all of these problems and solutions indicate, this won’t be an easy issue to solve. It requires a truly systemic shift, from America’s culture around policing to how the criminal justice system functions at every level.”

23. We Cannot Transcend Mental Illness In The Context of American Capitalism.

24. The true practice of yoga a poem from Samantha Reynolds.

25. NOMADLAND | Official Trailer. (video) “Following the economic collapse of a company town in rural Nevada, Fern (Frances McDormand) packs her van and sets off on the road exploring a life outside of conventional society as a modern-day nomad. The third feature film from director Chloé Zhao, NOMADLAND features real nomads Linda May, Swankie and Bob Wells as Fern’s mentors and comrades in her exploration through the vast landscape of the American West.”

26. crumbs in the toaster by Karen Maezen Miller. “What remains of faith in these disappearing days? Oh yes, life. The fact of life.”

27. Notable Online on The Rumpus, “Our Notable Online column runs every Sunday morning, and features literary readings and events you can participate in from your home!”

28. Winter reading list: Indigenous authors share their favourite reads of 2020.

29. 13 Bizarre Animals That Could Totally Pass as Pokémon.

30. American Masters – Charley Pride: I’m Just Me (video) “traces the improbable journey of Charley Pride, from his humble beginnings as a sharecropper’s son on a cotton farm in segregated Sledge, Mississippi to his career as a Negro American League baseball player and his meteoric rise as a trailblazing country music superstar.”

31. Dear Joseph Epstein, BA – Your Time is Done. “Today the Wall Street Journal published an op-ed by essayist Joseph Epstein, calling for future FLOTUS, Dr. Jill Biden, to drop the ‘Dr.’ title from her name.”

32. The Best Lesbian, Bisexual, and Queer Movies of 2020.

33. The Gift of Death. “Pathological consumption has become so normalised that we scarcely notice it.” This is an older piece from 2012, but still relevant and worth a read.

34. Denver’s Tattered Cover Becomes Nation’s Largest Black-Owned Indie Bookstore.

35. Your Questions Answered: How Have You Overcome Writers Block?.

36. 8 Ways to Encourage a Meaningful New Year by Courtney Carver.

37. Ijeoma Oluo – The Pyramid Scheme Of White Supremacy | The Daily Social Distancing Show. (video)

38. Leslie Odom Jr. Performs ‘Last Christmas’. (video)

39. Artist Forages for Flowers and Leaves in Forest to Create Ephemeral Bird Portraits.