Monthly Archives: August 2017

Something Good

Sending good wishes to Texas

1. Hurricane Harvey in Photographs on The New York Times, (And btw, The New York Times has lifted the paywall on articles about the storm). In related news, A Catastrophe for Houston’s Most Vulnerable People, and The Trump administration will check people’s papers as they evacuate from Hurricane Harvey.

2. What you can do to help: Donate to Austin Pets Alive! who is helping shelters in the direct line of Hurricane Harvey, or check out this list from ABC News, or this list on Texas Monthly, or this list from Vox.

3. Old Feral Cat Becomes Grandpa To Foster Kittens. “This old feral cat hated living in a home — until he met the loves of his life.” I shared another video of him already, but this one was too good to keep to myself. In related news, as in “other examples of animal videos that make me stupid happy,” here’s one from West Coast Heeler pack, just a bunch of furry friends out for a walk.

4. Recipes I want to try: Two Ingredient Watermelon Ice Cream and Flour Tortillas.

5. Humans of New York, the series! (video)

6. The Running Activist. (video) “Running is not just about running fast…It’s a way to engage people in conversations, and really change the narrative on what it means to be a Black woman.”

7. 13 Nonfiction Books About Race, Written By Women Of Color. In related news, Amy Gallo’s Five Essential Books for Having Difficult Conversations, and 70+ Race Resources for White People.

8. The cover of Women’s Running, The Great Outdoors Special Issue. “On the cover is the inspirational Mirna Valerio, the woman behind the Fat Girl Running blog, who within the issue writes about how nature inspires every aspect of her life.”

9. An Ariz. Man Is Out of a Job After Posting About Plan to ‘Drive Through’ Trump Protesters. “I think we have a solid candidate for ‘Dick of the Year’ here.” Agreed, and yet, even worse is that this sort of nonsense is pretty common.

10. Wisdom from Patti Digh,

Just a suggestion to my white friends: Rather than spend energy asserting that you don’t have white privilege, investigate how you can use your privilege to dismantle racism. Because trust me, you’ve got it. The very color of your skin provides you with an unearned privilege that people of color don’t have. If you see “privilege” as “wealthy,” then you’re misunderstanding what I mean by white skin privilege. Unearned social advantage by virtue of just having white skin. You’ve got it. Don’t apologize for it. Don’t feel guilty about it. Don’t be ashamed of it. Just use it to dismantle racism.

11. 94-year-old man builds pool for neighborhood kids. (video) “After Keith lost his wife, his house grew silent and lonely. So Keith put in a pool, and the neighborhood kids now fill the silence with laughter.”

12. Buddhism’s Origins, a short video with Morgan Freeman.

13. This 4 year-old percussionist is amazing! (video) His teacher, Baba Donn, continues to teach at the Harlem School of the Arts where he has taught for over 25 years.

14. Wait, Do People Actually Know Just How Evil This Man Is? “Joe Arpaio’s reign was two decades of intimidation, cruelty, and abuses of power.”

15. Facebook is being accused of ‘racially biased censorship’ by the ACLU.

16. All Your Favorite HGTV Shows Are Totally Fake. I already knew some of this, but it doesn’t stop me from watching – it’s still good fiction.

17. Why I Stopped Talking About Racial Reconciliation And Started Talking About White Supremacy.

18. A Love Letter to Activist from Desiree Lynn Adaway.

19. What Trump’s Generation Learned About the Civil War.

20. #introvertproblems hashtag on twitter. In related news, 7 Things Introverts Will Never, Ever Understand.

21. From Alexandra Franzen, in her recent newsletter where she talked about publishing your writing: “To help you get started, I made something for you: CLICK HERE to download a list of 25 places that would love to publish your work. Yes, really. Yes, you. This is a list of blogs, websites, magazines, literary journals, and other places that are currently accepting submissions from new writers. I compiled this list along with my friend Susan—we run a writing class together—and we hope it’s super helpful for you!”

22. Jim Carrey: I Needed Color. (video)

23. Death to the Dichotomy from Be Nourished. “Our individual cycles of self-neglect are only mirrors of what is offered up by the culture, collectively and systemically.”

24. I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life. I’m panicking, just a bit. “Stop just assuming you have a full lifetime to do whatever it is you dream of doing.”

25. Don’t forget the second step from Seth Godin.

26. The Diet/Beauty Industry Cycle of Dis-Empowerment. When I first looked at this chart, I stared at it for a really, really long time — stunned, gobsmacked. #truth

27. Consider a membership with Everyday Feminism. They do really good work, and need our help to continue doing it.

28. These sex toys are for women, engineered by women.

29. Where Will You Stand? If we are to uphold the dharma, says Rev. angel Kyodo williams, we must stand up to racism and expose its institutionalized forms—even in our Buddhist communities. “Our inability as a nation to atone for the theft of these lands and the building of wealth, power, and privilege on the countless backs and graves of Black people is our most significant obstacle to being at peace with ourselves, and thus with the world.” (Thanks for the link, Rita).

30. Love Everyone: A Guide for Spiritual Activists on Lion’s Roar.

31. ‘Let Us Eat Cake’: The Tina Fey Effect in 2017.

32. What becomes possible when you say No?

33. What do you expect? on Life is Limitless. “Suffering comes in when you have the bar too high for yourself with expectations that sound more like orders or dictates and most of the time stem from other significant people in your life (parents, teachers, etc)…Suffering is experienced in the body when your bar is set from a place of striving and expectation and/or is set by others or from societal pressures of who we think we should be, what we think we should have or what we think we should do.” *sigh*

Gratitude Friday

1. Grocery shopping. I know this might make me weird, but I love grocery shopping. The privilege of being able to enter a store and buy anything I want and know that I don’t ever have to go hungry is something I never take for granted, and as someone who lived with an eating disorder for decades, there’s a newfound freedom and ease there too.

2. Eclipse shadows.

3. Flowers in the bathroom. I got to the Farmer’s Market later this week, so there weren’t as many left at my favorite stall, but still they are gorgeous.

4. Having my car back. It was in the shop for almost two weeks getting a dent in the door fixed, and I didn’t realize how much I’d miss it. This little grasshopper hitched a ride with us to the post office and back today, reminding me of another thing I love so much about a summer garden — all the bugs and animals it houses and feeds.

5. My tiny family. I’m especially grateful recently because one of Ringo’s brothers has been missing for three weeks. I can’t even imagine how painful that must be for his family, and I hope I never know.

Bonus joy: Wild Writing with my cool girls’ writing nerd club, aqua aerobics, my heating pad (which I realized today I may have “borrowed” from you at some point, Mom…if so, sorry, and thanks), ripe peaches, a warm shower and a clean towel, sleeping with the window open, good interns, a fan in the bathroom, physical therapy because even though it hurts it’s helping, fresh watermelon, when Eric laughs so hard he can barely talk.

Something Good

from a morning walk

1. NASA is live streaming the eclipse here. In related news, from The New York Times, How to Watch a Solar Eclipse, and Annie Dillard’s Classic Essay: ‘Total Eclipse.’

2. Friends honor artist’s last wishes with water ballet in a Seattle kiddie pool. (video)

3. Charlottesville: Race and Terror – VICE News Tonight on HBO. (video) I’ve only been able to watch the first few minutes, but it seems worth it to keep trying.

4. “This Isn’t Us” from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds. “We are at our best not when we say this isn’t us, but rather, this is us, but we don’t want it to be. We are at our best when we are truthful to ourselves and our children as to how we got here and to the cost we made others pay — and the cost we continue to make them pay today.”

Also from Chuck, Last Chance To Get Off The Ride. “If you’re a person out there who supported this president and who supported the political party to which he supposedly belongs, here’s your chance to get off the ride. Well, first, fuck you, because you should’ve known better.”

5. Ep. 154 [Raise Your Hand and Say Yes]: Laurie Wagner on Telling the Truth. Laurie says of writing, “You never get so good at it that you get beyond it.” Laurie has a new offering, 27 Wild Days, a great introduction to the Wild Writing practice and Laurie’s teaching. She’s beyond brilliant. You should totally check it out.

6. Because there’s no ignoring this and we need to keep trying: Ten Ways to Fight Hate: A Community Response Guide, and 6 Things White People Can Do To Reach Friends and Family Members to End Racism, and on racism, discrimination & bigotry, and I Studied the Alt-Right So You Don’t Have To, and Read the transcript of Donald Trump’s jaw-dropping press conference, and People Are Making Memes Showing Iconic Moments When There Was Violence “On Both Sides,” and A Flowchart For People Who Get Defensive When Talking About Racism, and White supremacy may be rearing its ugly head right now, but it’s nothing new (video), and Here are the words and phrases the “alt-right” uses to sanitize its racism and white supremacy (video), and 7 Unmistakable Signs Your Allyship Is Performative, and 17 Books On Race Every White Person Needs To Read, and For Our White Friends Desiring to Be Allies, and The White People Who Need “Proof of Racism,” and What Trump gets wrong about Confederate statues, in one chart, and Charlottesville’s Ongoing Fight Against White Supremacy (video), and Everything We Do Matters, But Two Things Are Critical, and The Sugarcoated Language Of White Fragility, and Racism Scale: Where Do You Fall?, and Crowdsourced Actions: things you can do re: Charlottesville, and So You Want To Fight White Supremacy, and On Fragility.

7. I need to talk to spiritual white women about white supremacy (Part One), wisdom from Layla Saad. “If it seems like I’m being judgemental, I am. That’s the very least white supremacy, racial hatred and domestic terrorism deserve.” And this,

…without meaning to, a lot of times nice, well-meaning white women can contribute in a big way to the problems we see because they don’t speak up, or they want to keep things polite, or they think the best thing they can do is just focus on being a loving person rather than ‘getting involved in politics’. This white silence, white privilege and white shame leads to a lot of white complicity in white supremacy.

8. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön, “Meditation practice isn’t about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It’s about befriending who we are already. The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now, just as we are. That’s the ground, that’s what we study, that’s what we come to know with tremendous curiosity and interest.”

9. 4 Questions Introverts Who Are Feeling Drained Should Ask Themselves. These seem liked they’d be useful contemplations for just about anyone.

10. Violence Turned Inward, wisdom from Rachel Cole.

When we aren’t connected to our innate enoughness and our place in the family of humans our pursuit of enoughness and belonging too often turns violent. For some white men, this violence turns outward. For too many women, again, especially white women, the violence turns inward, toward the self. Through perfectionism, loathing of the body, suppression of hungers, silencing of voice, denial of pleasure, dismissal of intuition, resistance to rest, and constant comparison to others, we are violent to ourselves.”

11. Black pastors release video, announce NFL boycott in support of Colin Kaepernick. In related news, Colin Kaepernick receives support from both inside and outside the NFL, and Will ‘BlackOut’ Be the Movement to Shut Down the NFL?.

12. 4 Signs You’re Culturally Appropriating Buddhism – And Why It’s Important Not to.

13. Tina Fey did this thing, (video), and the discussion happening around it is fascinating. Here’s just some of it: Tina Fey’s Response to Charlottesville Is White Privilege Personified, and The Outrage Over Tina Fey’s “Sheetcaking” Bit Is a Waste of Collective Energy, and Not Everyone Found Tina Fey’s “Sheetcaking” Funny, And Here’s Why, and The Brilliance of Tina Fey’s Cake Satire, Explained, and this twitter thread from Leslie Mac of Safety Pin Box. In related news, Late Night Hosts React To Charlottesville, Virginia. (video)

14. Lizzo is a singer-songwriter using her voice as an instrument of change. (video)

15. Free Yourself of Your Harshest Critic, and Plow Ahead on The New York Times.

16. Arts council members call for Trump to step down in their resignation letter.

17. Living In Between Fat and Thin. “In a society where size means everything, we are constantly negotiating to fit in.”

18. Recipes I want to try: Cashew Thai Quinoa Salad with Peanut Ginger Sauce and 2-Ingredient Sorbet 4 Ways.

19. Reusable food wrap from etee. “Say Goodbye to plastic wrap, sandwich bags & bulky storage containers. Preserve your food and protect your family – naturally – with these reusable food wraps.”

20. Why We Need To Talk About Racism, Prejudice And Dog Rescue. P.S. the image they use for this article looks like baby Ringo.

21. The memorial service for Heather Heyer, the woman killed Saturday after the white supremacist rally, held in Charlottesville, VA. (video) Here’s another video of the same.

22. Jamila Woods – Holy (Official Video). #blackgirlmagic

23. Video footage of rare all-white moose in Sweden.

24. Waking Up Is a Prerequisite to Reckoning, wisdom from Jena Schwartz. “The past isn’t the past when it’s present in our everyday lives, in ways many white Americans continue to diminish, downplay, and downright deny.”

Day of Rest

I taught a yoga class this morning. Towards the end of savasana, the song that was playing came to a crescendo just as an ambulance drove past with its siren blaring. The contrast between those two external demands, the beauty of the music asking to be noticed and the siren needing people to pay attention, was a reminder that life is both beautiful and brutal, tender and terrible, and that no matter what arises, as practitioners we work to keep our hearts open, to stay with it, to try and work with it with wisdom and compassion.

It reminded me of the quote from Pema Chödrön, the one about tigers above and tigers below.

There is a story of a woman running away from tigers. She runs and runs and the tigers are getting closer and closer. When she comes to the edge of a cliff, she sees some vines there, so she climbs down and holds on to the vines. Looking down, she sees that there are tigers below her as well. She then notices that a mouse is gnawing away at the vine to which she is clinging. She also sees a beautiful little bunch of strawberries close to her, growing out of a clump of grass. She looks up and she looks down. She looks at the mouse. Then she just takes a strawberry, puts it in her mouth, and enjoys it thoroughly.

Tigers above, tigers below. This is actually the predicament that we are always in, in terms of our birth and death. Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we’ll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life. ~Pema Chödrön, The Wisdom of No Escape: How to Love Yourself and Your World

This is a good reminder. When the chaos of life seems unmanageable, when so many are suffering and there’s so much confusion, there is also this, “delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life.”

This absolutely doesn’t mean, “stay positive.” It doesn’t mean we deny the tigers above and below. It doesn’t mean taking no action either, because if you notice the story starts with the woman running from the tigers until she can’t run anymore. Instead, we make space for it all.

We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. ~Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart

Gratitude Friday

1. Flowers in the bathroom. This week’s bunch might just be my favorite.

2. Dumb luck. Today I left my purse in an unsafe situation, not really meaning too but getting distracted, and when I realized what I’d done — a full hour later — there it sat, safe and sound.

3. A lovebomb I planted almost nine months ago still lingering, the edges curled and the colors water stained, but still there, still wishing.

4. Kitchen counter love notes. One of the best things about going back to work.

5. Morning walks with my tiny family.

Bonus joy: Friday, water aerobics, a heating pad, clean sheets, the deer and the baby cow we saw on our walk this morning, watermelon, peaches, how green everything is because of all the rain even though it’s the end of summer and should be turning brown, lunch with friends, texting, Instagram, Pilates, teaching yoga, going to bed super early, the Chill station on satellite radio, being able to afford a rental car while mine is in the shop getting some body work done, which leads to being grateful for good insurance, people who care enough to try and to risk doing it wrong and who keep showing up anyway.

Something Good

From one of our morning walks this week.

1. Wisdom from Lodro Rinzler, “Moments of sadness or despair are truly THE moments when an open heart matters most.”

2. With that in mind: White Supremacy is White America’s Legacy and Our Responsibility to Defeat, and My fellow white Americans, and What We Need White Allies To Do About The White Supremacists In Virginia, and SPLC releases campus guide to countering ‘alt-right,’ and Maybe Now Isn’t the Time, Guys, and White supremacists can march on my hometown, but they can’t win, and this wisdom from Rod Owens,

It seems like if we are really interested in ending white supremacy, white people should focus more on loving themselves instead of trying to love me [a black man]. The violence emerges from the ways self shame and apathy are bypassed in attempts to use love towards me as an argument trying to convince me that you are not “that kind of white person”. As long as you can not face yourself and love even those ugly parts, you are indeed that kind of white person and I will be left with the work of trying to love what you can not bear to witness.

And finally, from Laura Simms,

White people: Being a good person is your everyday life is not enough.

If you’ve been bowing your head and wringing your hands about the grotesquery in Charlottesville, then you’re going to have to give some things up for it to change.

Give up your silence. You may not know someone who would take to the streets with torches and swastikas, but you probably someone who assumes the the worst about people of color, thinks there’s no problem with police brutality in this country, and clutches her purse when a black man walks by. When you see that, call it out and shut it down unequivocally and unapologetically.

Give up your comfort. You will have to be willing to be unpopular. You may lose relationships, business, and status within your in-group. If your in-group won’t publicly denounce white supremacy, then think about what you’re choosing to belong to and why you’re so afraid to let it go.

Give up your ignorance. If you are not regularly, actively listening to the opinions and concerns of people of color, you are willfully remaining ignorant. No black friends in your life or on your Facebook feed? Think about why that is and then go find some voices of color to listen to.

Give up your defensiveness. Sit down. Shut your mouth. Listen. Be willing to accept an experience and world view that is different from your own.

Give up your money. Send it to organizations that fight institutionalized racism.

Give up your Confederate flag. If you can’t express your identity without a symbol that demoralizes a marganilized group of people, you need a stronger sense of self. If you want to celebrate your heritage, bake a cobbler, go fishing, or make a family tree. The Museum of Southern Horrors is the only place that flag belongs.

Each and every day, with your action or inaction, you either enable or disable racism in this country. Please be thoughtful in your choices, take responsibility for what power you do have, and step out of your daily routine in order to make a difference.

3. Elle Simone Discusses Her Unexpected Transition from Food Stylist to TV Personality. “She went from making food look beautiful behind the scenes to embracing her inner nerd in front of the camera.” America’s Test Kitchen isn’t as good without Christopher Kimball, BUT there is now Elle, and she is amazing.

4. 83,500 Vintage Sewing Patterns Put Into Online Database From Vogue, McCall’s, Butterick, And Simplicity.

5. Help Cheryl fight lung cancer. She started her treatments this week, and says she’s feeling pretty good so far. Her daughter and my friend Chelsey was able to fly out to be with her for a bit, so that’s helping too.

6. Weight Loss Advice I Have Received Since Hunger’s Release from Roxane Gay. A great quote Preston D. Mitchum posted on Facebook this week sums up my response to that noise, “People swear they are giving genuine health advice on weight loss when they’re simply fatphobic and intellectually dishonest.” In related news, a review of her book, Unruly and Unerring, which starts with, “Roxane Gay is a writer of extreme empathy. Her fiction and essays elicit as much shared understanding as they give. Her new memoir, Hunger, is the story of being a physical woman in a physical world that has been shaped for so long by men. And I suspect that every woman who reads Hunger will recognize herself in it.”

7. Natura Insects: The Delicate Floral Compositions Of Raku Inoue.

8. Making Yoga More Inclusive: Language Do’s and Don’ts for Teachers.

9. None of us know what will happen, wisdom from Austin Kleon.

10. F*ck You Billabong. Seriously, f*ck you. “Here women, this is what we think of you. Welcome to our site.”

11. What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life? Krista O’Reilly-Davi-Digui is resharing some of her older posts, and this is one of my favorites.

12. Four Castaways Make a Family, from the Modern Love series on The New York Times.

13. JAY-Z – Moonlight. (video)

14. A Garden Tour with Rachel Nafis on Soule Mama. Seriously, a garden is so much better than a lawn.

15. Redefining Wellness. “Therapist, blogger, and podcaster Davia Roberts is prioritizing self- and mental health-care for all women.” In related news, her website, Redefine Enough.

16. “It’s Not a Diet It’s a Lifestyle Change” is Bullshit by Dances With Fat.

17. You Aren’t Lazy — You’re Just Terrified: On Paralysis And Perfectionism.

18. Most Women You Know Are Angry — and That’s All Right. “If you stand up for yourself, if you assert your right to self-respect and bodily autonomy, if you raise your voice above a whisper, if you leave the house without a sweet smile slathered across your face, some people will inevitably call you shrill, a scold, a nag, bitter, a bitch. And that’s all right. Bitches, in the fragrant words of Tina Fey, get stuff done.”

19. Silly puppies. (video)

20. This Grad Student Makes Nearly $30K A Year Blogging.

21. 10 Books I Wish My White Teachers Had Read. A great list, even if you aren’t a teacher.

22. Ava DuVernay and Victoria Mahoney to Adapt Octavia E. Butler’s Dawn for Television. This is a powerful trio.

23. We Are Broke in Our Busyness.

24. Post-Strayed.

People say ambition comes from the heart, but I’m not convinced. Ambition follows your body and your body follows your ambition. That’s what people hate about Cheryl Strayed and Hillary Clinton. Ditto for the swarms of PCT hikers. It’s not jealousy of success so much as the near-outrage we feel toward anyone who knows, even for a short time, exactly what she wants, and turns herself, as they say, body-and-soul to the task.

25. This Is Why Eating Healthy Is Hard, from Funny or Die.

26. Work With Me. Justine is a marvelous mom, a beautiful friend, an amazing writer, and now a wise and compassionate coach. If you are in the market, you should totally check her out.

27. 100 Great Works of Dystopian Fiction.

28. Recipes I want to try: Hummus 4 Ways, and Creamy Vegan Coconut Chickpea Curry, and Taco Norteños with Bacon-Fat Flour Tortillas.

29. 1 in 3 Native American women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. (video)

30. Kids react to Queen. (video)

31. He was ready to return to a life of crime. Dave’s Killer Bread offered an alternative. We eat this bread, which is really good, but I love even more what they do for their employees.

32. Giant dog and regular sized cat cuddle, and that doesn’t even come close to describing how cute this is. (video)

33. The Body Positive Movement Needs More Than Robbie Tripp’s Faux-Allyship. In related news, The viral “curvy wife” guy regrets those racist, transphobic tweets: “We’re obviously embarrassed.”

34. Befriending Becky: On The Imperative Of Intersectional Solidarity.

35. A Wide Wake: On My Brother’s Passing, Jayme Stone reflects on the recent death of his brother, author, yoga and meditation teacher Michael Stone. “Michael left so much in his wake: a beautiful family, a potent body of work, a sangha of seekers around the world who have been moved by his teaching, and an astoundingly deep life. It is a wide wake. Let us stay wide awake.”

36. In Victory for Standing Rock Sioux Tribe, Court Finds That Approval of Dakota Access Pipeline Violated the Law.

37. Don’t Ask What the World Needs from Amy McCracken.

38. We Should Call HSPs What They Really Are: Intuitive Warriors.

39. Wisdom from Naomi Shulman, “Nice people made the best Nazis. My mom grew up next to them. They got along, refused to make waves, looked the other way when things got ugly and focused on happier things than ‘politics.’ They were lovely people who turned their heads as their neighbors were dragged away. You know who weren’t nice people? Resisters.”

40. #EndWhiteSilence, an open source (i.e. download it and use it, for free) graphic from Elizabeth Beier.

41. Loving Kindness Meditation for Victims of Racism and Hatred from Susan Piver. (video)

Gratitude Friday

1. Morning walks. The light has been so gorgeous lately, with the later sunrise, a full moon, and all the rain.

2. Summer harvest. I can eat about six large fresh carrots a day, along with a few cucumbers. The peach pies Eric makes are the best, but even just plain the fruit is some kind of magic. This year we are going to be smart and freeze some. We also made fresh pesto last week. Yum. I also am loving going to the Farmer’s Market every Saturday and getting a fresh bouquet of flowers to put in my bathroom.

3. Aqua aerobics. I love it so much, and it feels so good. I don’t even care that I smell like chlorine all the time.

4. Practicing creative joy. It’s our monthly theme in the Open Heart Project this month. In the talk Susan sent out, she said that “creativity is an encounter with space, with nothingness” and that to meet it, we must be open, relaxed, willing to not know what’s going to happen and to allow whatever might arise. This practice has saved me, more times than I can count.

5. My tiny family. This is our last few days on vacation together, and I’m already missing them.

Bonus joy: making art in celebration of a friend’s birthday, meditating, writing, reading good books, sitting on the couch with a heating pad watching good tv, sunshine, a surprise breakfast date (we’ll, they were already going and let me tag along), being able to rent a car while mine is in the shop instead of trying to navigate our schedules with just one car, long naps, new knee braces, peach pie still warm from the oven, watching America’s Test Kitchen (not quite as good without Christopher Kimball) with Eric and saying we are going to make all the things, going to the gym and getting in the pool with him, clean sheets.