Three Truths and One Wish

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Obi and Dexter

1.Truth: Some loss never leaves you. I will never stop missing Kelly. I will never not feel sad that Obi and Dexter are gone. The memory of losing them lives in my body, and at the most unexpected times it gets triggered, washes over me as if I’m in the very first moments of it all over again.

2. Truth: Even though it hurts, it’s better than the alternative. Maggie Doyne, who just lost her 18 month old son, posted on Facebook yesterday, “The only thing worse than losing Ravi would have been to never have known him at all.” I can’t stop thinking about it.

3. Truth: The pain you feel when you lose someone is equal in measure to how much you loved them. This is the good news, and the bad news.

One wish: That while we are here, we love, and when we go, we know that we were loved.

5 thoughts on “Three Truths and One Wish

  1. tinakomi

    Good news and the bad news because it never does leave you. Some time after Tim died someone actually asked me if I had wished I’d never had him so I wouldn’t know that grief. I was shocked because Tim was and continues to be one of the greatest gifts and joys of my life. The pain, even after 25 years, is still intense at times, but to have not ever known him? How empty my life would have been. I know his siblings feel the same way and because they all had to learn this horrible and painful lesson I believe they each in their own way become better human beings because of Tim.

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