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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. This week the harvest moon was a supermoon. We purposefully left early one morning when it was supposed to be at its peak to try and get some pictures, but it stayed behind the clouds until the very end of our walk. So, we walked in the dark for nothing and I didn’t get many pictures of it and also missed the sunrise that day because we walked so early — and it feels like there is a metaphor for my life in there somewhere, something about timing or trying to catch and hold on to what is unpredictable and impermanent and so beautiful it will break your heart either way. 

2. Practice. I’m so grateful for what it has taught me about sitting with discomfort, about not rushing to try and fix things or freaking out and running away, about being patient with not knowing, about ensuring I can wait until my action comes from a place of wisdom and compassion, about how to hold space for impermanence, about coming home to myself. 

3. Support and help, all the shapes and forms of it, giving it as well as receiving. 

4. Eric’s D&D “habit.” He first played with a group of friends when he was in high school. They’d stay up all night, eating snacks and making each other laugh. He was always in sports, specifically cross country, but he was also a nerd. As often happens with high school friends, people moved and started families and careers and they stopped playing together. Through some sort of magic, when we were settled in our lives here, he was invited to play again with a new group of adult friends, some of whom had played together since they were in high school. He’s been playing with them once a week for close to seven years. Each year, they have a big event where there’s a theme with multiple smaller campaigns and “dungeon masters” with a much larger crowd all in costume where they play all day. I told Eric the other day, he needs to put in his will that his collection be donated to a high school theater department because he takes it very serious and has some pretty cool costumes. An introvert like me, I’m SO glad that he’s got this group of friends, that his hobby is a nerdy one and not something like drinking or watching sports.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I am so lucky to have a place where I can be comfortable and safe and so loved.

Bonus joy: writing with Wendy and Cynthia, golden leaves — both on the trees and the ground, gummies, cancelled plans, cooking, grocery shopping, doing laundry, training with Shelby and the gang, the hydromassage chair, a warm shower, clean sheets, my infrared heating pad, down blankets and pillows and coats, wool socks and sweaters, slippers, being able to still laugh and cry, new notebooks, stickers, letting go, practicing yoga at Red Sage (this is the little dude who was there with us last week — watch this short video and be amazed I was able to teach a relatively coherent class with this level of cute in the room!), watching TV, listening to podcasts, four new books from the library, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

1. Supporting WNC“A hub for community-driven change in Western North Carolina. Centralize your giving and find volunteer opportunities to make a difference. Join others in supporting local causes, donating to nonprofits, or signing up to lend a helping hand.” In related news, How to help Appalachia recover from Patti Digh, and Hurricane Milton relief: How to help, donate & volunteer.

2. Seven Ways to Love Better on The New York Times. (gift link) “Reading some 200,000 love stories has taught me a few lessons about love and life. Here are the ones that help me most.”

3. See the Wildlife Photographer of the Year winners.

4. “Nothing Else Matters” – Oona & Gage Brown skate to Metallica and Marlisa. (video) “Oona and Gage Brown are Team USA Ice Dancers. We filmed their 2020-21 Free Dance in Bryant Park’s Winter Village ice rink at 6:45 in the morning over the Thanksgiving holiday.”

5. Kate McKinnon Moved to the Woods, Grows Her Own Food, Got Into Carpentry and Wrote You a Book.

6. Andrew Garfield Wants to Crack Open Your Heart on The New York Times Modern Love podcast. (gift link) “In this episode, Garfield reads the Modern Love essay ‘Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss,’ by Chris Huntington. His reading was unlike any other in the history of this show. Mr. Garfield was so moved by Mr. Huntington’s essay that he spoke in a surprisingly raw way with the host Anna Martin about the need for art to crack us all open, including himself.”

7. Jami Attenberg Can’t Wait to Find a Book She’s Inscribed at a Yard Sale on The New York Times. (gift link) “‘I am kind of living for that moment,’ says the prolific writer. ‘Who will betray me first?’ Her new novel is ‘A Reason to See You Again.'”

8. Han Kang Is Awarded Nobel Prize in Literature on The New York Times. (gift link) “The South Korean author, best known for “The Vegetarian,” is the first writer from her country to receive the prestigious award.” In related news, The Guardian view on Han Kang: a bold outsider has been rewarded. “This year’s winner of the Nobel prize for literature is another triumph for South Korean culture.” And finally, Han Kang becomes the first South Korean writer to win the Nobel Prize in literature.

9. ‘Will & Harper’ navigate transition and friendship in a cross-country road trip.

10. Stephen King: ‘I loved Lord of the Flies the way kids love Harry Potter.’ “The horror author on Dr Seuss, the radicalism of Earl Thompson, and the perfect whodunnit.”

11. Lisa Agnetun’s Miniature Ceramic Spirits Sport a Variety of Looks.

12. Nature and Geometry Merge in Yulia Brodskaya’s Meticulously Quilled Paper Birds.

13. Why have the northern lights been so visible lately? An expert explains why “we’re in for a ride.”

14. On being an introvert(Instagram reel)

15. Joy Comes Back, a poem from the very lovely Donna Ashworth read by The Wandering Paddy. (Instagram reel)

16. For When the Heart is Breaking from Abigail Rose Clarke.

17. The Post About The Election from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

18. Wisdom from Martín Prechtel“When you can’t remember what to do, what to say, or what the real teachings are, when all else escapes you, just remember: Always feed what needs feeding. Always make beauty.”

19. It’s pantoum time, “What object is important to you?” on Poetry Unbound by Pádraig Ó Tuama.

20. Prompt 307. Slow Living & Rachel Schwartzmann on how light moves us on The Isolation Journals with Suleika Jaouad.

21. Coming out of the fog on How I Live Now from Instructions for Living.

22. Good stuff from Jamie Attenberg on Craft Talk: We Are All Still Here and Incidentals.

23. ‘I think, boy, I’m a part of all this’: how local heroes reforested Rio’s green heart. “A restoration project to revitalise the Atlantic forest is making the city a much more liveable place in the face of increasingly frequent heatwaves.”

24. Nicer Things from Out With Lanterns, a daily poetry practice from Julie Barton.

25. Wave me on my way. “A good-bye letter from my younger body to my older self” from Rita Ott Ramstad on Rootsie.

26. As the crow flies, “A summer spent with Rae” on The Earth House from Jo.

27. What I’ve learnt about toast & being happy from Satya Robyn on Going Gently.

28. Stare in the mirror by Patti Digh.

29. Facing the future from Seth Godin.

30. To Make A Snow Angel On a Stranger’s Grave, “And other things on my bucket list” from Andrea Gibson.

31. Cicadaa poem from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer.

32. Relic Radio“Classic entertainment from radio’s golden age. Relic Radio features eight podcasts offering old time radio from a variety of genres. Subscribe and listen on your favorite podcast app, download and play on your computer, or listen right here on the website.”

33. On the Quest for a Better Life, “Real talk about Overwork with author Brigid Schulte.”

34. Salmon swim freely in Klamath River for first time in more than 100 years. “News comes after Iron Gate dam was removed to let river near California-Oregon border return to natural flow.”

35. How to put your phone down and get back into habit of reading books. “After an English academic at Oxford complained about students’ attention spans, we get experts’ tips on enjoying the written word.”

36. How to Slow Down: 7 Ways I’m Slowing Down in a Busy Season of Life.

37. How to Change Your Mind-Set About Aging on The New York Times. (gift link) “People who think positively about getting older often live longer, healthier lives. Here is how to reconsider your perspective.”‘

38. Awe Can Do Wonders for Your Well-Being—If You Know Where to Look for It. “It’s the closest feeling we have to magic, and it can have profound effects on your mind and body.”

39. Junk Food, High Art on The New York Times. (gift link) “Noah Verrier’s oil painting of an Uncrustables sandwich sold for $4,999. It looks delicious.”

40. And finally, some random stuff I saved on my phone last week.