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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. The gold is starting to fall to the ground and there’s snow in the forecast. I told Eric last night that as much as I love walking with Ringo, there’s also a particular joy going to bed on a Friday night knowing I don’t have to get up early, can sleep as late as I want.

2. Practice. We’ve started to add some half hour lunch break yoga sessions to our schedule at Red Sage and even though it is shocking how quickly a half hour goes by, there’s also a particularly joyful energy to it. I’m feeling extra grateful for my Friday morning writing sangha and our wild-ish writing practice. With the election coming, it felt especially supportive this week.

3. There’s no need to rush. It’s hard when something you want takes a lot of time and effort rather than just manifesting fully formed. And with things that take time, there are also going to be moments when you get frustrated, can’t see the progress you’ve made, and maybe even want to give up. And it can feel like time is rushing by so fast, that it’s running out, and it’s hard not to push yourself. I keep reminding myself that it’s okay to pace myself, that there is plenty of time — even if there isn’t. Especially this time of year when nature is winding down and preparing for a “big sleep” until spring, I’m reminded that it’s not only okay to slow down, to rest, but it’s necessary.

4. Ringo curled up under my writing desk again. It was while we were writing on Friday morning. He’s always close by, but curling up at my feet is something he never really wanted to do, even though I invited him, always kept a dog bed there just in case. He only stayed for 5 or 10 minutes, but I’ll take it.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. Everything I want or need is right here.

Bonus joy: watching TV, good books, listening to music and podcasts, getting in the pool, the hydromassage chair, sitting in the sauna with Eric, clean sheets, payday, a warm shower, my bed, down pillows and blankets, head lamps, other people’s dogs and kids, pictures of my favorite kids in their Halloween costumes, making and eating good food, hugs, making each other laugh, texting with Chris and “the girls,” texting with Chloe’, sharing reels and memes with Shellie and Kari and Carrie, the miles and miles of trails we have access to, good neighbors, naps, libraries and librarians, poetry and poets, comedy, true crime, glasses, paint, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

1. Poetry from from Out With Lanterns, a daily poetry practice by Julie Barton: Love Letter to Solitude, and Putting Down The Old Dog, and Reboot, and Hurt.

2. 18 Life-Learnings from 18 Years of The Marginalian

3. The same thing goes with humans really: To be flawed is to be real from Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess).

4. “What Does Stephen King Mean for You And Your Career?” from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

5. Pam Houston Tells Us: About Finding a Reason to Live on Cheryl Strayed’s Dear Sugar, “the occasional series I do, in which I invite an author to tell us five things—not only about their most recent book, but about their life too.”

6. 14,000 Prescription Lenses Dangle like Dewdrops in a Lush Japanese Forest.

7. Resilience is a trauma response, “It’s not all it is hyped up to be” from Patti Digh.

8. Why kids should read obituaries, “These stories are about informative, interesting, and inspirational lives.”

9. The Only Thing That Makes Sense, a new poem from Julia Fehrenbacher.

10. ‘Relax, nothing is under control’ – and other sentiments that changed how you think. “Some words have real sticking power. Not so much the stream of motivational quotes in decorative borders that surge daily through social media. More those gems that – by dint of their poignancy in a particular time and place – hold real power to change things for the better. We asked Positive News readers to tell us about the most inspiring things people have ever said to them.”

11. How Death Cafes Celebrate Life. “In our daily lives, we don’t often openly discuss our feelings about death and dying. So where can people go to have those conversations?”

12. In the Jabalia refugee camp, my sister has reached breaking point. What will it take to stop this nightmare? “Every time I think things can’t get worse in Gaza, they do. But that is what happens when the world turns a blind eye to cruelty.”

13. The Most Magical Story I May Ever Tell, “It started with a pumpkin” from Andrea Gibson.

14. 7 Rules for Midlife Happiness.

15. 50 Conversation Starters to Spark Connection (and Keep Things Fun).

16. Ann Patchett: The Decision I Made 30 Years Ago That I Still Regret on The New York Times. (gift link)

17. The Beauty of Being Alone.

18. 12-Year-Old Kid Has Saved 4,800 Shelter Dogs(video) “This kid became obsessed with saving shelter dogs when he was 3 years old — and went on to find 4,800 of them homes.”

19. ‘Does time heal? I don’t think so’: Richard E Grant on love, loss – and bonking. “The raw intensity and personal honesty that Richard E Grant brought to Withnail and I was real and has never left him. Now the actor and diarist, still grieving the loss of his wife, talks openly about heartbreak, ambition and his traumatic upbringing.”

20. ‘I miss her a lot’: Andrew Garfield telling Elmo about grief was his best work yet. “The star opened about his mother’s death on Sesame Street with a clarity and sincerity rare among celebrities.”

21. Seth Meyers Isn’t as Nice as You Think He Is on The New York Times. (gift link) “Meyers has crafted a comedically precise but genial persona over more than two decades on ‘Saturday Night Live’ and ‘Late Night.’ A new stand-up special finds him reveling in his more acerbic side.”

22. Meditation And Mindfulness Have a Dark Side We Don’t Talk About.

23. 25 Breathtaking Photos of Sakura in Full Bloom Across Japan by Hidenobu Suzuki.

24. What We Lose With The End Of ‘Somebody Somewhere.’ “The tender HBO series debuted in a bleak pop culture era. With its remarkable third and final season, it will leave behind a major gap in nicecore TV.” In related news, ‘Somebody Somewhere’ is about finding your people: Here’s how Bridget Everett found hers.

25. ‘Good Omens’ Season 3 Cut Short Amid Allegations Against Gaiman on The New York Times. (gift link) “The series is the third production linked to the author to face turmoil after allegations made by five women surfaced this summer.”

26. I’m a death expert. I designed eight questions to help you think about dying. “The modern era has eroded the myths and traditions of death. But there’s a way to create your own belief system.”

27. “Juana Maria”, The Mystery Woman Stranded For 18 Years Off The Coast Of California. “She lived in near-total isolation for close to two decades. By the time she was found, her native language had disappeared.”

28. 6 Small, Everyday Things Physical Therapists Wish You’d Stop Doing.

29. 4 Signs You Need Rest—And How To Heal For A Stronger Mind And Body.

30. Luther: Never Too MuchI adore Luther Vandross and can’t wait for this documentary.

31. And finally, a bunch of random stuff I saved on my phone this week.