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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. SNOW!!! It makes me so happy. It wasn’t much, but I’ll take it.

2. Morning walks, and more importantly that when I can’t do it, Eric can. We both got “the crud” (not COVID or the flu or any of the fancy ones, just plain old crud) around New Year’s, him a few days before it got me, so I spent my whole week canceling plans and staying home on the couch. We’ve had some pretty cold mornings, so a few times even Eric couldn’t take Ringo so sometime after lunch, he and I would do a walk around the block and Eric walks him a bit more when he gets home from work. 

3. Being able to cancel plans and spend the week resting. Every day, I wake up thinking I’ll be better and then spend the day on the couch again — first it was a really sore throat and fatigue, then it was sneezing and fatigue, and now I’ve moved into the “my nose won’t stop running but I’m also stuffed up and my head feels like it’s in a vice” and fatigue stage. Hopefully next week will be better.

4. Wild Writing. I canceled everything else this week, but I was able to show up and write this morning. I love that practice so much, and I can’t wait until I’m through this particularly unpredictable moment in my life so I can start scheduling more things and sharing it more with other people.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. It’s the best place to rest and recover when I’m not feeling my best. And yes, my Christmas tree is still up.

Bonus joy: grocery pick up (that saved me this week because I could NOT face going inside and doing the shopping myself, did NOT have the energy), getting the laundry done (even though it took close to four days), a hot mug of green tea, my weighted blanket, my Shakti mat, tissues infused with lotion, lip balm, lemon mint throat lozenges, tortilla chips, a warm shower (finally), down pillows and blankets, an 11 year old dog who isn’t too concerned if he doesn’t get a walk first thing after breakfast, blackout curtains, a white noise machine, twinkle lights, a working furnace, my aunt Cindy getting her health back, my uncle Bruce hopefully in a place now that will take good care of him so my aunt Monica can recover her health and not have to worry about him, all the caretakers that help my mom (especially since I can’t be there to do it myself), good books, my new Kindle, libraries and librarians, poetry and poets, comedy, true crime, listening to podcasts, Ringo’s continued good belly health, the chance to start over (a million times, if necessary), getting to write with Chloe’ and Cynthia, trading memes and reels with Kari and Shellie and Carrie, pistachios, hard boiled eggs, berries, prescription glasses, first responders and other essential workers — people who run towards the danger (“There are two kinds of people in the world – first those who run away from danger, then there are those who run towards danger, to see if someone needs help.” ~Abhijit Naskar), reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep. 

Something Good

2025: Current Mood

1. Poetry: the graveyard of my best intentions by Maya Stein, The Oldest App by Jena Schwartz, Thank You Letter to My Heart by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, Everything is Speaking by Julia Fehrenbacher, and Directional Prayer Change and Loosening the Ligatures and Retro from Julie Barton, and I take my daughter swimming at the YMCA from HannahRoWrites.. Also, here’s a Facebook reel of Andrea Gibson reading Mary Oliver’s poem The Journey.

2. The 25 Best Nonfiction Books of 2024. “Every year, the Next Big Idea Club editorial staff reviews hundreds of upcoming books to identify the best nonfiction titles. If you’re ready to boost your happiness, productivity, and general well-being in 2025, start by checking out the 25 groundbreaking books below.”

3. I Learned Not All Rare Things Are Valuable, and Not All Plentiful Things Are Worthless. “If you could save just one thing from a fire, what would it be? I wish I had been offered the choice.”

4. 366 grateful days – 2024 on A Grace Full Life. In related news, 100 things that made my year (2024) from Austin Kleon.

5. Issue #308 of The Red Hand Files from Nick Cave. “I wrote in Faith, Hope and Carnage, ‘Hope is optimism with a broken heart’. This means that hope has an earned understanding of the sorrowful or corrupted nature of things, yet it rises to attend to the world even still. We understand that our demoralisation becomes the most serious impediment to bettering the world. In its active form, hope is a supreme gesture of love, a radical and audacious duty, whereas despair is a stagnant rejection of life itself. Hope becomes the energy of change.”

6. The One Place You Can Find Hope Right Now on The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz. “Now, it may sound like an exercise in semantics, but hope isn’t something anyone can give you; it doesn’t come from a post you read or a speech you stream or a seminar you attend. It’s not downloaded from social media or handed down like an inheritance from a wise, older relative. It isn’t a generous gift you receive from a stranger or even absorbed from someone close to you. Truthfully, there is literally nothing outside of you that can alter you internally. Ultimately, hope is an inside job. It can’t arrive or be given, it must be chosen. It is a decision we come to, sometimes because of and sometimes completely despite the objective data or experiential evidence around us.”

7. Good stuff from The Marginalian: The Promethean Power of Burnout and Elevating Resolutions for the New Year Inspired by Some of Humanity’s Greatest Minds and Some Blessings to Begin With.

8. The Best Trail Camera Photos of 2024.

9. please give yourself permission from Elissa Altman. “On Making a New Year’s Commitment to Tell Your Story.” I’m excited about her new book, Permission: The New Memoirist and the Courage to Create.

10. How to have a perfectly imperfect 2025. (podcast)

11. Jimmy Carter, the longest-lived US president, dies aged 100. (video obituary)

12. Starting a New Year: Revisiting The Four Agreements from Patti Digh.

13. Gentle January: 10 Ways to Rest More and Stress Less from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less. I’m excited for her new book, Gentle: Rest More, Stress Less, and Live the Life You Actually Want.

14. The Key To Making A Resolution Stick from Andrea Gibson. “True healing requires integration, not rejection.”

15. Writer’s Resolution 2025: Change Your Story from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

16. 101 ways to get healthier and happier – in just five minutes. “Open all your windows! Sing a song! Have a hot chocolate! Guardian writers and readers reveal simple ways to lift your mood in 300 seconds or fewer.”

17. Eight ways to stay happier this year, according to science.

18. 10 Questions to Ask Yourself at the Start of a New Year.

19. 25 Unexpected, Little Ways To Improve Your Mental Health In 2025.

20. All 10 Movies Based On Haruki Murakami Stories, Ranked Worst-Best.

21. Quit it! From vaping to doomscrolling, 10 bad habits and how to break them“Procrastinating? Online shopping too much? Always cancelling? These top tips from experts will help you change bad behaviour for the better.”

22. 2 ton bull behaves like a tiny puppy. (Facebook reel)

23. Are you starting your yoga journey this year? A Facebook reel from one of my favorite yoga teachers, Scottee on @scotteeisfat. In related news, New Year Same You and Keep relighting my fire, babes. (Instagram reels)

24. And finally, a collection of random things I saved to my phone this week.