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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. Seeing the sun rise, being out before most people are even awake, spending the time with Ringo, the magic of the river.

2. More snow!!! I have been snow starved this winter, so was so happy when it started to snow last night. We are predicted to have super cold temperatures the next few days as well, so it will stick around for a bit.

3. Eric. This morning while I was folding laundry, I noticed a thick red smear on the waistband of a pair of his underwear. I laughed, because rather than evidence of bad behavior, like a smear of lipstick or the smell of someone else’s perfume, it was a mark left from one of his fancy art pencils that he sometimes uses to make love notes for me — he leaves them in the cabinet where I keep my tea that I drink every morning while I write, a new one every morning.

4. Practice. “Our” puppy was at my Red Sage practice this week — he’s getting so grown up already. It was one of those days where I sort of had something planned but was still surprised by what came up and it felt really good to my body. We continue to have lower numbers in my Friday morning writing group because “life” but every week, there’s still someone there to write with, and being able to practice with people you trust so much, know so well is very special, sacred even.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. Eric and I went to see Marc Maron last night. We get season tickets to our local theater every year, the package where you pick five shows, and usually there’s at least one comedy show I want to see and even if Eric doesn’t really know who they are, he’s more than happy to go with me. Laughing with him is one of my favorite things.

Probably because it’s so cold more than anything but it seems as Ringo gets older, he gets more affectionate, and you KNOW that makes me happy.

Bonus joy: running into friends unexpectedly, hugging friends (remember COVID when we couldn’t do that? it was awful…), twinkle lights, other people’s dogs and kids and holiday lights and gardens, being kind as the ultimate revenge against someone who is a jerk, reading and writing in the morning with my HappyLight and a mug of warm tea, soft bread, crunchy lettuce, sweet and savory, citrus, warm toast, the hydromassage chair, the pool, the sauna, training with Shelby and the gang — especially Bryan now that he’s back from vacation (I reminded him again that he’s the glue and we fall apart when he’s gone), my Shakti mat, a massage which comes with the added bonus of getting to “hang out” with Dana, libraries and librarians, poets and poetry, comedy and comedians, true crime, a big glass of clean cold water, the way Eric talks to Ringo when he thinks no one is listening (there was just a short conversation in the kitchen about pooping that was hilarious), videos of baby Ringo (he was a maniac!), dreams, listening to podcasts, nuts, how chubby our squirrels are most likely because of our compost pile, snow tires, an unscratched lottery ticket (No, Eric — I STILL haven’t scratched it), stickers, having a washer and dryer in my house that I can use any time I want and I don’t have to save my quarters for it or worry that someone will take my stuff out before it’s done or there won’t be any available machines, texting with my brother and niece and Chloe’, sharing reels with Shellie and Kari, lunch with Eric at Mount Everest Café, mood lighting, that particular color of blue, an accidental calendar that turned out to be perfect, how Eric shovels the neighbor’s sidewalk just because, the softest merino wool, down blankets and pillows and coats, that my dog walking coat matches Ringo’s coat which isn’t on purpose but looks like it is, The Lincoln Center and especially how close it is to our house, being able to easily pick Carrie out of a crowd because of her gorgeous gray curly long hair, watching videos, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.  

Something Good

1. How to help victims of the Los Angeles wildfires. “As wildfires continue to devastate Los Angeles, leaving thousands displaced and causing widespread destruction, experts urge long-term support and careful giving.” In related news, Community groups provide relief as LA staggers from wildfire emergency, and Destruction of L.A. Fires Includes a Historic Black Community, and Fire survivors feel forgotten, and The Pain of Altadena Burning, “The Fight to Preserve Black History Amid California Wildfires” from Frederick Joseph, Displaced Black Families GoFund Me Directory (Google doc), and The California Fires are a Disaster. The American Cruelty is a Tragedy on The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz, and The Wildfires In LA from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds, and How do you love your neighbors when your houses are on fire? on The White Pages, and Only Indigenous ways prevent wildfires from Rowen White on Re-Seeding Imaginations.

2. Poetry. From Julie Barton: Nose Dive, A Few of the Ways I’ve Failed, The Cormorant’s Dilemma, and After I Asked About The Stars and You Struggled to Answer. From Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer: Letter to the Others in the Dark. Also, poetry plus some: How Do We Bear It? from Jena Schwartz and Do Not Spare Yourself by Maria Popova on The Marginalian. Also, Three Poems to Live By. And this book from Ollie Schminkey, which is currently wrecking me: Dead Dad Jokes. Next up, I’m reading three of Rudy Francisco’s poetry books.

3. Good stuff from Seth Godin: Slow down to speed up and “That will never work.”

4. To resist the climate crisis, we must resist the billionaire class. “I choose to focus my energy on the climate crisis because a habitable planet is a prerequisite for everything worth fighting for, and because the prospect of losing a planet feels horrific and sad to me in a primal way that I can’t express with words. I’m also simply in love with the Earth. But planetary overheating is really just the most geophysical symptom of extractive colonial capitalism – ‘billionairism’ – a system designed to pump wealth from the poor to the rich, creating billionaires, the healthcare crisis, the housing crisis, genocide, hierarchies like racism and patriarchy, and a great deal of suffering.” Amen.

5. Good stuff on Be More With Less: How To Slow Down: 101 Ways To Adore Your Life This Year and 25 Ways To Simplify Your Life In 2025

6. The Seven Types of Rest Every Person Needs.

7. Five ways to bring more awe into your life.

8. ‘What have we here?’: how asking yourself a simple question can transform the way you think about your life. “Forget generic self-help advice and focus instead on the unique set of hang-ups, character traits and personal circumstances that stop you living your best life.”

9. 7 Ways To Have More Energy In 2025. “Doctors share the physical behaviors and emotional habits that can help you feel more ready for the day.”

10. Do you feel overwhelmed? Here’s why – and how to fix it. “Modern life is so demanding that it can lead us to feel chronically drained. How can we address the problem before everyday stress turns into burnout?”

11. 5 Organs Your Body Can Live Without.

12. Why Do We Say “Up the Wazoo”?

13. A university releases its 2025 list of banished words.

14. Meta SUCKS. A new era of lies: Mark Zuckerberg has just ushered in an extinction-level event for truth on social media (“The Meta boss’s decision to drastically change Facebook and Instagram’s factchecking programme has set the stage for a fact-free four years online”), and Meta is ushering in a ‘world without facts’, says Nobel peace prize winner (“Maria Ressa warns of ‘dangerous times’ for journalism and democracy after move to end factchecking in US”), and Meta has ‘heard the message’ from Trump, says whistleblower Frances Haugen (“Mark Zuckerberg’s move to end factchecking in US reflects president-elect’s views on social media, says Haugen”), and Meta terminates its DEI programs days before Trump inauguration (“Meta, fresh off announcement to end factchecking, follows McDonald’s and Walmart in rolling back diversity initiatives”).

15. Kindness of strangers, a new series on The Guardian. “Sometimes a random gesture or act of generosity can change the way you think about your day – or your life.”

16. From iced buns to brussels sprouts: nine nutritionists on what they really eat (it may surprise you). “Is it all green juice and overnight oats, or do health experts enjoy the occasional burger or chocolate eclair? They reveal their tips and treats.”

17. Artful opportunities: five ways to be creative every day.

18. What went right in 2024: the top 25 good news stories of the year.

19. Open Me: A Conversation with Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer on Embodiment Matters. (podcast) “In our conversation, Rosemerry reads several of her gorgeous poems, from All the Honey and The Unfolding, and we move through many rich themes including grief and gratitude, ways to be with someone who is grieving, the power of poetry, holding paradox and the stretch of the human heart, and being opened by life.”

20. What 15 Very Different People Hope to See in 2025 on The New York Times. (gift link)

21. I’ve Been Making Ina Garten’s Tuscan Soup for Over 10 Winters—It’s Still My FavoriteAnd for dessert, these oatmeal cookies.

22. World Central Kitchen (WCK)  Founder José Andrés Awarded Presidential Medal of Freedom. WCK is my current favorite place to donate money. 

23. “The paradox of staying online”: Talking screen time, digital detoxes and New Years resolutions with author and art therapist Amelia Knott.

24. These gorgeous photos of indigenous people dressed for powwow from Clark Dunbar.

25. And this collection of things I saved on my phone last week.