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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude Friday

1. Fall. The actual first day of fall is a little over a week away and we still have days in the forecast calling for the upper 80s, but yesterday I wore long sleeves, long pants, and socks all day, and this morning when we woke up it was 51 degrees outside, The chrysanthemums and clematis are blooming and our tomatoes are finally producing, so I’m calling it early — it’s fall!

2. Cooking. I am really enjoying doing more cooking, trying new recipes, eating good food.

3. Flowers in the bathroom. Eric brought me home flowers this week. I haven’t had flowers all summer, except for my peonies and a bouquet from Chloe’. They changed the farmer’s market hours to later which kept me from getting there all summer, and after two gnat infestations the end of last summer and the beginning of this one, I was wary because flowers just feed the gnats, ensure they keep producing future generations. I missed the flowers.

4. Ringo. Since I’ve been home more, he’s been so sweet to me. Since he’s getting older, he’s getting easier to live with and easier to love. Had to sneak this next picture through a dirty window so I wouldn’t wake him up. This kind of peace was a long time coming and hard won. Used to be this boy had to be constantly entertained and monitored, especially in the backyard. He got into stuff, ate things he shouldn’t, dug holes, and barked. Now, with six years old just a few months away, he can take himself out and lounge in the sun, with only the occasional bark or roll in a dead worm, and I don’t have to worry he’s out there killing himself.

5. Sam. I was so stressed out about him last week — he slipped and fell in the kitchen twice and threw up his dinner one night. He’s almost ten years old, as old as any of our dogs have ever been, and the awareness that he’s going to die is always right there. He was the dog that took me the longest to bond with, he felt more like Eric’s dog for the first few years and I was just missing my Obi and Dexter, but now he’s my sweet shadow and when he goes I’m really going to miss him.

5. Eric. All the things he does to take care of our tiny family, laughing with him, how he appreciates the things I do, how committed he is to his colleagues and students, his kitchen counter love notes (see a whole collection of them on Instagram).

Bonus joy: Glazed lemon zucchini bread, zucchini gratin, grilled cheese, breakfast for dinner, leftovers, clean sheets on the bed, all the laundry done and put away, excellent credit, money in savings, a whole day with no plans, good movies (the new Mindy Kaling one on Amazon Prime, Late Night, was really good), good TV (I’ve been watching a lot of tiny house shows lately), good books (I’m finally reading the rest of Maya Angelou’s autobiographies), hanging out with Mikalina and Chloe’ (having friends who make you laugh, but also who you can cry with and say “I love you” and fully trust with your truth is a big deal), morning walks, teaching yoga, writing, naps.

Something Good

From our walk

1. What is Minimalism? Maybe it’s not what you think from Be More With Less.

2. Mondo Beyondo with Andrea Scher. This was the course that started it ALL for me. I highly recommend it. Next 6 week session begins on Monday, September 16, 2019.

3. The Scourge of Worker Wellness Programs. “Employers have become obsessed with improving the health of their employees. But does it do anyone any good?”

4. In Conversation: Liz Phair On being misunderstood, working with Ryan Adams, and the dawn of Girlville.

5. Mom hosting a BBQ. (video) This reminds me of this video and this one.

6. “Brittany Runs A Marathon” Claims Body Positivity, but Promotes A Weight Loss Fantasy. “The film markets itself as a progressive counterpoint to diet culture. It’s not.”

7. Linda Hamilton Fled Hollywood, but ‘Terminator’ Still Found Her on The New York Times. “Decades after the first sequel, the 62-year-old actress hesitated to return to her iconic role: ‘I didn’t want my neighbors looking at me differently.'”

8. The Book of Prince. “Prince had grand plans for his autobiography, but only a few months to live.”

9. Good stuff from Karen Walrond of Chookooloonks, her this was a good week list: Hurricane Dorian – How Best to Help Right Now, and Strange Planet’s Instagram account, and The Atlas of Beauty, and Widowhood 101.

10. ‘Everything is not going to be okay’: How to live with constant reminders that the Earth is in trouble.

11. Transforming Overwhelm & Burden to Something Powerful from Zen Habits.

12. What Would You Do If You Had 10 Years Left? I am equal parts sad and angry to hear that Elana’s cancer is back.

13. Mindfulness vs. Meditation: What’s the Difference? An important distinction.

14. At Least 100 Bahamians Forced Off Boat Headed to U.S. Because They Didn’t Have Visas.

15. “Sometimes I hate everything and then I think about my dogs and I almost die from gratitude.” ~Heidi Randall. So true.

16. Another Tesla driver was caught sleeping behind the wheel on the highway. (video) This is a very, very bad idea.

17. 26 Too-Real Tweets For Couples Who Spoil The Heck Out Of Their Dogs.

18. #JewsAgainstICE Are Saying “Never Again” in the Face of Crisis.

19. Ijeoma Oluo: ‘I am drowning in whiteness.’

20. What Happens When a Highly Sensitive Person Grows Up with Emotional Neglect? In related news, How to Overcome the Biggest HSP Challenges, According to a Therapist.

21. This ‘honorary grandpa’ volunteers at his local YMCA, playing games like Jenga and four square with local kids. (video)

22. Veterinarians Are Killing Themselves. An Online Group Is There To Listen And Help.

23. For Healthy Kids, Skip the Kurbo App.

24. Missy Elliott Opens Up About Depression & How A 14-Year Hiatus Gave Her “Peace Of Mind.”

25. Trump Shows A Fake Hurricane Map Altered With A Sharpie, Inspires 30 Hilarious Memes.

26. The co-writer of ‘Crazy Rich Asians’ turned down the sequel project after learning her white, male colleague was offered 10x her salary. (video)

27. What’s Missing From “White Fragility.” “Robin DiAngelo’s idea changed how white progressives talk about themselves—and little else.”

28. Victim Of Brock Turner Sexual Assault Reveals Her Identity.

29. Vaping appears to be making hundreds of people sick. Doctors have no idea why.

30. Pentagon to Divert Money From 127 Projects to Pay for Trump’s Border Wall on The New York Times.