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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Something Good

1. Poetry: In the Dark of the Cinema and Case Study in Insanity and Sitting on the Porch at Night and The Hope Engine and Opening and Enter Here and Self-Compassion from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, Summer Morning on The Weekly Pause with Jeff Crews, Words rise to the surface and the stories that surround from Pádraig Ó Tuama, On Not Hiding and When Everything Changes and Solo from Julie Barton, The Forgotten Corners by Jeff Foster shared by Heart Poems, Want by Carrie Fountain (one of my favorite poems), From Blossoms by Li-Young Lee, and To Begin With, the Sweetgrass from Mary Oliver.

2. A conversation with a death doula. (video) “‘It’s one of the most magical times of life. It’s one of the biggest things that happens to us,’ says death doula Molly Nelson of the end of life.”

3. Detect Fakes“How do you spot a deepfake? How can you tell if an image is AI-generated? How well can people distinguish between AI-generated media and images, audio, and video recorded by a traditional camera or microphone? Detect Fakes is research project hosted at Northwestern University by researchers at the Kellogg School of Management to examine how people distinguish truth from fiction in online media, especially as synthetic media becomes more and more realistic…The goal of this research program is to reveal what synthetic media looks like, benchmark how well people can distinguish synthetic media from ‘real’ media across a variety of contexts, and generate insights for how to help people distinguish between the two.”

4. Signs Your Social Battery Is Running Low on Introvert, Dear. “In social settings, the introvert brain is busy processing every word and detail, which explains why it can feel so exhausting.”

5. Telomeres: A Strange Fate, “Love, loss and the biology of endings.”

6. The Mystery of the Invisible Fish, “Why aren’t we already moving towards love?” from Satya Robyn.

7. The Purity Culture of Food? “The eerie similarities of wellness and religion” from Gina Luker.

8. A new way to look at the weekend, “and a different way to celebrate” on Hannah Ro Writes.

9. Good stuff from Jena Schwartz: Now Go Sweep the Porch (“Sometimes we all need a reset”) and Freewriting My Way Towards 5786 (“Let the spiritual preparation begin”).

10. A Pep Talk For The Grownups Who Show Up. “It’s part pep talk … part resource … part reminder… all let’s do good stuff together. A video packed with encouragement for anybody anywhere who cares about kids. It’s about tiny big changes, a few vocab words I picked up while visiting schools, and why you are the secret to making this a better world for kids. It’s the pep talk I would give to you if I could be right there with you. If you’re a teacher, parent, librarian, or just someone who cares about the next generation: please watch and share.” from Brad Montague.

11. The Holy Ordinary from Amy Marie Turner.

12. The Question of Missions, “A gesture, a feeling, a prayer” from Jami Attenberg on Craft Talk. Also on Craft Talk from Jamie, Two Pieces of Hate Mail, “On ‘politics’ and book reviews.”

13. The Night I Ended My Pregnancy by Julie Parker on Short Reads.

14. The secrets of lost luggage auctions: I bought four bags for £100. What would I find inside? “Unclaimed suitcases were once destined for landfill. Now people are ‘suitcase gambling’ – bidding for bags and their unknown contents, and diving deep into strangers’ lives.”

15. I would rather share in your earnest mistakes, “Than be pandered to by a slick talking savior” by Garrett Bucks on The White Pages.

16. Radical Pleasure: Why I Keep a Good Things Jar. “Athena Dixon on finding the right balance of what you want and what you need.”

17. 7 Daily Rituals to Release Stress and Worry from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less.

18. ‘Crafting Sanctuaries’ Sheds Light on Black Experience in the South During the Great Depression. “In a collaboration between Art Bridges and Museum of Art + Light, a new exhibition titled Crafting Sanctuaries: Black Spaces of the Black Great
Depression South revolves around more than three dozen rarely seen images from the FSA archive that shed light on Black spaces during the Great Depression. Photos of homes, churches, schools, and barbershops demonstrate how ‘interior and public gathering spaces became canvases for self-determination and cultural preservation.'”

19. Why We Climb (2017). “Revisiting an old lesson about the value of our struggles” from Connie Sun.

20. Curiosity as an act of courage on Nonviolence Radio. “A conversation with journalist and bridge builder Mónica Guzmán on the power of curiosity in a polarized world.”

21. 5 Quieter Kinds of Success Worth Claiming as a Creative. “Defining success for yourself” from Alix Klingenberg on Earth & Verse.

22. Eat Pray Love author Elizabeth Gilbert on leaving her marriage for a dying friend: ‘She said, Let’s just live balls to the wall until I die!’ “One was a happily married and internationally famous writer, the other a cool, funny hairdresser and ex-drug addict. Then a shock diagnosis pitched them into an intense love affair.”

23. The Tension Between Rest and Living Fully. (video) “We all want to ‘make the most’ of our time. But what happens when that urge makes it hard to simply enjoy a slow, unplanned day?”

24. 100 things to support your mental health that aren’t go for a walk and drink more water, “with all due respect to going for a walk and drinking water” from Lauren McQuistin.

25. Unmade beds and overdue books: Photographing the rooms of kids killed in school shootings.

26. A Teen Was Suicidal. ChatGPT Was the Friend He Confided In on The New York Times. (gift link) “More people are turning to general-purpose chatbots for emotional support. At first, Adam Raine, 16, used ChatGPT for schoolwork, but then he started discussing plans to end his life.”

27. Book burning, Latin prayers – and a lot of kids: inside the American ‘trad family’ movement. “The movement towards simple, Christian living can be a yearning for order in a chaotic age. It’s also alarmingly retrograde.”

28. Why more and more people are tuning the news out: ‘Now I don’t have that anxiety.’ “Emotional toll of constant negative news and unlimited access to ‘doomscrolling’ has led to record-high news avoidance.”

29. Photographer Ulric Collette Splices Portraits of Family Members into Uncanny Composites.

30. And finally, this random collection of things I saved to my phone last week.

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. We had some cooler weather and storms this week, and it was lovely, although humid. Things are turning golden and the rabbitbrush is blooming — which I didn’t know until now is a shrub in the sunflower family. Eric and I both saw the baby whitetails and their mamas on separate walks. Since Ringo typically doesn’t bark at them unless they are running away, the tiny herd Eric saw were walking right up to him, got so close. Ringo also found a new lost toy this morning. It’s just so cute to me how happy and almost proud he seems when he finds one, how he thinks it’s his job to “rescue” them and bring them home.

Video by Eric

2. Practice: writing every morning, meditating in my practice room, yoga at Red Sage, my Friday morning writing sangha which I had to skip this week because of a doctor’s appointment which made it so clear how much I love it and miss it if I can’t be there.

3. Eric, or as he’s being called today, Elfis. Every year, his D&D group invite other players to an all day event with a theme and costumes. This year was disco 70s, so Eric’s character was a karate loving elf Elvis impersonator. He might not dress up for Halloween or Tour de Fat, and he is still a massive introvert, but he goes all out for Stefcon. After at least seven years of this event, our garage looks like the costume closet of a high school drama department. He is such a nerd and I love it.

Here’s a few costumes from years past.

4. The magic and the mundane of life. When I got in my car yesterday on my way to a doctor’s appointment, two hummingbirds stopped to rest in our lilac bush right above where I was parked. 

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I am exactly where I always wanted to be, doing what I always wanted to do, and my two favorites are here with me. Eric and Ringo have this cute routine when Eric comes home from work where they greet each other and then get on the floor and Ringo gets some extra love.

Bonus joy: Jessamy’s birthday, the baby growing in her belly, pictures of her other two “babies” having fun at the state fair, texting with Chris and Chloe’, Sunday morning Pilates, how good it feels to stretch, how great my primary care doctor is, therapy, a check up of a 20 year old tooth implant that ended with “it all looks good” and also seeing our dental hygienist Teri at the office working (they implied at Eric’s last cleaning with a different technician that she’d retired), Mom doing well even as her primary nurse says she’s “slowly winding down,” Liminal’s spicy sesame bowl, peaches and watermelon and corn on the cob, good TV (I just finished both seasons of Love Hurts on Netflix and really liked it), libraries and librarians, poetry and poets, listening to podcasts, streaming music libraries, listening to music loud while I drive around with my windows rolled down, making a playlist for my yoga class, comedy and comedians, true crime, getting books from the library on my Kindle, onion buns, a big glass of cold clean water, gummies, the way the light shifts as it turns towards fall, night lights, naps, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.