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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Peonies. I love them so much, and this poem about them by Mary Oliver:

This morning the green fists of the peonies are getting ready
to break my heart
as the sun rises,
as the sun strokes them with his old, buttery fingers

and they open —
pools of lace,
white and pink —
and all day the black ants climb over them,

boring their deep and mysterious holes
into the curls,
craving the sweet sap,
taking it away

to their dark, underground cities —
and all day
under the shifty wind,
as in a dance to the great wedding,

the flowers bend their bright bodies,
and tip their fragrance to the air,
and rise,
their red stems holding

all that dampness and recklessness
gladly and lightly,
and there it is again —
beauty the brave, the exemplary,

blazing open.
Do you love this world?
Do you cherish your humble and silky life?
Do you adore the green grass, with its terror beneath?

Do you also hurry, half-dressed and barefoot, into the garden,
and softly,
and exclaiming of their dearness,
fill your arms with the white and pink flowers,

with their honeyed heaviness, their lush trembling,
their eagerness
to be wild and perfect for a moment, before they are
nothing, forever?

2. Practice. I get to practice yoga with the crew at Red Sage again, where I was teaching when COVID shut everything down. They have a new building with more room to practice and more people. Holding space for those who spend their days helping dogs and their humans feel better (including me and mine) is such a perfect fit for me. I’ve been practicing yoga every morning first thing when I wake up, then meditation and writing, and it feels good.

3. Morning walks. Mostly around the neighborhoods but every few days, we walk towards the river, just to get a glimpse of it. With all the rain we’ve had and the snow melting, it’s full and fast and freezing these days.

4. Yard time. Sitting in our backyard together is one of my favorite things. The other night we were out there and Ringo got the zoomies (which he does quite often for a nine and a half year old adult man). Eric got up and they chased each other and played a bit and I got some really funny pictures of the chaos.

5. My tiny family, tiny home, tiny life. I am SO lucky, so grateful, so content, so in love with all of it.

Bonus joy: training with Shelby and the gang, one on one training with Shelby, the hydromassage chair, the pool, sitting in the sauna with Eric, yoga with Jamie, birds at the feeder, the bunny that has been napping under my rhubarb plant, good neighbors, other people’s dogs, having enough peonies to give some away, taco salad, texting with Chloe’ and Chris, naps, laundry, stickers, dark chocolate covered walnuts, good TV and films, listening to podcasts, stretching, sunshine, rain, green, how soft my hair is after using the new shampoo and conditioner I got, Oofos flip flops and slides, fabric scissors, patio umbrellas, collapsible wagons, strawberries, calendars and clocks, gummies, a big glass of cold clean water, clean air, down blankets and pillows, comedy, poetry, paper, hummingbirds, baby cows, quilts, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

From our garden

1. Things happen, and you go with it, a gorgeous post from Hugh Hollowell on his birthday. I love these lines in particular: “Over the next year I will…commit wholeheartedly to people who will let me down” and “This year I will pray hard for those who are hungry, those who are alone, and those who have nowhere to go, but will pray even harder for those who do not care.” 

2. Why We Write from Jami Attenberg. Check the comments for my response. In related news and also from Jami, 1000 Words Book Cover Launch. P.S. I just preordered the book.

3. How Sweet It Is, a gorgeous poem from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. 

4. Good stuff from Seth Godin: The catfight and the construction site, and The simple word replacement for connection, and Too much competition, and Brakes and acceleration, and Falling behind.

5. Doctor Tweets Perfect Example of Weight Stigma from Ragen Chastain.

6. The Kō Strategy No.9: TRANSFORM from Lucian James’s most recent Kō Strategies newsletter. The section on the strategy and the practice offered were just what I needed right now.

7. Out Now: Gentle Writing Advice (How To Be A Writer Without Destroying Yourself) from Chuck Wendig about his latest book, which is right now sitting in my TBR pile (okay, more like one of my piles because I have multiples).

8. Lessons from a Wildfire on Lion’s Roar. “When his community’s beloved retreat center burned to the ground, Anam Thubten took it as a teaching on impermanence. Instead of futilely fighting loss, he says, let it be our invitation to freedom and spaciousness.”

9. An Ever-Expanding Oasis of Links and Recs from Anne Helen Petersen. “A magic cookbook app, a summer salad that’s a meal, a really good tank top, plus all the good reads.”

10. Hear My Story: A GLAAD x Audible Interview Series – Alison Bechdel’s Dykes To Watch Out For.

11. These three poems from Jeanne Lohmann.

12. Francesca Grossman Tells Us About Pain and Its Consequencesthe first in a new series from Cheryl Strayed, “in which I invite an author to tell us five things—not only about their most recent book, but about their life too.”

13. Orange Desk: Turn Down the Noise from Patti Digh. “Be willing to go deeper.”

14. 5 Reasons Why Every Introvert Should ElopeEric and I are both introverts and we eloped 30 years ago and have never ever regretted it.

15. Incremental is Transformational for Healing.

16. Every self-help book ever, boiled down to 11 simple rulesThis post is two years old but still a very interesting read.

17. 12 Actually Really Good Things That Have Come With Getting Older.

18. You Might Think You’re Giving Great Advice, but Are You Really Just Projecting Your Own Issues?

19. Rock Hudson Documentary Gets Stirring New Trailer.

20. Saying Goodbye to Petunia“Anna Marie Tendler’s French bulldog was a constant companion who taught her about the deepest kind of love.”

21. Artist Creates Charming Animal Sculptures From Found Seashells at the Beach.

22. On the Precipice of Worse from Mary L. Trump. “Donald J. Trump vs. the United States of America.”

23. How Childhood Emotional Neglect Hurts Highly Sensitive People“Sadly, childhood emotional neglect isn’t uncommon. In fact, a growing body of research suggests that many otherwise healthy families raise their children with emotional neglect — a failure to value or respond to emotions. This neglect can create unhealthy outcomes for any child, but especially for highly sensitive children.”

24. YOUR FAT FRIEND a film by Jeanie Finlay – Official Trailer (video). “Your Fat Friend charts Aubrey Gordon’s journey from anonymous blogger Yrfatfriend to NY Times bestselling author and podcast host (@maintenancephase) and the complexities of making change. It’s a film about fatness, family and the deep, messy feelings all of us hold about our bodies.”

25. Exquisite Embroideries on Transparent Fabric Will Transport You to the Forest Floor.

26. Artist Creates Charming Animal Sculptures From Found Seashells at the Beach.

27. Vivid Compositions in Thread Enliven Hollow Spaces in Diana Yevtukh’s Striking Embroideries.

28. Family Reunites with Missing Dog at Pet Adoption Event While Looking for New Puppy.

29. Making Hard Things Beautifula live interview with Andrea Gibson offered by Laurie Wagner — two of my most beloved writers, teachers, humans. “It is my great honor to invite you to join me and the truly magnificent spoken word poet, Andrea Gibson, in a conversation about what it is to write from a place of vulnerability, bravery and truth. Not because it’s a good idea, but because it’s the only way to part the veils of our human uncertainty, and to step out onto the page, and into our lives with a rigor and an honesty that makes life more vibrant, and which connects us to ourselves and to others.” Sign up and you can attend the live session or watch later, or both.

30. Burnout, Compassion Fatigue, and Vicarious Trauma from Lindsay Braman.

31. No Time to Lose by Joanna Macy. “Perhaps the truest form of touching the reality of this moment is this: to experience our capacity to praise and love our world, as it is. Even when it’s on fire.”

32. 53 Things I’ve Learned in 53 Years on A Grace Full Life.

33. 7 Lessons My Dog Taught Me About Living Simply from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less.

34. Unhoused residents of Colorado Springs say pets keep them grounded.

35. Hannah Gadsby’s Picasso Show Was Meant to Ignite Debate. And It Didon The New York Times. “The Brooklyn Museum invited the Australian comedian to help organize a show on Picasso’s troubling life and artistic lens. The reaction was strong.”

36. The 4 Stages Of A Narcissistic Relationship Pattern & How To End It“Here’s how to recognize a narcissistic relationship pattern, tips for dealing with a narcissist, and how to move toward healing, according to therapists.”

37. Remembering the 49 lives violently stolen in the Pulse nightclub shooting, seven years onIn related news, Andrea Gibson performs “Orlando” featuring Mary Lambert. (video) “If you are alive, raise your hand.”