1. Morning walks. Yesterday morning we enjoyed the last of the fall color. Today, probably all day, we are getting snow, which will cause the leaves that were left to turn brown and fall. Winter has its own beauty, but my heart belongs to fall.
Take a walk with us 🙂
2. Practice, alone and together.
3. Other people’s dogs, kids, and gardens. Today I met Tony, my friend’s new puppy. I’m glad I don’t have a puppy right now, but puppy medicine is welcome any time. And his stripes and his EARS! ❤
4. Snow day. It’s nothing like it was three years ago today when we got over a foot, or all the other years we’ve had a big snow the week of Halloween, but it’s just enough to make things quiet and soft. It’s the perfect weather for a nap, (which I’m going to do as soon as I finish this post).
14 years ago today — oh how I miss that dog! (Obi, our first)
5. My tiny family, small house, little life. So perfect, for me. In the few days before the cold weather came, I managed to repaint the front and sides of the house, the same green it was ten years ago that had faded to almost blue. One day when I was out painting, a flock of about 50 noisy sandhill cranes migrating south flew over our house. If I hadn’t been painting, I would have missed them. I didn’t finish but got myself half way there and can do the rest in the spring. I also got paint to do some touchups inside.
“Can I haz some?”“Pretty please?”
Bonus joy: good books, listening to podcasts, watching TV, zucchini bread, new stickers, hoodies, writing with my Wild-ish sangha, Mike Birbiglia tickets (he’s coming to Fort Collins!!!), texting with my brother and mom and Chloe’, meditating with Chelsey (sort of), all the love being sent my way, training with Shelby and the gang, new books, a mug of hot green tea, peanut butter, teriyaki sauce, cancelled plans, plans to see Chris Fairbanks tomorrow and laugh my face off, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.
2. Novelist Jesmyn Ward: ‘Losing my partner almost made me stop writing’. “When the father of her children died suddenly, the US National Book award-winning author’s world fell apart. Three years on, she talks about grief, starting over and how she wrote her searing new novel about slavery.” In related news, on The New York Times, In Jesmyn Ward’s New Novel, Slavery Is Hell and Dante Is Our Guide. “‘Let Us Descend,’ by the two-time National Book Award-winning novelist, takes its title from the ‘Inferno’ and its subject from American history.”
6. Andrea Gibson: Facing Mortality and Being Adored and Cherished by the Universe. “Listen now to this poignant conversation featuring Andrea’s reading of their poem, ‘Acceptance Speech After Setting the World Record in Goosebumps’ and exploring spiritual surrender, finding joy in every instant, facing challenges, moving through grief, the life force of the universe within us, self-love and loving the whole world, trying softer (not harder), the power of relaxation, identifying the keys that open your heart, staying with our fear, activism and loosening our attachment to desired outcomes, being yourself fully, the gift of mortality, giving the present moment the cold shoulder, why authenticity is the most important thing when it comes to writing, the pull of creativity, and more.”
7. paradoxical truths: the aim of a spiritual practicefrom Abigail Rose Clarke, who says, “Life is nothing but layered paradoxes. And a spiritual practice – any spiritual practice – should be aiming towards being able to hold greater and greater paradoxes without feeling pushed apart at the seams. All the other benefits – the better sleep, and the greater patience, and in the case of body-based practices, all the glow and youth and ease that’s promised, are lovely side effects. But that isn’t the goal. The aim of any practice is to hold the immense truth of the world, which is to say, to hold its immense paradox.”
8. The Red Hand Files #257. Nick Cave responds to Noreen’s question: “Grief I find people have a hard time talking about my pain, lost my husband of 45 years. I want to talk about him, it makes people nervous. What can I do?”
9. Ch-ch-ch-changes…from Esmé Weijun Wang. “The year when everything changed.”
10. Those Little Brown Handsfrom Frederick Joseph. “A letter to late six-year-old Palestinian-American, Wadea al-Fayoume.”
12. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön: “There is a teaching that says that behind all hardening and tightening and rigidity of the heart, there’s always fear. But if you touch fear, behind fear there is a soft spot. And if you touch that soft spot, you find the vast blue sky. You find that which is ineffable, ungraspable, and unbiased, that which can support and awaken us at any time.”
15. Good stuff on A Writer’s Notebook from Summer Brennan: Essay Camp? and Essay Camp: A November Write-Along and The Work, In Progress. And this she has to say about writing practice applies to any practice, “The ongoing process of writing is one of perpetual drift and return. We are pulled away from our writing practice and then we come back, over and over. Life, the noise of the world, and the constant clamor of our own personal responsibilities can make writing difficult. This habit of return is one of the most important skills that any writer can cultivate, whether we do it daily or only once every few years.” The point isn’t to do it perfectly, but when you notice you’ve drifted off or gotten hooked, you simply notice and come back, and you can do that as many times as you need to — “the habit of return,” the noticing is what matters.
16. The Goal Versus The Missionfrom Jami Attenberg. “I definitely strive for perfection in my work. I want to make something beautiful and seamless and special for everyone. Always, I want this. (I know you want this, too!) But striving for that perfection should never get in the way of making it to the finish line or even sitting down to do that work in the first place. Perfection is a goal but not the mission. Have a good week. I hope you fuck up a little bit.”
24. Hidden Brain Podcast: Escaping Perfectionism. “Perfectionism is everyone’s favorite flaw. It’s easy to assume that our push to be perfect is what leads to academic, athletic and professional success. But psychologist Thomas Curran says perfectionism has a dark side, and that there are much healthier ways to strive for excellence.”
28. Is a Women’s Museum Still Relevant?on The New York Times. “The National Museum of Women in the Arts in Washington reopens Oct. 21 after a renovation and the loss of its legendary leader. It faces a world that has changed its outlook significantly.”
29. Georgia deputy fatally shoots man who was wrongfully imprisoned for 16 years. This is who we are — we right a wrong done and make the effort to free an innocent man from prison, we financially compensate him for the time he lost, which allows him to plan on attending college and buying a home, only to murder him during a traffic stop two years later.
36. Yayoi Kusama Apologizes for Past Racist Remarkson The New York Times. “Revelations from the artist’s autobiography threaten to cloud her new show at the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art.”
37. The 300-year-old Japanese method of upcycling. “Sashiko is easy, practical and beautiful – and gaining fans around the world. Bel Jacobs speaks to practitioners to find out more.”
44. A Hospice Nurse on Embracing the Grace of Dyingon The New York Times. “A decade ago, Hadley Vlahos was lost. She was a young single mother, searching for meaning and struggling to make ends meet while she navigated nursing school. After earning her degree, working in immediate care, she made the switch to hospice nursing and changed the path of her life. Vlahos, who is 31, found herself drawn to the uncanny, intense and often unexplainable emotional, physical and intellectual gray zones that come along with caring for those at the end of their lives, areas of uncertainty that she calls ‘the in-between.'”
Open Space Practice, (AKA: A Thousand Shades of Gray) 