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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Something Good

1. Some inspiring women: United Bodies Podcast: What Makes an Enjoyable Life with Andrea Gibson, and Why Samin Nosrat Is Now “Fully YOLO” on The New York Times, and Laura Pritchett discusses her new novel, Playing with Wild(fire), and Frida Kahlo, in her own words: A new documentary draws from diaries, letters, and On ‘Tigers Blood,’ Waxahatchee is in her anti-eras era, and Artistry meets science in a prosthetist’s workshop, and Jasmin Paris first woman to complete gruelling Barkley Marathons race and Endometriosis, Sobriety, and Stand-Up: Tiffany Haddish’s Courageous Path to Healing.

2. Wisdom from writers I adore: Claim Your Territory from Jami Attenberg, and Because I’m a Writer from Maggie Smith’s Pep Talk series, and A Few Things I Won’t Be Writing About from Laurie Wagner, and Everyday Use: Of legacies and the objects that embody them from Rita Ott Ramstad, and The Writer from Hugh Hollowell.

3. The Sadness Scale, As Measured by Stars and Whales.

4. Dear Christian, Why Do You Stand Behind Cruelty? “An Open Letter to Jesus MAGAs” from John Pavlovitz. 

5. The World Happiness Report“a partnership of Gallup, the Oxford Wellbeing Research Centre, the UN Sustainable Development Solutions Network, and the WHR’s Editorial Board. The report is produced under the editorial control of the WHR Editorial Board. The World Happiness Report reflects a worldwide demand for more attention to happiness and well-being as criteria for government policy. It reviews the state of happiness in the world today and shows how the science of happiness explains personal and national variations in happiness.” In related news, These are the world’s happiest countries in 2024.

6. Out of control from Seth Godin.

7. Podcasts from Upaya Zen Center: Being With Loss (“Join us in this heartwarming conversation with Frank Ostaseski and Tara Brach as they explore the depths of grief, loss, and the human experience. Through personal stories and profound insights, they reveal the transformative power of allowing ourselves to feel the full spectrum of our emotions. Together, they offer wisdom on navigating the wilderness of grief, letting go of control, and finding the path to wholeness”) and Opening to Darkness in Unsettling Times (“Sensei Zenju delves into the profound concept of embracing darkness as an integral part of the human experience. Zenju shares a quote ‘Darkness is asking to be loved,’ which explores themes of inner peace, composure, and the need to confront darkness. The speaker invites the audience to fully engage with their own darkness, acknowledging it as an essential aspect of life”).

8. On with-ness: Navigating normal and reclaiming each otherI typically share one or two links from the CTZNWELL WELLREAD newsletter, but this week’s intro and list of links were so good, I decided to share the whole thing.

9. “The Bloodbath”: Why we should take Donald Trump at his word about coming violence from Frederick Joseph.

10. Something Weird is Happening to Me“It feels completely terrifying and also very needed.”

11. Mindfulness for Grief and Loss“Grief is different for everyone, and it can change over time. Mindfulness can support us in healing and self-discovery after loss and change.”

12. 25 Fun (and Even Free!) Spring Activities to Put on Your Warm Weather Bucket List.

13. Lynda! Barry! “This week I had the opportunity to spend a couple hours with Lynda Barry…Below are five things inspired by our conversation, her teaching philosophy and what it means to be creative.”

14. Christian Cooper, the “Extraordinary Birder” on CBS Sunday Morning. “Christian Cooper made national news in May 2020 when, while birdwatching in New York’s Central Park, a white woman called 911 to report that an ‘African American man was threatening her life’ after he’d asked her to put her dog on a leash. His recording of their interaction went viral, just as the country was rocked by the George Floyd murder. Since then, he has hosted a National Geographic Wild series, ‘Extraordinary Birder with Christian Cooper,’and written a memoir about growing up a closeted gay teenager on Long Island, titled ‘Better Living Through Birding: Notes from a Black Man in the Natural World.’ Nancy Giles reports.”

15. 30 Books Critics Think You Should Read Right Now.

16. A Bronx Teacher Asked. Tommy Orange Answeredon The New York Times. (gift link) “When the author received an impassioned email, he dropped everything to visit the students who inspired it.” In related news, Indigenous Author Tommy Orange Digs Into Our Past — So We Can Embrace Who We Are Today. “In his new novel, Orange’s characters reveal how intergenerational trauma can manifest.”

17. The 50 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time.

18. How I Learned to Write the Hard Stuff. “I wanted to write about my traumatic personal experiences, but I was hiding behind walls. This is the moment when I finally broke through and found my voice.”

19. Elyse Myers Deleted All of Her TikToks After Being Targeted by Operation WatermelonIn related news, Let’s talk about Elyse Meyers (Instagram reel).

20. Good Things Vending(Facebook reel)

21. I like my own company. But do I spend too much time alone?

22. No Oprah, Ozempic alone can’t fix our culture of fat shamingIn related news, Things to Remember if You Watch the Oprah Special.

23. His Novel Sold a Million Copies. James McBride Isn’t Sure How He Feels About Thaton The New York Times. (gift link)

24. 1000 Words: Changing Writers’ Lives “by Accident”.

25. M. Emmet Walsh, Character Actor Who Always Stood Out, Dies at 88 on The New York Times. (gift link) In related news, M. Emmet Walsh, unforgettable character actor from ‘Blood Simple,’ ‘Blade Runner,’ dies at 88.

26. Intermittent fasting: Your heart, your health, your waistline.

27. Tom Stuart-Smith’s dos and don’ts of gardening“The landscape architect and garden designer known for his naturalistic and resilient planting offers advice on good gardening.”

28. A Musical Based on Prince’s Purple Rain Is Coming.

 

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. I can only go a few miles, and this morning was the first time I went somewhere other than around our neighborhood. It was so nice. The tricky part right now is I could probably go on a full length walk, but I can’t be in charge of Ringo yet. He’s pretty good on a leash, but he’s still a dog so sometimes I’m walking one way and he tries to pull me in the opposite direction and with a pretty big incision still healing, that’s not good. I have a follow up appointment with my surgeon on Monday and I’m hoping he’ll clear me to get back in the pool which will help build my strength back up and maybe in another week or two, I can be back to regular morning walks.

2. Rest and recovery. Every single thing I read about healing from this particular surgery said, “when you are tired, rest” and I’ve been doing my best to do that and am feeling a little better every day. I’m so grateful that I have the time and support to be able to just rest and take care of myself. Eric and I were talking this morning as we walked about our upcoming trip to Oregon, where we’ll spend most of the time at the beach. He couldn’t remember if it was two years ago or longer since we last went together, and I told him it was only two years even though it feels like longer because so much has happened since then, and he sighed and said, “yeah, we need a vacation.”

3. Good food. Cooking can be a pain sometimes, mostly because I have a bad habit of waiting until I’m already hungry to consider what to make myself to eat, which makes me hangry and impatient and resort to eating whatever is fast, which is never as good as something I cook. As I’ve had a bit more energy this week, I’ve been trying to cook myself something every day, even if it’s just “fancy” mac and cheese. I finally made the zucchini bread I’d been meaning to for a few weeks and am currently obsessed with honey roasted spicy carrots.

4. Streaming content and portable viewing devices. It’s very nice when you need to rest, to stay “down” but aren’t really up to reading the whole day, that I can take my phone or laptop to the couch or bed and watch a movie or a tv show or listen to a podcast or audiobook.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I’m realizing as I stay home more and rest how little I need that is outside this space. Sure, I miss going to the gym and have to go to the grocery store, etc., from time to time, but I’m the most content just staying home with my books and my boys and my bed. And I am not delusional — I recognize how much outside this space has to be in place and functional in order for me to be able to just stay here, and I’m grateful for all that too.

Bonus joy: not responding to the message I got from the person who has my old job asking some question about email FIVE years after I stopped working there (“not my circus, not my monkeys”), crying, all the things I’ve lost because I was lucky enough to have them in the first place, all the things I really wanted and didn’t get because I wouldn’t have landed where I am now, the reminder that “what you engage with you empower” right when I needed it, my mom having a UTI and NOT another stroke (which was the concern when my brother took her to the ER last night), how my mom might not have the best memory right now and gets confused but I can always make her laugh, homemade chicken noodle soup (Knorr Chicken Bouillon is the secret), texting with Chris and Chloe’, sharing reels and memes with Sherri and Kari and Carrie, having a few cups of coffee and realizing I really do like green matcha tea better, surrendering to what is happening instead of resisting it because it’s not what I “wanted,” Susannah Conway’s two new kittens, remembering that a breakdown or a total collapse doesn’t mean the end but rather opens the possibility for something new to emerge (“Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing” ~Arundhati Roy or “Barn’s burnt down — now I can see the moon” ~Mizuta Masahide), my Wild-ish Writing sangha, good books, poetry and poets, comedy, true crime, how much Ringo loves to eat, hugging Eric, sitting with him on the couch, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.