Monthly Archives: May 2025

Something Good

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1. Poetry: A New World by Julia Fehrenbacher, Every Poem by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, Faint Music by Robert Hass, Spell Against Indifference by Maria Popova, and Two-Factor Authentication and Whispering Yes and Morning Run and Touchstone, Taproot from Julie Barton. In related news, Ada Limón reflects on her tenure as the poet laureate and bringing us back to wonder. Also, check out my dear friend Michelle’s new book of poetry: “Between Latitudes, Michelle Latvala’s remarkable debut collection of poetry, is rooted in both the practice of forging a life in the boreal forest of Alaska and finding footing in contemporary California. The collection provides a window into our complex human experience through Latvala’s vast emotional and poetic range as she explores interior and exterior lives across generations, latitude lines, and a changing climate.”

2. Why America Desperately Needs PBS by Frederick Joseph. “On Truth, Our Collective Memory, and the Potential Loss of PBS.”

3. Meditation and Strong Emotions by Susan Piver. “Meditation is not a Path to Peace. It’s Something Better.”

4. Good stuff from The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz: Please, Don’t Forget to Live Today, and When The Worst Person is Leading the Greatest Nation, and Was This Worth It, Trump Voters?

5. A prayer from Jena Schwartz:

May we open doorways to thanks & walk through in wonder.
May we pay attention to where we are paying attention.
May we remember that beauty is never a waste of time.
May we listen to the silences where wisdom blooms.
May we remember the power of a few words.
May we marvel at the tenacity of the weeds.
May we make space for each other’s voices.
May we let our hearts be known.

6. Petals in the Wind: Belonging with Everything by Mindy Tsonas Choi.

7. The Cult Of The American Lawn. “Manicured grass yards are ecological dead zones. So why are they being forced on people by their neighbors and homeowner associations?”

8. 15 must-see movies in theaters this summer.

9. How To Shop In A Recession, “What I learned about myself on a recent shopping trip,” a comic from Connie Sun.

10. 7 benefits of creativity (and easy ways to be more creative).

11. I saved $36,000 by not buying anything new – here are seven reasons you should do the same.

12. When Your Cup is Empty on Zen Habits.

13. 13 Habits That Will Make Your Life Lighter and Happier.

14. 4 Things That Are Not Your Responsibility — Even If Your Anxiety Says They Are.

15. 20 Ways to Look After Yourself and Simplify Your Life.

16. Happy birthday, David Attenborough! 99 ways he has inspired us.

17. The Intrusion, “on psychic noise, creativity, and silence-as-luxury” by Elissa Altman.

18. “Hotel, motel, Holiday Inn” by Jonathan Edward Durham. “The sublime frustration of staying away from home.”

19. No such thing as bad weather? by Rita Ott Ramstad on Rootsie. “I want to thrive not as an act of resistance, but simply because I am 60 years old, and I don’t want to give away what’s left of my life waiting for some better time that might not come before I go.”

20. How to Be at Peace with Whatever Happens by Elizabeth Kleinfeld. Spoiler alert: “It doesn’t mean there’s no grief.”

21. What country am I in, again? by Patti Digh. “Why I no longer want my son to fly.”

22. New and Improved by Danny Gregory. “Instead of trying to be better, we can try to be different, iterating new approaches to new conditions, a fresh start every new day. Instead of fretting over self-improvement, we can accept that we’ll never solve things perfectly and permanently, and that’s not the goal. We don’t get to start life over. But we do get a fresh page. Again and again.”

23. One Hundred Reasons Not to Die, “Finding resilience amidst these many storms” by Nickole Brown.

24. What’s that rash? Put some thought into asking Google for medical help.

25. Spread Courage. “What can you do to build morale in these unsettling times?”

26. Building community is a joy (except when you don’t want to, or you’re tired, or you’re in your own head, or other people have let you down one too many times…) on The White Pages. “On dragging your feet (forward).”

27. A new documentary checks out the many ways libraries are a ‘Free For All’.

28. And finally, a few random things I saved to my phone this week.

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. I adore watching the world wake back up this time of year, even as I miss the quiet of the dark, cold, and snow.

2. Mom. When I sent her flowers this year for Valentine’s day and then again on her birthday along with some gifts, I thought it would be the last time. Instead, yesterday I ordered a custom box of See’s candies and flowers for Mother’s day. And while she is doing well, the slow decline continues. She is sleeping more and this past week started showing signs of sundowning, getting more confused and a bit agitated as the day winds down, so they’ve started her on a new medication to help. 

This is a strange moment in life that happens to everyone and yet some of us are still surprised when it comes, as if it’s unexpected. The end of Dad’s life was the beginning of Mom’s slow decline, so in some ways it was like losing them both at the same time. I left home for good over 30 years ago, and this is a whole other layer — first I left home and now it is leaving me. And even though I don’t think I ever would have gone back even if something happened to Eric, because I’ve made my life here, I always knew I could. They never would have turned me away and I always had somewhere I could go. To have that gone, even though I don’t “need” it and don’t expect to, it is a strange and lonely feeling.

3. Therapy. Week two. I’m glad I went back. I’ve got a lot to process, work through, and learn. I’m so grateful to have a wise, compassionate guide to support me.

4. Good neighbors. The ones across the street (who live next door to the ones who support what is currently happening and have the flags to show it) just put up a new flag (the picture on the left) and it will go nicely with the new yard sign I ordered from Etsy (the one on the right). I get that some people view signs and flags and stickers as “performative” but if “they” are going to put up their flags, I can’t let it go without a response. More than anything, I want their kids to see that there is another way.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. This is my home and I love it here.

Singing the song of our people 🙂

Bonus joy: having my birdfeeder back and full of both seeds and birds, leaves on the maple tree outside my window, buds on my iris, onion rolls, chicken noodle soup, Chloe’ bringing me cough drops, payday, finishing the laundry, groceries, heat radiating from the dryer and oven, books from the library, libraries and librarians, poetry and poets, listening to podcasts, watching TV and movies, yoga at Red Sage, other people’s dogs and kids and gardens, texting with Chris, Pilates and Yoga, getting in the pool, sitting in the sauna, the hydromassage chair, pizza, yogurt with granola and fruit, tacos and burritos, PBS and NPR, trees, comedy, true crime, clean sheets, a mug of hot green tea, yard time, how green and soft the grass in the backyard is right now, massage, making art, stickers, glue stick and scissors, garbage pick up and the folks who do that work, the people who grow and harvest our produce, naps, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.