Monthly Archives: November 2023

Something Good

1. The emergence of a yellowtail butterfly(video) Then, there was this related wisdom from Morgan Harper Nichols: “Kindness to yourself is like the patience the butterfly exhibits. It is understanding that not all processes happen immediately and that growth needs both effort and rest. You should not be harsh with yourself if you are not ready to soar right away. Instead, you should give yourself time to adjust, to let your wings dry, knowing that with patience and attention to your own needs, you will find the strength to rise and embrace the new heights that change brings.”

2. During my first case of Covida gorgeous poem from Jena Schwartz that isn’t about Covid at all, but rather everything else, “a leaf, a raindrop, the most beautiful feathered thing.”

3. Principlea gorgeous poem from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, “tossed again and again into the waters of difficulty, each toss another chance to practice buoyancy.” In related news, Whatever It Means, because this: “The weight of loving another, that weight without which I would be nothing.”

4. Start With What You Lovea gorgeous post from Laurie Wagner. “You know there are larger things looming, and they hurt to think about. How could you not feel them. You’re a human animal – you feel everything. So start with what you love, start there.” Also from Laurie, Alison Luterman & Laurie Wagner | True Confessions: How We Create Intimacy, Trust and Connection In Our Work.

5. How forest schools boost children’s immune systemsThis article jives with another post I saw. (Instagram reel)

6. Comedy shows I want to watch: Pete Holmes: I Am Not For Everyone, and Mike Birbiglia: The Old Man & The Pool, and Joe Dombrowski – Don’t Eat the Crayons, and Nate Bargatze on SNL.

7. Never Been Better (Official Lyric Video) from Ben Abraham.

8. Good stuff from Seth Godin: Patience, The power of expectations, Two ways to defend the status quo, and Confronting consciousness.

9. Activist Micro Action Dispatch: Text “CEASEFIRE” to 51905.

10. Good stuff from Jamie Attenberg on Craft Talk: The Problem of the Story and When to Share Your Work.

11. When Your Process Isn’t Working For You, Change Your Process from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

12. The Benefits of Yoga for Introverts.

13. On losing friends as an adult from Patti Digh. “Watching the fallout is the most enlightening part.”

14. The Friendship Dip from Culture Study. “The loneliest decades are not what you think they are.”

15. The World Inside You from Sarah Blondin, “a guided meditation on accessing your inner strength.”

16. Read It, Don’t Weep“A surprisingly positive post about grief.”

17. The Israel-Palestine conflict: a brief, simple history(video) In related news, Dr. Gabor Maté on Israel/Palestine. (video) And this, Palestinians, Victims of Liberal Hypocrisy from Frederick Joseph, which shares these horrifying statistics: 

“As I write this, over 9,500 souls have been extinguished, and amongst these, children make up more than 40% of the deceased. These are not mere numbers; these are stories cut short, dreams unfulfilled, and futures eradicated.

This is not to say that Israel has not suffered losses of its own, or that the hostages taken by Hamas are somehow unimportant. But we cannot, in good conscience, ignore the staggering disparity in the scale of harm. Over 1.5 Million Palestinians have been displaced, over 26,000 Palestinians have been injured, more than 48,000 homes have been destroyed, and over 100 health facilities have been decimated. Not to mention resources such as water, food, electricity, and internet being cut off.”

18. There Are A Million Ways to Say “I Love You” from Andrea Gibson. “Prank Calls, Mammograms, and Klondike Bars.”

19. 7 Reasons to Celebrate ‘Elf’

20. The Joy of Missing Out: I’m Embracing JOMO This Season, and Here’s Why You Should Too.

21. Wisdom from Pema Chödrön: “If spiritual practice is relaxing, if it gives us some peace of mind, that’s great—but is this personal satisfaction helping us to address what’s happening in the world? The main question is, are we living in a way that adds further aggression and self-centeredness to the mix, or are we adding some much-needed sanity?”

22. Recipe I want to try: Cornbread breakfast muffins.

23. ‘We’re sedating women with self-care’: how we became obsessed with wellness“The industry claims to offer answers for all our stress and symptoms – but we ‘still lack the fundamentals of wellbeing’. How did this happen?”

24. Ugandan man’s pure joy at seeing snow for the first time.

25. On Being with Krista Tippett | Clint Smith: What We Know in the “Marrow of Our Bones”.

26. ‘Genie’ Trailer: Melissa McCarthy Grants Magical Wishes in ‘Love Actually’ Writer-Director’s New Christmas Movie.

27. Monumental Paper Installations by Marianne Eriksen Scott-Hansen Bring Vibrant Flora Indoors.

28. How to be a writer. 

29. Lovely porcelain pieces patterned with quirky cartoon-like figures by Sandra Apperloo.

30. It’s good to remember: We are all on borrowed time by Anne Lamott.

31. Poetry on Facebook: Let the sun into your heart by David Whyte and Do you know from Andrea Gibson.

32. ‘A call to action to love ourselves’: how women in their 50s can leave the shadows“As roles and circumstances change, women in their 50s can look inwards and find a deep acceptance of themselves.”

33. Why All Introverts Need Regular ‘Me Time’.

34. How To Keep Going from Ijeoma Oluo. “The struggle for liberation is more than struggle.”

35. Wisdom from Jena Schwartz“Life is made up of so many different narratives that converge and diverge at different moments, and we can all tell our stories in many different ways. I could tell the story of my queerness, for example, or the story of how creativity and writing have continuously unfolded and evolved, or my professional story, or the story of my body.”

36. You Don’t Have to Write Every Day to “Be A Writer” from Esmé Weijun Wang, “aka, Building a Writing Habit While Living with Limitations.”

37. The Courage to Be New“How do you have the courage to be new? How do you even head into the ‘new?’ How can you learn to tolerate wings when all you knew were legs?”

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. One of the best reasons to have a dog is that they need to be walked and they need it even if you’d rather not, even if you’d rather stay in bed or on the couch. My sleepy morning self doesn’t always see the value of getting outside and moving around before the sun even comes up so I’m glad I have a dog who reminds me.

2. Practice. I’ve been writing a lot more lately, having challenged myself to 30 days of 1000 words a day and then joining Summer Brennan for her Essay Camp, which goes until November 5th but can be continued until the end of the month. I already write every day, and some days I’m also blogging or writing with my Friday morning wildish sangha, but this challenge is focused on writing “The Book.” I have 500+ pages already so the real trick is figuring out what goes in this book and what belongs somewhere else.

3. The Comedy FortFor a really long time, Fort Collins didn’t have a good place to see comedy. Bigger comedians sometimes schedule a show at The Lincoln Center, but for those who can’t fill that large of a room, we had to go to Boulder or Denver. But now, The Comedy Fort is filling that gap. The tickets are reasonably priced and there isn’t a bad seat in the whole space and ordering drinks on your phone right from your seat is super easy and they absolutely will throw you out if you heckle the performers. Chloe’ and I saw one of our favorite comedians, Chris Fairbanks, last weekend and I laughed so hard my face hurt, and then I was home in under ten minutes and in bed by 10 pm. I know it might sound weird, and it probably is, but my two favorite content types are true crime (including stories about cults) and comedy. People who make me laugh are my favorite.

4. Books. Thank goodness my birthday and Christmas are coming up because there are a bunch of new books I want/need, like Lama Rod Owens’ latest release, The New Saints: From Broken Hearts to Spiritual Warriors. I’m currently reading The Covenant of Water and it’s so good! I really loved Cutting for Stone, so I’m not surprised his latest is good too. I haven’t been sleeping great so I was asking Eric advice and one thing he suggested is to not read in bed before I go to sleep anymore. I just laughed and said, “well, that’s never going to happen.”

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. It’s everything I ever wanted.

Bonus joy: we are going to finally bake the pie Shellie sent for dessert tonight and my mouth is watering just thinking about it, The Sun Magazine, dark chocolate, the banana bread Cynthia sent, listening to podcasts, chrysanthemums, our neighbors who have their Christmas trees up and their Halloween decorations still out, other people’s kids and dogs, multicolored highlighters, stickers (OMG, I just found out that Morgan Harper Nichols has stickers!), my weighted blanket, when there is warm water coming out of the side vents in the pool, sitting in the sauna with Eric, the hydromassage chair, HRT, down blankets and pillows and jackets, saving Rocky Mountain Bee Plant seeds, my infrared heating pad, a good pair of slippers, doing a few things that had been on my todo list for YEARS, puppy breath, tarot cards, getting books for my Kindle from the library and figuring out how to cheat the return date (if my Kindle is in airplane mode, I can keep reading the book as long as I want), reading in bed at night while Ringo and Eric sleep.