Monthly Archives: July 2023

Something Good

CSU Flower Trial Gardens

1. Rebellious, hilarious and oblivious to the power of her presence… my old friend Sinéad O’Connor“Sean O’Hagan first met the young Dublin singer before fame struck. Then they started hanging out together off-duty. He recalls her as a fierce outsider and a beguiling free spirit.” In related news, on The New York Times, Sinead O’Connor, Evocative and Outspoken Singer, Is Dead at 56 and Nothing Compares and Once decried as sacrilegious, Sinéad O’Connor’s music and life were deeply infused with spiritual seeking.

2. Centuries-old companies in Japan on the secrets of business longevity(video) From CBS Sunday Morning, “There are old hotels, and then there’s Hōshi, in central Japan, which first opened its doors more than 1,300 years ago. Japan boasts tens of thousands of companies at least one century old, including sake-maker Sudo Honke, which has been turning out rice wine since 1141, and is currently run by a 55th generation descendant of the founder. Correspondent Lucy Craft reports on how, in a country that venerates its elders, old companies are on the rise.”

3. “Literally Just Changed The Game For Me”: TikToker Shares 30 Websites That Almost Feel Illegal To Know.

4. From Pencil Tips to Masterpieces: The Captivating World Of Daya Micro Art.

5. 21 of the Best Low-Light Houseplants.

6. What Does It Mean To Be A Good Person?: When Our Best Is Terrible from Andrea Gibson.

7. 50 Times Creative People Customized Thrifted Artworks In The Best Way.

8. The colorful paper quilling art of Yulia Brodskaya.

9. Why this poet sees grief as its own kind of spiritual practice.

10. These 8 habits could add up to 24 years to your life, study findsIn related news, A fitness trainer shares the No. 1 exercise for a ‘longer life’: It has ‘major aging benefits.’

11. Why Are Dave Matthews Band Fans So Loyal? on The New York Times. “Some have spent thousands of dollars and traveled hundreds of miles to see them since their summer tours started in the early ’90s.”

12. How to Heal from Childhood Emotional Neglect as an HSPIn related news, Beyond Small Talk: How to Nurture Deep Connections as an Introvert, and 10 Unspoken Advantages Introverts Have Over Extroverts, and Why Highly Sensitive People Keep Falling for Toxic Relationships — And How to Stop, and How to Navigate Depression as an Introvert, and A Therapist Explains How Highly Sensitive People Can Tame Perfectionism.

13. Textile sculptures of moths, butterflies, and other insects made with fabric and embroidery by Yumi Okita.

14. Art by TitsayI am going to spend so much money…

15. Why Farmers in Zimbabwe Are Shifting to Bees“Without the need for dedicated land or water, honeybees offer a more stable climate future.”

16. Stop Looking Behind YouSuch a good reminder.

17. Picturing Our Future. “Climate and energy choices this decade will influence how high sea levels rise for hundreds of years. Which future will we choose?” Maps showing predicted sea level rise visuals for 190 locations.

18. Amanda Cobbett Embroiders Realistic Likenesses of Fungi and Flora in Stunning Detail.

19. Good stuff from Seth Godin: But what if we’re wrong?, and Product and process, and It’s simple (it’s complicated), and Should we assume rational goodwill?

20. Wendy Chin-Tanner Tells Us About Being Brave Enough to TryAn occasional series from Cheryl Strayed where she invites “an author to tell us five things—not only about their most recent book, but about their life too.”

21. At Home, “amidst the bees wandering the garden” from David Whyte. Also from David Whyte, Gratitude. (video)

22. love, and from Abigail Rose Clarke. “We are living in hard times. We need to love each other fiercely.”

23. Tiredness is Not a Virtue“And resting is not sinful—a reminder I needed this summer.”

24. How to Say Goodbye: An Illustrated Field Guide to Accompanying a Loved One at the End of LifeI want this book.

25. A Safe and Necessary Distance for Healing“It seems that in order to heal and hold what is hard, scary, or difficult that there is a requirement for a necessary safe distance.”

26. Return to Sender from Jena Schwartz.

27. Poems from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer: With Surprise, I Realize and When She Is Being Herself.

28. Good stuff from Lion’s Roar: 5 Buddhist Practices to Help Tackle Climate Change (“Climate change can feel so immense that it hurts just to think about. Willa Blythe Baker offers five meditations to help bring the truth of climate change into your awareness and lay the ground for a skillful response”) and Other Ways to Practice Meditation (“You can bring the mind of meditation to any experience. Konda Mason explains how”).

29. Did The Buddha Want Us To Go Gently?

30. Trained FOR surprise, not AGAINST surprise from Patti Digh.

31. Dense Embroideries Map Celestial Expanses and Abstract Landscapes by Lindzeanne.

32. 7 Ways To Pack Like A Minimalist from Tammy Strobel on Be More With Less.

33. 99 Ways to Find IRL Community.

34. Why humans are surprisingly bad at being happy(video) “Your brain isn’t wired for happiness — but you can change that, explains Yale scientist Laurie Santos.”

35. Please Let Go Of These 5 Things For A Simpler Life from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less. Also from Courtney, 8 Tiny Notes To Help You Create Time For What You Love.

36. What to do (and avoid) in extreme heat“Tips for keeping kids, adults, and the elderly cool and safe — even without air conditioning.”

37. What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Therapy.

38. The 100 Best Movies of the Past 10 Decades“TIME’s Stephanie Zacharek on the top films from the 1920s through the 2010s.”

39. Wisdom from Isabel Foxen Duke: “dieting and restriction disconnects us from this critical biological feedback (like hunger, fullness, etc.), leaving us in a constant state of either trying to control, or rebelling violently against deprivation.”

40. On body acceptance and grief: The Grief That Leads to Body Acceptance, and Body acceptance begins with grieving the thin ideal, and How to Move Forward with Body Grief.

41. “I see you. I love you. We’re gonna get through this.” (video) Trying to heal a lifetime of trauma and the resulting habits and coping strategies takes time. Be gentle with yourself.

P.S. There won’t be a Something Good list next Monday. I’m flying out to Oregon to visit family. I and the list will be back at it Monday, August 7th. Have a wonderful week, kind and gentle reader. May whatever is hard find a soft place to land, and may mercy, grace, and rest find you there. ❤

 

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. The other day, we walked by the CSU Flower Trial Gardens, (stuff like this is why I LOVE living in a college town), which is within walking distance of the first apartment Eric and I lived in together, the basement of a cute little house in Old Town Fort Collins. We only paid $325 a month, which some of the time we split with a roommate. In the current market, just one bedroom in a shared space costs at least $600-1000!

As we were on our way to our old house, I asked Eric if he remembered the time his friend Dan borrowed our charcoal grill for a BBQ he was hosting, and how since he didn’t have a car and only lived a few blocks away, he walked home while dragging it behind him like he was walking a dog. Someone saw him and called the police, who he had to bring back to our house to confirm that he wasn’t stealing our grill. Then I pointed out a house on the corner just a block away and reminded him about the time they had a yard sale and we bought their dining room table set, and because it was so close to our house, we just carried it back, made two trips to get the full set back home.

Eric said the last time he’d walked by the house, it looked smaller, and he was right. They’d moved the fence closer to the house in back so that there’s room to park a car in the alley and they added a weird rickety narrow roof deck on to the same garage that we never used 30 years ago because it seemed like it could collapse at any moment. We didn’t have much when we lived there, when we first started out, but there was lots of love and a whole bunch of good times that made good memories.

2. Ringo. He got up from a nap yesterday and was limping. He has arthritis and one of the spots where it flairs up is in his elbows. We gave him some pain meds and did some cold lazer on his elbow that was sore. He woke up this morning already feeling better but he’ll be on restriction and meds for at least a few more days, if not a week or two. I feel so sad and anxious when he doesn’t feel good but I’m so grateful to have the resources I need to help him and that he’s such a good sport about it all.

3. Practice. I am getting ready to fly out to Oregon and spend a week visiting family. I haven’t flown since COVID and my people keep getting older every time I go, so practice is helping me cultivate the wisdom and compassion, the ease and calm I want to bring with me. I also am going to the beach for a few days which is always so good for me. I’m sad Eric and Ringo will be here without me, but so happy to come back to them after my visit. 

4. Eric. He made a strawberry pie for us this week. And on the morning of the day I was teaching yoga this week, he came to tell me he was going to the gym and I asked if he could help me load my yoga stuff into my car before he left, and he said, “I already did.” This October will be our 30th wedding anniversary and I would absolutely marry him again.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. There absolutely is no place I’d rather be, no one I’d rather be here with.

Bonus joy: Fat Boy ice cream sandwiches, writing with my Wildish Writing group on Friday mornings, Hendrix is WALKING!!! <3, afternoon rain storms, cucumbers and zucchini and tomatoes and flowers from our garden, finding the charger for Ringo’s cold lazer after looking for a really long time and almost ordering a new one, listening to podcasts, leftovers, sunshine, good neighbors, other people’s dogs and kids, crossing things off my to-do list, watermelon gummies, grapefruit drink mix, Asian cucumber salad with cucumbers from our garden, green grapes, spinach & artichoke hearts and greek yogurt dip with salty chips, lemonade, those yummy sandwiches from The Pickle Barrel, pay day, getting all the laundry done, zucchini bread and muffins with toasted walnuts, the yellow flowers and bees on our golden rain trees, cone flowers and daisies, hummingbirds, trees, watching TV with Eric at night, making each other laugh, making each other less anxious, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.