Monthly Archives: November 2020

Something Good


1. The Dodo, “At The Dodo, we’re obsessed with creating fun, entertaining and emotional content that makes people fall in love with animals. The Dodo is proud to tell animals’ stories at a time when people care about them more than ever.” Their videos and bloopers (no matter where or what they are from, I just get on YouTube and search “bloopers”) are my go-to comfort content. Sometimes the state of abandoned animals when they are first rescued is hard to watch, but every video has a happy ending.

2. How To Be At Home. “Lean into loneliness — and know you’re not alone in it. Filmmaker Andrea Dorfman reunites with poet Tanya Davis to craft tender and profound animation on the theme of isolation, providing a wise and soaringly lyrical sequel to their viral hit How to Be Alone.”

3. The Bridge Dog, (or what we call at our house “the backup dog”), because this:

I could not believe how much happier I was now that I had Merle in my life. Merely by agreeing to feed her and dispose of her waste, I had opened a portal to a pure, white-light joy that cut through all miseries, personal and structural. We walked and walked, mostly at night, over the bridge, around the town, over the other bridge, in the cool dark. Mere errands became ecstatic experiences because she was with me. “We are together,” I liked to exclaim to her reflection in my rearview mirror. “We are alive, and we are together!” My life was no longer a disaster. It was instead the miracle that had landed this creature in my back seat. I don’t want to say that Merle made me happy, but she made me stop wishing I was dead.

4. Joint Statement by President-elect Joe Biden and Vice President-elect Kamala Harris On Diwali, the Festival of Lights. More of this, please.

5. COVID-19 news: Covid-19 vaccines may have potentially unpleasant side effects, and ‘Breakthrough finding’ reveals why certain Covid-19 patients die, and Gov. Polis warns against holiday gatherings as COVID-19 cases, hospitalizations hit record highs, and Moderna announces initial Phase 3 data showing its COVID-19 vaccine is up to 94.5% effective.

6. From Obscure To Sold Out: The Story Of Four Seasons Total Landscaping In Just 4 Days.

7. This Etsy Ad Featuring a Black, Gay Couple Going Home for Christmas Will Make You Weep.

8. Insights at the Edge — Elizabeth Lesser: When Women Are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes. “Tami Simon speaks with Elizabeth about her experience in the early days of the Omega Institute, redefining ‘power,’ and the ways that patriarchy is subtly, and not so subtly, embedded in our culture—how we can become more aware of it, and how we can make changes on the outside and inside so that in the future we can tell a different story, a story that equally embraces the power of women as well as men.”

9. Writing/Contemplating Prompts from John Pavlovitz:

  • What have you lost during the past few years? What/who are you grieving? What do you mourn over?
  • What have you seen or experienced that has sustained you and given you joy over the past four years? What is worth celebrating right now?
  • What has been renewed in you; something you rediscovered that you thought was gone? A beautiful surprise? A resurrected dream or voice?

10. What a Simple Haiku Can Do for a Friendship on The Atlantic. This article is part of a series where the author interviews two friends, and in this installment she interviews, “two friends who have been texting each other a haiku every day during the pandemic. They say that the practice has kept them connected and helped them to live in the moment. They discuss how structure helps maintain friendships, explain the coincidence that brought them back together after falling out of touch for years, and share some of their haikus.”

11. on rage, compassion and boundaries from Karen Walrond on Chookooloonks.

12. Good stuff from the Upaya Election Series: Love, Fear, and Resilience as the World Falls Apart (“Lama Rod Owens looks at systems of trauma. He talks about resilience, compassion, suffering, and the need to embody our feelings and our practice”), and another with Sharon Salzberg, who “talks about having a sense of agency and committing to taking a step even if it doesn’t seem like much. She also talks about moving from grief to resilience and from anger to courage. Lastly, Sharon Salzberg leads a loving-kindness meditation.”

13. On the Power of Essayistic Compression in Flash Nonfiction. “Dinty W. Moore Traces the Growth (Contraction?) of a Genre.”

14. How to make this winter not totally suck, according to psychologists. “The practices involve cultivating different states — social connectedness, a clear purpose, inspiration — but all have one thing in common: They get you to focus on something outside yourself.”

Gratitude Friday

1. Morning walks. Still getting a mix of dark and light. Because we got snow this week, the sky was extra special. We met an eight month old Malamute/Husky mix on one of our walks. She had so much energy and was so soft. We didn’t see many animals, except the ducks and geese and a heron flying overhead, but apparently there’s a flock of wild turkeys roaming the park.

2. Winter. The energy is a good match for this particular moment in time, for me — the pull to hunker down, get comfortable, stay home, hibernate, eat good food, cuddle, sleep, read.

3. Practice. Steady, stable, constant, routine, comforting.

4. Warmth. In particular the heat generated by the oven and dryer, a warm shower, a hot cup of coffee, down blankets, infrared heating pad, saunas, how warm my doctor’s hands were (so warm, I asked if her stethoscope was heated), cuddling with Ringo, hugging Eric, “I love you.”

5. My tiny family. When a doctor friend said we might have to stay careful as we have until March, which would mean a full year of living like this, I wasn’t completely disappointed because it means getting even more time where it’s just the three of us, and that just so happens to be my favorite thing.

Bonus joy: good TV (The Queen’s Gambit streaming on Netflix and the last two episodes with America Ferrera on Superstore), good podcasts (in particular Do You Need a Ride, My Favorite Murder, and Working it Out), good books (I love Chuck Wendig’s writing on his blog, Terrible Minds, but I’ve never read any of his books, I’m reading his Wanderers because all I’m reading right now is dystopian fiction, and it’s really good, and Ocean Vaughn’s On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous was beautiful and heartbreaking), broccoli slaw, texting with people I love, Zoom so I can see their faces, an email from one of my yoga students telling me the reasons why practice with other teachers just isn’t the same, my primary care physician who is caring and funny and smart, the people at the lab who stayed patient even though people were being jerks, roasted vegetables, grilled cheese sandwiches, gummy vitamins, vaccines, all the people making an effort to make things better even when it puts them at risk.