Three Truths and One Wish

1. Truth: A walk is magic, medicine. If you can go longer and take a few dogs along, even better. It clears my head, gets me unstuck, lifts my mood, gets me moving, reminds me to breathe. It brings my mind back to my body, gets my feet on the ground, holds both my mind and body in the present moment, in the same place at the same time. A walk softens the hard edges, relaxes tension, releases strong emotions, dissolves discursive thoughts.

2. Truth: Surrender, letting go of control is really, really hard. This morning in my meditation, I set an intention to invite surrender and let go of control. It arose naturally, those two things, the choosing of them specifically felt genuine and right–for about three minutes. Then I thought to myself “what have I done?!” I felt myself wanting to struggle with surrender, to cling to my sense of control. And yet, I know this is the edge I need to lean into, move past. Courtney Carver just put up a new post on Be More With Less, Let the Monkey off the Chain, that is helpful. And from my Inner Pilot Light today came this:

You may feel like if you let go of the reins, all hell will break loose, you won’t get what you want, and everything will fall apart. But what you may not realize is that grabbing the reins and trying to exert control is actually sabotaging all the blessings the Universe is trying to bestow upon you. So darling, please, let go. Surrender. Trust.

I’m trying, kind and gentle reader, I really am.


3. Truth: I miss Obi. I was watching videos of him this weekend, and it made me so happy to see him again, but so sad too, the hard fact that he is gone, that while I’m alive I will never see him again. That grief only gets heavier knowing the same is coming with Dexter, that soon I will be missing them both.

When they are, I can watch videos like this one and remember when we were all here together. They had just gotten a bath, which always makes them go a little crazy. When they would play like this, we called it Dog Fu. It’s hard to believe that this was Obi three months into chemo (if you look close, you can see the bare spot on his leg where they shaved it to put the IV in), which clearly wasn’t slowing him down.

One Wish: That we find ease, that we find the courage to surrender and let go, that we are lucky enough to love deeply and be loved.

6 thoughts on “Three Truths and One Wish

  1. mj

    As you have shared your suffering at the impending loss of Dexter I have taken on some of that suffering, and also the joy of each extra day you have with him. The video gives me a sense of anticipation for Dexter to be reunited with his buddy Obi, (because that is my belief system) somehow it eases the suffering of letting go in this physical realm. For me, the video reframes the letting go, it is more like releasing, and I can apply that to my human relationships. A powerful lesson for me from this video.

    I believe your wish is fulfilled in the lives of Obi and Dexter, they love and are loved deeply.

    1. jillsalahub Post author

      MJ, Obi and Dexter loved each other so much (we always teased Dex, told him he was Obi’s dog, not ours, and Dex definitely loved Obi more than he loved anyone else in the world). If I could be sure that Dexter would finally get to be with Obi again, it would make it all so much easier. And I agree, I can let Dexter go, as I let Obi go, knowing that he had a really good life, was loved deeply. I gave them that and they returned the favor. And no matter what, the love remains, is never lost.


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