Something Good

One of my favorite Susan Piver quotes, from Susan's Instagram

One of my favorite Susan Piver quotes, from her Instagram

1. Army Corps Denies Easement For Dakota Access Pipeline. I first saw the news on my Facebook feed while I was waiting in line at the grocery store yesterday — I don’t think anyone noticed I was crying. It’s also important to remember, however, that this isn’t over. And in related news, Beloved Horse Blanket Donated To Standing Rock. *sob* And in other related news that might make you giggle, Standing Rock – Ultra Spiritual Life episode 46.

2. An epic scavenger hunt. (Thanks for the link, Shellie).

3. BotJoy. (Thanks for reminding me of this one too, Shellie).

4. WhatDoIDoAboutTrump.com, “a resource hub for people who are upset about the election and want to make a difference. We feature the best campaigns and resources created since the election — in a simple and well-designed format — to help you get active. We also offer tools to help you stay active because we know it can be hard to find time in our busy lives.”

5. Patton Oswalt’s Year of Magical Parenting. Confession: I wasn’t ever a huge Patton Oswalt fan. I liked him just fine, but I didn’t go out of my way to seek out his work. Now though — I think he’s one of the most awesome humans, and any time he writes something or does an interview, I’m there.

6. Japanese Americans Talk About World War II Incarceration. Can we please not do this again.

7. There was some really problematic body-shaming during the “Gilmore Girls” revival. Word.

8. Opportunities for White People in the Fight for Racial Justice, “Moving from Actor → Ally → Accomplice.”

9. Recipe I’d like to try: Curried Butternut Squash Soup.

10. Prison Reform Myths: Shutting Down BS with Michelle Alexander.

11. Justin Normand’s Facebook post, “I’m the Texan who held the “You Belong” sign in front of the mosque in Irving.”

12. DoSometing.org. “A global movement for good. 5.5 million young people making positive change, both online and off. Team up with young people in every US zip code and in 131 countries.”

13. Christmas gifts for the homeless. “What do homeless people want for Christmas? Their responses may surprise you.”

14. Injustice Boycott. It starts tomorrow. Watch this Facebook Live video to get some context, or watch this short clip from Democracy Now. Read this about the boycott’s historical and philosophical framework.

15. You can’t go home again on Rita’s Notebook. “Since November 8, I have felt as if we’re all now living in what we’ll come to think of as After.”

16. Racism With No Racists: The President Trump Conundrum. “The issue there is the definition of ‘racial’ — of or about race — isn’t at all what racism is. Racism is not about race. Everybody has race. And, that’s not how we’re using it. Racism is about racial hatred, animus rooted in racial superiority beliefs that often justify the unfair allocation of resources, both cultural and material.”

17. Gifts for Writers, 2016 on Terrible Minds.

18. This teen is the new leader in the fight against gun violence.

19. Top 43 Meditation Blogs You Need To Be Reading.

20. How my grumpy 75-year-old father learned Instagram to show his love to his three grandchildren.

21. Fuck this Shit, an Advent devotional.

22. What if you could change the world by doing nothing? | Susan Piver | TEDxAruba

23. Being Watched. “New website seeks to register professors accused of liberal bias and ‘anti-American values'” and Professor Watchlist Is Seen as Threat to Academic Freedom. This is some next level bullshit. The sort of thing that leads to this shit, White Power Leader’s New Target: Colleges. And this, I’m a liberal professor and my conservative students terrify me.

24. Supporting fat women in the time of Trump. “We don’t just need you to dispose of the noisiest bully. We need you to challenge the culture that created him.” And why it matters so much: Fatphobia Claims Another Life.

25. The FLASH drives from Seth Godin. “Fear, loneliness, anger, shame & hunger.”

26. Good stuff from Lion’s Roar: Among the Bodhisattvas at Standing Rock, and What About the Cost of Retreats?

27. You Don’t Have To Like Me—You Just Have To Believe I’m A Human Being.

28. Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath. I didn’t get to watch this yet, but I’m going to.

29. You’ve Been Trumped, a documentary. Again, as above, I didn’t get to watch this yet, but I’m going to.

30. Episode #43: Are You Authentic, or Are You A Fraud? A podcast I want to listen to. Jamie always has good stuff to say. “In this episode Jamie reveals the magical 3 p’s: Presence, Peace and Power and how these lead to authenticity within yourself. You will also learn the tell-tale symptoms of when you are being a fraud and not living into who you actually are.”

31. Coping with Chaos in the White House. This sounds right to me.

32. “Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack“, Peggy McIntosh’s classic essay about White Privilege.

33. Good stuff from Jena Schwartz: “How Can I Help You” and Other Three-Dimensional Questions, and The Art of Becoming a Boring Writer (and Embracing It), because this:

…when I’m no longer oriented towards the next shoe dropping or the next big drama, writing requires a new kind of courage and creativity.

It’s the creativity to recognize that everyday life is teeming with writing-worthy moments. And it’s the courage to show up not only when everything’s chaotic, not only when I’m in a place of unrest or searching or heightened emotion or shifting ground, but from inside of everyday life, against a backdrop and in the context of extraordinary conditions. Because for better or for worse, the world is not short on extraordinary conditions.

And later in the same post, “The whole having-a-body thing, being-in-relationship thing, and making-a-difference thing? Dude.”

34. David Rees breaks down how much money he’s made freelancing for 15 years.

35. My Grown-up Christmas List from Curly Girl Design. “Needless to say, this list has been eye opening and a tiny bit sobering. Full of practical things, things-that-I-wish-just-happend-for-me things, and things-that-would-just-make-my-daily-life-happier-or-easier (or, have fewer holes in it) things, this list is not glamorous, but I am willing to bet one or two of these things is secretly on your list.” The first thing on the list, for sure.

36. I Read 50 Books by Women of Color This Year! I’m keeping this list to add to my own, (which is already more than I could possibly read in one lifetime). In related news, 6 Podcasts Hosted By Women of Color, Because There’s Life Beyond Ira Glass, I Promise.

37. 20+ Comics That Capture Life With Anxiety and Depression.

38. Wanting to lose weight isn’t shameful. “Practitioners who offer weight loss may not understand the necessity to heal relationship with food and body in order to create the conditions that make body acceptance possible. Once you heal that stuff, the concept of weight loss is way too tiny to fit all the radical self-care you will employ to honor all that you are.”

Lovebomb

Sticker taped to mirror in Gender Neutral bathroom

Sticker taped to mirror in Gender Neutral bathroom

Lovebombing, in the most general terms, is when you anonymously leave notes or small gifts for people to find. It can be in a public space, such as a grocery story (like leaving notes that say “You are beautiful exactly as you are” in the diet food aisle), library (putting messages of hope inside books about depression or addiction), or where you work (leaving notes that say things like “The way you smile and say hello always cheers me up” in someone’s mailbox), or it can be a private or more personal space, such as leaving cookies on your neighbor’s door step, or putting a note on someone’s car windshield.

message from a "secret admirer" on my car this morning :)

message from a “secret admirer” on my car

This will be the third time I’ve lovebombed the building I work in. It’s relatively anonymous — except for that I blog about it and post pictures on Instagram. Even so, there are still people I work with who’ve never figured out it was me. Next week is the last week of classes, with finals after that, so everyone is feeling stressed, fatigued. Add to that the recent presidential election results, the dwindling daylight and increasing cold, and it feels like people could use some encouragement.

I put up tearable flyers, pictures with quotes or a poem, and “you are beautiful” stickers in our employee mail room, the two spots we have microwaves, the women’s bathrooms on all four floors and a few of the men’s, over the water fountains, and in the stairwells and hallways.

My supplies

My supplies

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Student lounge area

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"The Thing Is" by Ellen Bass

"The Thing Is" by Ellen Bass

“The Thing Is” by Ellen Bass, bathroom stall door

Ethnic Studies is on the 2nd floor of our building, and they had this really cool Post-It collection.

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I added something, a bit bigger than a post-it but hopefully they won’t mind. It was one of my favorite flyers I made to hang today.

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I know that some people might consider this naive. And yet, we lose students to suicide every year. Many of them (and us) are struggling with anxiety and depression, and with the current political climate and some of the things happening in the world, many of us are afraid and confused. Leaving some anonymous love laying around isn’t the worst thing you could do. I made sure I didn’t get too political so no one felt left out, and I tried to find a few things for the main doors into the men’s bathrooms that weren’t too feminine. And as I taped things up, I held the intention in my heart that the person who needed a particular message the most would find it, that I would put it in the place they’d see it, and that it would somehow help them.

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If you’d like to try a lovebomb, (I highly recommend it, makes you feel good and cheers up the people who find them), some of my sources for flyers are:

  • Kelly Rae Roberts has a really great flyer in this post you can download.
  • Kindness Over Matter has tons of free printables.
  • Susan Piver shares lots of great images and quotes on Instagram.
  • Grammarly shares some good stuff on Instagram too. Here’s one I used today.
  • When I find a quote I like, I Google it and see if anyone has made an image using the quote. If the person has their name or url as part of the image, I make sure to leave it intact on my print out. One thing I did this time was to use a few images from Emily McDowell because she is just SO good at mixing encouragement with the messy stuff of life, at not glossing over the bad things but also not losing her sense of humor. I made sure to include her studio logo on the two I printed out, and I’m going to buy some stuff from her shop to balance the karma of that.
  • If I’d had more time, I would have used images from Unsplash, added quotes in PicMonkey, and done some myself.

I know as soon as facilities goes to clean the bathrooms, my flyers will get “cleaned” too. Hopefully a few people see them before that happens and feel at least the tiniest bit cheered up.