Three Truths and One Wish

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1. Truth: the work of my heart is gentle, quiet and simple yet fierce. Spreading love and kindness, cultivating courage and joy, generating a sense of wonder and gratitude, allowing for play and rest, offering encouragement and inspiration, creating safe and open space where natural wakefulness can manifest, showing up with an open heart even when it’s hard and even when it hurts–easing suffering feels like my true calling.

2. Truth: the work of my heart may never be directly paid in dollars. I’m okay with that. It doesn’t need to pay my bills. I will get paid in understanding and awareness, connection and compassion, love and gratitude, joy and tender-hearted sadness. I will see and be seen. I will notice what longs to be noticed. I will be amazed and tell about it. I will be awake and alive, with my heart wide open. In this way, I will be wealthy, will have everything I need, more than enough.

3. Truth: the work of my heart softens me, scares me, makes me tender as it terrifies me. Sometimes it feels too big, too much, too hard, overwhelming, and I shut down, numb out or hide or run away, attempt to deny it, to escape. And yet, when I resist it, I suffer. I try to remember what Katherine Center said, that “you have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs.” I try to remember that this is what life is, both beautiful and brutal, and that to open my heart and experience all of it, pleasure and pain, is why I am here.

One wish: There is an aspiration, a mantra, a chant that Susan Piver has shared that I’d like to offer here as my one wish today, that we all know this to be true, practice it, embody it:

I possess basic goodness.
All beings possess such goodness.
Knowing this, my heart opens.
When my heart is open, the whole world changes.

P.S. Basic goodness is our fundamental, inherent, natural condition–awake, wise, and compassionate. “Our most basic qualities (those we were born with) are openness, intelligence, and warmth,” (Susan Piver, from her post You are Good).

1. Truth: This presidential election will bring change, no matter who gets elected. The only thing we can ever count on is change, it’s the nature of life. In this specific case, the cultural climate could change, so might the economy and so many other “big” things. Things might get better, they might get worse, but we know there will be some shift.

2. Truth: Whatever is different because of the outcome of this election, it won’t change my core values, and it most likely won’t have a significant impact on the way I live my daily life. My dogs will still need walked, I will still be a writer, a committed practitioner of yoga and meditation, I will still love Eric, I will still do my work, I will still be a woman, a human, and I will still try to keep my heart open.

3. Truth: No matter who is President elect when this is all over, no matter what else changes, I will continue to work towards cultivating compassion and courage, being less confused and more mindful, doing what I can to ease suffering where I find it, and inspiring others to do the same.

One Wish: That we shift from a culture of competition to one of compassion, that we let go of thinking in terms of “us” and “them” and instead develop a deep understanding that we are in this together, we share a common human experience, and that we know that even more important than our vote is our choice to be kind, to love, to keep our hearts open and do what we can to ease suffering in ourselves and in the world.