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Three Truths and One Wish

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1. Truth: I sent 10 postcards to Donald Trump. It was part of a larger project where people from all over sent the same with a simple message, “Not Bannon.” I added a short message, a plea to “keep white supremacists OUT of the White House.” I don’t pretend to think there aren’t already white supremacists in the White House, or that my postcards will make any difference, even when added to all the others, but I’m willing to try it, to at the very least register my disagreement in some small way.

2. Truth: I sent an email to President Obama. I’ve heard that it’s more effective to call, but I was at work and didn’t want to be interrupted, yet wanted to say something — again, to at the very least register my disagreement in some small way. Here’s where you can submit a message: https://www.whitehouse.gov/contact My email said, (feel free to copy it or use it as a script if you call, I’m happy to share if it makes it easier for anyone else),

President Obama,

It has been a blessing to have you as our leader for the past eight years. I voted for you both times, with my whole heart. The first time you were sworn in, I watched live online and sobbed. I’m crying now remembering it.

Over the past eight years, you have been the voice of reason, sanity, and compassion. I know that you’ve done what you could under difficult circumstances. You did so much good, and I know you’d hoped to do so much more. With you in the White House, I believed that we all were moving in the direction of wisdom and compassion, that things would continue, with our good effort, to get better for all people and for our planet.

And now, the bad news (besides that other terrible horrible awful news we got on election day) — In these final days of your time in office, I find myself disappointed in you. As Bernie Sanders said in a recent open letter to you, “It is deeply distressing to me that the federal government is putting the profits of the oil industry ahead of the treaty and sovereign rights of Native American communities.” I don’t have to tell you all the things that are wrong with the Dakota Pipeline Project, (but just in case, here’s the short list: a white community rejected the pipeline near them because of the risk to their water supply when no such option has been given to those at Standing Rock, the way the pipeline has been permitted is not just unethical but possibly illegal — building it a little at a time to avoid the environmental studies that would be required for such a project if submitted as a whole and ignoring standing treaties about the land — and the oil transported by the pipeline is going to be sold to another country so the only purpose of the line is the profit of a select few).

What has me so distressed, so disappointed in you, is that in recent days especially, there have been clear human rights violations happening on the site. These good people who are protecting their sacred burial grounds, their land, and OUR water are being horribly abused.

I’m begging you, step in. Stop the abuse of the water protectors. Stop the pipeline. Make sure those involved in illegal actions are prosecuted and held responsible. And when that’s done, apologize to those at Standing Rock for not stepping in sooner. Please, please make this right.

3. Truth: Yesterday was Giving Tuesday. I didn’t spend any money on Black Friday or Cyber Monday, but yesterday I gave $10 to an older gentleman standing out in the cold who’d asked for “.25, .50, anything.” Then I was Christmas shopping and saw the cutest, softest stuffed kitty. Dexter would have loved it so much, and I totally wanted to buy it, even though the dogs we have now can’t have those kinds of toys, (Ringo is a murderer). For a brief second, I considered buying it for myself, but even my broken little heart knew how dumb that was. Then I saw a Giving Tuesday link for one of my favorite animal shelters, Richmond Animal League. Problem solved! If I give them $25 dollars, they don’t just give a dog a new toy, they give him new humans and a new home, and that’s so much better. Then I gave a month’s worth of meals to Rams Against Hunger, a project “aimed at eliminating food insecurity for students at Colorado State University by providing five nutritious meals a week from the CSU dining halls to students in need” because school is hard enough, life is hard enough without having to worry about being hungry too. Then I gave my first Kiva loan. I’ve wanted to give a loan through Kiva before (https://www.kiva.org/) , but every time I go to their website and look, I get so overwhelmed and leave without giving a loan. Yesterday, I tried again, and was successful. First, I filtered to “women” and changed the results to show by “amount remaining.” My goal was to be the one who completed someone’s loan. I looked a bit, and was feeling that same sense of overwhelm, “how am I ever going to choose,” and then I saw her face, and I can’t explain it, but I knew this was the woman I’d help. “Tahira is 37 years old and is from Sialkot, Pakistan. She is a hardworking mother of five young children. She is working hard to ensure a good life for them.” She wanted to buy a sewing machine and some fabric so that she could start a little business to help earn some extra money, and I helped her.

One wish: May we all continue to try, to not give up, and to do what we can with what we have where we are.

Three Truths and One Wish

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1. Truth: I’m doing the best I can. This morning it was hard to know what to do. I’d slept terribly. I felt equal parts numb and raw, and my heart hurt. I fell back on what Susan Piver (and Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche) teaches about building confidence, five things you can do. I meditated, did my writing practice, cleaned up my kitchen, put away the laundry, did my physical therapy exercises, took a shower, and made myself a good breakfast — Dave’s Bread, eggs from a friend’s chickens, Tillamook cheese, organic fruit and veggies, a tall glass of water. I felt a little bit better. It made me think of advice I’ve been given before, “do what you can where you are.”

2. Truth: Then I went to work, because I was expected, and working at a university in an English department the population is more likely to share my values, so I knew at the very least I would be among people who understood how I was feeling. Still in shock, I decided to do the only thing I knew how. I walked down the hallway, found the first door open, and hugged the person working there. It was sort of easy because she’s a longtime friend and mentor, but still. What surprised me is how my emotion was right there on the surface, hers too. As soon as we hugged, we both started crying. After talking with her a bit, I walked back towards my office and one of the people in the office across from mine was getting ready to go teach a class. We said “Hi,” and I asked her if she needed a hug. Same thing, as soon as our hearts got close to each other, we both started to cry. Even though I’d imagined roaming the halls with hugs and chocolate for everyone I found, that was all I could do, just two people. And yet, again — do what you can where you are.

3. Truth: I am treating this as a call to action. I admit, I got soft while Obama was in office. I took his presence and all the changes that came with it as progress. I thought that things were getting better. I was wrong. There is so much work to do, and I’m ready. Today I will mourn, but once the shock wears off, I’m rolling up my sleeves. For now, that means giving some money to help the protest at Standing Rock and the Prison Mindfulness Institute. It means being gentle with myself. It means being kind to everyone I see. It means reading what Rachel wrote as many times as I need to. It means lunch with a friend who gets it. This weekend it means going to the Fort Collins Standing Rock Rally & Prayer Gathering. It means doing what I can where I am.

One wish: May we be happy. May we be well. May we be safe. May we live with ease. May all of us do what we can where we are.

P.S. I wish I could give all of you a hug today, kind and gentle readers. ❤