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Writer & Contemplative Practice Guide holding space for people cultivating a foundation of a stable mind, embodied compassion and wisdom. CYT 500

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. I’m getting used to Eric going with us so I’m not going to like it when he has to go back to work. I’m amazed how few mosquitoes we have this year but glad because that means we can still go near the water, the ponds and the river. 

2. Mom. She yelled at one of her sisters this week (“don’t tell me what to do!”) and it was a surprise because her sister said she’s never heard Mom yell at anyone in her whole life. She’s really into her snacks and I like that for her because for most of her life she was so careful with what she ate, so hard on herself when she did allow herself a treat. At this stage in her life, I think she’s earned the right to all the chips, candy, cake, and cookies she wants. We are still, with my brother’s help, sending each other selfies, and she still remembers who we are. And, it’s still so hard.

3. Our garden. It’s been a few years since we’ve done much of anything new with it and we haven’t planted vegetables in a few years either — because “life” — and from year to year in any garden some things thrive and others fail no matter what you do, and this year there was an unfortunate situation where Eric was trying to get rid of a particular invasive plant in our front berm and accidentally got rid of some things we’d planted on purpose — and yet, there is so much life there still. (videos and images by Eric)

4. Practice. Making art, writing in the morning with a mug of tea and my HappyLight, doing yoga at Red Sage, meditating in my practice room, and writing with my Friday morning group.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. Loving it here with them, as always. Eric made a strawberry pie yesterday and peaches are here, so he’s already planning a peach tart. We are going to our book club today and it’s been nice to read the same book once in a while. It’s been almost a full year that Ringo hasn’t had a wonky belly, has been healthy in that regard, and his arthritis seems to be holding steady — I’m so happy to have an older dog, especially an older him.

Bonus joy: books from the library on my Kindle, ice cream, magazines and scissors and glue stick, peaches, grocery shopping, a big glass of cold clean water, listening to Dateline on the radio while I cook, clean laundry, the yellow mums Eric got me still going, being able to start over as many times as necessary, being a bit nicer to myself, good TV (finally watched Four Seasons on Netflix and it was sweet, a wonderfully easy watch), listening to podcasts, making myself playlists with new music, sharing memes and reels with Shellie and Kari and Carrie, texting with Chloe’ and Chris, how my Facebook feed has been flooded all week with all things Andrea Gibson, Pilates, a physical therapy referral, therapy, naps, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

1. Andrea Gibson, 8/13/75 – 7/14/25. “On July 14th, at 4:16AM, Andrea Gibson died in their home surrounded by their wife, Meg, four ex-girlfriends, their mother and father, dozens of friends, and their three beloved dogs…Andrea would want you to know that they got their wish. In the end, their heart was covered in stretch marks.” I knew this was coming, and yet… One of the last comments I left on Andrea’s blog was, “I do not love a world that will someday be here when you are not. I will also one day desperately love a world where you have been, that holds your open heart, your voice, your poetry in the stars and the sun and the grass and the bunnies and and and and…I love you. ❤️” 💔

2. Poetry: Messages from Home and My Aimless Love and When Answering Your Calling and A New Dark Age from Julie Barton, In Passing by Lisel Mueller, and Remember by Joy Harjo. And these:

3. Five Steps to Walk Away from Empire. “On finding new shapes and embracing nonlinear meanders” by Nicholas Triolo.

4. Advice for Getting Through Grief on Lion’s Roar. “Miriam Tarcov on how to navigate the pain of losing a loved one and—ultimately—reconnect with joy.”

5. Dear Fanny, Don’t Worry, I Know You’re Dead. “Ezra Fox on Working With Fanny Howe on Her Last Book.”

6. Choi + Shine Architects Collaborate with Communities Around the Globe to Crochet Monumental Lace Works.

7. ‘I felt pure, unconditional love’: the people who marry their AI chatbots. “The users of AI companion app Replika found themselves falling for their digital friends. Until – explains a new podcast – the bots went dark, a user was encouraged to kill Queen Elizabeth II and an update changed everything.”

8. The River House Broke. We Rushed in the River. “On July 4, the Guadalupe ripped our home from its pillars, pulling my family into its waters and into the night. Then morning came.”

9. Seane Corn and Lama Rod Owens: Steady Breath, Steady Heart on the Sounds True Podcast. “How are you doing these days? Exhausted? Heartbroken? Outraged? All of the above? In this era of uncertainty and instability, you may feel like your only choice is to forge ahead and just get through the week. If so, this podcast with two beloved Sounds True authors was created just for YOU. Here, Tami Simon speaks with Seane Corn and Lama Rod Owens to hear their personal insights for navigating our rapidly-changing world from a place of deep connection to our most important values, to the people who give us strength, and to those with whom we may feel hopelessly divided.”

10. Good stuff from Patti Digh. Reclaiming Sonder: The Profound Realization of Other Lives and The ghosts of becoming: A lineage of selves, lost.

11. Practice Delight, with Ross Gay: Hope Portal, Session 7.

12. The FOMO no one talks about: Am I missing my own life? by Meg Josephson.

13. Journaler’s Routine No. 2: Melissa Febos on The Isolation Journals with Suleika Jaouad. “There are few moments in a day more peaceful and satisfying than these.”

14. 8 Ways to Embrace “Deep Casual Hosting” (So You’ll Actually Do It.) by Katherine Goldstein. “How to prioritize connection over exhausting Instagram expectations.”

15. And finally, this random collection of things I saved to my phone this week.