Monthly Archives: October 2024

Something Good

1. Poetry from from Out With Lanterns, a daily poetry practice by Julie Barton: Love Letter to Solitude, and Putting Down The Old Dog, and Reboot, and Hurt.

2. 18 Life-Learnings from 18 Years of The Marginalian

3. The same thing goes with humans really: To be flawed is to be real from Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess).

4. “What Does Stephen King Mean for You And Your Career?” from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

5. Pam Houston Tells Us: About Finding a Reason to Live on Cheryl Strayed’s Dear Sugar, “the occasional series I do, in which I invite an author to tell us five things—not only about their most recent book, but about their life too.”

6. 14,000 Prescription Lenses Dangle like Dewdrops in a Lush Japanese Forest.

7. Resilience is a trauma response, “It’s not all it is hyped up to be” from Patti Digh.

8. Why kids should read obituaries, “These stories are about informative, interesting, and inspirational lives.”

9. The Only Thing That Makes Sense, a new poem from Julia Fehrenbacher.

10. ‘Relax, nothing is under control’ – and other sentiments that changed how you think. “Some words have real sticking power. Not so much the stream of motivational quotes in decorative borders that surge daily through social media. More those gems that – by dint of their poignancy in a particular time and place – hold real power to change things for the better. We asked Positive News readers to tell us about the most inspiring things people have ever said to them.”

11. How Death Cafes Celebrate Life. “In our daily lives, we don’t often openly discuss our feelings about death and dying. So where can people go to have those conversations?”

12. In the Jabalia refugee camp, my sister has reached breaking point. What will it take to stop this nightmare? “Every time I think things can’t get worse in Gaza, they do. But that is what happens when the world turns a blind eye to cruelty.”

13. The Most Magical Story I May Ever Tell, “It started with a pumpkin” from Andrea Gibson.

14. 7 Rules for Midlife Happiness.

15. 50 Conversation Starters to Spark Connection (and Keep Things Fun).

16. Ann Patchett: The Decision I Made 30 Years Ago That I Still Regret on The New York Times. (gift link)

17. The Beauty of Being Alone.

18. 12-Year-Old Kid Has Saved 4,800 Shelter Dogs(video) “This kid became obsessed with saving shelter dogs when he was 3 years old — and went on to find 4,800 of them homes.”

19. ‘Does time heal? I don’t think so’: Richard E Grant on love, loss – and bonking. “The raw intensity and personal honesty that Richard E Grant brought to Withnail and I was real and has never left him. Now the actor and diarist, still grieving the loss of his wife, talks openly about heartbreak, ambition and his traumatic upbringing.”

20. ‘I miss her a lot’: Andrew Garfield telling Elmo about grief was his best work yet. “The star opened about his mother’s death on Sesame Street with a clarity and sincerity rare among celebrities.”

21. Seth Meyers Isn’t as Nice as You Think He Is on The New York Times. (gift link) “Meyers has crafted a comedically precise but genial persona over more than two decades on ‘Saturday Night Live’ and ‘Late Night.’ A new stand-up special finds him reveling in his more acerbic side.”

22. Meditation And Mindfulness Have a Dark Side We Don’t Talk About.

23. 25 Breathtaking Photos of Sakura in Full Bloom Across Japan by Hidenobu Suzuki.

24. What We Lose With The End Of ‘Somebody Somewhere.’ “The tender HBO series debuted in a bleak pop culture era. With its remarkable third and final season, it will leave behind a major gap in nicecore TV.” In related news, ‘Somebody Somewhere’ is about finding your people: Here’s how Bridget Everett found hers.

25. ‘Good Omens’ Season 3 Cut Short Amid Allegations Against Gaiman on The New York Times. (gift link) “The series is the third production linked to the author to face turmoil after allegations made by five women surfaced this summer.”

26. I’m a death expert. I designed eight questions to help you think about dying. “The modern era has eroded the myths and traditions of death. But there’s a way to create your own belief system.”

27. “Juana Maria”, The Mystery Woman Stranded For 18 Years Off The Coast Of California. “She lived in near-total isolation for close to two decades. By the time she was found, her native language had disappeared.”

28. 6 Small, Everyday Things Physical Therapists Wish You’d Stop Doing.

29. 4 Signs You Need Rest—And How To Heal For A Stronger Mind And Body.

30. Luther: Never Too MuchI adore Luther Vandross and can’t wait for this documentary.

31. And finally, a bunch of random stuff I saved on my phone this week.

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. Fall in Colorado is my favorite. It’s just so gorgeous.

2. Practice. I’m loving being back practicing yoga with Red Sage and writing with my Friday morning sangha. Yesterday when we were writing, Ringo got on the bed under my writing desk WHILE I was sitting at it, which he NEVER does but I leave the bed there hoping that some day that will be his regular spot while I’m working, as it was with all my other dogs. 

In related news, here’s something I wrote yesterday in my wild writing group in response to Joy Harjo’s poem “My House is the Red Earth“:

The center of the world is a place I have no interest in going, to visit or to live. There are already too many people gathered there. Give me the edge of the world, the place that is quiet and wild and some would even say lonely, but that’s where my friends are — the trees, the river, the deer and foxes and owls and blue herons. The wildflowers and rocks. I’m okay there’s a trail worn by other feet, I just don’t need to walk with them. I have my dog and that’s enough company. This morning, we stopped by that same tree at the edge of Lincoln, the one where I saw something last time, a pair of eyes in the dark and the sound of claws climbing bark. This morning, Ringo had stopped to chew on a stick and I sneezed, startling something in the same tree, and I tried to guess what it was by the noise it made getting from the tree back to the ground. It’s the season to spot bears and mountain lions or bobcats in this area. Part of me hopes to see one, the other part doesn’t need confirmation or a confrontation. I was reminded as I looked at the deep gold of the cottonwood trees there that the fall color we see isn’t a new thing that arises but rather a revelation of what was always there, we just couldn’t see it because we were blinded by the green. It’s only when it’s too cold and dark for the trees to keep making green that the other colors reveal themselves — the orange, red, gold, and even purple that were always there in the shadow of the green. I brought it up in our yoga class yesterday. We were doing tree pose and I was reminded of the botanical facts resulting in the “change” of color in the fall. Maybe that’s me too? In the fall of my body’s life, as the estrogen and such fade, I become suddenly golden for a moment before I drop to the ground, return to the earth. I am a surge of something so bright and brilliant, you’ll stop in your tracks to wonder at me, all the more beautiful because of my impermanence.

3. Ringo. He’s going to be 11 years old in a few weeks, the day after I turn 57. He’ll officially be our oldest dog, but he doesn’t seem that old. He reminds me of my other dogs when they were about seven or eight years old. He still acts like a kid half the time, like the other day when he was SO excited to discover a forgotten ball under Sam’s couch, which I rescued for him and he proceeded to destroy in less than five minutes.

4. Being okay even when I’m not okay. This past year (or five, even 10) have been rough, and yet even when I’m at my lowest, my most broken, I know that everything will be okay, even when it isn’t.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. One of the biggest reasons that even when I’m not okay, I’m actually good.

Bonus joy: seeing a show with Eric, getting the laundry done and put away, breakfast burritos, watching TV, listening to podcasts, clean sheets, having a plan for next weeks dinners and all the supplies and ingredients I’ll need to cook them, good neighbors, other peoples dogs and kids, other people’s Halloween costumes and decorations, plantain chips and dip, sugar (yeah, I said it — wanna fight me?!), bread (yup, I said that too!), the hydromassage chair, working out with Shelby and the gang, lifting heavy things, letting go, keeping the house cool enough to be able to wear winter clothes and sit with a blanket, my weighted blanket, my sound machine, my moon nightlight and sunrise alarm clock, waiting to walk until the sun comes up, Bluey, soup, toast, cheese, rain, walking through golden leaves, things still blooming, hibernation, listening to music, naps, a warm shower, a big glass of cold clean water, hugs, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.