Monthly Archives: April 2024

Gratitude

Image by Eric

1. Morning walks. I didn’t actually go on any this week, so these are all pictures from Eric and Ringo’s walks. They saw a bald eagle and a beaver, along with lots of racoons and a few deer. It’s been almost four weeks since my surgery and my goal this next week is to start doing some walks with Ringo on my own, (if Eric lets me).

2. Surprise gifts. I was on Facebook yesterday and saw this. The fourth anniversary of Sam’s death (which was also a surprise but not so much a gift) is next month, so it’s a little bittersweet, but more sweet than bitter.

3. Good books. In particular, I am working my way through just about everything Brianna Wiest has ever written. I don’t agree 100% with her, (I don’t really believe that the things that happen to you are what is “supposed” to happen to you or that you even chose those things as a “soul contract” before you were born, etc.), but 98% of what she says is really helpful. I was trying to explain to someone the other day and I said, “It’s not so much new information, most of it is things I already know and could write myself, but somehow I needed the reminder. It’s sort of like having a conversation with my wisest self.” The one I forgot to include in this pile is The Pivot Year: 365 Days To Become The Person You Truly Want To Be, which includes a lot of prompts perfect to use in a yoga class and are nice short readings for before I meditate in the morning.

4. Writing. I write every day, have filled over 100 notebooks and published 2500+ blog posts in the past 10+ years, however to sit down in front of my computer and open up a blank document and start typing is more complicated. There are so many things I want to write about and have written about but not published and it can feel overwhelming. Yesterday, I told myself to just sit down for 15 minutes, even if all I did was stare at a blank screen. This is a trick I know well and I always fall for it, because as soon as I open a space, I start typing and suddenly an hour has passed.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. The dumbest things make me happy, like this morning when I was sitting at my desk writing and Eric came in to hug me. He had to do a splits variation to get low enough, which was rough because he’s sore from a long run yesterday, and I teased him and said, “come on, do a Jean-Claude Van Damme,” which lead to him saying things like “Jean-Claude Van Damme-it” and “If I did, I’d do some Jean-Claude Van Damme-age to myself.”

We also realized that Eric doesn’t mind rinsing dishes and loading the dishwasher, but doesn’t like unloading and putting things away, but I DO, so another chore successfully assigned based on who doesn’t mind or even likes doing the thing. Unfortunately, neither one of us really likes cleaning bathrooms or dusting, even though we do it anyway because it’s nice when it’s done.

Ringo has been cracking us up lately because he’s decided he needs to go to bed earlier, more like 7 pm than 8 pm, so after we are done watching an episode of Iron Chef and just starting an episode of Snapped, he insists on being put to bed. Next month, he will officially be the oldest dog we’ve ever had and I am wishing for at least another four years, (cattle dogs life expectancy is 12-15, but I’ve known a few even older).

Bonus joy: Texting with Chloe’, watching movies, listening to podcasts, baking (today is raspberry bran muffins and chocolate chip oatmeal cookies), Mike Birbiglia, a massage with Dana, paying all the bills, getting our taxes done and submitted as well as refunded and paid, being back in the pool and sauna, clean sheets and laundry, daffodils and forsythia blooming, sunshine, being on the other side of a major windstorm, other people’s dogs and kids, honey mustard, ice cream, canceling things when I can’t people, trees, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

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1. The most empowering changes you have made in your lives on Positive News. “We asked readers: what have you done to empower yourself in these strange times? This is what you said.”

2. A new podcast examines the perils of intense meditation“Meditation and mindfulness have many known health benefits, including helping to process trauma and manage anxiety, improve eating habits, and ease chronic pain. While many participants say Goenka retreats changed their lives for the better, The Retreat tells the stories of individuals whose mental health deteriorated during a 10 day retreat – or for some, after several 10-day retreats.”

3. Nick Cave on love, art and the loss of his sons: ‘It’s against nature to bury your children’“In the past nine years, the musician and artist has lost two sons – an experience he explores in a shocking, deeply personal new ceramics project. He discusses mercy, forgiveness, making and meaning.”

4. Julia Louis-Dreyfus Thinks Youth Is Overrated on The New York Times. (gift link) “The actor wants you to start listening to older women — and not just because they’re guests on her podcast.”

5. Earth, Head, and Heart: Six Deeply Researched Eco-Memoirs.

6. Elaborate Still Lifes Erupt with Vivid Color in Eric Wert’s Oil Paintings.

7. There Is No Point in My Being Other Than Honest with You: On Toni Morrison’s Rejection Letters.

8. Join the Wild Writing FamilyRegistration closes at midnight, Thursday, April 4.

9. Project 2025 and the End of America from The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz. “PROJECT 2025 outlines in precise and sickening detail, the Republican Evangelical plan to swiftly thrust America into full-on theocracy and dismantle every legislative protection and democratic process put in place to prevent the marriage of Church and State. Project 2025 seeks to immediately establish a police-state, permanently stripping away decades of civil and human rights.” In related news, and also from John, Christians Should Condemn Christian Nationalism and Evangelical Theocracy. Jesus Does. In other related news, on The New York Times (gift link), The Church of Trump: How He’s Infusing Christianity Into His Movement

10. On making art from Danny Gregory: “When you’re free from the ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts,’ what you create transcends art—it becomes discovery, revelation, epiphany. Those internal critics, with their relentless commentary on realism, style, and technique, amount to nothing more than noise, pulling your focus away from what’s genuinely important. The goal isn’t to rack up a stack of techniques. Rather, it’s about reducing everything to its essence, approaching the world with the awe of someone seeing it for the first time.”

11. Generative A.I. For Writers: An Unfolding (But Not Inevitable) Nightmare! from Chuck Wendig on Terrible Minds.

12. Interview with an Artist: Helena Wurzel On Becoming Visible on For Dear Life with Maggie Smith.

13. Good stuff from Seth Godin: Boyle’s Law and Kinds of courage, which suggests that, “Generosity is a great antidote to fear.”

14. Embracing Vulnerability: A Reflection on Tears and Truth from Andrea Gibson.

15. Why Introverts Hate Last-Minute PlansP.S. Don’t rush me, either!

16. The Toxic Mix of Grief and Burnout from Nikita Gill. “Why rest is urgent, important and revolutionary.”

17. Don’t it always seem to go… from Rita Ott Ramstad on Rootsie. “Learning how to know what I’ve got before it’s gone.”

18. 5 Questions With Chrissy King an interview by Ragen Chastain.

19. Prompt 289. A Contagion of Blessings “& Mavis Staples on counting them” on The Isolation Journals with Suleika Jaouad.

20. Trapped in routine? Here’s how to “dishabituate” and rediscover joy“Neuroscientist Tali Sharot recently spoke with Big Think about a two-step method for escaping the dark sides of habits.”

21. “Floor Time” Is the Relaxing Habit You Need To Try During the Work Day.

22. Break Free from Busyness and Uncover the Magic of Life.

23. How two lost and lonely ducks found friendship(video)

24. Shanbai on YouTube and Instagram“A cameraman records his nephew producing handicrafts with traditional methods in the countryside.” These videos are so beautiful and relaxing.

25. In Sand and Stone, Jon Foreman Sculpts Hypnotic Gradients and Organic Motifs.