Monthly Archives: December 2025

Something Good

1. Poetry: The Reassembly by Isabella Nesheiwat, Dementia Sonnet by Justin Rigamonti, Fun by Patricia Fargnoli, Pain Scale by Richard Siken, Abundance by Amy Schmidt, Permission by Julia Fehrenbacher, Standing in the Dark on Winter Solstice and But Not a Moment Sooner and So Soon from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, The Artist Orpheus by Donald Justice, Enter Terror by Dalia Taha, The Sign as You Exit the Artist’s Colony Says “The Real World” by Aliki Barnstone, Christmas Tree and Let Everything Happen to You by James Crews, Winter Lemons by Alberto Ríos, Pokeberries by Ruth Stone, Elephants Born Without Tusks by Alison C. Rollins and This dark is the same dark as when you close by R.A. Villanueva and On Proliferation by Cass Donish shared by Maggie Smith on The Slowdown, what makes sense by Maya Stein, Assurance by William Stafford shared by Patti Digh, and Hallelujah Anyway by Moudi Sbeity on Heart Poems.

2. Good stuff from Seth Godin: Filtering ourselves and Our practice and Timing your overnight success.

3. Good stuff from Patti Digh: The question I cannot answer and For the first time in years, I am baking cookies for the holidays (because this: “That world feels very far away now. Not just the cookies, but the confidence that there would always be more time, more people, more Decembers unfolding the way they always had. Traditions don’t usually end with a bang; they thin and thin until they become memory” *sigh*).

4. More book lists: 30 authors on the books they give to everyone on The Guardian, and The 10 Best Memoirs of 2025, and The Ultimate Best Books of 2025 List, and The Best Books We Read in 2025, and Six Memoirs That Make Grief Feel a Tiny Bit Less Lonely, and Here Are All the Award-Winning Novels of 2025, and The Books Times Readers Were Most Excited About This Year on The New York Times (gift link), and The 24 Best Books We Read in 2025. In related news, Forget Gilead, this early Marilynne Robinson novel is unmatched, “Her 1980 novel Housekeeping follows two orphaned girls who spend most of their childhood fearing the dark waters of an Idaho lake.”

5. Dustings by Susie Mawhinney. “I want to tell you something. Again. I want to tell you that a morning of winter gorgeousness can unleash childlike excitement. How waking to a silence dressed in just enough white at sunrise can create gold dust. I want to show you the magic of snow.”

6. Some General Theories About Why You Might Feel Like Crap Right Now on Culture Study.

7. The Leaf that Wouldn’t Fall: A Tender Illustrated Parable about the Measure and Meaning of Love from Maria Popova on The Marginalian.

8. Let the Night be Long, “winter solstice and the work of staying” from Isabel Abbott.

9. Inhabiting the wide world, “On the poetry of Marie Howe” from Pádraig Ó Tuama on Poetry Unbound.

10. Living the Questions on The Isolation Journals with Suleika Jaouad. “To live the questions is to loosen the grip—not on control exactly, but on the belief that I ever held it. The universe does not bend to intention; it flares, veers, interrupts itself. Uncertainty is the ground we stand on. What remains within our reach is attention: the discipline of noticing, the choice to respond with imagination and care.”

11. I hate this TV series I’m binge-watching, yet I’m on track to complete all 177 episodes. Why am I doing it? by Imogen West-Knights on The Guardian.

12. Zadie Smith’s heads up to young people: ‘You are absolutely going to become old’ on Fresh Air Author Interviews on NPR.

13. The Simple Ingredient That Makes Gingerbread Taste Like a $13 Bakery Treat**Spoiler Alert**: fresh ground black pepper. Just like adding coffee to chocolate cake.

14. Food Banks Wish You’d Donate These 8 Items More Often. “Experts share how to make a food bank donation that best serves your local community.”

15. Homeowner shares before-and-after video after transforming lifeless front yard: ‘It gives you way more in return.’

16. I’ve been doing Yoga With Adriene’s January programmes for 10 years—here’s why I think the just-announced 2026 series is great for beginners. “With just four practices, it’s a more realistic way to start the new year off right.”

17. 600 Readers Told Us About the Best Gifts They Ever Got. These Are the Top 13. on The New York Times. (gift link)

18. Psychology says people who are naturally kind but have no close friends often display these 7 traits.

19. Meet the ‘Resistance Rangers’ Fighting to Protect Your National Parks.
“An anonymous band of off-duty park rangers has risen up to defend America’s public lands from budget cuts, firings, and political neglect.”

20. Betty Reid Soskin, Nation’s Oldest Park Ranger, Dies at 104 on The New York Times. (gift link) “She began working as a park ranger at age 85, educating visitors about the women and people of color who served on the home front in World War II, herself among them.”

21. Good stuff from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less: 8 Permission Slips to Simplify Your Stuff, Time and Energy and 5 Slow Living Gifts We All Need.

22. How to smell like a dog by Danny Gregory. Also from Danny: A few of my favorite things, “My annual inventory of tools, toys and inspiration.”

23. A Winter Quest, “going inward, together” from Alix Klingenberg on Earth & Verse, which includes two gorgeous poems and a list of prompts.

24. Pushkin the Christmas Gnome. “A Story for You (and anyone who could use a little light)” from Brad Montague.

25. Happy Holidays whether you like it or not on the Awkward Yeti from Nick Seluk. “I’m a little torn about Christmas. It’s filled with tradition, nostalgia, crippling debt, fun movies, dark and gray landscapes, pretty lights, endless obligations, happy kids and seasonal depression.”

26. Hope Is a Double-Edged Sword by Elizabeth Kleinfeld. “On ketamine therapy, chronic pain, and realizing that hope itself can create suffering.”

27. I need you to know how much I love you all, but I also need to scream what the hell by Garrett Bucks on The White Pages. “The dilemma is, we ware capable of great beauty and wonder and care, but we also keep killing each other.”

28. The Only Thing We Have Control Over from Megan Falley. “On shifting our attention toward what doesn’t suck.”

29. What Went Right in 2025: Our Favorite Good News From This Year on Nice News.

30. Danish postal service to stop delivering letters after 400 years. “PostNord’s decision to end service on 30 December comes after fear over ‘increasing digitalisation’ of Danish society.” This makes me so sad.

31. 30 Unique Ways Christmas Is Celebrated Around the WorldIn related news, 8 Winter Solstice Celebrations Around the World.

32. The Dead Mall Society by Lana Hall. “Standing in the wreckage of these spaces unlocks a sensation people often crave, but can’t name.”

33. The Most Scathing Book Reviews of 2025. *ouch*

34. The Best *Everything* of 2025. “14 friends share their 2025 discoveries, including pretty nightgowns, a delicious spice cake, and the best night out.”

35. A small Christmas on a pale blue dot, “For the years when Christmas feels different” on The Tiny Joy Project.

36. Four thoughts about living in reality from The Imperfectionist.

37. Why your early 2000s photos are probably lost forever.

38. Worried about winter? 10 ways to thrive – from socialising to Sad lamps to celebrating the new year in April on The Guardian. “The temptation is to sit at home and hibernate, but beating the winter blues can be done. Here’s how to embrace the coldest and arguably most beautiful season.”

39. Keeping Score on Short Reads. “One day, I’ll look back on these trips and wish we could relive them together. Possibly there are many more ahead of us, but at our age we can never be sure. Questioning the future is second nature for me after so many decades of loss and uncertainty. Regardless, I’ll always be grateful for this life we’ve made.”

40. Have Yourself an Anti-Fascist Christmas on The Beautiful Mess by John Pavlovitz. “This Christmas, our lives can make the strong, steady, unwavering declaration that wherever we are: The immigrant will be welcomed. The hungry will be fed. The sick will be healed. The vulnerable will be cared for. The outsider will be welcomed in. The weary will be given rest. The mourning will be embraced.”

41. The Best Gift You Can Give Yourself, “Especially when times are tough” from Connie Sun.

42. Good stuff from Jamie Attenberg on Craft Talk: The Things We Need to Fix, “And how it makes us feel,” and The Ones Hanging Around, “A wee mid-week prompt.”

43. Endings are hard, but facing them helps us to heal. Moy Sarner’s final ‘how to build a better life’ column for The Guardian. “I understand the temptation to run away – I have felt it too. Try to stay in the room, and in the moment. You’ll be glad you did.”

44. ‘Don’t be disheartened by mistakes’: 10 lessons my artist father taught me. “David Gentleman’s brilliant career spans eight decades, from watercolour painting to tube station murals to drawing the Tottenham riots. Here his daughter, the Guardian journalist Amelia Gentleman, dispenses his invaluable advice.”

45. Cut Through the Bullshit and Notice the Sparks by Jena Schwartz. “A dream delivers a challenging teaching.”

 

 

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. There’s a guy we see walking sometimes who always says something about the beautiful day or sky or weather, and I love that about him even though it’s really the only thing I know about him.

I don’t know if it’s because I did scent and nose work with Ringo, but he doesn’t just sniff things on his walk, he studies them. I wish I could show you how he’ll walk up to a clump of grass and trace his nose along each individual blade searching for the origin point of a particular smell. I never rush him along, and only stop him if I can see that it’s something especially gross and/or he’s about to eat it.

Since Eric is on winter break now, we can walk together some days. I still haven’t stopped telling him, “I’m glad you’re home.” He’s my favorite person, which reminds me of something my dad asked me as he was dying — “Do you ever get tired of spending time with Eric?” “No, he’s my favorite person.” “That’s what I thought.” I think he was equally glad for me that I had that in my life and a little bit jealous. I wish he’d let himself be happier while he was still here instead of making everything so hard. 

Image by Eric, Ringo on a walk nine years ago

2. Medical science and healthcare, the technology and the professionals. Sure, there is lots to complain about here, mostly because human beings have a tendency towards greed, but can you imagine our lives without things like prescription glasses or vaccines, or emergency rooms and first responders? We are so lucky we don’t have to. I’m grateful every single day for the practitioners, procedures, treatments, medicine, supplements, support and care I have. And I wish everyone did, that it was accessible, affordable, and safe.

3. Practice. Keeping me sane and stable, still.

4. The holiday season. The lights, the food, the love, the naps, the chance to slow down.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. The other night, I came into the kitchen and Eric told me he’d been watching these videos of a guy who walks up to random people, says “I’ve had a bad day” and asks for a hug, some refusing but most agreeing to it. Eric was telling me how it was making him sad to think that so many people didn’t get that sort of affection or comfort in their regular lives, and then he showed me some of the videos. When we finished and I looked at him, his eyes were filled with tears. I teased him about it, but it’s that kind of thing that I adore about him. And of course, I gave him a big hug.

And just to show that even though Ringo might be twelve years old, a full grown old man, he still has a whole lot of play left in him.

Bonus joy: cookies and toffee from Dana along with a massage, having Eric to help me with hard stuff, a big glass of cold clean water, listening to Dateline while I make dinner, the lights on our Christmas tree, the lights and decorations on our neighbors houses, my collapsible wagon — good for transporting yoga props and things boxes of Christmas presents I need to ship at the Post Office, True Story Foods, down blankets and pillows, all the things you can order online and get delivered right to your front door (an introvert’s dream) and all the people especially right now working so hard to make those shipments and transports possible, garbage service, indoor plumbing, a hot cup of coffee and a warm mug of tea, a washer and dryer in my house that I don’t need quarters for, a warm shower, dog sighs, other people’s kids and dogs, Christmas cards even though I don’t usually send them, being on Facebook again for like an hour and realizing I’m not missing anything and re-deactivating my account, gummy vitamins, texting with Chris and Chloe’, listening to podcasts and audiobooks, watching TV and films on demand with no commercials, naps, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.